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- 1. ʻO ka nele o ka hoʻokomo kālā i loko o kekahi a me kāu male
- 2. Kāohi Dramas
- 3. Ke poina nei i kāu pili
- 4. Nā manaʻo kūpono ʻole a i ʻole manaʻo ʻia
ʻAʻole ia he mea hūnā i ke kiʻekiʻe o nā helu male male. He hoʻoweliweli maoli ka male male male i ka nui o nā kāne, inā ʻaʻole male nā kāne a pau me ka ʻole o ka makemake no ka hemo ʻana. ʻO nā pilikia pili kālā a me ka launa maikaʻi ʻole kekahi o nā kumu nui a maopopo loa no ke kumu e holo pono ʻole ai ka male. Akā aia kekahi mau kumu ʻē aʻe e holo pono ʻole ai ka male male hiki ke nānā pinepine ʻole ʻia. Kupaianaha kekahi o kēia mau kumu a ʻano sneaky paha, ʻoiai ʻo kekahi poʻe maopopo leʻa (e laʻa me ka hoʻomaloka, a i ʻole ka hoʻomāinoino). Inā ʻoe e hoʻomaopopo i kekahi o nā kumu nui e holo pono ʻole ai ka male ʻana a aʻo pehea e pale aku ai i kāu male ʻana mai nā pilikia like ʻole, e mālama ʻoe i ka lōʻihi, ka leʻaleʻa, a me ke olakino o kāu male e waiho ana ma ke ʻano no nā makahiki e hiki mai ana.
Eia nā kumu kupaianaha ʻelima i kūleʻa ʻole ai ka male, me kekahi ʻike e pili ana i ka pale ʻana i kāu male mai kēlā mau pilikia
1. ʻO ka nele o ka hoʻokomo kālā i loko o kekahi a me kāu male
Ke hoʻopukapuka nei i kou manawa i ke aʻo ʻana i nā mea e pili ana i ka hana ʻana i kahi hana male, ka hana ʻana i ka hoʻomohala ʻana iā ʻoe iho a me ka hoʻopukapuka ʻana i kāu mau pahuhopu i ke ʻano he kāne he mea koʻikoʻi no ka male hauʻoli, olakino a lōʻihi.
I ka wā e paʻa ana i kahi ʻoihana, ʻike mākou he pono mākou e hoʻopukapuka i nā mākau e loaʻa a mālama i ka kūleʻa akā no kekahi kumu ʻano ʻē, ʻaʻole mākou e noʻonoʻo pinepine e pono mākou i kekahi mākau e hoʻomau i ka male. ʻAʻole hoʻokomo kālā i kāu male a me kāu hoʻomohala pilikino ʻana he pilikia nui ia a hiki iā ʻoe ke hōʻalo maʻalahi.
E hōʻoia i ka paʻa o kāu male ma ka nānā ʻana i kāu pilikino a me kāu ulu male. ʻO nā ʻōlelo aʻo a nā kāne, nā puke, a me ka hoʻokō i ka hoʻolilo ʻana i kekahi mau hola i kēlā me kēia pule no ka loiloi ʻana i kou ola male a me kāu pilina pili like nā ala āpau e hiki ai iā ʻoe ke hoʻomaka e hana i kahi hoʻopukapuka. A laila e hana pū nei e ʻike a i ʻole e hana i nā loli kūpono, me ka ʻole o ka ʻāhewa a me ka hoʻokolokolo ʻole, e hōʻoia ia e hiki iā ʻoe ke kiko i kēia kumu maʻamau no ka haʻalele ʻole o ka male i kāu papa inoa o ka hoʻoweliweli i kāu male.
2. Kāohi Dramas
Hiki pinepine ʻole nā "drama drama" pono ʻole i ke ala a mākou e kamaʻilio ai me kā mākou wahine. O kahi laʻana; hiki iā mākou ke hōʻike i ka hiki ʻole ke kala aku i kā mākou mau hoa, huhū i ka ʻaʻa liʻiliʻi loa i kā mākou lawena, hoʻohoka i nā makemake āpau o kā mākou hoa i mea e hōʻalo ai i ka loaʻa ʻana o nā kamaʻilio kūpono, a pāʻani paha i ka mea hōʻeha a mea ʻino paha. ʻO ia ʻano dramas kaohi ke kumu e holo pono ʻole ai ka male.
Ke hiki ʻole iā mākou ke ʻike pehea mākou e kamaʻilio ai, i ke ʻano nui, pehea mākou e alo ai i ke alo ʻana i kekahi o kā mākou ʻano paʻakikī, nā lauana, a me nā manaʻo ma lalo, hiki i ka paʻakikī ke kūkākūkā me ka mālie i nā pilikia a ka hapanui o nā kāne e kū nei i ka holo ʻana o ka manawa. A laila hoʻomau mau mākou i kā mākou lawena aʻo - hoʻolālā i kā mākou dramas kaohi i nā mea āpau ma luna o kā mākou hoa kāne a me nā keiki. ʻO kahi hiʻohiʻona i hāʻawi ʻole i kekahi i ka manawa kūpono no ka ulu ʻana a i ʻole e launa i ko lākou ʻokoʻa, a i ʻole e hōʻola i ko lākou wā i hala. Hiki i nā pilikia hohonu ke hāʻawi i kahi male maikaʻi ʻole a mamao loa i ka holo ʻana o ka manawa.
