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- ʻO ka pahuhopu o ka loaʻa ʻana o ka ʻike o ka moekolohe waiwai i ka male
- Holo - ka pilikia nui loa ma ka hana lōʻihi lōʻihi i kēia lā
- ʻO ke ola sensual ka glue kilokilo e hoʻokokoke iā mākou
- Hoʻokomo i nā hoʻolālā ʻōlohelohe e hoʻonui ai i ka pilina
- E hoʻokaʻawale i kahi manawa no kahi lā ʻōlohelohe
- E hoʻōla i ka manawa wale
- Hōʻike i ke aloha
- E ʻimi hou aʻe
- Ke kūkulu nei i ke kahua paʻa pōhaku no ke aloha i ka manawa
Inā makemake mākou i ka hoʻokō piha, monogamous a me ke aloha aloha i kā mākou male, pehea mākou e hele ai i ka honua?
Kūleʻa a kaomi ʻia ko mākou ola me nā hana āpau a me nā kuleana o ka male a me ka nohona ʻohana; koi ko mākou ola hana, a he pono kā mākou no ka hoʻomaha a me ka hoʻoikaika kino, kahi home e pono ai ka mālama ʻana, a me nā makahiki i ke ʻano no kekahi ʻano hana a hoʻomaha. Loaʻa paha iā mākou nā mākua ʻelemakule e pono i kā mākou nānā a i ʻole kahi keiki e loaʻa pilikia ana ma ke kula, a i ʻole he kaupaku e kulu ana - a pono e mālama ʻia ia mea āpau.
ʻO ka pahuhopu o ka loaʻa ʻana o ka ʻike o ka moekolohe waiwai i ka male
No laila pehea mākou e mālama ai i ko mākou mau poʻo a me ko mākou kino i kā mākou moekolohe a me ka pilina me kā mākou hoa ma waena o kēlā mau mea? Pehea mākou e loaʻa ai i ka ʻike o ka lush a waiwai waiwai i loko o kā mākou pilina a kūkulu i kahi ʻano maʻamau o ka hoʻokō i loko o kā mākou mau pule?
Hoʻomaopopo wau i loko o nā lumi locker me kaʻu mau ipo wahine mau makahiki i hala aku nei, a e ʻōlelo mākou i nā mea e like me, "ʻAʻole wau e noho i kahi pilina inā ʻaʻole mākou e moekolohe ma ka liʻiliʻi ʻekolu a ʻehā mau manawa o ka pule." I kēia manawa ua ʻae malū kēlā mau ipo wahine ʻokoʻa ʻaʻole lākou i launa me kā lākou mau hoa i nā mahina. No ke aha?
ʻAʻole ia no ke aloha ʻole mākou i kā mākou hoa. ʻO ia ke ola makua e lawe iā mākou ma nā kuli, a ʻo kā mākou nānā i ka moekolohe a me ka pilina e lawe ʻia e ka hana a me ke kuleana.
Holo - ka pilikia nui loa ma ka hana lōʻihi lōʻihi i kēia lā
Manaʻo wau ʻo kā mākou pilikia nui loa i ka hana lōʻihi lōʻihi ʻana i kēia lā ka mea aʻu e kāhea ai ʻauheʻe. ʻIke mākou aloha mākou i kekahi i kekahi, ʻaʻole mākou i kahi wāwahi, ʻaʻole mākou e hoʻopunipuni a e luku ana paha kekahi i kekahi, akā ʻaʻole hiki iā mākou haha i ko mākou aloha. No ke aha hiki ʻole iā mākou ke haha aku iā ia?
ʻAʻole hiki iā mākou ke ʻike i ko mākou aloha no ka mea ʻaʻole mākou e komo i loko. ʻAʻole mākou e komo i ka leʻaleʻa a me ke aloha e kūkulu maʻalahi, a i ʻole ke aloha e kōkua ai i ke kūkulu ʻana i ka makemake, a i ʻole ka moekolohe pololei a me ka manawa pili pili ʻole i loko o nā pale e wehe iā mākou a ʻae mākou e hele i loko kekahi i kekahi. ʻAʻole mākou, ma ke ʻano he kaiāulu, ke hāʻawi nei iā mākou iho i nā mea i ka male a i ʻole ka hui ʻana e kākoʻo ai i ka pili, a no laila e lilo mākou i mea i kapa ʻia ʻo "roommate-itis," a i ʻole "make moe moe."
