Anter
- Ke hoʻomākaukau nei no ka ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo male
- Hoʻopili ka loea i nā nīnau aʻoaʻo aʻoaʻo koʻikoʻi
- Lawe hope loa
Ke hoʻomākaukau nei no ka ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo male
Inā hopohopo ʻoe ua hōʻea kāu pilina i kahi o ka hoʻi ʻole ʻana, piha me nā hakakā, hiki i ka ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo male ke kōkua iā ʻoe e kūkulu hou i kahi male hauʻoli.
Eia nō naʻe, ʻo ka male ma waena o ka hakakā a me kāu wahine ʻaʻole ma ke ʻano maikaʻi loa e premeditate a e hoʻopuka i nā nīnau kūpono e nīnau ai i kahi kau aʻoaʻo aʻo male.
Ma muli o ka holo nui ʻana o kahi ʻano o ka naʻau i kahi pilina paʻa, hoʻopoina paha ʻoe i ka mea e noi ai, a hoʻopau me ka paʻahau o ka lolo i kahi hālāwai aʻo aʻoaʻo.
ʻO ka hana nui i ka hana ʻana i ka mea nui loa mai loko mai o kahi kau aʻo a ka male e hoʻomākaukau mua ʻia. A ʻo ia ke kumu a mākou i hoʻomākaukau ai i kahi mākaukau hoʻopuni ma nā nīnau aʻoaʻo aʻoaʻo nui koʻikoʻi e nīnau aku ai i kāu wahine.
Hoʻopili ka loea i nā nīnau aʻoaʻo aʻoaʻo koʻikoʻi
Hōʻike ka poʻe loea iā lākou iho i nā nīnau aʻoaʻo aʻoaʻo male kūpono e nīnau ai i kāu wahine a pehea e hiki ai i kēia mau mea ke kōkua iā ʻoe e hōʻike i kāu mau hopohopo a loaʻa i nā hopena i kāu pilikia male.
KEVIN FLEMING, Ph.D.
ʻLelo ʻia e CS Lewis i kēlā manawa ʻo ka male maikaʻi kahi e hiki ai iā ʻoe ke huli i kāu pakanā a ʻōlelo, "Aloha wau iā ʻoe e like me ʻoe a no laila ʻaʻole ʻoe e noho ma kēlā ala."
A no laila, i kaʻu hana, he kī nui ia e kiʻi i kēia 'dialectic' o ka loli a me ka hoʻololi ʻole, kahi e mālama ʻia ai ke koʻikoʻi o ka naʻauao ma waena o ʻelua mau kānaka no ka hapanui o ka poʻe makemake i ka wānana ʻia o ke aloha e like me lākou a me ka ulu / hoʻomohala. o nā manaʻo kiʻekiʻe.
No laila eia kaʻu mau poka pae pae meta.
Aia kekahi mau nīnau i loko o nā nīnau e hōʻoluʻolu akā makemake ʻia i pae o ka ʻoiaʻiʻo a mākou āpau e nānā ʻole ai i ka manawa hoʻonohonoho o ka noho aloha.
- "He aha ke ʻano o ke aka āu e aloha ai e pili ana iaʻu?"
- "Pehea wau e hoʻoikaika ai i ke aloha iaʻu?"
- "Inā he huhū e pili ana iaʻu ma lalo o ka radar i kēia male, ma hea ia?"
- "He aha nā kaula pālua aʻu e kau ai i laila? ʻO ia, pehea wau e noi ai / ʻōlelo i kahi mea akā huki maoli i kahi mea ʻē aʻe? "
- "He aha kaʻu e nalo nei e pili ana iā ʻoe?"
ANGELA AMBROSIA, Luna Hoʻolaula
Eia kaʻu mau mōhai;
- He aha kaʻu e hana a ʻōlelo ai e hōʻoluʻolu ʻoe?
- Ke hōʻoluʻolu ʻole ʻoe, he aha ke ala kūpono e pane aku ai?
He aha kou makemake no kā mākou pili? He aha kou makemake noʻu? Nāu?
DAVID RISPOLI, Kōkua
ʻElua kumu e ʻimi ai nā kāne i ka ʻōlelo aʻo male. ʻO ke kumu kumu ka pilikia o ka male a hoʻokahi hoa a i kekahi manawa ʻelua, makemake i ka pilina e hoʻomaikaʻi.
ʻO ka manawa pinepine, ua nānā mua ʻia hoʻokahi kanaka i ka pili, a ʻike ʻia ka ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo ma ke ʻano he ʻauwai hope loa e hoʻopakele i ka male.
ʻO ke kumu ʻelua e ʻimi ai kekahi mau kāne i ka ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo male no ka mea makemake lākou e hoʻomaikaʻi i ka male paʻa paʻa.
