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- Hiki ʻiʻo anei?
- Paipai ʻia - Mālama i kaʻu papa male
- No ke aha hiki ʻole ke mālama i kāu male ma kāu iho?
- No ka pono o ke kūlike ʻole, inā ʻaʻole hiki i kekahi kanaka ke mālama i ka male, pono ka ʻaoʻao ʻē aʻe, ʻaʻole hiki i kekahi kanaka ke hōʻino i ka male
Hiki i ka male ʻana ke paʻakikī i kekahi manawa a he nui ka hana a me ka ikaika e mālama ai i ka male a me ke olakino. Ua haʻohaʻo nā kāne he nui i ka manawa a i ʻole kekahi i ka hiki ke hoʻopaʻa ʻia i kā lāua male ʻole. Nui a hewahewa nā kāne e hele i ka ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo pū me kēlā nīnau loa i ka noʻonoʻo. Inā paha he haki kamaʻilio, kahi hanana nui o ke ola, ka hānau ʻana o kahi keiki a i ʻole ka maka auwana o kāu hoa, nui nā hanana i hiki ke ʻaʻa a hoʻoluliluli maoli i ke kahua o kahi hui.
Inā ʻoe e noho ana ma laila, e noʻonoʻo ana i kāu male ponoʻī a noʻonoʻo inā hiki iā ʻoe ke mālama iā ʻoe iho, kōkua paha kēia ʻatikala.
Hiki ʻiʻo anei?
Hiki i kekahi hoa ke hoʻopakele i ka male ma kā lākou iho? Inā hana nui kekahi hoa, hiki ke lawa no nā kānaka ʻelua i ka male? ʻAʻole wau kanalua i ka paʻa ʻana o kekahi i kēia moemoeā, akā ʻaʻohe oʻu manaʻo he hiki. Ua ʻike wau i nā hoa e hoʻāʻo nei i kēia hana i mea ʻole.
Paipai ʻia - Mālama i kaʻu papa male
No ke aha hiki ʻole ke mālama i kāu male ma kāu iho?
ʻĀ, aia ka pane i ke ʻano o ka male. ʻO ka male ka hui ʻana, he kime. Pono ke kime i ke kamaʻilio i mea e kūleʻa ai a me ke kamaʻilio kahi ala ʻelua ala. ʻOiaʻiʻo, hiki i kēlā me kēia hoa ke hana i kā lākou ʻāpana ponoʻī e hana ai i ka hoʻopakele ʻana i kā lāua male, akā ʻo ka hopena e koi ana i ka hui ʻana o nā hoʻāʻo a kēlā me kēia hoa.
Ke hana wau me nā kāne, aʻo wau iā lākou i ka wā mua ʻo ka mea wale nō i kā lākou kaohi ko lākou mau manaʻoʻiʻo, nā manaʻo a me nā ʻano. ʻO ka hapa nui o nā haunaele i ka male ʻana mai nā koi kūpono ʻole a paʻa paʻa i nā manaʻoʻiʻo he hua ʻole a hana ʻole ʻia. ʻOiai ke ʻano maikaʻi ʻole o ka hana a kāu hoa, hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻopaʻa i nā hilinaʻi ʻole e pili ana i kā lākou ʻano e like me "ʻAʻole lākou i hana i kēlā" a "No ka mea ua hana lākou, ʻaʻole maopopo iaʻu."
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No ka pono o ke kūlike ʻole, inā ʻaʻole hiki i kekahi kanaka ke mālama i ka male, pono ka ʻaoʻao ʻē aʻe, ʻaʻole hiki i kekahi kanaka ke hōʻino i ka male
I kēia manawa, ke ʻōlelo nei paha kekahi o ou e heluhelu ana i kēia iā ʻoe iho, "pehea e pili ana i ka wā e hoʻopunipuni ai kāu wahine iā ʻoe?". Hiki i kekahi hoa ke hana i kekahi mea e hopena i ka pilina, e like me ka hoʻopunipuni. Akā he nui nā male i mālama ʻia, a ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi ma hope o ka hoʻopunipuni o ka wahine.
Ke ʻaihue kekahi hoa, loaʻa paha i kekahi mau hoa ʻē aʻe kekahi mau manaʻoʻiʻo e alakaʻi i ko lākou manaʻo a me nā mea a lākou e hana ai e pili ana i kēia kūlana. Inā paʻa ka manaʻo o kekahi hoa "ʻAʻole pono e hoʻopunipuni nā kāne, a inā hana lākou, ʻaʻohe maikaʻi", nā manaʻo kaumaha, huhū maikaʻi ʻole a ʻeha paha. Inā kū kēia mau manaʻo maikaʻi ʻole maikaʻi ʻole, pili nā ʻano maikaʻi ʻole a lahilahi ka hiki ke ola o ka male.
Inā naʻe, paʻa ka manaʻo o ka hoapili "MANAʻOHE ʻaʻole hoʻopunipuni kaʻu wahine akā hana lākou, ʻaʻole ia he manaʻo ʻaʻole maikaʻi lākou, ʻo ia wale nō ka hana maikaʻi ʻole ʻana". ʻO kēia manaʻoʻiʻo paha e hāʻawi i nā manaʻo maikaʻi maikaʻi ʻole e like me ke kaumaha, ka huhū olakino a me ke kaumaha. ʻO kēia mau manaʻo maikaʻi maikaʻi ʻole e alakaʻi i nā hana kūpono e like me ka ʻimi ʻana i ka lāʻau, e hana ana i ke kala ʻana a me ka hopena e mālama ai i ka pilina.
I kēia manawa e ʻōlelo mākou e manaʻoʻiʻo kekahi e hiki iā lākou ke mālama i ka male ma o lākou iho. Maliʻa paha he nui nā mea loaʻa ʻole inā loaʻa ʻole kēia koi. Pēlā paha nā derivatives e like me "naʻu ka hewa āpau", "ʻaʻole maikaʻi wau no ka mea ʻaʻole hiki iaʻu ke hoʻopakele i ka pilina", "ʻaʻole loa wau e loaʻa kahi hoa ʻē aʻe", "make wau e noho hoʻokahi". Inā manaʻoʻiʻo kekahi i kēia e kaumaha paha lākou i kahi kīnā ʻole, huhū nui, a lawehala nui paha. Inā manaʻo kēia i kēia ala, LESS paha lākou e komo i nā pilina hou a LESS paha e makaʻu i ka palupalu e hoʻoikaika ai i ko lākou noʻonoʻo kōkua ʻole.
Ke hoʻi nei i ka nīnau kumu:
"Hiki paha ke hoʻopakele i kāu male wale nō?", E paʻa paʻa wau i ka manaʻo ʻaʻole hiki
Hiki nō naʻe, ke mālama i kāu mau manaʻoʻiʻo e pili ana i kāu male.
ʻAʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke kaohi i ka hana a kāu hoa a hana ʻole paha akā hiki iā ʻoe ke kaohi i kāu mea e haʻi aku ai iā ʻoe iho e pili ana i ka hana a kāu hoa. Inā loaʻa iā ʻoe kahi manaʻo kōkua a hua e pili ana i kāu male, ke hana nei ʻoe i kāu ʻāpana i ka pilina a hāʻawi i ka male i ka manawa kūpono loa e ola ai.