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Caunseling ma mua o ka male ʻana hōʻike i kahi manawa kūpono no nā kāne e kamaʻilio i nā wahi hakakā ma kā lāua pilina. Hāʻawi ia i nā kāne e pale i nā pilikia liʻiliʻi mai ka lilo ʻana i pilikia a kōkua pū iā lākou e ʻike i kā lākou mau mea i manaʻo ʻia mai kekahi i ka male.
ʻLelo aʻoaʻo ma mua o ka wā ma mua Hāʻawi pinepine ʻia e kahi mea laikini laikini, a i ʻole i kekahi mau hihia, ʻo ia hoʻi nā keʻena hoʻomana i hāʻawi i kahi ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo ma mua o ka male ʻana.
ʻOiai e pane ana i kāu mau nīnau ma mua o ka male, hiki i ke kākāʻōlelo ma mua o ka male ʻana ke kōkua iā ʻoe e hana i ka ʻaelike no nā pilikia pilikia a hoʻokumu i ka kamaʻilio hāmama a me ka pololei me kekahi.
ʻO ke aʻo ʻana ma mua o ka male ʻana e lilo ana i mea maʻamau, a he ʻāpana paha ia ma muli o ke kiʻekiʻe o ka nui o ka male male i hoʻopilikia ʻia iā mākou i nā makahiki i hala iho nei. Hoʻomaka ka hapa nui o nā therapist pili me ka papa inoa o nā nīnau aʻoaʻo aʻo mua o ka male ʻana.
ʻAʻohe mea hōʻoia i kēlā nīnau nīnau nīnau ma mua o ka male hiki ke kōkua iā ʻoe e hoʻopiha i kāu male, akā maopopo leʻa hiki ke kōkua iā ʻoe e kūkulu i kahi male ikaika me ka launa maikaʻi.
Paipai ʻia - Papa Mālama Mua
ʻO kēia no ka mea ʻo kāu mau pane e hāʻawi i ka therapist i ka ʻike hou aku iā ʻoe ma ke ʻano he kanaka a ʻelua. Hoʻohui, wehe lākou i ka kamaʻilio e pili ana i nā pilikia e lilo i ʻāpana o ke ola male.
ʻO nā nīnau nīnau aʻo ʻē aʻe ma mua o ka male ʻana
- Emotions
Kēia waeʻano o nā nīnau aʻoaʻo kūkā ma mua o ka wā ma mua kahi e nānā ai ka wahine i ka ikaika o ka naʻau o kā lāua pilina a me ke ʻano o kā lāua pili ʻana i ka pae naʻau. Kūleʻa ka male ʻana me ka launa pū ʻana o ka naʻau i ka hoʻomaopopo ʻana o nā kāne i ka pono o ka naʻau.
- Palapala
Nā nīnau ma mua o ka male ʻana e pili ana i ke kamaʻilio e kōkua i kekahi mau kāne e ʻike pehea lākou e hoʻihoʻi aku ai i kā kā lākou hoa pili i ka manaʻo, nā makemake, a me nā manaʻoʻiʻo. Eia kekahi, ke pane nei i kēia mau mea nā nīnau pili ma mua kōkua iā lākou i ka hoʻoponopono ʻana i nā paio i hala, a me nā wā e hiki mai ana.
- ʻOihana
Hoʻopilikia ka poʻe he nui i kā lākou makemake i ka hana no ka pono o kā lākou male. Eia nō naʻe, keakea i ka ulu pilikino a me ka ulu ʻana o ka ʻoihana. ʻO nā kāne ʻaʻole maopopo i ke ʻano koi o kā lākou ʻoihana, ʻike pinepine iā lākou iho e hakakā a hoʻopaʻapaʻa kekahi me kekahi ma hope.
Pane nā nīnau aʻoaʻo aʻo mua o ka male ʻana e pili ana i kā lākou makemake i ka ʻoihana e ʻae iā lākou e hoʻonohonoho i kekahi mau mea i manaʻo ʻia a hana i kahi kaulike me nā manaʻo o kā lākou hoa.
- Waiwai
Ma mua o ka male ʻana, pono nā kāne e lawelawe i ke ʻano o ka hoʻolālā kālā a kūkākūkā i kā lākou ʻano maʻamau a me nā mea e manaʻo ai.
ʻO ka hoʻolālā kālā ma mua o ka male ʻana e kōkua paha iā ʻoe e mālama i kekahi manawa a me ke kālā a me ka nīnau ʻana i kekahi e pili ana i ke kālā nā nīnau e pane ai ma mua o ka male ʻana e kōkua iā ʻoe a me kāu hoa e hoʻomākaukau no nā pilikia i manaʻo ʻole ʻia.
