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- No ka hānai ʻana i kahi keiki i hoʻoponopono maikaʻi ʻia, e hoʻomaʻamaʻa mua iā ʻoe iho
- E aʻo iā lākou i ke koʻikoʻi o ka kūkulu pilina
- ʻAʻole hiki ke kūkākūkā ʻia kekahi mau mea
- Loaʻa i nā keiki hoʻoponopono maikaʻi i ka Emotional Intelligence
- ʻO ka paʻa mau kahi mea nui i ka hānai ʻana i kahi keiki hoʻoponopono maikaʻi
Hele mai nā hana a nā mākua a hele pū me nā manawa. Inā ʻoe ma kahi o ka lōʻihi o ka honua, ʻike paha ʻoe i kahi ʻano ʻokoʻa o nā ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo, mai nā papa paʻa a i ka looney holoʻokoʻa.
Loaʻa i kēlā me kēia moʻomeheu kā lākou lula ponoʻī e pili ana i nā mea e ʻoi loa e hana i kahi keiki hoʻoponopono maikaʻi, e like me kēlā me kēia ʻohana. Akā ua hoʻonohonoho nā loea hānai keiki i kahi ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo a nā mākua e kōkua nui ai i nā mākua e hānai i nā keiki hauʻoli, olakino a hoʻoponopono maikaʻi ʻia. ʻAʻole anei kēlā ka mea a mākou e makemake ai no ko mākou kaiāulu? E nānā i ka mea a lākou e ʻōlelo ai.
No ka hānai ʻana i kahi keiki i hoʻoponopono maikaʻi ʻia, e hoʻomaʻamaʻa mua iā ʻoe iho
ʻAʻole ia he mea hūnā i ka manawa kūpono loa o kāu keiki e lilo ai i kanaka makua naʻau a maikaʻi e hoʻopuni ʻia e ka mea like. No laila e hana pono i kāu mau pilikia kamaliʻi ma mua o kou hoʻomaka ʻana i kou ʻohana. Kāhea i ke kōkua ma waho, inā pono, i ke ʻano o ke kākāʻōlelo a i ʻole psychologist.
Hiki i ka luʻuluʻu i nā makuahine ke hopena maikaʻi ʻole i kā lākou mau keiki, e manaʻo nei ʻaʻole lākou e palekana a palekana hoʻi.
ʻAi aku ʻoe i kāu keiki i ke kaulike noʻonoʻo a me ke kino makua hiki ke lilo i ke alakaʻi ʻana iā lākou i ka wā e lilo ai lākou i poʻe mākua. He kuleana kou i nā lā hala, a me nā ʻano maikaʻi ʻole, ʻoiaʻiʻo.
E wehewehe pono i kāu mea liʻiliʻi ʻaʻohe mea e pili ai iā lākou: “He lā maikaʻi ʻole ko Mommy, akā ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o nā mea i ke kakahiaka.”
E aʻo iā lākou i ke koʻikoʻi o ka kūkulu pilina
Ke ʻike ʻoe i nā keiki ʻelua e hakakā ana i ka pāʻani, mai hoʻokaʻawale wale a hoʻopaʻi iā lākou. E aʻo iā lākou pehea e hana ai i nā mea i kahi ʻano huahana.
He ʻoiaʻiʻo, ʻoi aku ka ikaika o ka hoʻomaka ʻana o ke kamaʻilio e pili ana i ke kaulike a me ka pololei, ma mua o ka haʻi wale ʻana iā lākou e haʻalele i ka hakakā, akā i ka wā lōʻihi, ʻo kāu kuleana e aʻo i nā keiki i nā mākau kamaʻilio maikaʻi, keu hoʻi i ka wā e hakakā ana me ka hakakā.
Makemake ʻoe e hoʻohālikelike i kēia ma ka home. Ke hakakā ʻoe a me kāu wahine, ma mua o ka haʻalele ʻana i ka lumi a me ka pouting no ke koena o ka lā, e hōʻike iā ʻoukou, e nā keiki, he aha ke ʻano o ke kūkā kamaʻilio kūpono ʻana, e hana ana ma o ka pilikia a loaʻa i nā ʻaoʻao ʻelua i kahi hoʻonā kūpono.
E ʻike pono i ka ʻike o kāu mau keiki iā ʻoe a me kāu wahine e kala aku i kekahi i kekahi a honi a hana.
ʻO ia kekahi o nā haʻawina maikaʻi loa a lākou i ʻike ai: ʻaʻole ia he hakakā he kūlana paʻa mau ia, a hiki i kēlā mea maikaʻi ke hana ʻia ke pau nā pilikia.
