Anter
- 1. Pono ka poʻe āpau i ka nānā
- 2. Kū aʻe ka hoʻokūkū hoahānau
- 3. ʻeha pinepine nā keiki i ka huikau o ka ʻike
- 4. Hoʻonui pū ʻia nā pilikia kū kānāwai a me ke kālā
- 5. ʻO ka pilina me ka wahine ma mua ke kumu o nā hakakā ma waena o ka wahine
- Me kekahi mau hoʻoikaika ʻana, hiki ke hoʻonā ʻia nā pilikia me nā ʻohana i hui ʻia
Me ka piʻi nui o ka hemo a me ka male hou ʻana i nā makahiki i hala iho nei, ua piʻi pū ka nui o nā ʻohana i hui ʻia. ʻO nā ʻohana i hui ʻia he ʻohana e pili ana i kahi mau kāne i loaʻa ʻole kā lāua keiki ponoʻī, pū kekahi akā ʻo nā keiki mai ka male ma mua a i ʻole nā pili pū kekahi.
Hoʻonui ka nui o nā keiki a nā ʻohana blend i ka hoʻohālikelike ʻia me ka ʻohana nukleila maʻamau ʻoiai he mea ʻole ka manaʻo o ia ʻohana akā hoʻohui wale ʻia o ʻelua mau mākua i ka paʻa male, nui nā pilikia ʻē aʻe e pili ana.
ʻO ka papa inoa ma lalo nā pilikia nui o nā ʻohana i hui pū ʻia. ʻO ka hapa nui o kēlā mau ʻohana e hele i loko o kēia mau mea a hana i kā lākou mau mea e mālama ai i ka hauʻoli, ka ʻohana.
1. Pono ka poʻe āpau i ka nānā
Ma muli o ka nui o ka nui o nā ʻohana i hui ʻia, lilo i mea paʻakikī i ka makuahine a i ʻole ka makuakāne ke hāʻawi i kēlā me kēia lālā o ka ʻohana me ka manawa like a me ka nānā. Nānā ʻole ʻia kekahi, me ka maʻamau o kēlā me kēia wahine i ka manawa liʻiliʻi o kekahi me kekahi.
Eia kekahi, inā he keiki a kekahi o nā hoa ma kahi pilina mua, nui nā manawa i makemake ʻole kēlā mau keiki e kaʻana like i ko lākou makua hānau me nā kaikaina ʻē aʻe.
ʻIke pinepine kēia mau keiki i ka lili a nānā ʻole ʻia e ko lākou makua ola. ʻO kēia ka hopena i ka hoʻonui ʻana i ka huhū, kaumaha a me ka ʻawahia i waena o nā keiki.
Lilo kēia pilikia i pilikia nui loa ke loaʻa kahi keiki hoʻokahi i hana koke ʻia e hoʻoponopono i kahi ʻohana hou, e noho me nā poʻe hou a kaʻana like i ko lākou makua me kekahi poʻe ʻē aʻe.
2. Kū aʻe ka hoʻokūkū hoahānau
Hiki i kēia nele o ka nānā ʻana e ka makua olaola ke alakaʻi i kahi paio ma waena o nā ʻanuʻu. I loko o kahi ʻohana nuklele kuʻuna, aia ka hakakā ma waena o nā kaikaina akā lilo i mea ʻoi aku ka koʻikoʻi ke pili nā kaikaina.
Ma muli o nā keiki ka mea i loli nui ʻia e nā loli i hiki mai ma muli o ka ʻohana i hoʻohuihui ʻia, hōʻole pinepine nā keiki i ka hoʻololi ʻole i ka hale hou a i ʻole ke kōkua pū ʻana me nā kaikaina a me nā kaikaina hapalua.
ʻO ka hopena, nui nā hakakā a me nā huhū e pono e hoʻoponopono ʻia i kēlā me kēia lā.