- ʻO ka home
ʻOiai he mea nui ʻole e like me ke kani, akā e pane ana nīnau nīnau aʻoaʻo male ma mua o ka male ʻana e pili ana i ka hoʻokaʻawale ʻana i nā hana o ka hale a me nā hana hiki ke kōkua iā ʻoe e hoʻokele i ka pae koʻikoʻi i loko o kāu male.
Hoʻonohonoho i nā mea i manaʻo ʻia a mālama pono i nā hana o ka hale a laila kaʻana like ʻia a hoʻokō pono ʻia kēia mau mea.
No kēia, hiki iā ʻoe ke:
- E mahele i ka hana ma waena o ʻolua
- Huli i nā hana ʻokoʻa i kēlā me kēia pule
E nānā i ka mea a ka loea no ka male ʻo Mary Kay Cocharo i ʻōlelo ai e pili ana i ka mea nui o nā kau ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo ma mua a ma hope o ka male ʻana.
- ʻO ka moekolohe a me ka pilina
Mai ka hoʻomaopopo ʻana i ka pilina ma loko o ka male i ka ʻike e pili ana i nā makemake moekolohe o kāu hoa, hiki i nā nīnau e pili ana i ka moekolohe a me ka pilina ke kōkua iā ʻoe e hoʻomaʻamaʻa iā ʻoe iho me kāu hoa ma kahi pae manaʻo a me ke kino.
Inā ʻoe e hele ana i kahi hoʻomākaukau ma mua o ka male ma mua o kāu male hale pule, a laila e noi ana i nā nīnau pre-cana i kāu mau kau e pili ana i kēia kumuhana he mea pono e hoʻomaikaʻi i ka pilina a me ka moekolohe i kāu male.
- ʻOhana a me nā hoa aloha
Pane nīnau nīnau aʻoaʻo male ma mua o ka male ʻana e pili ana i ka hoʻoponopono ʻana o kēlā me kēia o ʻoe i kou manawa ma waena o kāu wahine a me kou ʻohana a me nā hoa aloha.
- Nā keiki
Nā nīnau ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo o ka male ma mua o ka male ʻana ma ka hoʻolālā ʻohana hiki ke kōkua iā ʻoe e kaupaona i nā pilikia e lilo i mea keʻakeʻa i ka hānau keiki. Ke kālailai ʻana i kāu waiwai a me nā kumu o ka loaʻa ʻole ʻana o nā keiki i hiki ke hoʻomākaukau iā ʻoe a me kāu wahine no nā pilikia e hiki mai ana.
- Hoʻomana hoʻomana
Nā nīnau nīnau aʻoaʻo ke kikowaena i ka hoʻomana ʻana o kekahi e hiki ke kōkua i nā kāne i ka hoʻomaopopo ʻana i ka nui o kā lākou kūlike hoʻomana. ʻO kahi laʻana, nā nīnau aʻoaʻo aʻoaʻo Karistiano ma mua o ka male a Iudaio paha nā nīnau aʻoaʻo aʻo mua o ka male ʻana He mea kōkua no nā Karistiano a me nā kāne Iudaio e hoʻokaʻawale i waena o ka manaʻoʻiʻo a me ka hoʻomana.
Hiki iā ia ke alakaʻi iā lākou i ka pehea e mahalo ai i nā koho a kā lākou hoa a hōʻike i ko lākou ʻuhane.
ʻO ka hele ʻana i kēia mau nīnau me kāu ipo e hiki koke mai ana ke kōkua iā ʻolua e loaʻa i ka ʻike kūpono i kou manaʻo e pili ana i nā pilikia koʻikoʻi a pehea e lawelawe ai kēlā me kēia o ʻolua.
Nā nīnau aʻoaʻo aʻoaʻo ma mua o ka male ʻana
ʻO nā mea aʻe kahi laʻana o nā nīnau aʻo aʻoaʻo nui ma mua o ka male male ʻana e pane pū.
1. Nā manaʻo
- No ke aha mākou e male ai?
- Manaʻo ʻoe e hoʻololi ka male iā mākou? Inā ʻae, pehea?
- Ma hea ʻoe i manaʻo ai mākou i loko o 25 mau makahiki?
- Loaʻa iā ʻoe kahi pipi-peʻapeʻa?
- Pehea ʻoe e wehewehe ai iā ʻoe iho
- He aha kā mākou e makemake ai mai ko mākou ola
2. Ka kamaʻilio a me ka hakakā
- Pehea mākou e hoʻoholo ai?
- Kūpono mākou i nā kumuhana paʻakikī a pale paha iā lākou?
- Kūleʻa maikaʻi paha mākou?
- Hiki iā mākou ke kamaʻilio ākea e pili ana i nā mea āpau?
- Pehea mākou e kōkua ai i kekahi i kekahi e hoʻomaikaʻi?
