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- Paipai ʻia - Mālama i kaʻu papa male
- 1. Hele i nā lā
- 2. E hoʻopaʻa haʻawina i kāu wahine
- 3. Tag ma kēlā me kēia lā
Ua lohe paha ʻoe i ka entropy?
He kānāwai ʻepekema ia e ʻōlelo maʻamau he pōʻino kou hale maʻemaʻe ke hana ʻole ʻoe i kekahi mea e pili ana. I nā ʻepekema ʻoi aku, huli ke kauoha i ka maʻi me ka ʻole o ke kōkua.
E hoʻohālikelike kā mākou male i ka manaʻo o ka entropy
E like me kā mākou hoʻopukapuka i kā mākou manawa holoi, lepo a me ka ʻānai ʻana i ka lepo mai nā paia, pono mākou e hoʻomau i ka hoʻopukapuka ʻana i kā mākou male. ʻIke mākou inā ʻaʻole mākou e hoʻomaʻemaʻe, e lawe ana ka entropy.
ʻAʻohe mea i hoʻololi ʻole ʻia ma ka honua (ʻokoʻa ka mea i loli). Ke hoʻoikaika nei a hoʻomaka paha mākou e hāʻule lohi.
I kekahi manawa lōʻihi ka manawa. ʻO kekahi manawa he manawa pōkole wale nō ia.
ʻO nā male hope loa e noho ʻia e nā kāne i manaʻo ʻia e pili ana i ke olakino a me ka mālama ʻana o kā lāua pilina.
No laila pehea e hiki ʻole ai iā mākou ke pale aku i nā mea i loaʻa iā mākou akā e hana pū i ko mākou ola i kahi mea nani?
Paipai ʻia - Mālama i kaʻu papa male
ʻEkolu ala e hoʻopakele ai i kāu male mai ka entropy:
1. Hele i nā lā
ʻAe, hana e like me ka mea āu i hana ai i ka wā e aloha ana.
ʻAʻohe mea e koi iā ʻoe e loaʻa ka manawa e kamaʻilio ai me kāu ipo. Ua manaʻo mua ʻoe iā lākou. Ua makemake ʻoe. ʻAʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻomau i ka hōʻoia i ka nani a me ka ikaika o kāu mea hou. No laila he aha ka mea i hana ai?
Ola. ʻO kāu hana, nā keiki, nā hoaaloha, nā hoʻohiki, a me nā mea āpau ma waena i komo i ke ala o kāu nānā.
Loaʻa ka komo i kāu pilina.
ʻO ka nūhou maikaʻi hiki ke hoʻohuli ʻia. E kau i kēlā manawa like, ka hoʻokō a me ka ikaika i loko o kāu wahine, a hiki i kāu pili ke pua hou.
Pono ka manawa o ka wahine. Mahalo paha ʻoe i ka nui o ka poʻe e manaʻo nei ʻaʻohe o lākou manawa a me ke kālā. Loaʻa iā mākou ka manawa no ka mea nui iā mākou a ʻaʻole uku nā lā i kekahi mea.
No ke kahakaha ʻana i ke koʻikoʻi o nā kāne e hele nei i nā lā pinepine, e noʻonoʻo i kahi ana hōʻike e alakaʻi ʻia e Wilcox & Dew (2012). Ua ʻike lākou inā he manawa pālua ko ka wahine ma ka liʻiliʻi i hoʻokahi manawa i kēlā me kēia pule, 3.5 mau manawa ʻoi aku ka manawa e wehewehe i kā lāua male ʻana ma ke ʻano he "hauʻoli loa" ke hoʻohālikelike ʻia me ka poʻe i liʻiliʻi ka manawa maikaʻi me kā lākou wahine.
Ua ʻike pū lākou me nā lā o kēlā me kēia pule i nā pō, ua hana ʻia nā wahine ʻehā mau manawa liʻiliʻi a me nā kāne he ʻelua a me ka hapalua manawa ka liʻiliʻi e hōʻike i ka inoa o ka hemo.
