Anter
- Pōloli no ka hoʻomaikaʻi
- Ke hōʻeha nei i ka poʻe e hana i ko lākou manaʻo
- Kānāwai
- Ka lili a me ka hoʻomanawanui ʻole i ka kūleʻa o haʻi
- Hāʻawi i kahi ea o ka pono
- Makemake mau i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe e hana hou aʻe
- Nā kūlana kaulike ʻole
- Kūpono a nani hoʻi
ʻO Narcissism kahi maʻi pilikino e hōʻike iā lākou iho ʻoi aku ka nui ma mua o nā poʻe ʻē aʻe. Kūpono kahi mea narcissist i kahi mea ponoʻī a overweening kanaka piha iā ia iho.
ʻO ka ego o kahi narcissist he lōʻihi a nunui e like me himalayas.
Hoʻokomo ʻia kahi kanaka me nā papahana narcissism ʻoi aku ʻo ia ma mua o nā poʻe ʻē aʻe me ka ʻole o nā kumu maoli.
Kaulana ka narcissist kaulana i kāna hana a hoʻohana ʻana i ka poʻe kokoke iā ia. Ke hele mai nei i kahi narcissist ʻaʻole hiki ke lilo i ʻike maikaʻi.
Eia nō naʻe, ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke hōʻalo i ke kuʻi ʻole ʻana i hoʻokahi. Ke hiki i kou hopena, ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke wehe aʻe inā ʻaʻohe mea.
No laila, pehea e ʻike ai i kahi narcissist ma waena o ka poʻe maʻamau?
Loaʻa iā Narcissists kekahi mau ʻano kikoʻī e hoʻokaʻawale iā lākou mai nā poʻe ʻē aʻe. Hiki iā ʻoe ke ʻike iā lākou inā ʻike ʻoe i kēia ʻano.
E nānā pū kekahi: The Psychology of Narcissism.
Pōloli no ka hoʻomaikaʻi
Pōloli mau kahi mea narcissist i nā accolades a me ka mahalo, he ʻoiaʻiʻo ʻole a he ʻole paha.
ʻIʻa mau ka poʻe Narcissist i nā iʻa no nā mahalo a me nā hōʻaiʻē. ʻAʻole lākou luhi i ka mahalo ʻia. E like me ke ala, kūkulu ʻia lākou, hoʻoulu mahalo nui a hānai i kā lākou ego nui.
Nānā lākou a puni e noho me nā poʻe i mākaukau i ka mahalo. ʻO ka 'genuinity' o nā hoʻomaikaʻi i kau ʻia ma luna o lākou he mea ʻole ia, ʻo nā mea āpau āpau nā huaʻōlele kō i lohe ʻia mai nā poʻe ʻē aʻe.
Hoʻoliʻoli kēia iā lākou a me ka ʻike no ka wā pau ʻole.
Ke hōʻeha nei i ka poʻe e hana i ko lākou manaʻo
ʻO nā Narcissists ka mana maʻamau freaks. ʻO lākou nā maestros o ka kaohi ʻana a me ka mālama ʻana i ke ola o ka poʻe.
E hana i kā lākou hana, ʻōlelo lākou i nā mea ʻeha i ka poʻe, hiki ke wāwahi iā lākou. Ke hoʻonāwaliwali lākou i kekahi, hiki iā lākou ke hoʻohana iā ia. ʻO ia ka hana noʻeau a lākou i kauka ai.
ʻAʻole lākou e hoʻokau iā lākou iho i kekahi. No laila, ʻaʻole hiki iā lākou ke ʻeha. ʻAʻole lākou i lawe i kekahi mea i ka puʻuwai; hiki iā ʻoe ke kuhi he poʻe puʻuwai lākou.
No lākou, pololei mau lākou; ʻO kēia ke kumu e hiki ʻole ai iā lākou ke noʻonoʻo i ka hewa o kā lākou hewa ponoʻī.
Inā pili ʻoe me ka narcissist, ʻo ka hewa mau nō ʻoe. ʻO ia ke kānāwai o ka manamana nui no lākou.
Kānāwai
ʻO ka narcissist he kanaka hoʻokolokolo mau, ʻaʻole nānā i nā manaʻo o haʻi. Kuhi lākou iā lākou iho ma ke ʻano he kanaka kūpono a maikaʻi me ka hiki ke loiloi i kēlā me kēia kūlana.
Pākuʻi lākou i nā makaʻi nui i ka wā e pili ana i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe. Aia kēia nele o ka cordialship ma ka ʻaoʻao narcissist i nānā ʻole ai lākou i nā manaʻo diverging āpau.
Ma muli o ka noʻonoʻo ʻana o kahi narcissist iā lākou iho ma ke ʻano he poʻokela, e hana ana lākou i kekahi a me nā mea āpau e hoʻokuʻi ai i ka mea haʻahaʻa ma luna o ka ʻaoʻao ʻē aʻe.
Ka lili a me ka hoʻomanawanui ʻole i ka kūleʻa o haʻi
ʻAʻole hiki i kahi narcissist ke māʻona me kekahi mea ʻē aʻe e loaʻa ana ma mua o lākou. Lili nō lākou i ka poʻe kūleʻa a puni lākou.
Puni paha paha kēlā lili. I kekahi manawa, hiki i kahi mea narcissist ke hana me ke kanaka hōʻoluʻolu loa, ʻo ia hoʻi ka hoʻoliʻiliʻi.
