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- E kamaʻilio me kāu wahine
- E kamaʻilio i nā mea āpau
- ʻAʻohe kāloti kūikawā a lāʻau paha
- Noho pū i ka manawa he nui
ʻIke ka poʻe āpau i ka moʻolelo, male ka poʻe, loaʻa nā keiki, hāʻule nā mea, a laila wāwahi. ʻO ka nīnau, he aha ka hopena o nā keiki?
Inā ʻōpio loa nā kamaliʻi e mākaʻikaʻi i ka honua iā lākou iho, ʻoi aku ka nui ma mua o ka ʻole, ʻoiai aia kekahi mau hihia kahi e noho ai me nā ʻohana ʻē aʻe, noho pū lākou me hoʻokahi makua, a loaʻa i kekahi i nā kuleana kipa.
ʻO kēlā me kēia lālā o ka ʻohana hana pono ʻole e hoʻāʻo e hele i kā lākou iho a hoʻomau i ko lākou ola. He paʻakikī, akā hoʻāʻo lākou i kā lākou mea hiki.
A laila i kekahi lā, hoʻoholo ka makua kahi e noho ai ke keiki e male hou. Hiki i hoʻokahi a ʻelua paha o ka male hou ke loaʻa he keiki i kā lāua male ma mua. He manawa lua ia no ka hauʻoli, a ʻo ia?
Eia kekahi ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo no ka hauʻoli lua o ka male me nā keiki.
E kamaʻilio me kāu wahine
ʻO ia ka pae mua maopopo. E ʻike ʻoi aku ka makua biolo i ka hopena o ke keiki i ka loaʻa ʻana o kahi stepparent iā ia. He kumu hihia kēlā me kēia hihia. ʻO kekahi mau keiki e ʻoi aku ka makemake, makemake ʻole, e ʻae i kahi makua hou i ko lākou ola.
E nānā ʻole kekahi iā ia, a e hoʻowahāwahā kekahi iā ia.
E kūkākūkā wale ana mākou i nā pilikia e pili ana i nā keiki i hiki ʻole ke ʻae i ka hanana ʻohana hou. ʻAʻole hiki i ka male lua hauʻoli ke loaʻa nā hakakā ma waena o nā keiki a me ko lākou makua hou. He mea ia e hoʻonā iā ia iho ma mua o ka manawa, akā ʻaʻole ʻeha ka hāʻawi ʻana iā ia i kahi kaomi iki ma ke ala.
E kamaʻilio me kāu wahine, kūkā a kuhi i ka hopena o ke keiki i ka loaʻa ʻana o kahi ʻohana hou a me nā mea a nā mākua ʻelua e ʻōlelo ai iā lākou e neʻe ana i mua.
E kamaʻilio i nā mea āpau
Ma hope o ke kūkākūkā ʻana o ka mea hou ma waena o lākou iho, ua hiki i ka manawa e hoʻolohe ai mai ke keiki a kamaʻilio e pili ana iā ia. Inā ʻaʻohe o nā keiki hilinaʻi i nā pilikia hilinaʻi, pono maoli lākou, ʻeha paha i kā lākou ʻōlelo.
E lilo i makua a lawe. He mea maikaʻi ia, ʻoi aku ka ʻoi o nā huaʻōlelo, ʻoi aku ka ʻoiaʻiʻo. ʻOi aku ka nui o ka ʻoiaʻiʻo ma mua o ka tact ma kēia wahi.
No laila e hoʻomaka me ka hoʻonohonoho ʻana i ke ʻano kūpono. E mālama i nā uila uila (me kāu), hoʻopau i ke kīwī, a me nā mea hoʻoluhi ʻē aʻe. ʻAʻohe meaʻai, ka wai a wai ʻole wale nō. Inā hiki iā ʻoe, hana ia ma kahi kūlike ʻole, e like me ka papa ʻaina. Inā ma kahi o ke keiki e palekana ai, e like me ko lākou lumi, e noʻonoʻo lākou hiki iā lākou ke kīki iā ʻoe e hoʻopau i ke kūkā. E hoʻomaka wale ia i kahi mea maikaʻi ʻole.
ʻO ka ʻaoʻao ʻē aʻe he ʻoiaʻiʻo inā ʻike lākou i ka paʻa a me ke kihi.
Mai nīnau i nā nīnau alakaʻi e like me, Maopopo iā ʻoe no ke aha ʻoe ma aneʻi, a i ʻole kekahi mea lapuwale e like me, ʻike ʻoe ua male wau ua maopopo iā ʻoe ke ʻano o kēlā? Hoʻowahāwahā i ko lākou ʻike a hoʻonele i ka manawa o kēlā me kēia.
Hele pololei i ke kiko.
Wehe ka makua makua i ke kūkākūkā a hoʻomaopopo i nā ʻaoʻao ʻelua i ke kūlana. Ua male ʻelua o kāua, he ʻohana makua ʻoe i kēia manawa a me ke keiki, pono ʻoe e noho pū, inā ʻoe e ʻākoʻo me kekahi i kekahi e lūlū i nā mea āpau.
