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Ua ʻike paha ʻoe mai ka ʻike pololei pehea ka paʻakikī i kekahi manawa e manaʻo ai aia ʻoe ma ka ʻaoʻao like me kāu hoa, ʻo ka mea āu e noho nei i kēia lā ʻo ia nō ka mea āu i aloha ai. Hoʻololi ka pilina a ʻo kekahi o nā ʻāpana paʻakikī ka mālama ʻana i ka huna mua i mua o ke alo o ke kaʻina o ka manawa.
No ke aha e mae ai nā kuko mua?
No ke aha kēia mea a mākou e ʻike nei i ke kanaka a mākou i aloha ai i kēia manawa me he mea ʻē a he hoa noho paha?
ʻO kekahi o nā pilikia nui ka egocentrism e pili ana. Hele hewa mākou i loko o kā mākou honua iho a paʻa i nā mea o loko ke makaʻu mākou i ka ʻeha. I ka hoʻomaka, hiki iā mākou ke makaʻu i ka palupalu no ka mea liʻiliʻi ka pili. Akā ke hala nei kahi pilina no kekahi manawa lōʻihi, makaʻu ia e hoʻoluliluli i ka moku. Kūleʻa mākou i ka manaʻo o kā mākou pakanā iā mākou a kū hou mākou i ka lilo inā ʻeha mākou, no ka mea ʻaʻole maʻalahi ka hele wāwae wale. A no laila hoʻomaka mākou e hoʻokuʻu i nā mea e pāʻani, e pāʻani palekana ia me ka naʻau, a waiho i ka ʻaoʻao i nā pilikia i hoʻonā ʻole ʻia e ʻohi aʻe mai kēlā me kēia manawa.
Akā ʻo ka lawe ʻana i nā makaʻu naʻau ka mea e hoʻokokoke ai iā mākou, a ʻo kahi makaʻu a me ka palupalu ka mea pono e mālama ai i kahi pīhoihoi. Ke ʻike nei i nā hiʻohiʻona hou a hohonu o kēlā me kēia mea ka mea e hāʻawi i kahi pilina lōʻihi i ke ʻano o ka mea hou a me nā mea hoihoi. Pono e hoʻohui hou i ka pilina e pili ana i kahi pale o ka palekana a me ka kamaʻāina.
E nānā pū kāua.
Lawe iā David lāua ʻo Kathryn. Aia lākou i ko lākou mau makahiki he kanalima, ua male ʻia ma kahi o 25 mau makahiki. Kūleʻa lāua ʻelua i nā luna hoʻokō a ua hoʻokumu ka manawa i kahi mamao ma waena o lāua. Makemake ʻo Dāvida e launa hou, akā hoʻomau ʻo Kathryn e hoʻokuke iā ia.
Eia kā Dāvida ʻaoʻao o ka moʻolelo:
Ke inaina nei au e ʻōlelo, akā i kēia manawa ua like wau me Kathryn a ʻoi aku wau e like me nā hoa noho ma mua o ke kāne a me ka wahine. ʻOiai mākou ʻelua ʻelua me kā mākou ʻoihana, ke hoʻi mai wau i ka home mai ka huakaʻi ʻana a i ʻole mai nā lā lōʻihi i ke keʻena, lana wau i mua e ʻike iā ia a makemake nui wau i kahi pilina. Makemake wau hiki iā mākou ke hana pū i kahi mea leʻaleʻa i kēlā me kēia manawa a hopohopo wau ua komo mākou i loko o kā mākou pono pilikino ʻokoʻa a ua nalowale maoli kā mākou pili a hana i mea nui. ʻO ka pilikia no ka makemake ʻole o Kathryn iaʻu. Ke hele wau iā ia a noi iā ia e hele pū a hana i kahi mea kaiāulu a i ʻole leʻaleʻa wale ma waena o kāua, palaki ʻo ia iaʻu. Me he mea lā ua paʻa ʻo ia i kēia paia a i kekahi manawa hopohopo wau ua luhi ʻo ia me aʻu a i ʻole ʻaʻole ʻike hou iaʻu i kahi hoihoi.