A ʻaʻole mākou makemake i kēlā. Ke hoʻopilikia ʻia ko mākou pilina e ka ʻauheʻe, ʻike mākou i kahi mamao — mai ko mākou kuko, mai ko mākou aloha, a mai kā mākou pili maoli i kā mākou kūpaʻa.
ʻO ke ola sensual ka glue kilokilo e hoʻokokoke iā mākou
ʻO ko mākou ola sensual ke aniani kilokilo e hoʻopili iā mākou kokoke; ka barometer pehea mākou e hana nei me kekahi. No laila pehea e hiki ai iā mākou ke hakakā i ka ʻauheʻe, a kiʻi i ke aloha a mākou e ʻike maoli nei iā mākou?
Eia pehea: Pono mākou e hoʻomaʻamaʻa i ke aloha. ʻIke mākou āpau inā makemake mākou e kino a i ʻole e aʻo e kuke a aʻo i kahi mākau - ʻōlelo Palani, hana yoga, hoʻokani pila - e hoʻomaikaʻi mākou me ka hoʻomaʻamaʻa.. Me manawa-i. A ʻo ia kā mākou e alualu nei i ke aloha. ʻO kahi hana o ia mea, no laila ke ʻike nei mākou i ko mākou aloha ma mua o ke kamaʻilio wale ʻana e pili ana.
Hoʻokomo i nā hoʻolālā ʻōlohelohe e hoʻonui ai i ka pilina
Pehea, ma ke ʻano kūpono, e kiʻi ai i ke aloha a mākou e makemake ai? Eia pehea: loaʻa iā mākou iā mākou iho i kahi set o maʻalahi Hakahaka hoʻolālā. Nā hana pōkole a ʻoluʻolu hoʻi e hoʻokomo iā mākou i kā mākou pilina ma ka wikiwiki a maʻalahi hoʻi. I loko o kaʻu puke hou, Male kāne ʻole, Hāʻawi wau i kēia mau ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo:
E hoʻonui i ko mākou pilina, ʻoi aku ke olakino a me ka pilina, pono mākou:
- He lā "Naked Naked" i kēlā me kēia pule me ka hola a i ʻole ʻelua mau manawa no ka pilina a me ka moekolohe ʻana me kekahi.
- Hoʻokumu ʻia ka moekolohe i ka hoʻokō like ʻana, no laila makemake mākou e hoʻi hou no nā mea hou aʻe.
- Nā lula aloha e kōkua iā mākou e mālama i ka moekolohe, ʻoiai ke hana nui mākou.
- ʻO nā hoʻolālā maʻalahi ma ka ʻuhane no ka nānā ʻana me kekahi i kekahi
- Maʻemaʻe i nā hoʻolālā no kā mākou kālā, nā mākua a me nā koho nohona a no laila ʻaʻole pale ka waiwai kālā a me ka ʻohana i kā mākou ala i ka lumi moe
No laila e kamaʻilio e pili ana i ka mua o kēia mau ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo
E hoʻokaʻawale i kahi manawa no kahi lā ʻōlohelohe
He aha ka lā ʻōlohelohe? ʻO ke kani wale nō ia: he manawa āu i hoʻokaʻawale ai, i kēlā me kēia pule — i kēlā me kēia pule — e ʻōlohelohe me kekahi a kokoke. Pono e moekolohe i kēlā me kēia manawa? ʻAʻole, ʻaʻole pono. Nui nā kāne e ʻike ʻo ka hana o ka olohelohe me kekahi i kekahi e hoʻoulu pinepine i ka moekolohe. He aha kā mākou e ʻimi nei — ka moekolohe a moekolohe paha — ʻo ia ka hana pilikino me kekahi - he ʻōlohelohe, a hāmama, a makemake e pili kokoke i kekahi i kekahi. he kumu mau.
