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- Nā kumu no ka hūnā ʻana i kahi pilina pilina
- 1. Ke aloha aloha nei i kou haku
- 2. Ke aloha aloha nei me ka ex o kahi mea kokoke iā ʻoe
- 3. Ke aloha aloha nei i kahi kāne male
- 4. Loaʻa nā pilikia i ka hōʻike ʻana i kāu moekolohe
- 5. Ke aloha aloha ʻole i kekahi me ka makemake ʻole o kou makua
- Pilikino a pilina pilina
- Pehea e hūnā ai i kahi pilina pilina - Hiki iā ʻoe ke hana?
- Nā mea e noʻonoʻo ai inā he pilina pilikino kāu
Maikaʻi wale ka noho ʻana i loko o kahi pilina a ʻoiaʻiʻo hiki iā ia ke lawe i ka hauʻoli i ke ola o kekahi akā pehea inā ʻoi aku ka paʻakikī o kāu kūlana pilina ma mua o nā mea maʻamau a mākou e ʻike nei. Ua noʻonoʻo paha ʻoe iā ʻoe iho me ka pili pilikino? Inā pēlā, manaʻo ʻoe he pīhoihoi a leʻaleʻa a noʻonoʻo paha ʻoe iā ia he ʻeha a hewa paha?
Hūnā ka poʻe i kā lākou pilina no nā ʻano kumu like ʻole - kūpono a ʻaʻole paha, he mea kēia a nā poʻe e kamaʻilio ʻole pinepine ai, no laila e hele a ʻeli hohonu i ka honua o ke aloha a me nā mea huna.
Nā kumu no ka hūnā ʻana i kahi pilina pilina
Ke komo ʻoe i loko o kahi pilina, ʻaʻole hoihoi ia? Makemake wale ʻoe e kau ma kāu moʻokāki kaiapili a hoʻomaopopo i nā poʻe āpau ua hui hope ʻoe me "ka mea" akā inā ʻaʻole hiki? He aha inā ʻoe e komo i loko o kahi pilina kahi e pono ai e hūnā iā ia a kokoke i nā poʻe āpau - he aha kēia e ʻike ai iā ʻoe?
Hiki i kekahi mau kumu no ka hūnā ʻana i kahi pilina pilina - e noʻonoʻo iā ʻoukou iho ma ke ʻano Romero a me Juliet i kēia manawa. Eia kekahi o nā kumu maʻamau i lilo ai kāu "kā mākou pilina" i "ko mākou pilina malū".
1. Ke aloha aloha nei i kou haku
Inā ʻoe e aloha i kou haku a i ʻole kou luna koke a ʻike ʻolua i nā hopena o kēia aloha - a laila pono ʻoe e manaʻo e hūnā kāu pilina mai nā mea ʻē aʻe - ma o ka pāpili kaiaulu.
2. Ke aloha aloha nei me ka ex o kahi mea kokoke iā ʻoe
He aha inā e ʻike ʻoe iā ʻoe e hāʻule ana no ka ex-kāne a i ʻole ex-boyfriend o kāu hoa aloha, kaikuahine a i ʻole kekahi mea kokoke iā ʻoe? ʻOiai ke hoʻokuʻu ʻia mākou, aia nō kekahi mau hanana i maopopo ʻole i kekahi poʻe. ʻO ka launa pū ʻana me kāu kāne o kāu hoaaloha ʻoi aku ka mea e hana maikaʻi ʻole ai ka hapa nui o nā kānaka, no laila ke manaʻo nui ʻia nei kahi pilina malū.
3. Ke aloha aloha nei i kahi kāne male
Hana ʻia kahi pilina malū ke ʻike ʻoe i kou aloha me kekahi mea i male ʻia. Minamina akāʻoiaʻiʻo - nui nā hihia e like me kēia. ʻO ka pilina ma kahi a ka mea āu i aloha ai i male ai ʻaʻole wale ia he lawehala akā kūʻē i ke kānāwai. No laila, inā ʻoe e nīnau "hewa paha kahi pilina huna?" a laila ʻae ka pane no kēia mea.
4. Loaʻa nā pilikia i ka hōʻike ʻana i kāu moekolohe
ʻO kekahi kumu i pili ka pilina o ka poʻe ma muli o ke kū ʻana o ka nohona a me nā manaʻoʻiʻo. ʻO ka mea kaumaha, loaʻa nō kēia pilikia i nā lālā LGBTQ a ʻo kekahi e koho e loaʻa kahi pilina huna ma mua o ke alo o ka noʻonoʻo hoʻokolokolo o ka poʻe.
5. Ke aloha aloha ʻole i kekahi me ka makemake ʻole o kou makua
ʻO kekahi mea ke hoʻohiki ʻoe i kou mau mākua e loaʻa iā ʻoe kahi hana maikaʻi a loaʻa kahi wā maikaʻi akā e pau ana ʻoe i ke aloha - ʻoi aku ka hapanui o nā ʻōpio ʻōpio e hūnā i kahi pilina ma mua o ka hoʻohoka ʻana i ko lākou mau mākua.