Makaʻu ʻo Dāvida e haʻi iā Kathryn i kona ʻano. Makaʻu ʻo ia i ka hōʻole ʻia a manaʻoʻiʻo ʻo ia ua ʻike ʻo ia i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo e pili ana i ka hana a Kathryn - ua lilo kona hoihoi. Makaʻu ʻo ia i ka hoʻopuka ʻana i kāna mau makaʻu i kahi ākea e hōʻoia i kāna mau makaʻu ʻoi loa e pili ana iā ia iho a me kāna male; ʻaʻole ʻo ia ke keiki ʻōpio a pīhoihoi hoʻi ma mua a ʻaʻole i ʻike hou kāna wahine iā ia e makemake ʻia. He mea maʻalahi ka mālama ʻana i kāna mau manaʻo pilikino iā ia iho, a i ʻole ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi, e hōʻalo wale i ke noi ʻana iā Kathryn.
ʻO kā Kathryn manaʻo ponoʻī naʻe; ʻo kahi a Dāvida i ʻike ʻole ai no ka mea ʻaʻole kūkākūkā lāua ʻelua.
Kathryn 'ōleloʻo ia:
Makemake mau ʻo Dāvida e hele i waho a launa akā ʻaʻole ʻike ʻo ia ʻinoʻino wau iaʻu iho, paʻakikī e hele e like me maʻa mau. ʻO kaʻoiaʻiʻo, ʻaʻole maikaʻi wau e pili ana iaʻu iho. He mea paʻakikī ka noʻonoʻo ʻana i ka mea e lole ai i ke kakahiaka ke hele wau i ka hana a laila huhū wau iaʻu iho i ka lā holoʻokoʻa ... ke hoʻi mai wau i ka hale i ka pō makemake wau e home i koʻu wahi hōʻoluʻolu a hopohopo ʻole e pili ana e ʻaukā a ʻike i nā lole a pau i loko o ka waihona nui ʻaʻole kūpono. 'Saidlelo mau koʻu makuahine he mea maikaʻiʻole ia e haʻi aku i ke kāne ʻaʻole maikaʻi kou manaʻo e pili ana i kou ʻano; kau wale ʻoe i kahi minoʻaka nui ma kou alo a hoʻohālike ʻoe he nani ʻoe. Akā ʻaʻole wau nani iki. Ke nānā wau i ke aniani i kēia mau lā, ʻo nā mea keu o ka paona a me nā wrinkle wale nō kaʻu e ʻike nei.
Makaʻu like ʻo Kathryn i ke kamaʻilio ʻana e pili ana i kāna ʻano e pili ana iā ia iho me Dāvida e huki wale i kona manaʻo i kāna kīnā a hōʻoia i kāna mau manaʻo maikaʻi ʻole e pili ana i kona kino.
Hiki i ka mea ʻē ke ʻike maʻalahi i ka paʻakikī o kēlā me kēia hoa ke lawe ʻole i nā mea ponoʻī ke makaʻu lāua i ka makaʻu i ka laina a kamaʻilio e pili ana i nā mea o loko, akā ua nalowale ʻo David lāua ʻo Kathryn i kā lāua ponoʻī. nā poʻo i kū ʻole iā lākou e loaʻa ai kekahi kuanaʻike ʻē aʻe. He mea paʻakikī kēia no kēia hui hou e pili hou me kekahi a hōʻoia i ko lākou makemake no kekahi.
Mai lilo i kēia wahine!
ʻAʻole pono ʻoe i kahi kākāʻōlelo male (ʻoiai i kekahi manawa hiki ke kōkua inā pili ʻoe!) E hoʻonā i kēia ʻano impasse; ʻo ia wale nō e pili ana i ka lawe wale ʻana i kahi makaʻu a ʻōlelo ʻana i ka mea āu e ʻike ai he ʻoiaʻiʻo i kou manaʻo iho. He maikaʻi ke makaʻu akā he mea nui ka hana o ka kamaʻilio ʻana.
Kūlohelohe ia e lawe i nā mea pilikino ke maʻalahi loa mākou, a maʻalahi e hana i nā manaʻo a pani i ka pane. Akā inā ʻaʻole ʻoe e makemake e lawe i kahi manawa i kāu male ʻana, ʻaʻole paha ʻoe e ʻike i nā manawa kūpono no ka pili loa āu e nalo nei.
Mākaukau paha ʻoe e hoʻomaka e ʻōlelo? E hauʻoli paha ʻoe inā hana ʻoe!