- He aha nā mea a mākou e kūlike ʻole ai?
3. 'Oihana
- He aha kā mākou pahuhopuʻoihana? He aha kā mākou e hana ai e kiʻi iā lākou?
- He aha ke ʻano o kā mākou papa kuhikuhi? Pehea lākou e hopena ai i kā mākou manawa pū?
4. Waiwai
- Pehea ko mākou kūlana kālā, ʻo ia hoʻi; nā ʻaiʻē āpau, nā mālama kālā ʻana, nā hoʻopukapuka kālā?
- Pehea mākou e hoʻokele ai i kā mākou kālā?
- Pehea mākou e hoʻokaʻawale ai i nā bila hale?
- E loaʻa iā mākou kahi moʻokāki a i ʻole nā kaʻawale?
- He aha kā mākou moʻohelu kālā no nā mea leʻaleʻa, mālama kālā, a pēlā aku?
- Pehea kā mākou ʻano hoʻolilo kālā? He mea hoʻolimalima a he mea mālama paha ʻoe?
- He aha kāu helu ʻaiʻē?
- He aha ka nui e ʻae ʻia e lilo ma nā mea pono ʻole i kēlā me kēia mahina?
- ʻO wai e uku i nā bila i ka pilina a ʻo wai e hoʻolālā i ka moʻohelu kālā?
- He aha kāu e makemake ai e lilo i lilo nui i nā makahiki he 1-5 e hiki mai ana?
- E hana paha kāua ma hope o ka male ʻana?
- Āhea mākou e hoʻolālā ai i nā keiki a hoʻomaka e mālama no ia?
- He aha kā mākou pahuhopu hoʻomaha?
- Pehea mākou e hoʻolālā ai e hoʻonohonoho i kahi kālā pilikia?
Pili- Ka ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo hoʻomākaukau hoʻomākaukau maikaʻi loa no nā kāne ma mua o ka male ʻana
5. ʻO ka home
- Ma hea ʻoe e noho ai?
- ʻO wai ke kuleana no nā hana maʻamau?
- He aha nā hana a mākou e leʻaleʻa ai / hana inaina ʻole?
- ʻO wai e hana i ka kuke?
6. Ka moekolohe a me ka pili aloha
- No ke aha mākou e ʻumeʻume ai kekahi i kekahi?
- Ua hauʻoli paha mākou i ko mākou ola moekolohe, a i ʻole makemake mākou i mea hou aʻe?
- Pehea e hiki ai iā mākou ke hoʻomaikaʻi i ko mākou ola wahine?
- ʻOluʻolu mākou e kamaʻilio e pili ana i kā mākou moekolohe a me nā pono?
- Ua māʻona anei mākou i ka nui o ke aloha a me ke aloha? He aha kā mākou e makemake hou aku ai?
7. ʻOhana a me nā hoaaloha
- Ehia mau manawa e ʻike ai mākou i ko mākou mau ʻohana?
- Pehea mākou e hoʻokaʻawale ai i nā lā nui?
- Ehia mau manawa e ʻike pinepine ai mākou i kā mākou mau hoaaloha, a ma ke ʻano he ʻelua?
8. Nā keiki
- Makemake mākou e hānau keiki?
- Āhea mākou makemake e hānau keiki?
- Ehia keiki a mākou e makemake ai?
- He aha kā mākou e hana ai inā ʻaʻole hiki iā mākou ke hānau keiki? He koho paha ka hānai?
- ʻO wai o mākou e noho i ka home me nā keiki?
9. Hoʻomana hoʻomana
- He aha nā manaʻoʻiʻo o mākou a pehea mākou e hoʻohui ai iā lākou i loko o ko mākou ola?
- Pehea mākou e mālama ai / hoʻohui i ko mākou mau manaʻo hoʻomana a me nā kuʻuna?
- E hānai mākou i kā mākou keiki me nā manaʻo haipule a me nā kuʻuna? Inā pēlā, ʻo wai o kā mākou manaʻoʻiʻo ʻokoʻa?
ʻO kēia kekahi o nā nīnau a nā kāne e nīnau ai ke hele lākou ʻōlelo aʻo mua o ka male ʻana. ʻO ke kamaʻilio ʻana e pili ana i kēia mau pilikia ma mua o ka male ʻana hiki ke kōkua iā ʻolua i ka mākaukau no ka male a me nā kuleana a me nā pilikia e pili pū ana me ia.
ʻO ka pane pū ʻana i kēia mau nīnau e ʻae iā ʻoe e aʻo hou e pili ana i kekahi i kekahi e kōkua ai i ka hōʻalo ʻana i nā mea pūʻiwa i hiki ke alakaʻi ʻia i kahi hakakā koʻikoʻi i kāu male ʻana.