3. ʻeha pinepine nā keiki i ka huikau o ka ʻike
ʻO nā keiki i loko o nā ʻohana i hui ʻia he makuahine a makua paha a makua kāne paha me kā lākou mau mākua hānau. Kū aʻe ka huikau o ka ʻike i ka wā i lawe ai ka makuahine i ka inoa hope o kāna kāne hou ʻoiai ka inoa hope o nā keiki e waiho ana me ko lākou makuakāne mua. ʻO ka hopena, manaʻo pinepine nā keiki e haʻalele ʻia e ko lākou makuahine a i ʻole inā ʻaʻole lākou e komo i kēia ʻohana hou.
Hoʻomaka ka hoʻomaka pinepine ʻana o nā keiki me ka makemake ʻole i ka hoapili hou a ko lākou mau mākua akā hoʻololi pinepine kēia mau manaʻo.
ʻOiai maikaʻi paha kēia, noʻonoʻo pinepine nā keiki e pili ana i kā lākou pilina me ka makua hou a lākou e noho pū ai a me kā lākou pilina me kā lākou makua hānau a lākou e launa ai i nā hopena pule.
4. Hoʻonui pū ʻia nā pilikia kū kānāwai a me ke kālā
ʻO kekahi o nā pilikia o nā ʻohana i hoʻohui ʻia ka mālama ʻana i nā koina no ka hānai ʻana i nā keiki he nui.
Lilo ka paʻakikī i nā mākua e mālama i nā lilo o kahi ʻohana nui e like me ka hoʻolimalima, nā bila, nā kula, nā mea ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi, a pēlā aku. Hoʻomaka ka nui o nā ʻohana huikau me ka loaʻa ʻana o nā keiki a i ka manawa e male ai, makemake nā kāne he nui nā keiki. Hoʻonui wale kēia i nā koina āpau.
Hoʻohui ʻia, nā kaʻina hemo a me nā pilikia pili kānāwai e koi ana i ka hoʻolilo ʻana i nā kālā he nui i kahi manawa hou, kahi e hoʻonui ai i ka ʻohana e mālama i kā lākou mau lilo a me nā mākua e hana ʻoi aku ka nui me ka ʻoi aku o hoʻokahi hana.
5. ʻO ka pilina me ka wahine ma mua ke kumu o nā hakakā ma waena o ka wahine
Koho nā kāne mua he co-makua ma hope o ka hemo a kaʻawale paha. He mea nui ka co-makua no ka pono o nā keiki e pili ana i nā hoʻoholo a nā mākua ʻelua. Eia nō naʻe, ʻo ka manaʻo co-makua ka mea hoʻi e kipa pinepine ka wahine ma mua i ka hale o ka ʻohana i hoʻokumu hou ʻia e hālāwai me kā lāua keiki.
Ma waho o ka noho makua ʻana, aia mau nā ʻōlelo hoʻoholo a ka ʻaha e ʻae ai i nā kuleana hālāwai i ka makua ʻē aʻe ma muli o kahi e kipa aku ai lākou i ka hale hou o ka wahine. ʻOiai maikaʻi paha kēia no nā keiki, kupu pinepine ka hoʻowahāwahā a me ka lili i ka hoa hou.
ʻIke paha ʻo ia i ka hoʻoweliweli ʻia e nā kipa mau ʻana o ka wahine ma mua a manaʻo paha e hoʻouka kaua ʻia ana ko lākou pilikino e kēia. A ʻo kahi hopena, ʻākena a kolohe paha lākou i ka wahine ma mua.
Me kekahi mau hoʻoikaika ʻana, hiki ke hoʻonā ʻia nā pilikia me nā ʻohana i hui ʻia
ʻO nā pilikia i ʻōlelo ʻia ma luna aʻe he maʻa mau ia no kekahi ʻohana i kāwili ʻia, keu hoʻi ke hana hou ʻia. Hoʻopau maʻalahi paha kēia mau mea me ka hoʻoikaika iki a me ke ahonui. Eia nō naʻe, ʻaʻole pono ia i kēlā me kēia ʻohana huikau e hālāwai me kēia a ʻaʻole alo i kekahi pilikia.