ʻIke wau, maopopo iaʻu. Ke noʻonoʻo nei ʻoe, “ʻEā! ʻAʻole huli a pio kaʻu makemake i kahi manawa i hoʻonohonoho ʻia. Loli ia! ” A lawa pono kēlā. Akā ka mea a mākou e ʻimi nei ma ke aloha wā lōʻihi a cue no ke aloha e hoʻohaunaele iā mākou mai kā mākou hōʻoluʻolu — mai kā mākou kali a nānā ʻana, me ka ʻalo ʻana a me ka ducking e ʻike inā "ma ke ʻano" kā mākou hoa hana - a ma kahi o, hāʻawi iā mākou i cue e hōʻike i ke aloha. Makemake mākou e kūkulu i loko o ko mākou kino a me ka noʻonoʻo i kahi cʻo Pavlovian no ka pilina i hiki ai mākou i ke aloha a mākou e ʻōlelo ai.
Ma ka ʻōlelo mua o kahi lā ʻōlohelohe, e ʻōlelo ka hapanui o ka poʻe, “ʻEā, ʻaʻole hiki i koʻu makemake ke hōʻike aku ma ke kekona, i kahi manawa i koho ʻia.” A ʻōlelo wau, ʻae hiki iā ia. A, ʻo ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, ʻo mākou makemake ia i. Ke hoʻonohonoho nei i kahi cued, ka manawa maʻamau no ke aloha a me ka moekolohe ka lāʻau lapaʻau i ka ʻauheʻe. Makemake mākou e ala aʻe ko mākou kino a me ko mākou naʻau i kekahi hola, e hoʻokaʻawale i nā mea kaomi o ka honua, a e olohelohe, e pili ana kekahi me kekahi.
I mea e hana ai i kēia hana, pono mākou e kamaʻilio i kahi hana noʻonoʻo i hoʻopaʻa ʻia i loaʻa iā mākou mai ko mākou mau makahiki aloha: manaʻo mākou he hana kuʻuna wale ka moekolohe - e holo mākou ma waena o nā māla palaoa i kekahi i kekahi i loko o ka makemake kūpono. lole lole o hai.
E hoʻōla i ka manawa wale
Akā, ʻo ka male a me ka pili lōʻihi ʻaʻole ia he holoholona hihiu. Hōʻalo ke ola makua i ka makaʻala mai iā mākou: ʻo ka nui o kā mākou kuleana lehulehu a me ka ʻohana ma ke ʻano he ʻelua, ʻo ka nui o kā mākou ʻike e ʻike me kēlā mau kuleana. No laila pono mākou e kaua kūʻē i kēlā me ka ʻae ʻana iā mākou iho ʻaʻole pili wale ka pilina lōʻihi. A laila, hiki iā mākou ke hoʻohana i kēlā ʻoiaʻiʻo e kūkulu i kahi hoʻolālā no mākou iho e lawe i ko mākou kino a me nā puʻuwai i loko o kā mākou moekolohe a me ke ola pili.
Pehea e hana maoli ai ka lā ʻōlohelohe, i ka honua maoli? Maʻalahi: hoʻonohonoho ʻoe i kahi manawa, i kēlā me kēia pule, ke ʻike ʻoe ʻaʻole ʻoe e kahakaha ʻia. I ka po Poaha ma ka ono, kakahiaka o ka Poaono i ka hora ewalu, ke awakea o ke Sabati i ka hora eha. Inā loaʻa i kāu poʻe keiki ka pāʻina hānau a i ʻole nā hanana haʻuki i nā kakahiaka Pōʻaono, a laila ʻaʻole ia kou manawa. Inā loaʻa iā ʻoe kahi ʻahaʻaina ʻohana i kēlā me kēia mahina ma ka Lāpule ma ka ʻelima, ʻaʻole ia kou manawa. Makemake ʻoe e hiki ke hoʻohanohano i ka manawa manawa i kēlā me kēia pule.
Hōʻike i ke aloha
No ke aha? No ka mea ke hōʻike mākou no ke aloha, i kēlā me kēia pule, ua hala mākou i nā pilikia e pili ana inā makemake a makemake ʻole paha kā mākou hoa iā mākou - ua kūkulu ʻia i loko o kā mākou lā ʻōlohelohe.. Ke hōʻike mākou i kēlā me kēia pule, hoʻomaka kā mākou hoa e hoʻomaha me mākou, a hoʻomaka mākou e hoʻomaha e pili ana i ka i ka manawa o ka moekolohe. ʻIke mākou i nā mea āpau e iho i lalo i ka pule, e hiki mākou i kā mākou manawa piha piha i ke aloha, a he mea ia e hoʻokokoke ai a hilinaʻi hou kekahi i kekahi.
