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- ʻO kahi pilikia āpau loa
- E ʻike pono mahalo iā ia i kēia lā
- Nā māka o ke ʻano maikaʻi ʻole: ʻO nā AAA ʻekolu
- ʻO ka mea maʻalahi ʻo A: Mea
- Nā hiʻohiʻona o ke ʻano maikaʻi
- Ma mua o kāu ʻōlelo ʻana ua hana wau
Aloha ʻoe i kekahi manawa. Noho pū paha ʻoe. Ua hoʻopuka kāu kāne i ka nīnau, akā noʻonoʻo ʻoe: e pono anei ʻoe e ʻōlelo ʻae?
Inā kānalua ʻoe, e haʻi ana kāu ʻōpū iā ʻoe i kekahi mea. Paipai wau iā ʻoe e hoʻi i hope, e loiloi i ka pilina me ka ʻoiaʻiʻo e hiki ai, a e ʻike pono ʻo ia nō ia. No ke aha wau e aʻoaʻo aku ai i kēlā akahele?
No ka mea hana wau ma ke ʻano he aʻoaʻo aʻoaʻo, kūikawā i ka hoʻoponopono ʻana i nā hihia. ʻIke wau i ka paʻakikī o ka male ʻana, a ke haʻi aku nei wau iā ʻoe, inā ʻaʻole ʻoe e 100% lele a i lalo mākaukau e male iā ia, aia paha kekahi mea hewa.
ʻO kahi pilikia āpau loa
Aia kahi ʻōlelo kahiko e male ka wahine i ke kāne me ka manaʻo e hoʻololi iā ia, akā male ka kāne i ka wahine me ka manaʻo ʻaʻole e loli.
Inā kānalua ʻoe (a e nīnau paha i kēia manawa inā ʻoe e ʻōlelo maoli - he nui nā wahine i ʻōlelo mai no ka mea ʻo ia ka mea "kūpono" e hana ai ʻole no ka makemake ʻole e hōʻeha i kona mau manaʻo) . Nui nā wahine he poʻe ʻoluʻolu kanaka (hoʻomaʻamaʻa ʻia mākou e like me kēia), a no laila mākou e hele nei i ka male me ka ʻike ʻole ʻaʻole kā mākou kāne i ka mea a mākou e makemake ai i kahi hoa ola, akā ke lana nei kona manaʻo e hele ʻo ia ma laila. E ulu ʻo ia i ke kuleana, a i ʻole e mellow ʻo ia i waho. Pono wale ʻo ia i ka manawa, ʻeā?
Hewa.
Paipai ʻia - Papa Mālama Mua
E ʻike pono mahalo iā ia i kēia lā
ʻAʻole loli ka poʻe ma muli o kou makemake iā lākou, a he nui ka pilina e iho i lalo o nā paipu no ka mea e hoʻāʻo nei kekahi hoa e hoʻololi i kekahi. E huhū ʻoe no ka mea ʻaʻole ia e loli, a huhū ʻo ia iā ʻoe no ka ʻae ʻole iā ia e like me ia. Inā makemake ʻoe i kahi male kūleʻa, e male i kahi kanaka i loaʻa kahi ʻano maikaʻi, ʻaʻole ka hiki i ka paha-i kekahi lā e lilo i kāne o kāu mau moemoeā.
No ke aha he mea nui ke ʻano? Ma muli o ka paʻakikī o ke ola, a pono ʻoe i kekahi e hana i ka mea kūpono ʻoiai ʻaʻole maikaʻi ia. ʻAʻole kekahi mea hiki ke hana i ka mea kūpono i kekahi lā ma ke ala.
Nā māka o ke ʻano maikaʻi ʻole: ʻO nā AAA ʻekolu
Ua noi wau iā Brett Novick, kahi mea hoʻoponopono maʻi a me ka mea kākau o "Don't Marry a Lemon!" no kāna ʻōlelo aʻo e pili ana i ka mea e nānā ai i ka wahine. Kūkākūkā ʻo ia i ka noʻonoʻo ʻana i ke ʻano a me nā waiwai ma mua o nā mea āpau, e like me ka nani o ke kino a me ka kemika.
"E makaʻala no nā triple A's: ʻo ka AAA o ka ʻAlekohola, Hoʻopili, Kālā," wahi a Novick. "He moʻolelo kā lākou o ka lele ʻana mai ka pilina a i ka pilina? ʻAno Paʻa? Inu nui lākou? "
Ua ao aku ʻo Novick i nā AAA no ka mea ʻōlelo pinepine lākou e pili ana i ke ʻano o ke kanaka. ʻAʻole hiki i ke kanaka inu inu nui ke hoʻomanawanui i nā pilikia me ke olakino, a ʻo ka wai ʻona ka hakakā nui e hoʻopilikia loa i kou pilina. Pēlā nō hoʻi nā mea hōʻalo e hōʻike i ka nāwaliwali o ke ʻano i hiki ke sabotage i ka male. ʻAʻole hiki i kahi kāne i loaʻa ka mōʻaukala o nā pili pōkole ke hiki ke hana iā ʻoe.
