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- 1. Keʻike nei i nā waiwai āpau a wehewehe i kāu
- 2. Ka pale ʻana i kāu ʻikepili ma ka loaʻa ʻana o nā hōʻike kālā āpau
- 3. Pono e hoʻopaʻa ʻia kekahi mau waiwai wai
- 4. Nā hoʻopukapuka hui pū a me nā waihona panakō
- 5. Ka pale ʻana i kāu leka uila
- 6. Ke kiʻi nei i kāu hōʻike hōʻaiʻē
- 7. ʻIke i nā kānāwai o ka hemo ʻana o kou mokuʻāina
ʻO ʻoe kekahi o nā mea i komo hewa i ke alanui hoʻokahi ala e hiki ai i ka male male? Inā pēlā, ma kahi o ka hele ʻana i kahi haʻihaʻi naʻau, ʻo ke koho maikaʻi loa e hoʻomaopopo a kaohi i ke kiʻi nui aʻe. Ma kahi o hysterics, ʻo ka neʻe ʻoi loa ka hoʻolālā kālā mua o ka hemo ʻana e mālama pono ai i kāu a me kāu keiki i ka wā e hiki mai ana.
E hele koke ʻoe i ka hana a hoʻopaʻa i kāu waiwai kālā, nānā i nā hōʻaiʻē ʻaʻole kāu kuleana a loaʻa ka mana pilikino ma luna o nā hana kālā āpau e paʻa pū ʻia e ʻolua me kāu wahine.
ʻO ka hoʻolālā kālā ma mua o ka hemo ʻana, ʻaʻole ia he mea hana pale akā he ʻōlelo ikaika ia i kāu wahine e hōʻike ana i ka holo pono ʻole o kekahi hoʻoponopono kālā a me nā hana ʻino.
No laila, nā ʻanuʻu kikoʻī e pono ai i kekahi e lawe no ka hoʻopaʻa ʻana i kahi anuu kālā ikaika ma mua o ka haʻalele koke ʻana e like me kēia -
1. Keʻike nei i nā waiwai āpau a wehewehe i kāu
ʻO ka mea mua, pono ʻoe e ʻike i nā waiwai i kou inoa a me ka nui o ke kālā āu. Eia kekahi, pono ʻoe e ʻike pono i kahi o kāu kālā a me kāu waiwai.
Pono ʻoe e loaʻa i nā ʻōlelo kūhelu e hōʻoia ana i kāu hoʻopiʻi ma luna o kēia mau waiwai a me ke kālā. E wehewehe nō kēia mau ʻōlelo inā he kuleana kāu, nā hōʻaiʻē a i ʻole nā mōlaki i kou inoa.
ʻO nā palapala kālā kūpono ka hōʻoia ma ka ʻaha o ke kānāwai e hōʻoiaʻiʻo ai e loaʻa iā ʻoe kāu kuleana kūpono kūpono a ʻaʻole i hoʻopuni ʻia e kāu wahine.
2. Ka pale ʻana i kāu ʻikepili ma ka loaʻa ʻana o nā hōʻike kālā āpau
No ka pale i hoʻohiki ʻia, e kiʻi i nā mea āpau i ke kākau ʻana. ʻO nā hōʻoia āpau o nā palapala e pili ana i kāu waihona panakō, nā ʻauhau ʻauhau, nā ʻōlelo paʻa a me nā ʻōlelo kālā ʻē aʻe, pono pū me ʻoe i kahi palapala.
Mai hilinaʻi nui i nā kope uila o kēia mau palapala i hōʻike ʻia aʻe nei no ka mea hiki ke kiʻi ʻia iā ʻoe e kāu hoa wahine e ka hoʻololi maʻalahi o ka ʻōlelo huna e kāu wahine hoʻopaʻi. No laila, e kiʻi i kahi paʻi mai kēlā me kēia palapala.
3. Pono e hoʻopaʻa ʻia kekahi mau waiwai wai
ʻO ka hoʻokaʻawale he manawa nui a me kahi hana kumukūʻai. E ʻike pono i lawa kāu kālā wai me ʻoe e kākoʻo iā ʻoe i kēia manawa. ʻO ka uku a ka loio, kāu mau koina ola o kēlā me kēia lā, a me nā bila, koi nā mea āpau i ke kālā mākaukau.