Hoʻohuoi pinepine kahi narcissist i ka lanakila o nā poʻe ʻē aʻe. Ma muli o ka hiki ʻole iā lākou iho ke ʻeli iā ia, manaʻo lākou he mea kānalua a waiwai ʻole loa ia.
ʻAʻole lākou he kāula no ka positivity; no laila, ʻike lākou i nā mea āpau i kahi kukui ʻano ʻē.
Hāʻawi i kahi ea o ka pono
Manaʻo kahi narcissist he kuleana lākou i nā mea āpau i ke ola.
Noho lākou me kahi ʻano o ka kuleana i hoʻonui ʻia. Manaʻo lākou ua hānau ʻia lākou e aloha ʻia a hoʻomana ʻia e ka honua. Hānau ʻia kahi narcissist me nā instincts e manaʻo ai iā lākou he ʻoi aku.
E ʻike mau ʻoe i kahi narcissist ma waena o nā mea hoʻoluʻolu. E hoʻopuni lākou iā lākou iho me ka poʻe e ʻauʻau i nā applause ma luna o lākou.
Ma kahi memo kūikawā, inā ʻike lākou i kekahi e uhaʻi i kā lākou protocol, hoʻomaka lākou e ʻike i ka ʻulaʻula. Hana lākou i nā mea āpau, kaulike a kaulike ʻole paha, e kūlou i kēlā kanaka.
Makemake mau i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe e hana hou aʻe
ʻAʻole māʻona ʻo narcissist me nā mea a haʻi e hana ai no lākou. Ke namunamu mau nei lākou i ka mea ʻokoʻa ma mua o ka maʻamau. No ka nui o kāu hana no lākou, e noi lākou no nā mea hou aʻe.
ʻAʻole lākou e palena iā lākou iho i nā mea i hāʻawi ʻia iā lākou a e hoʻomau e hoʻonui i ko lākou alo o nā mea i manaʻo ʻia.
Nā kūlana kaulike ʻole
ʻAʻole ʻike kahi narcissist i nā koi like a me nā hāʻawi. E ulu kā lākou mau koi ʻoiai e hoʻoliʻiliʻi kā lākou hāʻawi.
Ke nānā nei kekahi mau maka maka maka maka i ka mea hiki iā lākou ke hopu, ua kaumaha kekahi me nā ʻeha o kēlā me kēia ʻano, a i ʻole kekahi e hoʻokō i ka codependency.
Ma ka ʻaoʻao ʻē, ʻimi kekahi poʻe narcissist i kekahi me ke ʻano maikaʻi a me ka hilinaʻi maikaʻi, a laila, lawe lākou i mea hōʻaʻo e hoʻohiolo i ko lākou manaʻo pilikino i ka honua.
Kūpono a nani hoʻi
Ma waho o kā lākou mau pono e loiloi ai, aloha ʻia, makaʻu ʻia, a mahalo ʻia e kekahi mea e pono ai, hiki i kahi narcissist ke loaʻa kekahi mau ʻano ʻē aʻe e hāʻawi iā lākou i ka palena ma luna o kekahi.
ʻElua mau hiki a ʻano maikaʻi paha e hoʻonui nei i ka hilinaʻi a me ka leʻaleʻa. He hilinaʻi a narcissists a mea hoʻonani ia e hāʻule ai nā kānaka no lākou.
No laila, mai kahaha ʻoe inā ʻike ʻoe i kāu pakanā hilinaʻi loa a ʻoluʻolu hoʻi i kou hui mua ʻana, a lilo lākou i hiʻohiʻona o ka narcissism.
Eia kahi kiko o nā hōʻailona e hihia ai ʻoe me kahi narcissist:
- Haʻaheo kāu hoa, me ka menemene iki a ʻaʻohe paha.
- Hōʻike kāu hoa i ka mālama ʻana i ka lawena.
- 80% o ka mea a kāu hoa e ʻōlelo ai he wahaheʻe, a ʻo ka 20% ʻē aʻe he wahaheʻe keʻokeʻo iki ia.
- Pono i kāu pakanā e makemake i ka maikaʻi ma nā manawa āpau.
- Hoʻopiʻi kāu hoa i nā mea ʻē aʻe āpau a ʻaʻole ʻae i kā lākou hewa. ʻAʻole loa e pane i kahi nīnau pololei.
- He kolohe kāu hoa a hoʻohana koke i ka hōʻino waha.
- ʻAʻole ʻike kāu ipo i nā palena a pili ʻole i kekahi.
- Pāʻani kāu hoa me kou naʻau. Charm, hoʻowalewale. Lanakila. E hana hou.
- ʻAʻole hōʻoia kāu hoa i kou mau manaʻo. Hoʻolei maʻalahi lākou iā lākou me ka noʻonoʻo ʻole.
- ʻAʻole hāʻawi kāu hoa i kekahi mea me ka noʻonoʻo ʻole. ʻO ka manaʻo pehea lākou e hana ai iā ʻoe i ka hōʻaiʻē iā lākou.
- He moʻolelo weliweli kā kāu hoa pili e pili ana i kā lāua ex-ka pupule.
- Hoʻonāukiuki kāu hoa iā ʻoe a laila hoʻopiʻi iā ʻoe no kāu hopena.
ʻO nā narcissist ʻokoʻa, nā ala like ʻole, akā like mau ke kumu. I ka pilina, nānā ka narcissist i mua e lilo i ka dictator, i nā manawa āpau.