Anter
- Hōʻike nā helu helu i nā mea āpau
- Nā mea hou
- ʻO ke kāne 2018 a me nā hana o ka hale
- Hoʻoilina paʻa
- Makua ma 2018
- Ke kāne hou a me ka hoʻolako ʻana
- ʻO ke kāne hou a me ka pale
- ʻO ke kāne hou a me ke alakaʻi
- Pehea e pili ana i ka moekolohe?
- Pono nā kāne e hoʻopili i nā ʻoiaʻiʻo o 2018
- Palapala
- ʻO ka mea hope loa, mai hopohopo ʻoe
I ka manawa ma mua, ua hele nā kāne a me nā wahine i ka male me nā manaʻo maopopo loa e pili ana i kā lākou kuleana a me nā kuleana. Hele aku ke kāne e hana a noho ka wahine i ka hale a kuke, hoʻomaʻemaʻe a hānai i nā keiki. ʻO ke kuleana o ka wahine kuʻuna e hoʻolilo i ka home i wahi o ke kauoha, ka maluhia, a me ka maluhia: akā hoʻi ke kāne i ke ahiahi e hoʻāla hou iā ia iho. Eia naʻe, ʻokoʻa loa ka ʻoiaʻiʻo o ka 2018.
Hōʻike nā helu helu i nā mea āpau
- I ka 2015, 38% o nā wahine i loaʻa nā mea hou aʻe ma mua o kā lākou kāne.
- 70% o nā makuahine hana he poʻe hana wā holoʻokoʻa.
ʻO kēia mau mea i manaʻo ʻia e hoʻoponopono hou ʻia nā kuleana a puni ka home: ʻaʻole ke kāne ke kahu ʻai mua a ʻaʻole ia he mea hou na ka wahine e hana i nā mea āpau ma ka home e ia wale nō.
Nā mea hou
A ʻaʻole wale ma ka mākeke hana i loli ai nā mea. ʻO kahi laʻana, he kanaka lima lima ke kanaka kuʻuna. I ka hoʻohālikelike ʻana, ʻaʻohe manaʻo o ke kanaka hou i ka mea e holo ana i kāna paila a ʻaʻole paha e hiki ke hilinaʻi i ka lua. Ke hilinaʻi nui nei ke kāne hou i nā ʻoihana no ka hoʻoponopono ʻana i ka home, kahi kuapo i hiki ke ʻū me ka emasculation.
Ua hoʻololi hou nā hoʻololi i nā makahiki i hala aku nei i nā kuleana a me nā kuleana o nā kāne.
ʻAʻohe o ka manaʻo aloha i hoʻopili ʻia i ka 'hoʻolako' ʻana a me ka hana ʻana i nā 'kāne kāne.'
ʻO ka hopena, he piʻoloke a palekana ʻole nā kāne he nui. ʻAʻole lākou i ʻike pehea e hana ai ma ka home, a, no laila, ua lilo lākou i passive. Ua hoʻoholo kekahi mau kāne ʻo ka mea maʻalahi loa ka hana ʻole. Me nā wāwae ʻelua i kanu paʻa ʻia i waena o ka ea, ua ʻae lākou i ka wahine e lilo.
Pehea e noho paʻa ai ke kāne ke pili ʻole nā mea i wehewehe iā ia i kekahi mau makahiki i hala aku nei?
ʻO ke kāne 2018 a me nā hana o ka hale
ʻO ka ʻoiaʻiʻo o ka makahiki 2018 he ʻāpana wale nō o nā mākua hana ka 'kauhale' e pono ai lākou e mālama i kā lākou keiki. ʻAʻole hiki i ka wahine 2018 ke hoʻopiha iā ia iho iā ia e hana ana: uku paha ʻo ia no ka mālama keiki a me kahi lawelawe hoʻomaʻemaʻe, akā ʻaʻole lawa kēlā. No laila, ua komo nā kāne e kōkua i kā lākou wahine ma ka home. ʻAʻole lawa ia no ke kāne 2018 e 'kāne' wale nō ka ʻai no ka BBQ i kekahi manawa.
