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- 1. E wāwahi ʻia paha ʻoe i kāu pili pili
- 2. Makemake paha ʻoe ʻaʻole ʻoe makemake e loaʻa he pēpē hou.
- 3. Hoʻonui i nā hakakā me kāu hoa
- 4. ʻAʻole ʻoe makemake e ikaika no kāu hoa.
ʻO ka hopena o ka hānau male ʻole ma ka male ʻana he ʻelua. ʻO nā hopena o ka hāʻule ʻole e hoʻokokoke iā ʻoe a haehae iā ʻoe.
Inā ʻaʻole i loaʻa i kekahi kēia pilikia koʻikoʻi, ʻaʻole hiki iā lākou ke hoʻomaopopo piha i ke koʻikoʻi o kēia hui puʻuwai puʻuwai- a me ka male ʻana.
He mea nui e hoʻomanaʻo i ke kaumaha no ke kū ʻana i ka hāʻule ʻole he ʻike pilikino ia. ʻOiai nā pilikia o ka hānau male ʻole a me ka male, hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻohana i ka wā kaumaha e hoʻopaʻa pū me kāu hoa.
ʻO kāu mea pili wahine ka mea kokoke loa hiki iā ʻoe ke kamaʻilio e pili ana i ka mea āu e hele nei i ka wā e pili ana i ka hānau hānau ʻole.
E ʻoluʻolu mai ʻae i ka nalo ʻana o ka hāpai keiki e hoʻokuke i kahi kāhili ma waena o ʻolua a me kāu hoa; ma kahi o, e lilo i kumu paʻa i kāu pilina.
Lawe i ke kaʻina hana kaumaha i manawa e hoʻokokoke aku ai iā ʻoe kekahi i kekahi a me ka hoʻomaopopo ʻana i kekahi i kekahi. E ʻōlelo ʻia ma ka hopena o ka wā kaumaha i lawelawe ʻia ka hānau ʻole e hoʻokokoke iā ʻoe ma mua o ka hoʻokaʻawale ʻana iā ʻoe.
Hana ʻia nā miscarriages ma muli o nā kumu like ʻole. A ʻaʻohe mea makemake e hāpai i ka hāpai keiki ʻole. Akā inā hiki mai ia, mai hōʻino iā ʻoe iho no ia mea, akā ʻo ka mea nui loa, e ʻae ʻoe e kūmākena no ka nalo ʻana.
ʻAe i kou mau manaʻo āpau e pili ana i ka hānau male ʻole a me ka male ʻana e hōʻike ʻia. He mea koʻikoʻi kēia no ka mea inā ʻoe e pani i kou mau manaʻo i loko, paʻa ʻoe i kēlā mea no ka manawa lōʻihi.
Akā ʻo ka nīnau nui i kēia manawa, pehea ka hopena o ka hāʻule ʻole ʻana i kāu pilina me kāu hoa? Eia nā ala mua ʻehā e pili ana i ka hopena o ka male ʻana i kāu male.
1. E wāwahi ʻia paha ʻoe i kāu pili pili
ʻO kekahi o nā ʻaoʻao ʻē aʻe o ka hānau male ʻole i ka male ʻana e ulu mamao ʻoe mai kekahi. ʻAʻole paha e hiki koke kēia, a ʻaʻole loa ʻoe e hoʻolālā e hiki mai ia.
Loaʻa paha iā ʻoe kahi manaʻo e hoʻopiʻi ʻoe no ka pohō. I kekahi manawa, ʻaʻole paha ʻoe e ʻike i ka mea e pono ai ʻoe e hana.
ʻO ka hapa nui o nā hoa ʻike iā lākou iho i kēia kūlana o ka hāʻule ʻole a me ka male ʻana. No laila, ʻaʻole ʻoe wale nō.
Wahi a nā noiʻi, ua ʻike ʻia ʻo ka wahine e ulu mamao ana ma hope o ka hāʻule ʻana o ke keiki no ka mea ʻaʻole lākou e hoʻolōʻihi i ka manawa e kamaʻilio ai e pili ana i ko lākou mau manaʻo.
Ke kamaʻilio ʻole ʻoe e pili ana i kou mau manaʻo, e hoʻopili ʻoe iā ʻoe iho mai kāu hoa aku. A inā ʻoe e ʻae i kēia e hele no kahi manawa lōʻihi, e kaumaha loa ʻoe.
No laila, ke hāpai pono ʻoe i kahi hāʻule ʻole, e hōʻoia e hōʻike ākea ʻoe iā ʻoe iho e pili ana i kou manaʻo e pili ana i kāu hoa.
ʻOkoʻa, hiki iā ʻoe ke kamaʻilio me nā lālā o kou ʻohana a i ʻole kou mau hoaaloha e pili ana i kou mau manaʻo. Inā he mea paʻakikī ʻoe e kamaʻilio i ka poʻe a puni ʻoe, hiki iā ʻoe ke ʻōlelo i kahi kākāʻōlelo aʻoaʻo. E hele lōʻihi ke kamaʻilio ʻana e kōkua iā ʻoe e hoʻoponopono i kāu pohō.
2. Makemake paha ʻoe ʻaʻole ʻoe makemake e loaʻa he pēpē hou.
Ma hope o ka hāʻule ʻole ʻana, manaʻo paha ʻoe e hoʻokuʻu ʻia, hoʻopunipuni ʻia, a kanikau hoʻi. A maikaʻi kēlā. Akā ʻaʻohe mea e hiki ke wānana i ka mea e hiki mai ana.
