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- Mālama ka male paʻa i ka lawelawe ʻana i nā kaumaha āpau
- Loaʻa kahi ʻano hoʻomākeʻaka
- E ʻae i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo ʻole
- ʻO ka manawa pāʻina kēia i ka pūnana hakahaka
- Hoʻohanohano a paipai i nā hana a kēlā me kēia
- Hoʻonohonoho pū i nā lā pāʻani
- E hoʻomau i ke mele ʻana
"He mea maikaʻi ʻaʻole kāua e pili ana i ka iwakālua o ko mākou mau makahiki i kēia manawa," manaʻo kuʻu kāne i koʻu kū ʻana i trauma i loko o ka lumi o ka haukapila ʻoiai ua pīpī ka mimi ma ka papahele. "ʻO kēia ka mea e pakele ai kahi ʻōpio ʻōpio i ke ana o kahi hermit ma kahi mamao loa i ka wao nahele."
Ke hoʻāʻo nei ʻo ia e akaaka, a ʻo ka ʻōlelo i hoʻomāmā i koʻu kaumaha. ʻAneʻane wau i 50 mau makahiki a me ke ola hou ʻana mai kahi hana lapaʻau e hoʻoponopono ai i koʻu ʻōpū hāneʻe. (ʻO ka incontinence koʻikoʻi kekahi pilikia kino paʻakikī hou no nā wahine waena.) Ua pili ka catheter i koʻu kino, akā ua heʻe ka hopena mai ka ʻeke hōʻiliʻili a ke kani nei ka paipu hewa i ka lumi. Ua hoʻomanaʻo wau i kaʻu keiki kamaliʻi e hana nei i ka hana like i nā makahiki he hala i hala aku nei; aka, akaaka no, aka aole au.
"No ke aha ʻo wau?" Ua uē wau me ka hoʻohaʻahaʻa nui i koʻu hopu ʻana i ke kaukā lika a pahu aku iā ia i loko o ka ʻeke. “E hele ana au e ʻauʻau a make paha iaʻu iho.” "Manaʻo wau e hana like ʻoe iaʻu ma kekahi lā," i ʻōlelo ʻo ia i kona wā i kiʻi ai i kekahi kāwele a hoʻomaka i ka hoʻomaʻemaʻe ʻana i nā mea maikaʻi ʻole. "Hiki iā ʻoe ke kiʻi i kahi kapa komo kahu wahine leʻaleʻa?" ʻAkaʻaka wau a noi iā ia e hele e ʻimi i kahi kokoleka a me ka waina. "ʻAʻole paha ʻoe e inu wai ʻona," ua ao ʻo ia. "Aia ʻoe i kekahi mau lāʻau ikaika e huikau ʻole me ka waina."
"Ua hala ka pāʻina," pane wau. "ʻAe wale wau i kēia hana no ka mea ua luhi wau i ka pulu ʻana i koʻu mau lole wāwae i nā manawa a pau aʻu e ʻakaʻaka ai. I kēia manawa ʻaʻole hiki iaʻu ke inu i kahi kīʻaha waina a ʻoliʻoli i kekahi mau mea hoʻomākeʻaka maikaʻi. ” "E kiʻi anei iaʻu i nā pale pale makua?" Ua ʻakaʻaka māua. ʻO kēlā ʻano kūlike ka mea a mākou e kapa aku nei e hana ana i ka hapa nui o ka male waena.
Mālama ka male paʻa i ka lawelawe ʻana i nā kaumaha āpau
ʻAʻole hōʻoia ka male ma midlife i ka hauʻoli piha, akā ua ʻike mākou ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ka ʻaka ma mua o ka haki ʻana i kekahi mea, ka hoʻāʻo ʻana i nā lāʻau, a i ʻole ka holo ʻana e hui pū me kahi hui oli ma India. I kēlā me kēia kakahiaka heluhelu wau i nā hōʻike pūnaewele no ka hana hoʻopunipuni, hoʻohaʻahaʻa, a me ka hewa ʻino, a ʻo ia wale nō ka lāʻau māla kūloko. ʻOi aku ka maʻalahi o ka male paʻa e lawelawe i nā kaumaha āpau, angst, a me ka nastiness maʻemaʻe e hoʻopuni ana iā mākou. I ka hopena o ka lā, pakele mākou i nā walaʻau a pau, noho pū, a kamaʻilio e pili ana i ke ola. A, ʻānō hiki iaʻu ke ʻakaʻaka me ka leo nui me ka ʻole o ka pulu ʻana i koʻu mau lole wāwae.
Ua ʻike ka poʻe waena i ka male male hiki ke lilo i kumu a hauʻoli a pōʻino hoʻi lākou. Eia kekahi mau manaʻo no ka hoʻomanawanui ʻana i ka pilina waena.