Pilikino a pilina pilina
Ua lohe mākou e pili ana i nā pilikino pili pilikino pilikino malū akā pehea mākou e ʻike ai iā ia? ʻĀ, maʻalahi kēia mea.
ʻO nā kāne e makemake e mālama i kā lāua pilina pilikino ʻaʻole pilikia e ʻike ʻia a e hōʻike ana paha i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe he kāne lāua ʻoiai he pilina huna ka mea i hūnā ʻia no nā poʻe āpau.
Makemake paha kahi kāne a koho e mālama i kā lāua pilina pilikino a pale i ka lilo ʻana i hōkū ma kāu moʻokāki pāpili, ʻaʻole ʻae ʻia kahi kāne e hūnā i kā lāua pilina e ʻike pū ʻia e ko lāua ʻohana.
Pehea e hūnā ai i kahi pilina pilina - Hiki iā ʻoe ke hana?
ʻAʻole he hoʻomakeʻaka ka hūnā ʻana i kahi pilina pilikino. He paʻakikī a hiki i kekahi manawa ke ʻeha. No kekahi, pīhoihoi paha ia i ka wā mua akā i ka hala ʻana o ka manawa, luhi ka hūnā. Lilo ka wahaheʻe a me nā kumu i ʻano maʻamau a makemake paha ʻoe e nīnau inā he pilina maoli kēia.
Makemake ka hapa nui e loaʻa kahi manaʻo pehea e hūnā ai i kahi pilina pili, a eia kekahi mau mea e hoʻomanaʻo ai.
- Ke noho ʻoe me kekahi mau hoaaloha, ʻohana a mea hana paha, e ʻike ʻole ʻaʻohe aloha a pilina paha ma waena o ʻolua inā ʻo kēia pili huna e pili ana i ka hana.
- E hōʻoluʻolu me kāu kamaʻilio a mai hoʻokuʻu i nā manaʻo e hōʻike i kou ʻano maoli.
- ʻAʻohe kiʻi a me nā pou. Noho kaawale mai kāu hana maʻamau maʻamau kaiaulu. No ka nui o kou makemake e hoʻomaopopo i ka honua - e mālama iā ʻoe iho.
- Mai hele pū i waho. ʻO kēia wale nō kahi ʻāpana kaumaha loa ke ʻike ʻoe ʻaʻohe ou kūʻokoʻa e like me nā kāne ʻē aʻe. ʻAʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻopaʻa puke i kahi hale ʻaina maikaʻi; ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke hele pū i nā hanana a ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻolilo i kahi manawa hoʻokahi a ʻike ʻia i loko o kahi kaʻa pū. Paʻakikī? ʻOiaʻiʻo!
- ʻO ka pilina huna pū ka hiki ʻole ke hōʻike i kou mau manaʻo. He aha inā e pīpī kekahi me kāu hoa akā akā ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke hōʻike i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe a pau, pono ʻoe e kaohi iā ʻoe iho mai ka huhū ʻana - paʻakikī!
Nā mea e noʻonoʻo ai inā he pilina pilikino kāu
Inā ʻoe e ʻike iā ʻoe iho ma kahi e makemake ai kāu ipo a kāne paha e hūnā i ka pilina a laila hiki paha i ka manawa e noʻonoʻo ai. ʻO ka mea mua, e kālailai i ke kūlana inā kūpono a ʻaʻole paha, inā he lawehala a inā he paʻakikī iki paha ke kūlana. Kaupaona i kāu mau koho - inā manaʻo ʻoe hiki iā ʻoe ke hana i nā mea i hiki i nā mea āpau ke ʻike he aloha ʻoe a laila e hana.
ʻO kekahi mea e noʻonoʻo ai i ka loaʻa ʻana o kahi pilina huna e noʻonoʻo nui e pili ana i nā hopena, nā kumu a me ka hōʻoia o kēia koho.
E like me kekahi o nā s'ōlelo nā pilina ecret,
"Inā he mea hūnā kahi pilina, ʻaʻole pono ʻoe e pili iā ia".
E nīnau iā ʻoe iho, no ke aha e hūnā nei ia? Kūpono paha nā kumu? Inā pēlā, ʻaʻole anei e hoʻoponopono hou kekahi o nā hoʻoponopono? E noʻonoʻo a kālailai i kou kūlana. E loaʻa i kahi leo a hoʻomaopopo i kāu pakanā i kou manaʻo. ʻAʻohe mea hewa me ka pilina huna akā ʻaʻole mākou makemake e lilo ia i ʻano pilina e loaʻa iā mākou no nā makahiki e hiki mai ana.