Anter
- 1. ʻIke ponoʻī
- 2. ʻO nā kuanaʻike ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi
- 3. Kuokoa
- 4. Ke oʻo makua a me ka ʻike
- 5. Ka hauʻoli
- 1. Kaukaʻi
- 2. Hauʻoli
- 3. Nā pōmaikaʻi i nalo
He mea nui ke ola i ka male ʻana, keu hoʻi ke noʻonoʻo ʻoe ia no ka manawa ʻelua. Koi ʻia kēia manawa o ke ola i kou manawa, kou ikaika a me kāu kālā. ʻO ʻoe a me kāu mea nui ʻē aʻe e hoʻoholo e pili ana i kāu waiwai, nā kūlana kālā, nā keiki, nā ʻauhau a me nā pilikia ʻē aʻe.
I kēia manawa, ʻaʻohe makahiki i hoʻonohonoho ʻia no ka male ʻana o kekahi. Kēkelē laepua, hoʻokahi wahine, he poʻe ʻelemākule, wahine kāne make, wahine kāne make, haʻalele male; hiki i nā mea āpau ke male.
I kēia ʻatikala, e nānā ana mākou i nā pōmaikaʻi a me nā maikaʻi ʻole o ka male hou ʻana o ka wahine kāne make. He wahine kāne make a wahine kāne make paha, eia ka papa inoa o nā pōmaikaʻi a me nā mea maikaʻi ʻole āu e kū ai inā hoʻoholo ʻoe e male hou.
Nā pōmaikaʻi
1. ʻIke ponoʻī
ʻO ka ʻike ʻana ʻo wai ʻoe a me ka pane ʻana i ka mea āu ʻoiaʻiʻo, he mea nui loa ia. Hāʻawi kēia i kahi e ʻike iā ia iho a kōkua i ka poʻe e wehe iā lākou iho i kā lākou mau hoa.
He wahine kāne make ʻoe, ʻike paha ʻoe i nā mea e pili ana iā ʻoe iho i ʻike ʻole ai ʻoe i ka wā i male ai ʻoe.
No laila, ma ke ʻano he wahine kāne make, inā hoʻoholo ʻoe e mare hou, e ʻike hou ʻoe e pili ana iā ʻoe iho. ʻO kēia ka mea e holomua ai kou ola hou ʻana i hiki iā ʻoe ke wehewehe pono iā ʻoe iho i kāu hoa hou.
2. ʻO nā kuanaʻike ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi
ʻO ka male hou ʻana ma ke ʻano he wahine kāne make, ʻo ia ka mea e nānā ana ʻoe i kēlā me kēia hiʻohiʻona i kahi ala hou.
He aha ʻoe a i ʻole āu e ʻike ai i ka wā i male ai ma mua e ʻokoʻa loa mai ka mea āu a me nā mea āu e manaʻo ai e mare hou me he wahine kāne make lā.
E hoʻoili kēia hauʻoli hou i kou mau manaʻo i nā mea maikaʻi. Eia kekahi, ʻo kēia kuana i hoʻololi ʻia ka manaʻo ʻoi aku kou mākua e kōkua i ka hana hou ʻana i kahi kūleʻa.
3. Kuokoa
ʻO ka male hou ʻana i wahine kāne make ʻōpio e hāʻawi iā ʻoe i ka manawa lua i ka hauʻoli. Inā ʻaʻohe āu keiki, hiki i kahi male hou ke ʻae iā ʻoe e loaʻa nā keiki me kāu hoa hou. Eia kekahi, e kūkākūkā paha ʻoe me kāu hoa inā makemake ʻolua e kali i kahi manawa ma mua o ka loaʻa ʻana o nā keiki.
E ʻae kēia iā ʻoe a me kāu wahine i ke kūʻokoʻa a me ka manawa hou aku e ʻike pono ai kekahi i kekahi.
Eia kekahi, ma ka ʻaoʻao ʻē aʻe, inā ʻoe e mare hou ma ke ʻano he wahine kāne make ma hope o ke ola, ʻo ʻoe a me kāu hoapili hou ua ulu aʻe paha he mau keiki.