Kūkulu pū kekahi makaukau. He aha kā mākou e manaʻo ai e ka prowess? Loaʻa ka manawa maʻamau-i ko mākou ola moekolohe ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o mākou iā ia. Hoʻomaha hou mākou. Loaʻa iā mākou kahi paepae e ʻimi a ʻike.
E ʻimi hou aʻe
ʻO ka mea i loaʻa iaʻu i loko o kaʻu male ponoʻī kēia: ma ka mua, huki kaʻu kāne iaʻu i waho i ka hui burger, a laila ʻōlelo "ua piha ʻo ia" i ka manawa a mākou i hoʻi ai i ka home. Ma hope o ʻelua mau mahina ua hoʻomaka mākou e kau i ka hang (ʻo ka hemahema kahi ʻāpana o ke aʻo ʻana), a laila kū ʻo ia ma luna oʻu ma 5:45 pm i ko mākou lā-ʻo kā mākou manawa he 6:00 - a ʻōlelo, " Hon, ʻaneʻane ʻeono. ʻO ka manawa kēia! ” a ʻakaʻaka wau a hele hoʻomākaukau. Ua hala kēlā mau mahina ʻelua e kaomi aku i kā mākou kūʻē a loaʻa ka mea.
I ka hoʻomaka, ua hoʻohana mākou i nā mea āpau a mākou i ʻike ai e leʻaleʻa kekahi i kekahi ma kahi moe-i nā huaʻōlelo ʻē aʻe, ua loaʻa iā mākou kahi laina o ka leʻaleʻa kūkulu. Ma hope o ka manawa, ua hoʻomaka mākou e mākaʻikaʻi hou. ʻO ka lā i hoʻonohonoho ʻia ʻike mākou ua hōʻike mākou i kēlā me kēia, a ʻaʻole pono mākou e koho inā makemake mākou kekahi i kekahi. ʻOiai inā he pule paʻakikī ia, hiki iā mākou ke hāʻule i nā lima o kekahi a ʻike i kā mākou kūpaʻa e hōʻike no ka moekolohe e halihali iā mākou ma luna o nā wailele.
A laila, ua hoʻomaka ka hoʻokalakupua maoli. Hoʻomaka mākou e pāʻani. Ua hoʻokuʻu mākou me kekahi. Ua hilinaʻi nui mākou i ke aloha o kekahi. Ua manaʻo mākou i kekahi me kekahi no ka mea ʻo ia ka mea a mākou e ʻike nei. ʻO kā mākou hana pilikino ka mea i hoʻokuʻu ai iā mākou a ʻoi aku i Wilder i kekahi manawa.
Aia kekahi mau lā ke hele ʻole mākou i ke ʻano no ia? ʻOiaʻiʻo. Akā ʻo ia ka nani o ka loaʻa ʻana o kahi hoa i prowess me ko mākou kino. Hiki iā ia a iā ia ke makemake mākou e hōʻike wale - lawe iā mākou ke pono mākou e hāpai; a hiki iā mākou ke hana like iā ia.
Ke kūkulu nei i ke kahua paʻa pōhaku no ke aloha i ka manawa
Ke loaʻa iā mākou ke kumu o ka Hakahaka kumuhana — e hōʻike ana, i loko o ka manawa pōkole a me ka manawa momona no kā mākou pili aloha - hiki iā mākou ke hoʻohana i kēia kumuhana i nā ʻāpana ʻē aʻe o kā mākou pili e kākoʻo ai i ko mākou pili: aloha, leʻaleʻa, nānā ʻana me kekahi i kekahi, e hana ana i ka ʻaelike e pili ana i ko mākou nohona no laila ke ala i ko mākou lumi moe e maʻa a wehe ʻole ʻia.
ʻO kēia nā kumumanaʻo e hāʻawi iā mākou i kahi kumu paʻa paʻa no ke aloha i ka manawa. ʻO nā kaola kahi hiki iā mākou ke kūkulu i Mau loa aloha. A ʻo ia — no kākou a pau i hana pākoʻi — he waiwai ia i ke gula.