ʻOiaʻiʻo leʻaleʻa: ua ʻike anei ʻoe e like me kaPew Research Poll, kaʻana like ʻana i nā hana o ka hale ma ke ʻano o ke kolu o ka hihia kiʻekiʻe e pili ana i kahi male kūleʻa, ma hope wale nō o ka hana pono ʻole a me ka wahine maikaʻi?
ʻAʻole hiki i ke kāne 2018 ke koi e aloha i kāna wahine a laila e kiaʻi ʻoiai ʻo ia e luhi ai i ka home ma hope o kahi lā lōʻihi ma ka hana. ʻOiai ʻo ia ke noho ma ka home home mom, aia he hoʻomaopopo hou he hana luhi ka hana hale ʻana e like me ka hele ʻana i waho e loaʻa kahi loaʻa kālā, inā ʻaʻole ʻoi aku. ʻO ke aloha i kāu wahine ʻo ia ka hoʻomaopopo ʻana ua luhi a luʻuluʻu ʻo ia. Inā aloha ʻoe i kāu wahine, a makemake ʻoe e ʻike ʻo ia i ke aloha, e hoʻi ʻoe i ka home a paheʻe i ka ʻaoʻao ʻelua o ka papa kuhikuhi o kou lā, e like me ia.
ʻOiaʻiʻo leʻaleʻa: Ke hana nei kahi kāne i ʻehiku mau hola o ka hana home ma ka pule no nā wahine, e like me kaKulanui o Michigan.
Hoʻoilina paʻa
Wahi a Charles William, hiki mai ka pili maoli i ka pilina ke hiki iā ʻoe a me kāu wahine ke pili pono loa me kekahi i kekahi a ʻike ʻolua iā ʻolua. Ke haku ʻoe i ka waiwai pilikino, ʻaʻole ʻoe e namunamu e pili ana i ke kōkua ʻana i kāu wahine me nā hana o ka hale.
Hoʻomaopopo mau iā ʻoe iho ʻo kāu wahine kāu hoaaloha nui a nui nā mea liʻiliʻi hiki iā ʻoe ke hana e hoʻomaʻalahi iā ia:
- E noi i kāu wahine e huki i kahi papa inoa o nā hana ʻike ʻole ʻia.
- E nānā e pili ana i ka hana e pono ai e hana i kēlā me kēia lā a hana i kekahi o ia.
- Hoʻomaopopo i ka hana a me ka mōhai e pili ana i ke koena o ka hana.
E hoʻomanaʻo, ʻaʻole pono ke kuhi e hana i ka hapalua o ka hana. Ke kōkua nei ia i kāu wahine e like me ka hiki iā ʻoe. ʻO ka mākia: ʻaʻohe mea e noho a noho nā mea āpau. Inā he hana e pono ai a ʻo kāu wahine ka i luna, ʻo ʻoe pū kekahi, e hana ana i ka mea e pono ai.
ʻOiaʻiʻo: No ka wahine, ʻo ka mea ʻoi aku ka paʻakikī ma mua o ka noho hoʻokahi ʻana o ka makua a me ka hana ʻana i nā mea āpau e hana i nā mea āpau e ia, ʻoiai e kiaʻi ana kekahi mai ka moe. Hoʻohui wale ia i ka huhū i kāna luhi.
Makua ma 2018
ʻOkoʻa ʻokoʻa ka makuakāne o kēia ao mai ka mea loaʻa kālā kuʻuna a me ka hoʻopaʻi. Hele mai ʻo ia i nā ʻano like ʻole: hana a noho paha ma ka home, biological, adopive a stepparent paha. Ma mua o ka hiki iā ia ke lilo i kahu no kāna mau keiki no kā lākou mau pilikia kino a me ka noʻonoʻo. Ua hōʻike ʻia e ka noiʻi a ka National Institute of Health and Child Development i hōʻike ʻia i nā makuakāne i pili nui i ka mālama.
- Loaʻa i nā hopena hoʻoponopono psychological maikaʻi i kā lākou mau keiki (nā pae haʻahaʻa o ka inaina a me ke kaumaha; ʻoi aku ka manaʻo kiʻekiʻe a me ke kū ʻana i ke kūlana makua).