Kekahi mea ma kēlā mau laina. Akā, he kuleana ko nā keiki e hoʻohana i nā huaʻōlelo ʻoi loa, akā e hana nā mākua me ka ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi ma mua o ka pehea aʻu i wehewehe ai.
Pono e hoʻomaopopo i nā ʻaoʻao āpau -
- ʻAʻole hoʻāʻo ka stepparent e pani i kāu mea maoli
- Mālama ka makua hānau i ke keiki me he mea lā nāna
- E hana ana ka ʻohana makua iā ia no ka mea ʻo ia ka makemake o ka makua makua
- Hāʻawi ke keiki i kahi kūpuna i kahi manawa
- E launa lākou āpau no ka mea aloha lākou āpau i ka makua maoli
Nā mea āu e ʻōlelo ʻole ai -
- Hoʻohālikelike i ka makua ʻē aʻe me ka makua hānau
- ʻAʻole haʻalele ka stepparent (ʻo wai ka mea ʻike?)
- Backstab i ka makua ʻē aʻe
- ʻAʻole koho ke keiki (ʻAʻole lākou, akā mai ʻōlelo ia)
Hoʻokele i ke kamaʻilio ʻana i ka noʻonoʻo no ka makua ola. Pono e hoʻopau me ka mea aloha nā ʻaoʻao ʻelua i ka makua olaola. E hana lākou i ka mea e hiki ai ke launa pū kekahi me kekahi.
ʻO ke kahua i kāu hauʻoli lua me kāu keiki ke aloha, ʻaʻole nā kānāwai. ʻAʻole pono ia e hoʻomaka pono i ka manawa koke, akā inā ʻaʻole ʻoe makemake e ʻoki i nā ʻāʻī o kēlā me kēia, he hoʻomaka maikaʻi ia.
ʻAʻohe kāloti kūikawā a lāʻau paha
Mai hoʻonui i ka uku no ka hoʻāʻo ʻana e hōʻoluʻolu i ke keiki. ʻO ʻoe wale nō, akā waiho i nā hana hoʻopaʻi a pau i ka makua ola.
A hiki i ka manawa e ʻae ʻia ʻoe ma ke ʻano he ʻohana, ʻo ka makua makua wale nō ka mea hiki ke pale i ka hoʻopaʻi no nā hana hewa. Mai kūʻē i ka makua makua, nānā ʻole i nā mea a lākou e hana ai. ʻIke paha he ʻino a ʻoluʻolu paha kekahi mau mea iā ʻoe, akā ʻaʻole ʻoe i loaʻa kahi kuleana i kahi manaʻo i kēia manawa. E hiki mai nō, ahonui wale.
ʻO ka hoʻopaʻi ʻana i kahi keiki e ʻae ʻole iā ʻoe ma ke ʻano he makua (ʻanuʻu) ia, e kūʻē wale nō ia iā ʻoe. No ka maikaʻi o ke keiki, ʻoiaʻiʻo, akā ʻaʻole ka ʻohana ma ke ʻano holoʻokoʻa. E hana wale ia i ka inaina ma waena ou a me ke keiki a hiki i ka hakakā me kāu hoa hou.
Noho pū i ka manawa he nui
E lilo ana ʻo Honeymoon kau ʻāpana 2 me nā keiki. Maikaʻi inā hiki i ka wahine ke ʻimi i kahi ala e noho hoʻokahi ai. Akā ʻo ka wā hou e pili ana me ka ʻohana holoʻokoʻa. ʻO nā mea āu e hana ai, mai hoʻouna aku i nā keiki i ka hoʻomaka o ka male ʻana i hiki ai iā ʻoe ke noho me kāu wahine hou.
Inā ʻaʻole inaina kāu poʻe keiki i ko lākou mau mākua ola, e inaina lākou i ka makua hānau hou inā hoʻouna ʻia lākou i kahi manawa. Lili pū nā keiki.
No laila e hoʻomaka i nā kuʻuna ʻohana hou, e hana i nā hanana i hiki i nā mea āpau ke hoʻopaʻa (hana mau ka meaʻai). E mōhai wale ana kēlā me kēia a e noho pū me nā manawa he nui. E pipiʻi ia, akā ʻo ia ke kumu kālā.
E hele i nā wahi a ke keiki e makemake ai, e like ia me ka pili o ka chaperone, me ka makua makua ʻo ia ka huila ʻekolu.
ʻAʻohe mea hūnā i ka hauʻoli o ka male lua me nā keiki. Ua like ke ʻano me ka male mua.
Pono nā ʻohana e aloha a launa pū kekahi me kekahi. I ka hihia o ka male ʻana i loko o kahi ʻohana i hui ʻia, aia wale kahi ʻanuʻu hou o ka hānai ʻana i kahi ʻohana ma mua.