He pilikia maʻalahi kēia e hoʻonā, pili wale ia i ka noʻonoʻo ponoʻī, i hiki ai iā ʻoe ke ʻike i kāu mau hiʻohiʻona a me kāu lawena, a me ka makemake e palupalu, a hoʻohaʻahaʻa i kāu mau pale. A inā ʻoe e ʻike nei i nā ʻano hana i loko o kāu wahine, pono ʻoe e hoʻolako i kahi hoʻokolokolo ʻole, kahi hoʻomanawanui no kāu wahine e hōʻike ai i ko lākou nāwaliwali ma lalo, ka makaʻu a hopohopo paha (ʻo ia ka mea a lākou e pale nei me kā lākou hana keaka drama).
3. Ke poina nei i kāu pili
He mea hoʻomākeʻaka pehea ia i kekahi mau hanana i ka male ʻana o kahi wahine e like me ka hoʻohui ʻana i ka kaomi i kahi pilina i hala ma mua. ʻOiaʻiʻo, ʻike mākou āpau e pili ana ka male i ka hana, akā naʻe hoʻomaka kekahi mea e lilo i mea ʻoi aku ka koʻikoʻi ma kekahi ʻano ma mua o ka pono. ʻO ka male ka mea āpau e pili pū ana i ke kūkulu pū ʻana i kahi ola, a ʻae e pono ka hana, akā ʻo ka pilikia ma kekahi manawa ka pilina, ke aloha, a me ka launa i hoʻokumu ʻia ma waena o nā kāne ma mua o ka nalowale ʻana o ka male ma ka 'male male' a ʻo kēia kekahi kumu e holo pono ʻole ai ka male. Poina ʻia ka pilina a aloha paha i kahi o ke ala. Akā, kaomi ka mālama i ka male.
Inā ʻoe e noʻonoʻo e pili ana i ka male ʻana ma ke ʻano he kūpaʻa i ke kūkulu pū ʻana i kahi ola e hoʻohui pū i nā keiki, nā kālā, ke ola maʻamau, a me kou pilina a me kou aloha me kekahi, a laila e noho kokoke ʻoe. Mālama kēia i ke aloha, hoʻopaʻa paʻa, a me ka launa aloha ʻana iā ʻolua e maopopo ai makemake ʻolua e noho pū i kou ola. Inā ʻoe e launa me kāu wahine ma ke kau ʻana i ka launa aloha a me ka pili āu i mua ai; e hana koke ʻoe ma o kekahi o nā pilikia o ke ola me he mea lā he moeʻuhane kēlā.
4. Nā manaʻo kūpono ʻole a i ʻole manaʻo ʻia
He kumuhana kēia i hiki ke hoʻopili ʻia me ka maikaʻi o kā mākou kamaʻilio ʻana; he kumu nui e holo pono ʻole ai ka male. Akā maʻalahi ka mālama ʻana.
Loaʻa iā mākou nā mea i manaʻo ʻia i ko mākou mau hoa kāne a i ʻole nā poʻe ʻē aʻe a puni mākou e waiho pinepine iā mākou inā hoʻohoka ʻole kā mākou hoa kāne i nā mea i manaʻo ʻia. ʻO ka mea a ka hapanui o mākou e ʻike ai he hiki ʻole ke hoʻokō i nā mea i manaʻo ʻia e kekahi - keu hoʻi inā ʻaʻole e haʻi waha ʻia kēlā mau mea i ka mea e manaʻo ʻia e hana i kekahi ʻano.
Aia kekahi kumu maʻalahi no kēia - He ʻano kūlike ko mākou o ka honua a puni mākou. Hoʻonohonoho ʻokoʻa mākou a pau i ka ʻike. ʻO kahi mea nui a ʻano kūpono paha no kekahi kanaka ʻaʻole paha e ʻike i kekahi kanaka ʻē aʻe, a ʻaʻohe mea i koe i kēia kūlana.
Manaʻo hope
No laila ke loaʻa iā mākou nā mea i koi ʻia i kekahi me kekahi akā ʻaʻole mākou e hōʻike iā lākou i kekahi i kekahi, ʻaʻohe manawa o ka mea ʻē aʻe. E hoʻokuʻu lākou iā ʻoe i lalo no ka mea ʻaʻohe o lākou manaʻo e pili ana i kāu mea e makemake ai. No laila he mea kūpono e hana i kahi hana e kūkākūkā i kāu mau mea i manaʻo ai i kēlā me kēia wahi o kou ola a me ka pilina like. ʻAʻole ia he manaʻo no ka mea he manaʻo kāu e hana ai kāu wahine i ka mea i manaʻo ʻia, akā wehe ia i ka papa no ke kūkā ʻana, ke kūkākūkā ʻana, a me ka hoʻopili ʻana. I hiki iā ʻoe ke loaʻa i ke kahua waena, a no laila lohe nā kāne ʻelua a ʻae ʻia e kekahi.