ʻAʻole hiki ke kūkākūkā ʻia kekahi mau mea
Pono nā keiki i nā palena a me nā palena e palekana ai i ko lākou honua. Inā ʻaʻole paʻa ka makua i ka manawa moe, e ʻae ana i ke keiki e hoʻoholo i ka manawa e hiamoe ai nona iho (he ʻano maoli kēia i ka wā hippie), hiki i kēia ke hopena maikaʻi ʻole i ke olakino a me ke olakino o ke keiki.
ʻAʻole lawa lākou i ka makahiki e ʻike ai he mea nui ka hiamoe maikaʻi i ko lākou ulu ʻana no laila e hōʻino lākou i kēia inā ʻaʻole paʻa ʻoe i kēia palena. ʻO nā mea like no nā papa ʻaina, nā palaki niho, waiho ʻana i ke kahua pāʻani ke hiki i ka manawa e hoʻi i ka home. E hoʻāʻo a kamaʻilio nā keiki i kēia mau hanana āpau, a ʻo kāu hana ia e kūpaʻa.
He paʻakikī ʻaʻole e hoʻāʻo a ʻoluʻolu i kāu keiki ma ka hāʻawi ʻana i kāna mau koi "hoʻokahi wale nō", akā kūʻē.
Inā ʻike lākou hiki iā lākou ke piʻo iā ʻoe, e hoʻāʻo lākou a hana pinepine ia mau manawa. ʻAʻole kēia kahi hiʻohiʻona āu e makemake ai e aʻo iā lākou. Aia nā kaiāulu i nā kānāwai e pono e mahalo ʻia, a ʻo kou ʻohana pū kekahi iā lākou, ma ke ʻano o nā lula. ʻO ka mea hope loa ke kōkua nei ʻoe i kāu keiki e palekana i ke kū paʻa ʻana, no laila mai manaʻo hewa.
Loaʻa i nā keiki hoʻoponopono maikaʻi i ka Emotional Intelligence
Kōkua i kāu keiki e hana i kēia me ka hoʻohana ʻana i nā ʻenehana maʻalahi ʻekolu ke huhū a koʻikoʻi paha kāu keiki: Empathize, Label and Validate.
Manaʻo ʻoe ua hōʻole ʻoe i ke noi a kāu keiki e ʻai i kekahi kanakē ma mua o ka ʻaina ahiahi. Ke hehee nei ʻo ia:
Kamaliʻi: “Makemake au i kēlā mau kanakē! E hāʻawi mai iaʻu i kēlā mau kanakē! ”
ʻO ʻoe (i kahi leo akahai): Akā kokoke mākou e ʻai i ka ʻaina awakea. Maopopo iaʻu huhū ʻoe i ke kali ʻana a hiki i ka meaʻai momona e loaʻa ai nā kanakē. E haʻi iaʻu e pili ana i kēlā manaʻo. ”
Keiki: “ʻAe, huhū wau. Makemake nui au i kēlā mea ʻono. Akā manaʻo wau hiki iaʻu ke kali a hala ka ʻaina ahiahi. "
ʻIke ʻoe i ka mea e hana? Kuhi ke keiki huhū ʻo ia a mahalo mahalo ua lohe ʻoe i kēlā. Ua hiki paha iā ʻoe ke ʻōlelo aʻe “ʻAʻohe momi ma mua o ka ʻaina ahiahi. ʻO ia ke kānāwai ”akā ʻaʻole ia e kamaʻilio i nā manaʻo o ke keiki. Ke hōʻoia ʻoe i ko lākou mau manaʻo, hōʻike ʻoe iā lākou i ke ʻano o ka naʻau o ka naʻau, a e hele lākou e hoʻohālikelike i kēlā.
ʻO ka paʻa mau kahi mea nui i ka hānai ʻana i kahi keiki hoʻoponopono maikaʻi
Mai pale-flop i ka hana maʻamau. ʻOiai ka haʻalele ʻana i ka pāʻina lā hānau i mea e hiamoe ai kāu keiki. ʻAʻole like me nā mākua, ʻaʻole maʻalahi ka uaki o nā kino o nā keiki, a inā ʻike lākou i kahi pāʻina a hiamoe paha, hiki ke hopena maikaʻi ʻole.
Holo ka maikaʻi o ko lākou honua inā mahalo ʻoe i kahi papahana kūlike me lākou. E like me nā palena, hana ke kūpaʻa iā lākou e palekana a paʻa hoʻi; pono lākou i ka wānana o kēia mau touchpoint i kēlā me kēia lā. No laila nā manawa ʻaina, nā manawa a me nā manawa moe e kau ʻia i ka pōhaku; hana mua i kēia.