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- Pehea e hiki ai i kahi ʻaelike male ʻole ke kōkua
- He aha nā pilikia e pono ai ka ʻaelike male?
- Ke kākau ʻana i ka ʻaelike male ʻole i hiki ke hoʻokō ʻia
Ke hoʻoholo nei nā kāne hou a nui e noho pū me ka male ʻole. No laila, ʻo ka nīnau nui ka mea e hana ai i ka wā e wāwahi ai kēia mau kāne. Pehea e hiki ai i nā poʻe i male ʻole a noho pū pū ke pale aku i kā lākou pono pilikino.
Nui nā mokuʻāina he kānāwai e pili ana i ka pono kālā o nā kāne male. Eia nō naʻe, ʻaʻohe kānāwai ka hapanui o nā mokuʻāina e hoʻoponopono i ka pono kālā o nā kāne male ʻole e noho pū ana.
Pehea e hiki ai i kahi ʻaelike male ʻole ke kōkua
I mea e hoʻokumu a wehewehe ai pehea ʻoe e kaʻana like ai i ka waiwai i ka wā o kou pilina a kuhikuhi i ka mea e hana ʻia i kēlā waiwai ma hope o ka pau ʻana o ka pilina a i ka wā e make ai kekahi o ʻoe, pono ʻoe e kau i kou manaʻo a me kou mau makemake i kahi kākau.
ʻO kēia ʻaelike e kapa ʻia he "ʻaelike male ʻole" a "aelike me ka noho pū ʻana." (E wehewehe pono i ka mea e pono inā make ʻoe i ka wā o ka pilina, pono ʻoe e kākau i kahi makemake.)
ʻO ka ʻaelike male ʻole ka ʻaelike ma waena o nā kānaka ʻelua e noho pū nei ma ke ʻano he kāne male ʻole. Kuhi ʻia pehea e puʻunaue ʻia ai ka waiwai a me ka ʻaiʻē o ka wahine inā hanana lāua a i make paha kekahi o lāua.
ʻO ka pahuhopu mua o kahi ʻaelike male ʻole ka mea e hōʻoia inā i ka hanana he wāwahi ʻana, ʻaʻole ʻelua mau ʻohana e hoʻopau kālā ʻia.
ʻAneʻane kēlā me kēia mokuʻāina e hoʻokō i nā ʻaelike male ʻole i kākau pololei ʻia a kūpono hoʻi.
He aha nā pilikia e pono ai ka ʻaelike male?
Nui nā mea like ʻole i hiki i nā kāne male ʻole e noho pū ana ke hana me ka ʻaelike male ʻole e pale ai i kā lākou pono pilikino.
I ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, ʻo ka lōʻihi o kou noho pū ʻana ka mea nui e lilo ia i mea e mōakāka ai ka mea nāna ka mea. He ʻoiaʻiʻo loa kēia inā loaʻa pū kāu waiwai ma ke ʻano he kāne male ʻole.
Pono e hoʻopili i nā pilikia āu e kamaʻilio ai i kāu ʻaelike male ʻole, akā ʻaʻole kau palena ʻia i kēia mau mea:
- Pehea ʻoe e lawe ai i ka inoa i ka waiwai: ʻAe kekahi mau mokuʻāina i nā kāne male ʻole e hoʻopaʻa i ka kuleana i ka waiwai ma ke ʻano he "mau hoaaina hui me nā kuleana o ke ola ʻana,". ʻO kēia ka manaʻo ke make ana kekahi hoa, e hoʻoilina ka waiwai o ka poʻe ʻē aʻe. ʻOkoʻa, hiki paha iā ʻoe ke hoʻopaʻa i ka kuleana i ka waiwai ma ke ʻano he "tenants in common,". E hiki ai i kēlā me kēia o ʻoukou ke kuhikuhi i ka mea e hoʻoilina i ka ʻāpana o ka waiwai i ka makemake a i ʻole ka hilinaʻi.
- He aha ka mahele o ka waiwai a kēlā me kēia hoa. Inā loaʻa iā ʻoe ka inoa i ka waiwai ma ke ʻano he poʻe hoaaina, pono ʻoe e ʻona like i nā ʻāpana like i ka waiwai.
- He aha ka hana i ka waiwai ke pau kou pili: E koi ʻia kekahi o ʻoukou e kūʻai i ka mea ʻē aʻe? E koi ʻia ʻoe e kūʻai aku i ka waiwai a hoʻokaʻawale i nā loaʻa? He aha ka hana inā ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke ʻae i ka mea e kūʻai iā wai? Pehea e loaʻa ai ke koho mua?
- Loaʻa ʻole ka loaʻa kālā: Inā hāʻawi kekahi i ka ʻohana ma ke ʻano kālā ʻole, pehea e helu ai i kēia?
- ʻO ke kuleana no nā aie: Hiki i kāu ʻaelike male ʻole ke kuhikuhi kikoʻī i ke kuleana no nā bila a i ka nui.
- Nā pilikia pili kālā ʻole: Hiki iā ʻoe ke koho i ka helu ʻana i nā pilikia pili kālā āu e makemake ai e palapala, e like me ka hoʻokaʻawale ʻana i ka hana, pehea e mālama ʻia ai ka infidelity, a me ka lōʻihi e hiki ai iā ʻoe ke noho i ka home āu e kaʻana like ai i ka hanana o he wāwahi.
Ke kākau ʻana i ka ʻaelike male ʻole i hiki ke hoʻokō ʻia
ʻAʻole pono ʻoe i kahi loio e kākau i kāu ʻaelike male ʻole. Eia nō naʻe, hiki i kahi loio ke hōʻoia i ka hoʻokō ʻana o ka ʻaelike i ka koi e hoʻokō ʻia i loko o ka mokuʻāina kahi āu e noho ai me kāu hoa. ʻO ka maʻamau, i mea e hiki ai ke hoʻokō ʻia kahi ʻaelike male ʻole, pono ia e hoʻokō i nā ana aʻe:
- E kūpono a kaulike hoʻi: Pono ke kuʻikahi e kūpono a kaulike e pili ana i nā makemake o nā ʻaoʻao ʻelua.
- Nā loio kaʻawale: Koho ʻia i kēlā me kēia ʻaoʻao e ko lākou loio kūʻokoʻa ke kūkākūkā i nā ʻōlelo o ka ʻaelike.
- E kau inoa ʻia e nā ʻaoʻao ʻelua: E like me nā pilina ʻē aʻe, pono e kau inoa ʻia kāu ʻaelike male ʻole a hoʻomaopopo ʻia e nā ʻaoʻao ʻelua. Ma kēlā ala ʻaʻole hiki i kekahi o ʻoukou ke koi aʻe ma hope ua loaʻa hoʻopunipuni ʻia kāu pūlima.
ʻO kēlā me kēia haʻalele ʻana i kēia mau hae ke hāʻawi i ka ʻaelike ma muli o ka null ʻana o ka ʻaha.
No ka ʻike hou aku e pili ana i ka pono a me ka hoʻokō ʻana o nā ʻaelike male ʻole ma kou mokuʻāina, e kāhea i kahi loio loio ʻohana kūloko.