Loaʻa kahi ʻano hoʻomākeʻaka
ʻAʻole wau e paipai i ka loaʻa ʻana o nā pilikia o ke kīloi me kekahi mea hiki ʻole ke hana a lawe i kahi ʻōlelo hoʻomākeʻaka. I ke kau waena, he nui ka poʻe o mākou e kū nei i nā pilikia olakino like ʻole e hiki ai ke hoʻoluhi i nā pilina i ka hoʻomaka ʻana o ke kino e kumakaia iā mākou. Kū kiʻekiʻe ʻo Bladder prolaps ma ka papa inoa o nā ʻike leʻaleʻa. Ma o nā mea āpau, e hoʻāʻo e hoʻomau i ka ʻakaʻaka a hana i kahi pāʻani o ka papa inoa ʻana i nā kumu āpau no ke aha "Eʻoi aʻe paha ka maikaʻi." Hoʻomanaʻo i ka ʻōlelo mai ka hoʻomākeʻaka ʻo Erma Bombeck, "He Laughs, Lasts."
E ʻae i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo ʻole
I ke kau waena, ʻaʻole nānā ka hapanui o mākou i ka olohelohe e like me mākou i ka iwakālua o ko mākou mau makahiki. Hiki ke hoʻopaʻi ka umekaumaha a me ka lā, a he mea ʻole ka paʻakikī o kā mākou hana ʻana, ʻai i nā salakeke, hele ma lalo o ka pahi, a ʻai i nā wikamina he nui, ʻike pinepine a ʻelemakule mākou. Akā, maikaʻi kēlā no ka mea ʻo mākou! Malia paha i kekahi lā i kēlā me kēia manawa nā ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo anti-kūnewa i ka hoʻolaha ʻana e pau ai ka hilahila iā mākou no ka ʻelemakule a ke ola nei nō. Pono e lilo ka mea nui i mau hoʻolauleʻa pro-ʻelemakule. ʻAʻole paha mākou e komo i ka bikini i kēia Iulai, akā hauʻoli mākou e hauʻoli i kekahi kauwela hou.
ʻO ka manawa pāʻina kēia i ka pūnana hakahaka
Ma hope o ka neʻe ʻana o ke keiki hope loa, ʻike ka hapa nui o nā kāne waena ʻaʻole lākou i noho pū hoʻokahi i nā makahiki. ʻO ka pūnana hakahaka hou kahi kūpono a me ka manawa e hoʻopili hou ai me ka hana ʻole i nā keiki. ʻO ka hope, hiki iā ʻoe ke leʻaleʻa i kahi ʻaina ahiahi ihoiho kukui no ʻelua a laila hiamoe ʻōlohelohe me ka wehe o ka puka o ka lumi moe. E hoʻāʻo i kēia ahiahi.
Hoʻohanohano a paipai i nā hana a kēlā me kēia
Hauʻoli wau i ka huakaʻi ʻana e kipa aku i nā hoaaloha, ʻike i nā wahi punahele, a i ʻole hele i nā ʻaha kūkā kākau. Paipai kaʻu kāne iaʻu e leʻaleʻa, a hana like wau nona.
Hoʻonohonoho pū i nā lā pāʻani
Mai hana nui e leʻaleʻa i ka manawa me kekahi a ʻike i nā hana āu e leʻaleʻa ai. Pāleʻa pū mākou, ʻoiai ʻoi aku kona maikaʻi ma mua o aʻu, a hui pū ʻo ia me aʻu no nā ʻahamele a me nā pāʻani ke makemake ʻo ia e kolepa. ʻO kā mākou rula kū wale nō e hōʻalo i ka poʻe crabby.
E hoʻomau i ke mele ʻana
Hoʻopau pinepine mākou i ka lā ma ka lānai me kahi mea inu makua a hoʻolohe i kā mākou papa inoa punahele. Hoʻonui ka mele i nā mea hoʻomanaʻo, a hoʻomau mākou i ka hoʻohou i kā mākou mele punahele.
ʻO ka hope loa, e hana i ka hapa nui o ka male midlife a ma ʻō aku, e nānā pū i nā kāne mua. E ʻike ʻoe i nā mea kamaʻilio ʻole a me nā poʻe ʻē ʻē ʻawaʻawa ke nānā aku. Mai lilo i kēlā poʻe. ʻO nā kāne ʻē aʻe e nānā, kamaʻilio, a ʻaʻahu hoʻi i nā lole. Mai lilo i kēlā mau mea. Koho e hoʻohālike i nā mea e paʻa ana i nā lima, ke nānā mau ʻana i ka maka, a me ka leʻaleʻa i nā hōʻike lehulehu o ke aloha. Manaʻo ua male lāua kekahi i kekahi. Hiki i ka male Midlife ke lilo i manawa maikaʻi loa o ke ola.