No laila, ʻo ka mea nui e hāʻawi iā ʻoe iho i kahi manawa e hoʻōla ai, i ke kino a me ka naʻau. Ua hoʻokau ʻia ʻoe i kahi ʻino nui, a pono ʻoe e hoʻomaha.
I ka wā hoʻōla, e hana i ka manawa e hana ai i nā mea āu e makemake ai. ʻO kahi laʻana, e hele no ka hopena pule, e hele pū me kāu pakanā, a i ʻole ʻauʻau ʻauʻau lōʻihi paha.
ʻO ka hoʻomaha ʻana e kōkua iā ʻoe e hōʻola i kou naʻau ʻeha.
Eia kekahi, he manawa maikaʻi loa kēia e hoʻopaʻa hou me kāu hoa. He mea nui like, e ʻike pono i ka loaʻa ʻana o nā kōkua olakino āu e pono ai i kēia manawa.
E ʻike ʻoe ma hope o kekahi manawa, ua hoʻomaikaʻi kou ʻano i ke ola.
Ke manaʻo ʻoe ua hoʻōla ʻoe a ikaika hoʻi i ka naʻau a me ke kino, hiki iā ʻoe ke hāpai hou.
ʻAʻole ʻoe hoʻokahi, he nui nā kāne i ʻike i ka hānau male ʻana, a ua hele lākou i mua e loaʻa nā keiki olakino a hauʻoli.
3. Hoʻonui i nā hakakā me kāu hoa
Ma hope o ka nalo ʻana o kāu pēpē i hānau ʻole ʻia, ʻike paha ʻoe i ka huhū o ka huhū no nā pilikia liʻiliʻi.
E huhū ʻoe ma luna o kēlā me kēia mea liʻiliʻi a kāu hoa e hana ai. E lilo i hiki ʻole ke ʻaelike me kāu hoa ma kekahi mea.
Ke hoʻomaka nei ʻoe e ʻike i kēia, he hōʻailona maopopo ia ʻaʻole ʻoe i kahi kūlana e hana me ka manaʻo o kou nalo.
ʻO ia ke kumu o ka mea nui e hōʻoia ua lilo kāu pēpē i hānau ʻole ʻia. Ma waho o kēlā, he mea nui e ʻae iā ʻoe iho e kūmākena.
ʻOiaʻiʻo, ʻo ka huhū kahi pae naʻau o ke kaumaha i kou nalo ʻana. A he maʻamau maʻamau ia.
ʻO ka mea nui e hana ai ke aʻo ʻana ʻaʻole e hoʻokuʻu i kou huhū i kāu hoa.
ʻOi aku ka maikaʻi e ʻike i ke kumu o kou huhū a aʻo pehea e lawelawe pono ai i kou huhū. ʻOi aku ke olakino ke ʻae ʻoe iā ʻoe iho i kahi wā kaumaha.
E kōkua kēlā manawa iā ʻoe e ʻike i kāu mau ʻike āpau e pili ana i ka hānau male ʻole a me ka male ʻana, a e kōkua ia iā ʻoe e hoʻokele i kou mau manaʻo ma ke ʻano ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi.
A ʻo kekahi o nā ala maikaʻi e mālama ai i kou huhū ma ke koho ʻana e pane ma kahi o ka pane ʻana.
4. ʻAʻole ʻoe makemake e ikaika no kāu hoa.
He ʻano ʻokoʻa ʻoe a me kāu hoa pili i ka hana ʻana me ka nalo.
ʻAʻohe lua mea like. No laila, ʻokoʻa ke ala āu e lawelawe ai i ka nalo mai kāu hoa.
ʻO kahi laʻana, makemake paha kāu hubby e ikaika ʻoe, akā ʻaʻole ʻoe mākaukau. ʻO ke ala a mākou e mālama ai i kahi nalo e hoʻoholo ʻia e nā kumu he nui i kū hoʻokahi i kēlā me kēia.
Eia hou, eia kahi kahi kamaʻilio hāmama me kāu hoa e pili ana i kou mau manaʻo he koʻikoʻi.
Kūlohelohe loa ia i nā ʻano ʻokoʻa o ka hana ʻana me kahi pohō. A no kēia kumu, hele mai paha kekahi pākana me ka nalo ma mua o kekahi.
No laila, pono ʻoe e haʻi i kāu hoa i kou manaʻo. Hiki iā ʻoe ke noi iā lākou, no ka laʻana, e hāʻawi iā ʻoe i manawa hou e hoʻoponopono ai i ka nalo.
He mea nui like, e noi i kāu hoa e kākoʻo iā ʻoe e lilo i ikaika. Ke hiki ʻoe ma laila no kēlā me kēia, hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻoponopono i ka nalo me ka wikiwiki a me ka maikaʻi.
Panina hopena
ʻO ka mea nui e hoʻomanaʻo ai i ka wā e hāʻule ai ka hāʻule ʻole ʻo ia iā ʻoe a me kāu hoa, ʻaʻole ʻo ʻoe wale nō.
No laila, e lawe i kēia manawa e poli i kou mākau kamaʻilio me kāu pakanā a hele mai me nā ʻano hana pehea e hana maikaʻi ai me ia.
Inā loaʻa iā ʻoe i kahi hānau ʻole, e hana i kahi hana e hoʻoikaika ai iā ʻoe, a hoʻokokoke iā ʻoe i kekahi i kekahi.
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