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- Ke koʻikoʻi o ke kamaʻilio ʻana
- Ke loaʻa ʻole kahi kamaʻilio i ka pilina
- Hiki i kāu male ke ola me ka ʻole o ke kamaʻilio?
Ua lohe paha mākou i nā ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo he nui e pili ana i ka loaʻa ʻana o ka pilina ʻoi loa a i ʻole pehea mākou e hōʻoia ai i ka lōʻihi o kā mākou pili a i nā manawa hea ʻoe i lohe ai e pili ana i ka kōkua ʻana o ka kamaʻilio e hoʻoikaika i ke kahua o ka male a me ka pili?
ʻO ka loaʻa ʻole o ke kamaʻilio ʻana i kāu pili e like me ke kau ʻana i ka lā kūpono ma luna pū kekahi.
I ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, no ka hapanui o ka poʻe, ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke noʻonoʻo i nā hopena o ka loaʻa ʻole o kahi kamaʻilio maoli me kāu wahine a pakanā paha. E aʻo kākou i ke ʻano hohonu o ke kamaʻilio a me nā hopena o ka ʻole o kekahi o ia mea i kāu pili.
Ke koʻikoʻi o ke kamaʻilio ʻana
Inā makemake ʻoe e loaʻa kahi olakino a pilina hauʻoli a laila hoʻopukapuka i kahi ala olakino o ke kamaʻilio ʻana me kāu hoa.
Inā maopopo loa iā ʻolua ʻelua i ka mea a ka mea ʻē aʻe e manaʻo nei a laila e maʻalahi ia iā ʻoe e hoʻoholo a hoʻoponopono. Me ka hāmama a me ke kūʻokoʻa e kamaʻilio e pili ana i nā mea āpau, e maʻalahi ana kēlā me kēia o ʻoukou i nā pono a me nā makemake a nā hoa. Pehea e hiki ai iā ʻoe ke ʻike inā aloha a i ʻole hoʻowahāwahā kāu hoa i kekahi mea inā ʻaʻohe kamaʻilio ma waena o ʻolua?
Ma waena o nā kaila kamaʻilio 4, ke hoʻomaʻamaʻa ʻana i ka kamaʻilio koʻikoʻi a i ka mea a mākou i ʻike ai ma ke ʻano he kaila kaina e kōkua i kekahi pilina e kūkulu i kahi kahua paʻa.
Inā hiki iā ʻoe ke ʻōlelo wiwo ʻole i kāu mea e makemake ai ʻoiai e makaʻala i nā manaʻo o kāu hoa a hiki ke hoʻololi no ka ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi e kūkulu kēia i ka manaʻo hilinaʻi, palekana, mahalo, a ʻoiaʻiʻo, hilinaʻi.
ʻO ke aloha maoli ke kumu o kekahi pilina a ʻo ke kamaʻilio maikaʻi ke kahua e hoʻoikaika ai me ka mahalo. Pehea ka nani inā pili nā pilina āpau i kēia akā ʻo ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, aia kekahi mau manawa kahi ʻaʻohe kamaʻilio i kahi pilina a e like me kā mākou i ʻōlelo ai, ʻaʻole kū kēia.
Ke loaʻa ʻole kahi kamaʻilio i ka pilina
He aha ka hana inā ʻaʻohe kamaʻilio i ka pilina?
Ua lilo ʻoe i malihini i hoʻopaʻa ʻia e ka male a i ʻole ka pilina akā ʻaʻole ʻoe i loko o kahi pilina no ka mea e loaʻa kahi kamaʻilio ākea - pili pono, pololei?
Eia kekahi o nā mea hiki iā ʻoe ke manaʻo inā ʻaʻohe ou kamaʻilio ākea me kāu wahine a wahine paha.
- Ke loaʻa ʻole kahi kamaʻilio, e like me ʻoe ʻaʻole ʻoe i ʻike i ke kanaka me ʻoe. Ua lilo kāu kamaʻilio maʻamau i ka leka uila a i ke kamaʻilio ʻana a ʻo ka mea ʻoi loa o ke kamaʻilio wale ʻana e pili ana i nā mea maʻalahi e like me ka mea no ka ʻaina awakea a i ka wā hea ʻoe e hoʻi ai mai ka hana.
- Inā ʻaʻohe ala e haʻi ai ʻoe i kou ʻano a laila mai manaʻo ʻoe e loaʻa nā loli maikaʻi i kāu pilina? Hiki iā ʻoe ke haʻi maoli ke wahaheʻe kāu hoa iā ʻoe?
- ʻO ka mea maʻamau e pili ʻole i ka pilina kamaʻilio ke loaʻa nā pilikia, ʻaʻole kamaʻilio kēia mau kāne. ʻAʻohe kamaʻilio ʻana i nā pilikia a laila e ʻino ia.