- Hoʻonui i ka hoʻomohala ʻike a kā lākou keiki.
- Hōʻike i ka pilina me kā lākou wahine.
Eia hou, ua hōʻike ʻia ke aʻo ʻana i ke kuleana o ke aloha makua kāne i ka ulu ʻana o kāna mau keiki e like me ka hopena o ke aloha o ka makuahine. No laila, ke mālama nei i kahi pilina olakino me kāu wahine e hāʻawi nui i ka olakino a me ke olakino o kāu keiki.
Pono ke kāne 2018 e hana pū me kāna wahine e hāʻawi i ke kākoʻo naʻau a me ke kālā no nā keiki, hāʻawi i ka nānā kūpono a me ka hoʻopaʻi aʻo ka mea nui loa, e noho mau a aloha i nā ola o kāna wahine a me kāna mau keiki.
Ke kāne hou a me ka hoʻolako ʻana
Manaʻo ka hapanui o ka lilo ʻana i mea hoʻolako maikaʻi i ke kākoʻo kālā ʻana i ka ʻohana. ʻO kēia ke kumu o ka waiho ʻana o nā kāne he palekana ʻole a huikau hoʻi i ka hoʻomaka ʻana o kā lākou wahine e loaʻa kālā pū kekahi; ʻoi aku ka nui ma mua o kā lākou.
ʻOi aku ka hāʻawi ma mua o ke kālā. Pono i ke kāne e hoʻolako i ke olakino, kino, noʻonoʻo a me ka ʻuhane o kona ʻohana.
Ma ke ʻano he kāne 2018, ka ʻike nui loa i hiki iā ʻoe ke hele mai, ʻo ia, me ka hoʻohui kālā, aia kekahi mau kālā ʻē aʻe i kāhea ʻia ʻoe e hoʻolako i kou ʻohana.
ʻO ke kāne hou a me ka pale
ʻO ka pale ʻana i kou ʻohana ʻoi aku ka nui ma mua o ka haku ʻana o ka ʻōnaehana alapiʻi o kou ʻohana, ke kuleana o ka wehe ʻana i ka puka ke kīkēkē kekahi i ka pō a pani ʻia ka hale ma mua o ka hiamoe.Ma waho o ka hahau ʻana i ke kanaka ma ka puka aʻe inā hōʻino ʻo ia i kāu wahine.
Pono ʻoe i ke kua o kāu wahine, ʻoiai ke pale ʻana iā ia mai kou ʻohana ponoʻī.
Heck, hiki iā ʻoe ke pale aku i kāu wahine mai kāu mau keiki ponoʻī. Hōʻike i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe ʻaʻole ʻoe e hoʻomanawanui i kekahi hōʻino ʻole i kāu wahine.
Hoʻonui ʻia ka pale ʻana i ka mālama ʻana i nā pono o ka naʻau o kāu wahine.
E makaʻala i kāu kamaʻilio ʻana i kāu wahine. E like me ka waiho ʻana i kahi ʻāpana lahilahi o Kina, hiki i kāu mau ʻōlelo ke haki mau i kāu wahine.
Eia hou, pale i ka manaʻo pilikino o kāu wahine. ʻAʻohe mea ʻē aʻe e hiki ke hoʻohālikelike i kāu wahine e like me kahi supermodel me ka ʻūlū ʻole o nā umauma a me nā kaha kau.
ʻO ke kāne hou a me ke alakaʻi
ʻO ka ʻāpana o ke kāne he kuleana. Ke hoʻomaopopo nei ʻaʻole ʻoe hoʻokahi wale nō. He kime kou e pono e alakaʻi ʻia a pale ʻia mai ka hoʻokaʻawale. Pono e alakaʻi ʻia nā male kūpono, e like me nā kime kūpono, me ke ʻano alakaʻi alakaʻi kauā.
Kūlike ʻole i ka manaʻo kaulana, ʻaʻole makemake nā wahine e komo i ka pālule ma ka ʻohana.
Hōʻike nā hōʻike i ka nui o nā holomua a nā wahine i hana ai i ka hoʻokele waiwai, ʻaʻole makemake ka hapa nui i alakaʻi o ko lākou ʻohana. Makemake nā wahine he nui i kā lākou kāne e alakaʻi. A ʻo ka mea hou aku, ʻaʻole makemake nā kāne e alakaʻi ʻia e kā lākou wahine.
