Anter
- E hoihoi i ko lākou kuko
- E launa pinepine ma o nā helu ʻelua
- E kamaʻilio e pili ana i ke ola o kāu hoa
- Mai ʻōhumu
- E lokomaikaʻi
- Mai hōʻoki i ka “pili aloha”
- Hōʻike i kou aloha
- Hoʻolauleʻa i nā mea i hoʻokō ʻia
ʻO ke aloha kahi ʻano nui o ka pilina lōʻihi a hauʻoli hoʻi. Wahi a kēlā, ʻaʻole pili ke aloha i ka hāʻawi pinepine ʻana i nā pua, nā kokoleka, a me nā ʻaina ahiahi ihoiho kukui. ʻO ka Romance ka mea e pili ana i ka waiho ʻana i kāu hoa me kāu helu ʻekahi a hōʻike iā lākou i ko lākou mau manaʻo a me nā manaʻo nui iā ʻoe. ʻO ia ka manaʻo pono ʻoe e hoʻolilo iā ia i kāu hana manawa piha? ʻAʻole nō! Nui nā ala e aloha ai i kāu hoa me ka mālama ʻana i kou ola kaiaulu. Eia kekahi mau ala maikaʻi loa e hōʻike ai i kāu hoa kāne ua loaʻa iā lākou kou manawa, nānā, a me kou aloha.
E hoihoi i ko lākou kuko
Makemake paha ʻoe e lilo ʻoe i mea nui i kāu pakanā inā ʻaʻole lākou i hoihoi i kāu leʻaleʻa a i ʻole hoihoi? ʻAʻole paha. Pēlā ka manaʻo o kāu hoa. Ke hoʻokau nei i kāu hoapili ma ke ʻano he mea nui ma mua o ka hoihoi ʻana i nā mea a lākou e hauʻoli nei e hana.
Hōʻike i kāu pakanā āu e noʻonoʻo ai i ka mea a lākou e makemake nui ai e nīnau ana i kā lākou leʻaleʻa. ʻAʻole paha he kīʻaha kīʻaha ka Pōpeku, akā inā ʻo kēia ka leʻaleʻa punahele a kāu hoa a laila hoʻolei iā lākou i iwi me ka nānā ʻana i ʻelua mau pāʻani me lākou a i ʻole e noi ana iā lākou e aʻo iā ʻoe pehea e pāʻani ai. ʻOiai inā ʻaʻole ʻoe e hana i kahi mea leʻaleʻa o “kāne a wahine”, ʻo ke komo ʻana i kekahi mea a kou hoa e makemake nui ai e aloha lākou.
E launa pinepine ma o nā helu ʻelua
ʻO kekahi o nā mea nui loa e pono ai i nā kāne e manaʻo he mea nui lākou kekahi i kekahi e lohe ʻia. ʻO ka hana ʻana i kāu wahine i kāu makahiapo makahiapo, ʻo ia hoʻi ka lawe manawa ʻana e launa pū me lākou i kēlā me kēia lā a me ka hoʻolohe ʻana iā lākou i waho. ʻO ka hana ʻana i kahi "check-in" a nā kāne i kēlā me kēia pule he ala maikaʻi loa ia e lohe ai i kāu hoa.E hoʻohana i kēia manawa e nīnau kekahi i kekahi i ka mea hiki iā ʻoe ke hana maikaʻi ma ke ʻano he kāne a me ka hoʻokuʻu ʻana iā lākou e ʻike e pili ana i nā mea āpau āu e aloha ai e pili ana i kāu pili. Ke hana nei i kahi hana o ka hoʻolohe hoʻolohe i kāu hoa e hōʻoia ai e ulu pū ʻoe ma kahi o ka ulu kaʻawale.
E kamaʻilio e pili ana i ke ola o kāu hoa
Makemake nā poʻe e kamaʻilio e pili ana iā lākou iho, a ʻaʻohe mea hūnā i ka hoʻopili ʻana o nā kāne a ʻike lākou kekahi i kekahi. ʻOiai inā ua noho ʻoe me kāu hoa no nā makahiki he nui, pono ʻoe e hoʻāʻo a ʻike iā lākou. E nīnau e pili ana i ko lākou ola, nā hana i ka hana, kā lākou hoʻomanaʻo ʻana i ka wā kamaliʻi, a me nā pahuhopu e hiki mai ana. ʻOiai inā ua kūkākūkā ʻoe i kēia mau mea ma mua, ʻo ka hoihoi ʻana i ka ola o kāu hoa e hōʻike iā lākou e like me ko lākou mau manaʻo a me nā manaʻo he mea nui nāu.
Ma ka maʻalahi e like me ke kani ʻana, ke pāʻani ʻana i nā pāʻani leʻaleʻa o "makemake ʻoe ..." a i ʻole "he aha kāu e hana ai inā ..." hiki ke hana i nā mea kupanaha e wehe i nā puka o ke kamaʻilio a hoʻolohe a hōʻike ʻia i kāu hoa.
