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- No ke aha e moekolohe ai me kāu wahine mua?
- A makaʻu ʻoe ʻaʻole ʻoe e moe hou
- Inā makemake ʻoe i ka moekolohe me kāu wahine ma mua
- ʻAʻole ia he manaʻo maikaʻi i ka moekolohe me kāu wahine ma mua
- E nīnau iā ʻoe iho no ke aha ʻoe e hoihoi ai i ka hoʻomau i ka pilina?
- No ke aha e wela ai ka moekolohe me kāu wahine ma mua
- E hōʻole ka hapa nui o nā loea iā ʻoe
Ua haʻalele ʻoe me kāu wahine ma mua. Hiki paha i kēia manawa. He mau makahiki paha i hala. Ke hele nei ʻolua i kahi kaʻina o ka manawa hoʻokahi. ʻAno hou ʻoe iā ia. A kānalua ʻoe ... e hāmama paha ʻo ia i nā hoa aloha me ke ʻano o nā pōmaikaʻi?
Hoʻomaka ʻoe e noʻonoʻo i ke kumu e holo ai kēia. Kamaʻāina pili ʻolua. ʻIke ʻoe i ka mea e hoʻohuli iā ia. Maikaʻi mau ʻoe ma kahi pae moekolohe. No laila, moekolohe me kāu ex. Kainō?
No ke aha e moekolohe ai me kāu wahine mua?
ʻAʻole nui ka noiʻi ma laila e kamaʻilio ana i ka moekolohe me kahi ex. ʻO ia paha no ka hapanui o ka poʻe e hoʻokomo i kēia hana i kahi hilahila. He mea huna huna ʻē ia ʻaʻole lākou e makemake e kaena i ka lehulehu. Ma hope o nā mea āpau, inā moe kolohe ʻoe me kāu ex, no ke aha ʻoe i haʻalele ai?
Akā ke kumu e hoʻokau i ka hapa nui o ka poʻe e moekolohe me kahi ex maʻalahi loa ia. Maopopo nō ʻoe kekahi i kekahi. ʻOiai ua haʻalele ʻoe i kēia manawa, ʻaʻohe ʻano o ke koʻikoʻi a me ka hakakā. ʻO nā mea a pau ma hope ou i kēia manawa. A kamaʻāina ʻo ia iā ʻoe.
ʻOiaʻiʻo, mai ka hemo ʻana ua mālama maikaʻi ʻo ia iā ia iho. ʻO nā lole keu i ka moekolohe. Loaʻa kahi lauoho lauoho hou. He aha kēlā mea ʻala maikaʻi e kau nei i kēia manawa?
A makaʻu ʻoe ʻaʻole ʻoe e moe hou
He makaʻu maʻamau ia no ka poʻe hemo hou ʻaʻole lākou e moekolohe hou. Ua lilo ka male male i ka uku no ko lākou manaʻo pilikino a ʻaʻole hiki iā lākou ke noʻonoʻo i kahi mea e ʻumeʻume ʻia iā lākou, ma ka liʻiliʻi ʻaʻole lawa ka hiamoe me lākou.
No laila ke ʻano o ka moekolohe me kāu ex ma ke ʻano he ala maikaʻi e hana mau ai i ka moekolohe, a me kahi mea ʻole makaʻu ʻole. ʻAʻohe hopohopo o nā maʻi ʻike ʻole, ʻaʻohe hopohopo o ka hāʻule ʻana o ke aloha me ka wikiwiki a hoʻokau paha iā ʻoe i ka pilina ke mākaukau ʻole ʻoe.
Maʻalahi ka moekolohe me kāu wahine ma mua. He wānana ʻia. ʻAʻohe hopohopo no ka ʻōlohelohe me kahi hoa hou a hopohopo e pili ana i kā lākou manaʻo e pili ana i kēlā ʻōpū pia pia. A ma ka liʻiliʻi he moekolohe kēlā!
Inā makemake ʻoe i ka moekolohe me kāu wahine ma mua
Aia kahi ʻimi noiʻi e hōʻike ana ʻaʻole pili ka hopena maikaʻi ʻole o ka moekolohe me kāu ex i ke kūlana psychological. "ʻO ka poʻe pining ma hope o kā lākou ex e makemake paha e ʻimi i ka moekolohe me lākou, a ʻaʻole hōʻike kēlā poʻe i ka huhū hou ma hope o ka ʻoiaʻiʻo. ʻoiaʻiʻo, ke kuʻikuʻi nei me kā lākou ex haʻalele iā lākou i ka manaʻo maikaʻi i kēlā me kēia lā ", i ʻōlelo ʻia e kekahi o nā noiʻi noiʻi alakaʻi, ʻo Kauka Stephanie Spielmann.