Nānā ʻole i ka mea e hoʻoikaika ai i ka ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo, ma nā ʻōlelo "Nā nīnau nīnau aʻoaʻo male no ka nīnau ʻana i kāu wahine", eia kaʻu ʻekolu nui:
- Inā kūleʻa kēia ʻike aʻoaʻo a ka male, a i ka hopena o kā mākou manawa ma Marriage Counselling ʻo kā mākou male ʻana he mea nui, pehea ke ʻano o kā mākou male?
- Pehea kou manaʻo i kā mākou male i kēia lā mai kēia kiʻi phenomenal Marriage a mākou i pena ai i ka nīnau helu 1?
- He aha kekahi hana i hiki iā mākou ke hana pū i kēia lā e hoʻokokoke iā mākou i ke kiʻi a mākou i pena ai i ka nīnau helu 1?
ʻAʻole mālama ʻia ka male male i nā kākāʻōlelo male a i ʻole nā keʻena o nā kumu aʻo male, mālama ʻia lākou ma ke ʻano he kāne a lawe i nā loina a lākou e aʻo ai a hoʻohana pono iā lākou i ka wili o kā lākou pili.
ʻO ia ke kumu e hāʻawi nei wau i kahi nānā i mua loa, hana-oriented, kūpono maikaʻi i ke aʻo male. ʻAʻole au i ʻike i kekahi e hoʻomaikaʻi ana a i ʻole hoʻōla i kā lāua male ʻana ma ka nānā ʻana i ke aniani hope.
NICOLE GIBSON, Kahua Mākua & ʻohana
Ma ke ʻano he laikini male a me ka mea hoʻoponopono ʻohana, a me kahi wahine i male ʻia iaʻu iho, ua ʻike wau he nui nā nīnau e ala aʻe i ka noʻonoʻo ʻana i ka ʻōlelo aʻo male a me ka ʻōlelo aʻo male.
Ke hana nei kekahi o koʻu mau makemake me nā kāne a haʻi pinepine wau i ka wahine e hana pū ana wau me kēlā, ʻo ke kiko o ka ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo male, i koʻu mau maka, ʻaʻole ia e mālama pū iā lākou akā e ʻike i ka mea a lākou e lawe mai nei ka pili e pono ai e kamaʻilio ʻia no ka mea ʻoiai lākou e hana nei i kēia pilina, e hana paha lākou i ka mea aʻe, inā aia kekahi ma hope.
No laila eia kekahi mau nīnau aʻo aʻoaʻo male e nīnau ai i kāu wahine:
Pehea kou manaʻo e pili ana i ka huaʻōlelo "intimacy"?
He aha ke ʻano o ka "intimacy" iā ʻoe, ʻo ia hoʻi ka mea e hōʻailona ai iā ʻoe e ʻike ua hana ʻoe i ka "intimacy"?
He aha kou mau manaʻo e pili ana i ka hoʻomana?
Pehea kou manaʻo e pili ana i nā keiki (ʻo ia ʻoe makemake i nā keiki?)
Inā kū like nā mea i kā mākou pilina, e hauʻoli paha ʻoe me kēlā?
Manaʻo ʻoe iā ʻoe iho he introvert a i ʻole extrovert?
Inā ala mākou i ka lā ʻapōpō a hoʻopaʻa ʻia nā "pilikia" a pau i kā mākou male, pehea kēlā ʻano?
Pehea ʻoe e ʻike ai i kou aloha iaʻu?
Pehea ʻoe e ʻike ai aloha wau iā ʻoe?
I kou ʻohana i hānai ʻia ʻoe, pehea ke ʻano o ka male ʻana?
He aha kou mau manaʻo e pili ana i ke kālā?
ʻIke kēia mau nīnau āpau i ka mea ʻelua a me ke kākāʻōlelo male no ka mea ʻo ka hoʻomana, ke kālā, nā keiki, ka hānai ʻana o ka ʻohana, ka pilina, ka ʻano pilikino, a me nā manaʻo o ke aloha nā pilikia nui āpau e kamaʻilio ʻia i ka male.
ʻO SUSAN WINTER, Kaʻioha Pili
He aha kāu e makaʻu ai e haʻi iaʻu?
He aha nā ʻike kālā, ka moekolohe a me ka lawena āu e makaʻu ai e kaʻana like me aʻu no ka makaʻu i kaʻu hopena?
Aia kekahi mea āu e hūnā iaʻu, ke manaʻo nei wau e hoʻokolokolo wau iā ʻoe a makemake paha e haʻalele iā ʻoe?
Pono nā pilina i kahi palekana no ka 'haʻi ʻana i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo.'
Kūkulu ʻia nā pale ākea ke hiki ʻole iā mākou iho a makaʻu i ka ʻike o kā mākou hoa wahine ʻo wai mākou.
Lawe hope loa
ʻO kēia mau nīnau aʻoaʻo aʻoaʻo kōkua maikaʻi kahi hoʻomaka maikaʻi e hana pū me nā nīnau hou aʻe i kikoʻī i kāu pilina. E nānā i kēia mau mea!