Ke koʻikoʻi o ke kūkākūkā ʻana i nā palena moekolohe me kāu wahine

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• Ke kuleana o nā palena moekolohe ma ka male
• Pehea e kamaʻilio ai e pili ana i kāu palena moekolohe me kāu wahine
• Pehea e ʻimi ai i kāu palena moekolohe me kāu hoa

ʻO nā palena he ʻāpana nui ia o kēlā me kēia pili aloha olakino, a ʻaʻole pono ia he mea nui ke pili aloha ʻoe. Hiki i nā kāne male ke hāʻule i loko o ka pahele o ka noʻonoʻo ʻike aunoa lākou i ka mea a haʻi ʻoluʻolu ʻole, ʻo ia hoʻi i ka lumi moe.

ʻO kāu wahine kāu kanaka i hana ai i ke koena o kou ola me, a ʻoi aku ka pili o lākou iā ʻoe ma mua o kekahi. ʻO kēia ka mea e pono mau ʻoe e kamaʻilio e pili ana i ka mea āu i maikaʻi ai ma lalo o nā uhi, ʻoiai inā e moekolohe ana ʻoe no nā makahiki i kēia manawa. No laila inā ʻoe e haʻohaʻo nei pehea e kamaʻilio ai i ka moekolohe ma ka male e hoʻonoho ai i nā palena a pehea e ʻimi ai i kāu palena moekolohe me kāu hoa, a laila heluhelu e ʻike ai.

Ke kuleana o nā palena moekolohe ma ka male

Ke hiki mai i ka pili aloha, ʻike mākou he mea nui nā palena e pale iā mākou, akā pehea ʻoe inā male ʻoe? Nui nā poʻe e hāʻule ma lalo o ka manaʻo ke kokoke ʻoe i kekahi, ʻo ka liʻiliʻi o kāu mau palena. Kuhi lākou i nā palena he ʻano palekana, a ʻaʻohe o lākou hopohopo iā lākou ke pili lākou me kekahi mea kokoke i ka wahine. E hoʻomanaʻo mau:

1. He mea nui nā palena a lawelawe mau lākou i kahi kuleana nui i kāu pilina.
2. He mea maikaʻi ke kau ʻana i nā palena moekolohe no kāu wahine ʻoiai e lilo ia i mea ʻoluʻolu no ʻolua mau mea me ka ʻole oops-i-ʻaʻole-makemake-i kēlā mau hanana e hana pinepine ʻia.
3. Kūkākūkā ākea i kāu mau makemake a me nā palena me kāu hoa e hoʻokokoke iā ʻoe, e hoʻohauʻoli ai iā ʻoe a ʻae iā ʻoe e noho hou i nā manawa pili.

He wai ka moekolohe, a hoʻololi nā pae hōʻoluʻolu o ka poʻe i ka hala o ka manawa. Hana paha ʻoe i kēia manawa i nā mea i loko o ka lumi moe āu e leʻaleʻa wale ai no ka mea makemake ʻoe e hauʻoli i kāu hoa. ʻOiai ʻaʻohe mea maikaʻi ʻole me kekahi hoʻokolohua, hōʻoluʻolu ʻole a koi ʻana iā ʻoe iho e hana i nā hana moekolohe ʻaʻole ʻoe he 100-pakeneka ma ka moku ʻaʻole ia he koi.

Pehea e kamaʻilio ai e pili ana i kāu palena moekolohe me kāu wahine

No laila he aha nā kī o ke kamaʻilio e pili ana i ka makemake moekolohe a me nā palena me kāu hoa? ʻĀ, ʻo ka male olakino ka mea e pili ana i ke kamaʻilio. ʻO kēia ke kamaʻilio ʻana e pili ana i nā kumuhana koʻikoʻi ākea a me ka ʻole o ka hoʻokolokolo. E hoʻomaopopo ʻoe i kāu hoa makemake ʻoe e kamaʻilio pū me lākou a ʻike i kahi wahi mālie me nā mea hoʻowalewale ʻole e hana pēlā. Mai kali a kokoke ʻoe e moekolohe e kamaʻilio e pili ana i nā palena. ʻO ke kamaʻilio ʻana e pili ana i ka moekolohe me kāu pakanā e lilo i mea maʻamau no ʻolua.

Ma kahi o, koho i kahi manawa kūpono a ʻolua e kūkākūkā ai i kou mau manaʻo. Hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻohana i kēia wā e noi ai i nā manaʻo hou. Ma mua o ke kī ʻana i kekahi mea i kāu hoa i ka wela o ka manawa, e kūkākūkā i nā mea hou āu e makemake ai e hoʻāʻo pū.

Hiki iā ʻoe ke paʻi i kou condom a hoʻāʻo i nā ʻano ʻokoʻa. E makemake paha ʻoe e hoʻāʻo i kahi kūlana hou a i ʻole e hoʻolauna i kekahi mau mea pāʻani wahine like ʻole. ʻO nā mea āu e makemake ai e hana (a ʻaʻole makemake ʻoe e hana), e ʻike pono i ʻike kāu pakanā i kēia ma mua o ka lawe ʻana o kekahi i ko lākou lole.

Pehea e ʻimi ai i kāu palena moekolohe me kāu hoa

E nīnau iā ʻoe iho i kāu mea makemake a makemake ʻole ai i ka lumi moe. He aha kekahi o kāu mau moe kolohe maikaʻi loa, a he aha ka mea i ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi? Hiki inā lākou me ka mea like. Aloha paha ʻoe i ka noho pū ʻana me kāu wahine, akā aia kekahi mau hanana i ka wā i hala i hōʻoluʻolu ʻole ʻoe i ka wā akā ʻaʻole ʻoe e kamaʻilio e pili ana.

E kuhikuhi a mōakāka hoʻi e pili ana i kāu makemake a me kāu makemake a hana ʻole paha. Inā hopohopo ʻoe no ka hōʻeha ʻana i ka manaʻo o kāu hoa, hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻāʻo e alakaʻi me kahi maikaʻi. ʻO kahi laʻana, "aloha au i kāu hana ʻana i kēia, akā ʻaʻole wau ʻoluʻolu ke hana ʻoe i kēlā."

E mahalo kāu wahine i kāu palena. ʻO ka huaʻōlelo mua mai loko mai o ko lākou waha ma hope o kou haʻi ʻana iā lākou i ka lula male ʻole, "No ke aha?" Inā pēlā, a laila loaʻa iā ʻoe kahi pilikia hohonu e pono e kamaʻilio ʻia. Kūkulu kahi ola olakino a me ke ola moekolohe ma ka mahalo, kahi e alakaʻi ai i ka palekana, ka hilinaʻi, a me ka pili aloha.