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- 1. makaʻu wau i ka mea e hiki ke hana inā haʻalele wau.
- 2. "ʻAʻole maikaʻi ʻole ia."
- 3. "E noho pū kāua no nā keiki."
- 4. "ʻAʻole loa wau e hana kālā inā haʻalele wau."
- 5. Ke lana mau nei ka manaʻo e hoʻomaikaʻi ʻia nā mea. ”
- 6. "ʻAʻole hiki iaʻu ke alo i ka stigma o ka hemo ʻana."
- 7. "He nui kaʻu mau mea e lilo."
E like me ka hoʻoholo ʻana i ka male ʻana he ʻanuʻu nui ia, no laila ke hoʻoholo nei e hoʻopau iā ia. ʻOiai inā ʻaʻole holo pono nā mea e like me kāu i manaʻo ai a moemoeā ai lākou, ʻaʻole ia he mea maʻalahi ke haki a haʻalele.
No laila he aha ka hana e noho ka poʻe a mālama noho i kahi pilina hauʻoli aiʻole e noho mau i kahi male hauʻoli ʻole.
Hiki i nā mea āpau a puni ka wahine ke ʻike i ka noho mau ʻana o ka wahine ma kahi pilina ʻoluʻolu ʻole, akā pinepine ka hiki i ka pālua ke hoʻomalu e ʻike i nā kumu āpau e noho ai, a i ʻole nā kumu no ka haʻalele ʻole i kahi pilina hauʻoli.
E kūkākūkā kēia ʻatikala i nā kumu ʻehiku e noho pū ai nā kāne ʻoliʻoli a no ke aha e noho ai ka poʻe i ka male hauʻoli ʻole.
Inā ʻoe i loko o kahi pilina leʻaleʻa, ʻike paha ʻoe i kekahi o kēia mau mea, a malia paha e lawe mai kēia iā ʻoe i kahi akāka e pili ana inā he pilina maikaʻi ʻole paha ka noho ʻana a inā paha e hoʻomaikaʻi ʻia nā mea i ka manawa a ʻaʻole paha.
1. makaʻu wau i ka mea e hiki ke hana inā haʻalele wau.
ʻO ke kumu mua e noho ai nā kāne i ka male hauʻoli ʻole ʻo "Makaʻu".
ʻO ka makaʻu maʻamau a maʻalahi paha ke kumu helu ʻekahi e paʻa i ka poʻe. He manaʻo maoli a kūpono kēia, keu hoʻi i ka makaʻu i ka ʻike ʻole ʻia. Inā waiho ʻole ʻia, hiki i ka makaʻu ke ulu ma ka helu exponential.
No ka poʻe i loko o nā pilina hōʻino, ʻike nui ʻia hiki i kahi wahine huhū ke hoʻopaʻi, a hiki ke uku ʻia i ka wahine i pakele i ko lākou ola. No laila ʻike lākou iā lākou iho i kahi kūlana ma hea lākou i ka male hauʻoli ʻole akā ʻaʻole hiki ke haʻalele
E loaʻa mau kahi mea o ka makaʻu ke hoʻopau ʻoe i kahi pilina, me ka nānā ʻole i ke ʻano hauʻoli ʻole. No laila ʻaʻole ia he hoʻoholo e lawe māmā ʻia, akā e kaupaona pono i ka nānā ʻana i kāu mau koho.
E ʻike hoʻokahi i kāu mau makaʻu a hoʻāʻo e ʻae i ka makaʻu o ke komo ʻana i kahi pilina hauʻoli ʻole no ke koena o kou ola e hoʻokahuli i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe.
2. "ʻAʻole maikaʻi ʻole ia."
ʻO Denial kahi hana punahele inā makemake ʻoe e ʻike pehea e noho male ai ke hauʻoli ʻole ʻoe.
Inā kuhi wale ʻoe ʻaʻole maikaʻi loa, malia paha e ʻoi aku kou maikaʻi. A ma hope o nā mea āpau, loaʻa nā hakakā a kēlā me kēia pilina, no laila maʻamau paha kāu male ʻana a ʻaʻole like ʻoe me nā kāne ʻē aʻe hauʻoli ʻole?
Maliʻa paha ʻaʻole maoli ia 'ʻaʻole maikaʻi' i ia manawa hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻomau i ka hoʻomau. Akā maliʻa paha aia kahi leo iki i kahi hohonu i loko o loko, e hoʻoneʻe ʻia ana e lohe ʻia e like me ka ʻōlelo ʻana 'ʻAʻole paha kēia ke ala e manaʻo ʻia ai?'
Inā makemake ʻoe pēlā, hoʻomaka e hana i kahi noiʻi. E nīnau a puni me kāu mau hoaaloha a me kou mau hoaloha pehea kā lākou pilina.
E kahaha paha ʻoe i ka ʻike ʻana i kekahi o nā mea e hana nei i kāu male ʻana ʻaʻole loa "maʻamau," a ʻaʻohe mea e kahaha no ka hauʻoli ʻole.
3. "E noho pū kāua no nā keiki."
No ka maikaʻi o kou hoʻāʻo ʻana e hoʻonalonalo iā ia, e ʻike nō kāu poʻe keiki inā hauʻoli ʻole ʻoe ma ke ʻano he ʻelua. Pilikia loa a ʻike maka ʻia nā keiki, a me he mea lā he radar hoʻomohala nui ʻia no ka phoniness a me ka hoʻokamani.
