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- Ka wehewehe ʻana o ka haʻalele ʻana o nā mākua
- Nā mea i hōʻeha ʻia e ka makua alienation Syndrome
- Ka wehewehe ʻana a me nā hōʻailona o ka haʻalele ʻana o ʻAnuʻu-makua
- Nā hopena o ka haʻalele ʻana o nā mākua i nā keiki
ʻO ka male male kahi mea a mākou āpau e makemake ʻole ai akā i kekahi manawa, hoʻokani ke ola iā mākou a ʻike koke mākou e inaina nei mākou i kā mākou mau wahine a ʻo ka hopena wale nō āu e ʻike ai ke waiho nei i kahi male male. Hiki i kēia ke lilo i kahi moemoeā ʻaʻole wale no ka wahine akā no ka nui o nā keiki e pili ana. ʻAʻole hiki iā lākou ke mākaukau e lilo i ʻāpana o ka ʻohana haki. Aia kekahi mau manawa kahi e waiho ai nā kāne ʻelua me ka huhū nui loa a me ka hoʻokele e hoʻopaʻi ai i kekahi a me ke kaumaha, ʻo ke ala maikaʻi loa e hoʻopaʻi ai lākou ma ka hoʻohana ʻana i ka haʻalele ʻana o nā mākua akā ʻaʻole pau ia ma laila. Aia nō ka haʻalele ʻana i ka makua a hiki i ka paʻakikī ke hiki iā lākou ke ʻike i kēia ma nā mākua ʻelua.
E hoʻomaʻamaʻa kāua me ka haʻalele ʻana o ka makua.
Ka wehewehe ʻana o ka haʻalele ʻana o nā mākua
He aha ka hoʻolilo ʻana o nā mākua? Ma ka wehewehe ʻana, hiki i ka hoʻololi ʻana o ka makua ke huli aʻe kahi keiki mai kekahi o ko lākou mau mākua i kahi ʻano naʻau. ʻO ka hapanui o ka manawa, hana kēia i nā ʻohana i hoʻokaʻawale ʻia kahi o ka makua nāna i hoʻomaka i ka hoʻolilo ʻia ka mea mālama mua.
Pono e hoʻomaopopo kekahi i hiki i nā mākua ke lilo i mau pahuhopu hiki ke hoʻololi ʻia o ka makua. ʻAʻole ia he mea nui ʻo wai ka mea mālama mua - i ka manawa i hoʻolālā ʻia ai kahi hoʻolālā hiki ke hala i mau mahina a i ʻole mau makahiki e hana lohi i kahi keiki me ka maopopo ʻole, e hānai ana i ka ʻike maʻi e pili ana i ka makua ʻē aʻe.
Hana pinepine kēia i ka wā i loaʻa ai i kahi makua pilikino kahi maʻi pilikino e like me NPD a i ʻole maʻi maʻi narcissistic.
ʻAʻohe makua e makemake i kā lākou keiki e hana ʻia a ʻaʻohe makua e hōʻino i ka inoa o ka makua ʻē aʻe i nā maka o kā lākou keiki ke ʻole kēia makua i kekahi ʻano maʻi pilikino. Minamina, ʻo ke keiki nāna e ʻeha mai kēia mau hana.
Nā mea i hōʻeha ʻia e ka makua alienation Syndrome
ʻO PAS a i ʻole Syndrome alienation Syndrome - kahi huaʻōlelo i haku ʻia i ka hopena o 1980's tackles e pili ana i kahi makua e huli lohi i kā lākou mau keiki i ka makua ʻē aʻe ma o ka wahaheʻe, nā moʻolelo, ka hōʻino a me ke aʻo ʻana i kā lākou poʻe keiki pehea e hana ai i ka makua ʻē aʻe. I ka manawa mua, ua hōʻike nā noiʻi i ka hapa nui o ka manawa, na nā makuahine e hana i kēia e hoʻohuli i kā lākou keiki i ko lākou makuakāne. Ua ʻōlelo ʻia ʻo ia ka hoʻopaʻi maikaʻi loa i hiki iā lākou ke loaʻa akā hōʻike ʻia nā noiʻi hou e hiki ai i kekahi makua ke lilo i mea hōʻeha a ʻaʻole pono ʻoe e lilo i kahu mālama mua nāna e mālama e hana. Ua ʻike ʻia ma hope ka makua e hana pinepine i kēia i nā maʻi pilikino.
ʻO ka mea i hōʻeha ʻia o maʻi maʻi makua ʻAʻole wale ka makua ʻē aʻe akā ʻo ke keiki hoʻi.
ʻO kahi keiki e ulu a manaʻoʻiʻo i ka wahaheʻe a me nā hana e hōʻole ai i ka makua ʻē aʻe ke kumu o kā lākou hana i ka honua. Ke hoʻopōʻino nei i ka noʻonoʻo o ke keiki e loaʻa ka hoʻopaʻi a me ka hōʻoluʻolu.