ʻOiai i kēia hanana, ʻoluʻolu ʻoe a me kāu pakanā e hauʻoli pū i ka manawa hou. ʻAʻole pono e hopohopo e pili ana i nā keiki e like me ʻoe inā liʻiliʻi lākou.
4. Ke oʻo makua a me ka ʻike
Ma hope o kou lilo ʻana i wahine kāne make, ʻike paha ʻoe i nā kuleana āu e hana ai i kēia manawa.
Ke hele nei i loko o kahi ʻike koʻikoʻi, e like me ka lilo ʻana i wahine kāne make i mea e ʻoi ai kou mākua a me ka naʻauao honua no nā kūlana āu e hele ai.
No laila, ʻo kēia ka manaʻo e komo ana ʻoe i loko o ka male hou ma ke ʻano he mākua aʻoi aku ka noʻonoʻo. Hoʻohui pū kēia mea i ka loaʻa ʻana iā ʻoe iho a hoʻoikaika i kāu male hou.
5. Ka hauʻoli
ʻO kēia paha ka pōmaikaʻi nui e loaʻa iā ʻoe inā e mare hou ana i wahine kāne make.
ʻO ka manaʻo hou o ka wahine kāne make e hāʻawi ke ola iā ʻoe i ka manawa lua i ka hauʻoli.
Mai hoʻokuʻu iā ia. Ma kahi o, e hoʻopaʻa paʻa iā ia a hoʻoikaika i kou pilina me kāu hoa hou.
E hoʻolālā manawa no kekahi me kekahi a aloha a aloha kekahi i kekahi. Hoʻohui kēia i ka hauʻoli o kāu a me kāu pakanā a hoʻoikaika i kāu pilina.
Nā drawbacks
1. Kaukaʻi
Ma ke ʻano he wahine kāne make, ua maʻa paha ʻoe i ke kūʻokoʻa. Ke hilinaʻi nei i kahi mea ʻē aʻe paha kekahi mea i ʻike ʻole ʻia e ʻoe i kēia manawa.
Hiki i kēia ke kumu i nā pilikia i kāu male hou ʻana no ka mea hiki ke nānā ʻia e like me ka hoʻopaʻi e kāu hoa.
No laila, he naʻauao e kūkākūkā me kāu wahine e pili ana i ka mea āu e manaʻo ai a me ke kekelē hea ʻoe e noho kūʻokoʻa ai.
2. Hauʻoli
Ke male hou ʻana i wahine kāne make, ʻaʻole paha ʻoe e ʻike i ka pīhoihoi a me ka pīhoihoi e hele mai me ka male. ʻO ia paha ka male mua no kāu hoa e manaʻo pū paha i kekahi ʻano pīhoihoi mai kou hopena.
Eia naʻe, ʻo ka nele o ka pīhoihoi a me ka pīhoihoi e hōʻemi i ka huna ahi ma waena o ʻolua. He kumu maʻamau ia o nā paio a i ka hopena e alakaʻi i ka hemo male.
3. Nā pōmaikaʻi i nalo
E loaʻa ana paha iā ʻoe ka penihana e ke aupuni inā he wahine kāne make ʻoe. Eia naʻe, e hōʻoki ʻia kēia penihana inā hoʻoholo ʻoe e mare hou. No laila, e noʻonoʻo nui kēia i nā poʻe he nui.
ʻAʻole paha lākou e ʻae e hōʻoki ʻia nā kālā penihana, no laila, e lilo ana ka manawa ʻelua e hauʻoli hou ai.
Hele mai kēlā me kēia hoʻoholo ola me kāna mau pono ponoʻī a me nā drawbacks. He mea nui ka hoʻoholo ʻana no ka mea ʻaʻole pono e lawe māmā i ka male hou ʻana o ka wahine kāne make. E kūkākūkā i nā pilikia āu e kū ai i mua o ka make ʻana o kahi wahine kāne make me kāu hoa kāne.
ʻO ka mea hope loa, mai poina i kēlā me kēia hiʻohiʻona o ke ola me nā pilikia. Mai makaʻu i nā pilikia e lilo ana kou manawa i ka loaʻa ʻana o ka hauʻoli.