ʻO ka mea maʻalahi ʻo A: Mea
He aha inā inā ua hoʻopunipuni ʻo ia iā ʻoe ma mua o ka male? Ma ke ʻano he loea i ke kōkua ʻana i nā male e ola hou mai ka moe kolohe ʻole, paipai nui wau e hoʻopau iā ia i kēia manawa. Paʻa ka male. Pono ʻoe i kekahi e noho mau ma laila no ʻoe, ʻoiai i nā manawa maikaʻi ʻole. Inā ua hoʻopunipuni ʻo ia iā ʻoe, ua hōʻike ʻo ia iā ʻoe ʻo wai ʻo ia. Hele i waho o ka puka i kēia manawa, ʻo ka ʻeha wale nō o ka haki. ʻOi aku ka ʻeha o ka hemo ʻana, keu hoʻi inā he keiki āu me ia.
Nā hiʻohiʻona o ke ʻano maikaʻi
Akā pehea e hiki ai iā ʻoe ke ʻike inā he ʻano maikaʻi ko ke kāne?
Wahi a Novick hiki iā ʻoe ke haʻi inā he ʻano maikaʻi a maikaʻi ʻole paha ke kāne ma ka nānā ʻana i kāna mau pilina me nā poʻe ʻē aʻe. "Hoʻomaʻo mākou āpau i kā mākou lawena maikaʻi ke hui mua mākou me kekahi," wahi a Novick. “Lana ka manaʻo, mālama maikaʻi ʻo ia iā ʻoe. E nānā pehea e mālama ai i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe, keu hoʻi ka poʻe hiki ʻole ke kōkua iā ia a hoʻopōmaikaʻi iā ia i kēlā me kēia ʻano. Pehea ʻo ia e mālama ai i ka mea lawelawe? Kona ʻohana? ʻO kona makuahine? ”
No ke aha ʻoe e nānā ai i ka pehea e mālama ai i ka poʻe i hāʻawi ʻole iā ia i ke keu pono? Akamai ka hapa nui o nā kānaka e ʻike he pono mākou e hana maikaʻi ke makemake mākou e loaʻa kahi mea i ka hoʻihoʻi. Eia nō naʻe, pono ʻoe e ʻike pehea e mālama ai ʻo ia iā ʻoe i ka wā e hiki mai ana, ke ʻoluʻolu ʻolua me kekahi, a i ʻole ke kaumaha. Ma hope o ka hala ʻana o ka manawa o ka meli, e noʻonoʻo paha ʻo ia? Makemake ʻoe e koho i kekahi kanaka ʻoluʻolu, lokomaikaʻi, mahalo a makemake hoʻi e mōhai na haʻi.
Pēlā nō, makemake ʻoe e nānā i nā hōʻailona ʻo ia ke ʻano o ke kanaka i hiki ke pale i nā ʻino o ke ola. Kūpaʻa ʻo ia? Maikaʻi? Hiki iā ia ke lawelawe i nā mea kūpilikiʻi a me nā pilikia me ka ʻole o ka hoʻopiʻi ʻana iā haʻi no kāna mau pilikia? E nānā pehea e lawelawe ai i nā mea āpau mai nā kalepa maikaʻi ʻole i kahi ulia kaʻa. ʻO nā mea āpau paha nā hewa a haʻi ʻē aʻe, a i ʻole hiki iā ia ke ʻae i ka lawehala ke hana hewa ia? He hoʻopaʻi a lokomaikaʻi paha ʻo ia?
Ma mua o kāu ʻōlelo ʻana ua hana wau
Ke koho nei i kahi hoa hiki ke paʻakikī. Hiki iā ia ke hoʻowalewale e noho a ʻōlelo wale nō inā ua lōʻihi a luhi hoʻi kāu ʻimi ʻana i ke kāne. Ma ke ʻano he kākāʻōlelo male, hiki iaʻu ke hōʻoia iā ʻoe ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ka noho male ʻana a hoʻomau i ka ʻimi ʻana ma mua o ka nakinaki ʻana i nā pona me kekahi mea maikaʻi ʻole kona ʻano. Kūpono ke kāne maikaʻi inā kali, ʻoiai inā ʻoe e hemo i kahi paʻa mua.