No laila, e ʻike pono ʻaʻole ʻoe e waiho ʻia me kahi kālā ʻole e kāu wahine liʻiliʻi, neʻe i kekahi mau waiwai a me ke kālā i loko o kāu waihona pēke pilikino ma mua o kou haʻalele ʻana me kāu male male.
Hiki i kēia mālama maʻalahi ke hāʻawi i kahi cushion nui i nā kuleana kālā āpau e hoʻopili ʻia i nā kaʻina hana hemo a kōkua iā ʻoe e holo maluhia i kēia mau manawa paʻakikī.
4. Nā hoʻopukapuka hui pū a me nā waihona panakō
He mau helu male ka nui o nā kāne male kahi e hiki ai i kekahi hoa ke huki kālā mai ka waihona. Akā me ka haʻalele ʻana o ka male male ma ka moe, he neʻe kūpono ia e pani i nā waihona hui āpau a hoʻoneʻe i kāu kālā i kāu moʻokāki pilikino ma mua o ka hoʻomaʻemaʻe o kāu wahine i ka moʻokāki holoʻokoʻa.
Akā i ka hana ʻana pēlā, pili koke kāu wahine e hana i nā pilikia kū kānāwai iā ʻoe e like me ka hoʻopaʻa ʻana i nā moʻokāki a me ka ʻole o ke kau inoa ʻana i ka palapala pani puka no laila ʻaʻole hiki ke hoʻolilo ʻia kahi kālā e ʻoe.
No laila, ke hele nei me ka hoʻopau ʻana o nā hoʻopukapuka hui a me nā waihona kālā, e hele i lalo o ke alakaʻi a kāu loio e hōʻoia i ka pale ʻana i ke kānāwai no kāu hana.
5. Ka pale ʻana i kāu leka uila
He leka uila pū kekahi ko nā kāne male, kahi a lākou mau palapala kūhelu i leka uila ʻia ai. Akā inā hoʻoweliweli ka male ma ka hemo ʻana, pono ʻoe e hoʻomaka koke i ke kūkulu ʻana i kāu ʻike kālā ponoʻī.
ʻO ka mālama ʻana i kāu pilikino ka mea mua. Pono ʻoe e kiʻi i kāu leka uila, e hoʻonohonoho i kāu Pila PO ponoʻī a hoʻohuli i kāu mau leka iā ia e mālama i ka hūnā pilikino. Mai kali a hāʻawi i kāu wahine i ka manawa kūpono e pale i kāu waiwai kālā āpau a me kāu kālā.
6. Ke kiʻi nei i kāu hōʻike hōʻaiʻē
E loaʻa mau i kāu hōʻike hōʻaiʻē ma mua o kou noʻonoʻo ʻana e hoʻomaka i nā kaʻina male. E kahaha paha ʻoe i kahi o kāu kāne e hoʻonui ai i kāna hōʻaiʻē, e hoʻohilahila wale ʻia ʻoe.
ʻOiai ʻo ka nui o nā hana like a ka male, hana ʻino ʻia kahi hōʻaiʻē o kāu wahine i kāu hilinaʻi pū kekahi. No laila, e hōʻalo i nā pilikia a i ʻole nā hewa e pili ana i kāu hoʻopukapuka kālā, he mea nui ia e kiʻi i kāu hōʻike hōʻaiʻē, hoʻoponopono i nā pilikia a laila hoʻomaka i kāu ola kālā hou.
7. ʻIke i nā kānāwai o ka hemo ʻana o kou mokuʻāina
E makaʻala loa, no ka mea, ʻokoʻa ke kānāwai o ka hemo i kēlā me kēia mokuʻāina. E hoʻolimalima i kahi loio maikaʻi nāna e alakaʻi iā ʻoe ma o ke kaʻina hana hemo ma ke kānāwai e alakaʻi ana i ka mokuʻāina āu e noho nei.
He ʻehaʻeha ka hoʻokaʻawale akā ʻaʻole lawe ʻia i loko o kou naʻau. E kūkulu i kahi ola paʻa, paʻa kālā ma hope o ka hemo ʻana, ua helu mākou i nā ʻanuʻu i ʻōlelo ʻia i luna a mākou e manaʻo nei e hōʻoia i kahi wā e hiki mai paʻa no ʻoe a me kāu poʻe keiki, ma hope o ka hala ʻana i nā hana hemo.