No laila, mai kali no kāu wahine e hoʻomaka ai ke loaʻa nā pilikia i kou ʻohana. E alakaʻi i ke alakaʻi. E komo i ka pāʻani a hoʻokumu i kahi ʻano ʻohana āu e makemake ai ma kahi o ka hoʻonele ʻana i ka manawa e namunamu ana e pili ana i ke kūlana o kou ʻohana. E hoʻomanaʻo, e loaʻa iā ʻoe ka ʻohana āu i hana ai, ʻaʻole ka ʻohana āu e manaʻo ai he kūpono.
Pehea e pili ana i ka moekolohe?
ʻO ka maʻa mau, aia nā ʻano mōakāka e pili ana i ka pili aloha; ʻO ka makemake o ke kāne ka mea i helu ʻia. ʻAʻole ʻoe e manaʻo hou i kēlā, ʻaʻole hoʻi kāu wahine. Eia nō naʻe, ke lana nei ka manaʻo e pono ke kāne e alakaʻi i ke ola kolohe o nā kāne.
Pono ʻoe e ʻike he kāohi ʻia paha kāu wahine e nā ʻano kuʻuna.
E ʻimi mau e hoʻohui i nā huakaʻi hou e lawe i kāu ola wahine i kahi pae aʻe. E hoʻomanaʻo, ʻo ke kiʻekiʻe o ka leʻaleʻa me kāu ola wahine e hoʻoholo ai i ka pae o ka hōʻoluʻolu i kāu male.
Pono nā kāne e hoʻopili i nā ʻoiaʻiʻo o 2018
Hōʻike ka noiʻi e hauʻoli ka hauʻoli o nā kāne ke lilo ka home home i kā lākou wahine. Me he mea lā ke hana nei nā kāne he nui me ka hoʻohana ʻana i nā code social chauvinistic i hoʻokumu ʻia i ke kenekulia i hala. Minamina, hōʻeha wale kēia i nā ʻohana. Pono ʻoe e aʻo e hoʻopili i nā mea o kēia lā i mea e kūkulu ai i kahi male olakino.
Palapala
I ka puʻuwai o nā pilikia o ka male, ʻaʻole maopopo i kēia lā nā manaʻo a me nā pahuhopu contradictory. Mālama ʻia nā mea i manaʻo ʻia a me ka ʻike like o nā pahuhopu a me nā hana a kēlā me kēia hoa e hoʻopakele ai i kāu male ʻana mai ka hauʻoli ʻole, ka hoʻopaʻapaʻa a me nā kuhi hewa ʻole. Koi ʻia nā mākau o kēia mau lā i ka mākau kamaʻilio e holo i kahi pilina kūleʻa. ʻO kēia kahi e komo ai kāu alakaʻi.
E ʻike i kahi ala na ʻoe a me kāu wahine e kamaʻilio aku ai i kāu mau pono a me kāu kuleana me ke ākea a me ka maopopo.
E hana i kahi e kamaʻilio ai e pili ana i nā mea āpau. E hoʻokumu ʻoe i kahi pilina hoʻokō ma kahi pālākiō āu i manaʻo ʻole ai.
ʻO ka mea hope loa, mai hopohopo ʻoe
Mai hoʻoweliweli ʻia no ka mea he hana a kāu wahine a i ʻole e loaʻa ana iā ʻoe i waho. ʻAʻole like nā kāne a me ka wahine; pēlā, ʻaʻole lākou e hiki ke hoʻololi. ʻOiai inā hiki iā ʻoe a me kāu wahine ke hana i ka mea e hiki ai i kēlā me kēia mea ke hana, ʻaʻole ia he manaʻo hiki iā ʻolua ke hana i nā hana āpau me ka ʻeleu like. A, ʻaʻole ia he manaʻo e hauʻoli ʻolua ʻelua inā ʻoe e hana. Me ke kamaʻilio mau me kāu wahine, ʻike mau ʻoe i ke kaulike i kāu pili.