2. E hoʻopaʻa haʻawina i kāu wahine
E lilo i haumana na kāu wahine.
Wale no ka mea ua male ʻoe ʻaʻole ia he kumu ua pau ka alualu! Aia nā pūʻulu puke, nā podcasts lehulehu a me nā wikiō he lehulehu ʻole e pili ana i ke kumuhana o nā pilina. I nā kumu āpau, e lilo i haumāna. Ua kōkua kēia mau mea iā mākou e aʻo nui e pili ana iā mākou iho a me kēlā me kēia.
ʻOiai weliweli nā puke a me nā kumuwaiwai o waho, ʻo wai ka mea hiki ke kōkua maikaʻi iā ʻoe e aʻo e pili ana i kāu wahine ma mua o kāu kāne?
Nīnau pinepine ka poʻe iā mākou no ka ʻōlelo aʻo e pili ana i kā lākou wahine a ʻo kekahi o kā mākou pane mua mau: Ua noi ʻoe iā lākou?
He haumāna ʻilihuna pinepine mākou na kekahi kanaka ʻē aʻe. Ehia mau manawa a kāu hoa i noi aku ai iā ʻoe e hana i kekahi mea (a i ʻole hana i kekahi mea), akā poina iā ʻoe? E hoʻomanaʻo i ka mea a lākou e noi ai a hana me ka noʻonoʻo i kēlā me kēia lā.
3. Tag ma kēlā me kēia lā
Hōʻiliʻili ka lepo i nā kihi me ka ʻole o ka manawa a me ka ikehu i lilo i ka hoʻomaʻemaʻe ʻana.
He aha e pili ana i nā kihi o kou pili? Aia kekahi mau wahi i kamaʻilio ʻole ʻia? ʻO kā lākou mea huna i kūkākūkā ʻole ʻia? ʻAʻole pono e hoʻokō ʻia?
Pehea ʻoe e ʻike ai inā ʻaʻole ʻoe e kamaʻilio?
ʻEkolu mau nīnau āu e nīnau ai i kēlā me kēia lā i kēlā me kēia lā; kapa mākou i kēia ʻo "Dialogue Daily":
- He aha ka mea i hele maikaʻi i loko o kā mākou pilina i kēia lā?
- He aha ka mea i hele pū ʻole?
- Pehea e hiki ai iaʻu ke kōkua iā ʻoe i kēia lā (a ʻāpōpō)?
He mau nīnau maʻalahi kēia e hiki ke kōkua iā ʻoe e mālama iā ʻoe ma ka ʻaoʻao like a kōkua iā ʻoe e hoʻomaʻamaʻa i kēlā me kēia hana. Ke pane kāu kāne i kāu mau nīnau, e ʻike pono he hoʻolohe hoʻolohe.
Hāʻawi ʻo William Doherty i kahi wehewehe pololei o ka male.
Ua ʻōlelo ʻo ia, “Ua like ka male ʻana me ka hoʻolana waʻa i ka muliwai ʻo Misisipi. Inā makemake ʻoe e hele i ka ʻākau, pono ʻoe e hoe. Inā ʻaʻole ʻoe e hoe, hele ʻoe i ka hema. No ka nui o kou aloha i kekahi i kekahi, no ka piha o ka manaʻolana a me ka hoʻohiki a me nā manaʻo maikaʻi, inā ʻoe e noho ma ka Misisipi me ka ʻole o ka hoe maikaʻi ʻana-ʻaʻole lawa ka hoe waʻa ʻana - hopena ʻoe ma New Orleans (ʻo ia kahi pilikia inā makemake ʻoe e noho ʻākau). ”
ʻO ka mea nui, ka hoe ʻana i ka ʻākau me kekahi āu e aʻo nei e aloha nui a piha ʻaʻole ia he hana. ʻO ke kūkulu ʻana i ke ʻano o ka pilina e kū mau i nā kahe ikaika o ke ola kahi koho a pono mākou e hoʻoholo i kēlā koho.