He aha inā inā huhū ʻoe i kekahi mea? Pehea e hiki ai iā ʻoe ke haʻi i kahi hoa pili ʻole. Pehea e hiki ai iā ʻoe ke haʻi aku i kāu pakanā inā hewa kekahi mea ke hele kino lākou akā ʻaʻole hoihoi lākou e kamaʻilio pū me ʻoe.
- Me ka kamaʻilio ʻole ʻole, e lilo paha kāu mau kamaʻilio maʻalahi i mea hoʻopaʻapaʻa no ka mea ʻaʻole ʻoe i ʻike hou kekahi i kekahi a laila lilo ia i kamaʻilio hakakā a i ʻole ma hope paha, lilo wale ia i mea ʻawaʻawa a me kahi kaumaha.
- ʻAʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke manaʻo i kahi pili lōʻihi ke loaʻa ʻole kāu kamaʻilio. ʻAʻole mākou noʻonoʻo e ka poʻe heluhelu e ʻike ua huhū ʻoe, kaumaha a mehameha hoʻi. Pehea e hiki ai iā ʻoe ke koho i nā mea a kāu hoa e makemake ai a makemake inā ʻaʻole ʻoe e kamaʻilio ākea?
- ʻO ka mea hope loa, e ʻimi ʻoe a i ʻole kāu pakanā i ka ʻoluʻolu a me ke kamaʻilio ʻana ma kahi ʻē aʻe no ka mea makemake mākou iā ia a makemake mākou iā ia. I ka manawa e mālama ʻia ai kēia ʻiʻini i kahi ʻē aʻe a i ʻole me kahi mea ʻē aʻe, a laila ʻo ka hopena o kāu pili.
Hiki i kāu male ke ola me ka ʻole o ke kamaʻilio?
He aha inā inā paʻa ʻoe i kahi kamaʻilio ʻole i ka male? Manaʻo ʻoe hiki iā ʻoe ke ola a mālama i ka male a i ʻole ka hui ʻana? ʻAe ka pane. E hoʻoponopono i ka pilikia, ʻo ia ka nele o ke kamaʻilio ma ka male ʻana a mai laila mai, e hana i ka mea e hiki ai ke hoʻomaikaʻi.
ʻAʻole hiki ke hoʻololi i kahi pō akā e kōkua ia iā ʻoe i ka mālamalama a me ka ikaika o ka male. E hoʻāʻo i kēia mau kaʻina a ʻike i ka ʻokoʻa.
- ʻO ka mea mua, pono ʻoe i ka hoʻokō no ka mea ʻaʻole holo pono kēia inā ʻaʻole ʻolua e hana pū. Pono ka hoʻolaʻa a me ka hoʻokō i mua o kou hiki ke ʻike i nā loli.
- Mai hoʻoikaika iā ia a hoʻomaka wale me kahi kamaʻilio liʻiliʻi. ʻAno pīhoihoi paha ke lele mai kahi kamaʻilio ʻole a loaʻa i nā hola o ke kamaʻilio. E kahe ana hoʻi ia no nā wēlau ʻelua. Nā kamaʻilio liʻiliʻi, e nānā ana i ka mea i hana a i ʻole e nīnau ana i ka mea a kāu hoa e makemake ai no ka ʻaina ahiahi ua hoʻomaka mua ia.
- E hoʻoponopono i nā pilikia e like me ka huhū o kāu hoa, e ʻae iā lākou e vent a ma laila maoli e hoʻolohe ai. Mai hōʻalo iā ia ma ke ʻano he keaka a i ʻole kahi pilikia liʻiliʻi no ka mea ʻaʻole ia.
- E hoʻomaʻamaʻa. E paʻakikī ia i ka wā mua e like me nā hana ʻē aʻe pono ke hoʻoikaika. Ma hope a ma hope paha, hiki iā ʻoe ke ʻike i nā loli āu e makemake ai e ʻike.
- Inā manaʻo ʻoe he pono ke kōkua hou aku i kāu pili - mai hoʻokaʻulua e ʻimi no ke kōkua ʻoihana. Inā manaʻo ʻoe ʻaʻohe maʻalahi ke kamaʻilio, makemake paha ʻoe e noʻonoʻo ʻelua. I kekahi manawa, aia nā pilikia hohonu e hana pū ai a kōkua paha kahi mea hoʻoponopono iā ʻoe e hana i nā mea.
ʻAʻohe kamaʻilio i loko o kahi pilina e like me ke kau ʻana i kahi lā palena pau i kāu male ʻana a i ʻole huakaʻi.
ʻAʻole anei ia he neoneo ke ʻike ʻana i ka pili o kāu pili ma muli wale nō o kou makemake ʻole e kamaʻilio? E ʻoi aku ka ikaika o kekahi pilina inā aia kahi kahua paʻa a makemake mākou āpau i kēia, no laila he mea kūpono ia e hiki ai iā mākou ke hoʻokau a me ka hoʻokō e hōʻoia i ka kamaʻilio ākea o kā mākou pili.