ʻAʻole ia he manaʻo maikaʻi i ka moekolohe me kāu wahine ma mua
ʻOiai manaʻo paha kekahi poʻe ʻaʻohe mea hewa i ka moekolohe ʻana me kāu wahine ma mua, ʻaʻole kēia he manaʻo ākea. ʻO ka hapanui o ka poʻe i moe kolohe me kahi ex, inā he mea hoʻokahi wale nō ia a i ʻole ke kūlana repetitive, loaʻa nā manaʻo ʻokoʻa e pili ana iā ia. Hiki iā ia ke ho'ōki iā ʻoe mai ka neʻe ʻana i mua a me ka loaʻa ʻana o kahi hoa hou i kūpono.
Hiki iā ia ke hoʻoulu i kekahi mau manaʻo i hoʻoholo ʻole e pili ana i ka hemo a me ke kumu o ia. ʻAʻole paha ma ka ʻaoʻao like kāu wahine ma mua e like me kāu e makemake ai mai ke kūlana. Ke moe kolohe nei ʻo ia me ʻoe no ka mea manaʻo ʻo ia e hui pū paha ʻoe?
E nīnau iā ʻoe iho no ke aha ʻoe e hoihoi ai i ka hoʻomau i ka pilina?
E nīnau iā ʻoe iho no ke aha ʻoe e hoihoi ai i ka hoʻomau ʻana i ka pilina, ʻoiai he moekolohe wale nō, me kāu wahine mua. A nīnau iā ia i ka nīnau like. Pono ʻoe ʻelua e hoʻopono i ka mea e makemake ai mai loko mai o kēia pili moekolohe. No ka hoʻokuʻu kino wale paha ia?
Ke lana nei paha kekahi o ʻolua e hoʻohina kēia i kahi manaʻo kahiko, e hoʻihoʻi paha iā ʻoe?
Inā he mau manaʻo aloha ko kekahi o ʻolua, ʻo ka moekolohe ka mea e hohonu ai kēlā mau mea, a hāʻawi paha i nā manaʻolana wahaheʻe ʻole i ka hoa e loaʻa ana ka pilikia e haʻalele i ka male.
E hoʻomaopopo pono iā ʻolua i ka maopopo pili e pili ana i ka mea a ʻolua e ʻimi nei mai kēia hoʻonohonoho.
No ke aha e wela ai ka moekolohe me kāu wahine ma mua
ʻO nā kāne e ʻae nei i ka moekolohe me kā lākou wahine mua, ʻōlelo lākou wela loa ka wahine. ʻO ka mea mua, aia ke kumu o ka mea i pāpā ʻia. ʻ sayslelo ʻo Society ʻaʻole ʻoe e moekolohe me kāu wahine ma mua, no laila ʻo ka ʻoiaʻiʻo ma laila ʻoe ma waena o nā pale me ia e hoʻonāukiuki ai i nā mea.
ʻO ka lua, ua hoʻokuʻu ʻoe i kāu male male i nā ukana a pau e kaupaona ʻia ana e ka male maikaʻi ʻole. No ka mea ʻaʻohe mea e huhū hou ana, hiki iā ʻoe ʻelua ke hihiu a pupule, e like me nā lā kahiko.
Makemake ʻoe e hoʻāʻo i kekahi kink hou? Me kahi ex, hiki iā ʻoe ke hele ma laila ... maopopo iā ʻoe kekahi i kekahi. No laila no nā kāne he nui, ʻoluʻolu loa ka moekolohe me ka wahine mua. ʻAʻohe mea kupanaha kahi noiʻi hou i paʻi ʻia ma ka Ka Nupepa o ka pilikanaka a me ka Psychology Haumana i loaʻa i ka 137 mau kāne makua i mare mua ʻia, ua moe ka hapaʻelima me kā lāua ex ma hope o ko lākou hemo ʻana.
E hōʻole ka hapa nui o nā loea iā ʻoe
ʻO ka limahana limahana lapaʻau laikini, ʻo Sherry Amatenstein, e ʻōlelo kūʻē i nā ʻano moe kolohe me kahi ex. Manaʻoʻiʻo ʻo ia ke alakaʻi wale nei ia i kahi ʻeha lōʻihi a kauō ʻia ma hope o ka haki a haʻalele paha.
No laila e noʻonoʻo e pili ana i ka manawa hou āu e ʻike ai i kāu wahine ma mua e nānā wela loa a hoʻowalewale. ʻOiai he moe maikaʻi ka moekolohe ʻana me ia, ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o kou neʻe ʻana a loaʻa kahi hoa hou. ʻOiaʻiʻo, like paha ka nui o ka hana, akā ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o kou olakino noʻonoʻo.