Ka wehewehe ʻana a me nā hōʻailona o ka haʻalele ʻana o ʻAnuʻu-makua
ʻOiai ke nānā nei mākou āpau i ke kaʻina hana hoʻokaʻawale makua, aia kekahi haʻalele ʻana i ka makua ʻehā. ʻO kēia kahi e hoʻoponopono ai kahi makua i kahi keiki i mea e inaina ai lākou a hōʻole ai i ka makua makua.ʻO kahi ʻano inaina, lili, a pehea e hiki ʻole ai i kekahi ke lilo i makua no kā lākou keiki e koho ai no ka haʻalele ʻana o nā mākua ma ke ʻano he ala e hōʻoia ai a ʻo lākou ka meʻe o ka moʻolelo. Eia nō naʻe, ua makapo kēia mau mākua malihini i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo o ka hoʻololi ʻana o nā mākua i kahi hopena maikaʻi ʻole i ke keiki.
Nā hōʻailona o ka haʻalele ʻana i ka makua-ʻūlū e hoʻokomo i ka hōʻole ʻana o ke keiki i kekahi hana mai ka makua makua a hiki i ka hele ʻana ma ke ʻano paio a huhū mau.
E pani mau ke keiki i nā hōʻaʻo ʻana mai ka makua mua a e hoʻohālikelike mau iā lākou me ka makua malihini. He kani paha ia e like me kēlā me kēia keiki e ʻike nei i ka loli akā pono mākou e maopopo he keiki lākou a ʻaʻole pono lākou e ʻike i kēia mau mea me ka ʻole o kahi mea hoʻonāukiuki.
Nā hopena o ka haʻalele ʻana o nā mākua i nā keiki
He kumu ʻole ke kumu, no ka male weliweli paha ia, ka lili o ka makua makua, a i ʻole no ka huhū a me ka pono e hoʻopaʻi, ʻaʻohe kumu kūpono no ke kumu e hoʻolilo ai ka makua i kā lāua keiki i ʻo ka makua ʻē aʻe a i ʻole ko lākou makua makua. He hopena lōʻihi kēia mau hana i loko o kahi keiki a ʻo kekahi o nā hopena maʻamau ka:
- Ka inaina no ka makua - ʻOiai ʻo kēia ka pahuhopu o ka hana mai ka makua ʻē, he ʻōpio loa kahi keiki e huhū aku i kekahi kanaka, e waiho wale i ko lākou makua. ʻO ka hānai ʻana a i ʻole ka hoʻolālā ʻana pehea e noʻonoʻo ai kāu keiki e holehole nei iā lākou i ko lākou wā kamaliʻi.
- Ke inaina ponoʻī - ʻO kahi hopena ʻē aʻe a kēia i kahi keiki ke hoʻomaka ka manaʻo o ke keiki ʻaʻole lawa a hoʻomaka e nīnau no ke aha i haʻalele ai ka makua ʻē aʻe. ʻO nā moʻolelo e hānai ʻia nei i kahi keiki ke kumu o ke ʻano o kā lākou ʻike iā lākou iho nō hoʻi.
- Loaʻa ʻole o ka mahalo - E lilo ka mahalo o ke keiki ma hope o ka makua pahuhopu a makua makua paha akā e hoʻopili i ke ʻano o kā lākou ʻike wahine a kāne paha i ka nui. Ke ulu a makua, e hoʻonui lākou i ka inaina a me ka mahalo ʻole.
- ʻO ke olakino maikaʻi ʻole - Ua maʻalahi ke keiki o ka hemo i kekahi mau hopena liʻiliʻi i ko lākou olakino manaʻo, he aha hou aʻe inā e hoʻohana ʻia ke keiki i ka haʻalele ʻana o nā mākua? He aha ka mea e lilo i ke keiki i loaʻa he ʻohana holoʻokoʻa a huikau i kēia manawa no ke aloha a aloha ʻole paha iā lākou? Pehea e hoʻi ai ke keiki mai kēia mau mea āpau?
Kūpono mākou āpau i ka ʻeha, ka huhū, a me ka huhū akā ʻaʻole kūpono ke hoʻohana i kahi keiki e hōʻeha i ke kanaka nāna mākou i hana i kēia mau manaʻo maʻi. E ʻike mau ke keiki i kona mau mākua ʻelua no ka mea ʻoiaʻiʻo lāua ʻaʻole ka mea āu e makemake ai e ʻike. ʻAʻole pono nā keiki e lilo i mea hana no ka hoʻoliʻiliʻi makua a no ka hoʻopaʻi paha i kekahi e hoʻolālā ai. Ma ke ʻano he makua, pono ʻoe e mālama a hoʻohana ʻole iā lākou no kou leʻaleʻa ponoʻī.