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- Pehea e hele ai i kahi a ka lua
- Pehea e kaʻawale ai
- Nā hopena o ka hoʻokaʻawale
- Pehea e hiki ai iā ʻoe ke hana i ka mea maikaʻi loa mai ka hoʻokaʻawale ʻana iā ʻoe iho
He aha ke kaʻawale o ka male? E like me nā mea ʻē aʻe o ke aloha a me nā pilina, ʻaʻole maʻalahi ka pane. ʻO ke kumu, ʻo ia ke kūlana ke kaʻawale nā ʻohana akā ʻaʻole lāua e haʻalele. Nui nā nuances o ke kaʻina. Ke hoʻomaka nei mai ka nīnau nui - inā paha ʻaʻole e pau ka hoʻokaʻawale ʻana i kahi hemo a ʻaʻole paha, i nā kikoʻī liʻiliʻi, e like me ka mea e ʻohi i ka nui o ka hoʻomaʻemaʻe maloʻo.
E hele ana kēia ʻatikala i kēia mau mea āpau a hōʻike iā ʻoe pehea e hiki ai iā ʻoe ke hoʻolilo i ka hoʻokaʻawale i kahi ʻike maikaʻi, no ka mea he aha ia e lilo ai i ʻelua.
Pehea e hele ai i kahi a ka lua
ʻO ka mea i maʻa mau ka hele a mamao loa o nā kāne male mai ka hauʻoli male i hiki ʻole iā lākou ke kū hou kekahi i kekahi. A laila, hāʻawi ʻia he mau keiki a me nā waiwai e pili ana, hoʻoholo lākou e hoʻokaʻawale mua i ʻole e nānā kekahi i kekahi, akā haʻalele i ka hemo ma hope. A i ʻole, ʻoi aku ka maʻamau, e haʻalele kekahi o nā kāne me ka haki ʻana o ka puka ma waena o kahi paio ʻē aʻe a hoʻi ʻole hou.
A ke hana nei nō kēia. He nui. He wahi palekana ka male ʻana no ka poʻe a pau i male, me ka nānā ʻole i ka ʻona o ka pilina. Kamaʻāina ia, ʻoiai he mau ʻōlelo hōʻino a ʻeha paha āu e maʻa mau ai a makaʻu ʻoe i ka haʻalele. Ke ʻohana me nā keiki, kaʻana like i nā hoʻolālā, a me nā kālā, ʻoi aku ka paʻakikī o ka haʻalele ʻana. ʻO ia ke kumu e kaʻawale ai nā mea he nui.
Eia nō naʻe, aia kekahi hiʻohiʻona i koe. ʻOiai he hana paʻakikī a paʻakikī paha ia i kekahi manawa, i kekahi mau manawa, hoʻohana ʻia ka hoʻokaʻawale ʻana ma ke ʻano he mea lapaʻau. Ke kaumaha ʻole ʻia kahi pālua me ka nui o ka hilinaʻi ʻole a me ka wiwo ʻole, a loiloi ka mea hoʻomaʻamaʻa e pōmaikaʻi lāua i kahi manawa kūkulu kaʻawale, kahi kaʻawale therapeutic paha ke ala i paipai ʻia no nā kāne.
Pehea e kaʻawale ai
E like me kā mākou i ʻōlelo ai, ʻaʻole like ka hoʻokaʻawale me ka hemo male. ʻO ia ka manaʻo ʻo nā mea e maikaʻi ʻole i ka male ʻana ʻaʻole maikaʻi ia i ka kaʻawale ʻana. ʻO kahi laʻana, ʻaʻole he hoʻokaʻawale nā hoʻokaʻawale no kekahi ʻano o ka hoʻomāinoino, waha, noʻonoʻo, naʻau, kino, a moe kolohe paha.
Eia kekahi, ʻaʻole pono e nānā ʻia nā hoʻokaʻawale ʻana e like me ke kāleka ʻōmaʻomaʻo no nā hana extramarital, ʻoiai nui ka poʻe kaʻawale e noʻonoʻo e like me kēlā. ʻO ia mau lawehala e hiki ai ke hōʻeha i nā pilikia hou i ka male pilikia. Inā ʻike i ka poʻe ʻē aʻe kou kumu nui e hoʻokaʻawale ai, pono ʻoe e hāmama e pili ana ia a kūkākūkā me kāu wahine.
No ka hoʻokaʻawale ʻana e hana maikaʻi (me ka nānā ʻole inā e pau ka hui ʻana o ka wahine a ʻaʻole paha), ʻo ka mea nui e kuhikuhi a mahalo ʻia. ʻAe i nā lula. Pehea a pehea ʻoe e kamaʻilio ai? E hoʻokomo ʻoe i ka mea uwao waho? E moekolohe ʻoe a e hele i nā lā? ʻAe ʻia ʻoe e hōʻike wale i kahi o kēlā me kēia?
Nā hopena o ka hoʻokaʻawale
I ka manaʻo nui, ʻelua wale nō hopena e hiki ai - e hoʻi pū ʻoe a i ʻole e hemo ka wahine (a i hoʻokaʻawale ʻia akā ʻaʻole me ka manaʻo e hoʻi i kekahi i kekahi). Inā ʻoe e laulima, aia ʻelua mau koho - e hoʻomaikaʻi ʻia ka male a i ʻole ka hoʻomāinoino like. Inā loaʻa ʻoe i kahi hemo, hiki iā ʻoe ke komo iā ia ma ke ʻano he kāne aloha a mahalo hoʻi a i ʻole mālama i nā ala olakino like ʻole e kamaʻilio ai kekahi i kekahi.
ʻO nā mea hea o kēia mau hihia e pili i hoʻokahi kumu nui. ʻO ia pehea ʻoe e hoʻohana ai i ka manawa āu i hoʻokaʻawale ai. Inā ʻoe i hana i kāu mākau kamaʻilio, a i kāu nāwaliwali a me nā hemahema ponoʻī, aia kahi manawa e ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o kāu pilina hou ma mua, me ka nānā ʻole inā e noho pū ʻoe a ʻaʻole paha.
Pehea e hiki ai iā ʻoe ke hana i ka mea maikaʻi loa mai ka hoʻokaʻawale ʻana iā ʻoe iho
Alakaʻi iā mākou i ka nīnau hope loa. Hiki i nā poʻe i ka hoʻokaʻawale ke ulu aʻe mai kēia manawa i kā lākou pili, ke hoʻi a hoʻi ʻole paha i kā lākou male. Inā hoʻohana ʻoe i ka manawa kaʻawale ma ke ʻano he mea e hoʻomaikaʻi ai iā ʻoe iho, i kou ola, a i kou mau pilina, e hoʻopau paha ʻoe i ka ʻōlelo ʻana ʻo ka hoʻokaʻawale ka mea maikaʻi loa i loaʻa iā ʻoe.
ʻO ka hoʻomohala ʻana i ka noʻonoʻo ʻana ua hōʻoia ʻia kekahi o nā mea nui o ka male hauʻoli, a me kahi ola kūpono i hoʻokahi kanaka. No laila, e eli hohonu, a loaʻa i kahi ʻike i loko o ʻoe me he mea lā he kāne a ʻelua. Hana i ka ʻike ʻana i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe me ka hoʻokolokolo ʻole. E ʻimi i kahi ala e noho ai i kēia manawa a hoʻopau i nā huhū i hala a i ʻole nā hopohopo e hiki mai ana.