Mai ʻōhumu
He mau mea kā kēlā me kēia kāne makemake ʻole i hana ʻia e kekahi. ʻO nā ʻano a me nā haʻalulu i nani paha i ka hoʻomaka o ka pilina i kēia manawa he huhū. Akā aia kekahi mea aloha e pili ana i ka hoʻopiʻi? ʻO ka pane he leo nui ia 'ʻAʻole!' He ʻoiaʻiʻo, e paʻa ana nā aʻa a pau i nā ʻāʻī o haʻi ʻē aʻe i kēlā me kēia manawa, akā aia kahi ala ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi no ka mālama ʻana i nā hoʻopiʻi ma mua o ka huhū ʻana i kāu hoa.
I ka manawa aʻe e ʻike ʻoe i ka pono e hoʻopiʻi a hōʻino paha i ke ʻano pilikino o kāu hoa a home paha, e nīnau iā ʻoe iho: "E mālama paha wau i kēia lā ʻapōpō?" Inā ʻaʻole, e aʻo e hoʻokuʻu i nā mea, e like me ka hana a kāu hoa ke huhū pū lākou me ʻoe.
E lokomaikaʻi
ʻO ka mahalo nui kahi ʻāpana nui o ka manaʻo nui i kahi pilina. Minamina, ʻo kēia kekahi o nā mea mua e ulu lohi ke noho ʻoe me ka mea like no kekahi mau makahiki. Hana maikaʻi kāu pakanā iā ʻoe e like me ka hana ʻana i kāu ʻaina awakea, e wehe ana i nā puka no ʻoe, a i ʻole ka hana ʻana i ka hana lima a puni ka hale? Hōʻike i kou mahalo me kahi huaʻōlelo momona, ʻapo, a me ka honi, a i ʻole kahi 'ʻoluʻolu' a me 'mahalo'. I kekahi manawa e hoʻomaopopo aku ʻoe e hoʻomaopopo i nā mea kupaianaha a kāu hoa hana e hana ai nāu.
Mai hōʻoki i ka “pili aloha”
I ka wā e pili mua ana ua hana paha ʻoe i kahi hana hou e kahaha ai i kāu hoa. ʻO ka ʻaina ahiahi, ka leʻaleʻa, nā huakaʻi o ke ao, a me ka "wooing" maʻamau i maʻa mau no kāu mau pō i waho pū. ʻO kēia mau ʻano ka mea i hoʻi hou mai nā mea ʻelua no ka mea hou aku, no laila mai kū!
Loaʻa ka pōmaikaʻi o nā kāne male, wā pōmaikaʻi mai nā pō lā ʻoi aku ka nui ma mua o nā kāne hou. Lawe ka manawa no kekahi i kekahi e like me kēia e kōkua ai i ka pilina me ka ʻōpio a me ka pīhoihoi. ʻO ka loaʻa ʻana o kahi pō lā i kēlā me kēia pule he ʻanuʻu nui ia i ka waiho ʻana i kāu hoapili ma ke ʻano he mea nui mua. He kōkua nui kēia inā ua hoʻomaka pū ʻoe i kahi ʻohana a ʻaʻole loaʻa iki ka manawa kūpono e noho kaʻawale ai ma ke ʻano he kāne.
Hōʻike i kou aloha
Hoʻohui mau ʻia nā kāne hou me ke aloha; honi a ʻapo, paʻa lima hilahila, hele wāwae i ka lima. Inā ua haʻalele kēia hana i kāu hana maʻamau, ʻo ka manawa kēia e kiʻi hou ia. Hōʻike nā noiʻi e pili ana nā kāne aloha i kekahi i kekahi ma waho o ka lumi moe ke ʻoi aku ka palekana o kā lākou pilina a hana i nā kiʻekiʻe kiʻekiʻe o ka oxytocin hormone maikaʻi maikaʻi. ʻO ke aloha pū kekahi i kekahi kekahi ala maikaʻi loa e hoʻohaʻahaʻa i ke kahe o ke koko a hāpai i ka hilinaʻi.
Hoʻolauleʻa i nā mea i hoʻokō ʻia
Inā ke hana nei kāu pakanā i ka pahuhopu o ka nalo ʻana i kekahi kaumaha a ʻai ʻana i ke olakino, no ke aha e hoʻouna ʻole ai i kahi huaʻōlelo e hū ana e hōʻike ana i kou haʻaheo ma luna o kā lākou mau pahuhopu a me nā hoʻokō i kēlā kahua. Hōʻike i kāu pakanā i ko lākou kūleʻa kahi mea nui i ka hoʻolauleʻa ʻana ke hoʻokō lākou i kekahi o kā lākou mau pahuhopu. He mea nui paha kēia e like me ka hoʻolei ʻana i kahi ʻaina awakea hoʻolauleʻa ma hope o ka hoʻolauleʻa hana hou a i ʻole maʻalahi e like me ka waiho ʻana i kahi leka i kā lākou ʻaina awakea e haʻi ana iā lākou i kou hauʻoli no lākou no kā lākou hana ponoʻī hou loa.
ʻAʻole ia he hana nui e haʻi aku i kāu hoa e hana nei lākou i nā mea kupaianaha, haʻaheo ʻoe, a i ʻole ke aʻa ʻana no lākou. Eia nō naʻe, nui ka hopena o ka naʻau e loaʻa iā ʻoe mai kēia mau ʻōlelo maʻalahi.