Inā ʻoe e hoʻāʻo nei e aʻo iā lākou i ka "maikaʻi a me ka hauʻoli o ka male" ʻoiai ʻoe e noho nei, "ʻino wau me ka makua ʻē aʻe, a ke pili wale nei wau" mai manaʻo lākou e loaʻa ka ʻōlelo.
ʻAʻole lākou e kānalua e aʻo "ʻaʻole hauʻoli kēlā me kēia male, no laila hiki iaʻu ke haʻalele iaʻu iho i ka hopena like i kekahi lā."
E kaupaona pono inā pono ke olakino, hana, a me ke kālā i loaʻa i kāu mau keiki inā noho pū ʻoe ʻaʻole e hoʻonāwaliwali ʻia a hōʻeha ʻia paha e ka nele o ke aloha maoli a me ka lewa ʻenemi i kou home.
4. "ʻAʻole loa wau e hana kālā inā haʻalele wau."
ʻO ke kālā kekahi kumu nui e noho pū ai nā kāne ʻoliʻoli. Inā ʻoe e haʻalele, e hoʻohaʻahaʻa paha ʻoe i kou nohona, a ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke ʻoluʻolu i ke ʻano o ke ʻano āu i maʻa ai.
Malia paha ʻo kāu wahine ka mea hāʻawi kālā nui, a ʻo ka haʻalele ʻana he mea ia e komo hou ʻoe i ka mākeke hana ma hope o nā makahiki he nui o ka homemaking.
He mea weliweli maoli kēia i hiki ke hoʻomaopopo i ke kumu o ka kānalua nui. A i ʻole ke uku nei ʻoe i ka mālama a me ka ʻona mai ka hemo mua ʻana, a ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke uku i kahi puʻupuʻu ʻē aʻe i kau ʻia ma luna o kēlā.
He hopohopo maoli kēia e pono e noʻonoʻo pono.
5. Ke lana mau nei ka manaʻo e hoʻomaikaʻi ʻia nā mea. ”
Maikaʻi loa ka manaʻolana, a ʻo ia ka mea e mālama iā mākou e hele i nā pāhaʻi paʻakikī. Akā inā ʻoe e ʻoiaʻiʻo me ʻoe iho, hiki iā ʻoe ke ʻike i nā hōʻailona, ka liʻiliʻi naʻe, o kekahi mau hoʻololi maikaʻi i kāu pilina?
A i ʻole e hakakā pinepine ana paha ʻoe i nā hakakā kahiko? Ua ʻike paha ʻoe i kahi kākāʻōlelo a mea hoʻoponopono paha? A i ʻole hōʻole paha kāu wahine e hele no ke kōkua no ka mea ʻo ʻoe ka mea e pono ai e loli, ʻaʻole iā lākou?
He aha ka mea e lawe ai i lawe mai an hoʻomaikaʻi i kāu pili, a pehea ka lōʻihi e ʻae ai ʻoe e kali ʻoiai e noho ana i kahi pilina hauʻoli ʻole?
6. "ʻAʻole hiki iaʻu ke alo i ka stigma o ka hemo ʻana."
Inā hele mai ʻoe mai kahi conservative background kahi o ka huaʻōlelo 'wehe' he ʻaneʻane he hua ʻōlelo hoʻohiki, a laila ʻo ka manaʻo o ka hemo ʻana iā ʻoe iho e like paha me ka mea maikaʻi loa i hiki ke hana.
Ma kekahi ʻano hiki iā ʻoe ke noʻonoʻo i ka wā e hemo ai, puka mai kahi ʻulaʻula nui ʻulaʻula ma kou lae e hoʻolaha ana i ka honua holoʻokoʻa ua hāʻule kāu male.
ʻAʻole pololei kēia, a mahalo nō i kēia mau lā, ka Ke mae wikiwiki nei ka stigma o ka hemo.
ʻOiaʻiʻo, he mea hoʻohaʻahaʻa loa ka haʻalele ʻana, akā ke ʻike ʻoe e hana ana ʻoe ia mea iā ʻoe, a laila ʻaʻole ia he mea nui i ka manaʻo a haʻi aʻe paha.
7. "He nui kaʻu mau mea e lilo."
ʻO kēia paha ka nīnau laina lalo āu e pono ai e noho i kou manaʻo iho. E lawe i kahi pepa a kaha i kahi laina ma lalo.
I ke kolamu mua, e hana i kahi papa inoa o nā mea e nalowale inā haʻalele ʻoe, a i ka kolamu ʻelua, e papa inoa i nā mea e nalowale inā noho ʻoe. E nānā pono i nā kolamu ʻelua a hoʻoholo i ka ʻaoʻao kaupaona.
ʻAʻole pili ia i ka helu o nā huaʻōlelo a i ʻole nā komo. I ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, aia wale nō paha kahi komo i ka lua o ka kolamu e ʻōlelo nei 'koʻu noʻonoʻo.' Kaukaʻi ʻia i ke ʻano o nā ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo a ka unahi, pono ʻoe e hoʻoholo.
A laila e hele i mua me ka manaʻo paʻa a me ka hoʻoholo paʻa, a mai nānā i hope.