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- ʻAʻole kūpono nā pilina Codependent no kekahi
- 1. He makemake nui kou e makemake e 'hoʻoponopono' i kāu pakanā
- 2. Hoʻomaka ʻoe e hoʻopiha i nā āpau i ka huki ʻana o kāu hoa
- 3. Mohai aku ʻoe a lilo kou mau palena āpau
- 4. Pono ʻoe e noi i ka ʻae no ka ʻaneʻane o kēlā me kēia mea liʻiliʻi
He mea nani ke aloha. ʻOluʻolu a scintillating keu ke hui pū nā kānaka ʻelua i aloha maoli kekahi i kekahi i kahi hui. Eia nō naʻe, aia kekahi mau manawa ke hōʻino ʻia kēia aloha a luku ʻia e nā koi e hiki ʻole ke hiki.
E noʻonoʻo i kahi hihia o ʻelua mau kānaka me nā ʻano pilikino pono ʻole e hana i kahi male. ʻO ka mea e hele mai i ka manaʻo he chaos paha. Akā, ʻaʻole paha he haunaele kūpono. A pēlā e hoʻolauna ʻia ai nā pilina codependent.
ʻO ka mea e hana ana i ka codependency kahi hihia a hoʻokahi a i ʻole hoa e mōhai ana i nā mea hou aʻe no ka mea e pono ai ka pilina ma mua o ka mea ʻē aʻe.
A, i ka hapanui o nā hihia me nā pilina aloha, koi kekahi hoa i ka nānā nui a me ke kākoʻo psychological, kahi i hui pū ʻia me kahi maʻi e kū nei a i ʻole nā mea hōʻalo e hoʻoulu ana i ka hilinaʻi.
ʻAʻole kūpono nā pilina Codependent no kekahi
Hele nā kāne i loko ona no ka mea hoʻokahi a ʻelua paha i loaʻa kahi ʻano pilikino pono ʻole i ka hopena e hōʻino loa i nā ola ʻelua.
ʻO kahi laʻana maʻamau o ka pilina codependent ka hihia o ka poʻe i pili me nā narcissists. E hoʻokahe ka poʻe like iā lākou iho e hāʻawi a hāʻawi ana, ka mea oʻo ʻole i ka ʻoluʻolu no ka mea ʻo ka hoa ʻē aʻe e neʻe mau ana i nā pou pahuhopu a hana i nā koi kūpono ʻole.
ʻO ka hopena hopena ka mea i hōʻā ʻia ua pau i ke ahi.
Hāʻawi kahi pilina olakino i kahi hihia kahi ke kaulike ma waena o ka hiki o ke kūʻokoʻa o kēlā me kēia hoa a pono no ke kōkua pū.
ʻO ka manawa e kāhili ʻia ai ke kaulike, huikau nā mea. No laila, he aha ka mea e hōʻike i ke ola o kahi pilina codependent?
Ma lalo iho kā mākou mau hōʻailona haʻi kiʻekiʻe 4 e ʻike ai ʻoe i ka codependency:
1. He makemake nui kou e makemake e 'hoʻoponopono' i kāu pakanā
ʻO ke ala wale nō e ʻike ai a hoʻāʻo ai inā pili kēia iā ʻoe e makaʻala no kēia mau mea:
- Hana ʻoe i nā mōhai āpau e kākoʻo i kāu hoa
- He manaʻo ikaika kou ua nalowale ʻoe iā ʻoe iho a pono i ka ʻae ʻia o kāu pakanā e manaʻo holoʻokoʻa.
Ke ʻike ʻoe i ka mea i luna e lilo i kou ola i kēlā me kēia lā, pono ia e kani i ka bele i kou noʻonoʻo e pili ana i ka codependency.
Kūleʻa nā pilina olakino i ka hilinaʻi, ka mahalo a me ka ʻoiaʻiʻo ma waena o nā hoa i ka ʻuniona.
I kahi hihia codependent, he pilikino a i ʻole ʻelua paha nā pilikino e hoʻokau iā lākou e lilo i poʻe ʻoluʻolu. Hoʻoliʻoli wale lākou i ke kōkua ʻana i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe a i kekahi manawa i ka hoʻonani ʻana i nā manaʻo hiki iā lākou ke hoʻoponopono i kekahi.
E hoʻokuʻi ʻo Codependance i kekahi i nā palena o ka hiki ʻole ke mālama iā lākou iho a ma kahi o ka mālama ʻana i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe, a i ʻole, e hōʻoia iā lākou e pili ana ko lākou pono iā lākou e pono ai.
2. Hoʻomaka ʻoe e hoʻopiha i nā āpau i ka huki ʻana o kāu hoa
Maʻalahi loa e wānana i ke ola o ka codependency i loko o kahi pilina ke ʻike ʻoe i kahi hoa e hoʻāʻo ana e lawe i ke kuleana e hoʻohui a hoʻomau i ka pili.
Hōʻike pinepine kēia iā ia iho ke huki a huki paha kekahi hoa i kona manawa, ka hana a me ka mālama e pono ai lākou e hāʻawi, e koi ana i ka hoa ʻē aʻe i ka mea i loaʻa i ka codependency e hele i kahi mile keu a hana ikaika loa e hoʻopiha i nā āpau i noho ka pilina.
I ka manawa koke, neʻe ka pilina i kahi ʻaoʻao maikaʻi ʻole ʻo ia ka hilinaʻi.
3. Mohai aku ʻoe a lilo kou mau palena āpau
Maikaʻi loa nā palena i nā āpau āpau o ke ola. Eia nō naʻe, i ke kanaka codependent, he ʻōlelo hemolele loa paha ia ʻaʻole hiki iā lākou ke ʻae.
ʻO kekahi ʻano maʻamau i waena o nā poʻe codependent ka palena ʻole o lākou.
Pili nui lākou a kuleana hoʻi i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe. Hiki i kēlā poʻe ke kau i ka helehelena ikaika, akā ʻo ka pilikia o ko lākou nele i nā palena. Hoʻolei lākou i nā mea āpau e pili ana iā lākou a hoʻokomo i ke kāmaʻa o haʻi.
Maikaʻi lākou i ka hoʻowahāwahā ʻia no ka mea mahalo lākou i ka moʻolelo o haʻi ma mua o kā lākou papa a mākaukau e haʻalele i nā palena āpau. ʻAʻohe palena o ka poʻe Codependent a i ʻole naʻaupō e pili ana i ka pono o nā palena paʻa a hiki i ka poʻe a lākou e mālama nui ai.
Inā ʻike ʻoe iā ʻoe iho i loko o kēia ʻeke, ʻoiaʻiʻo nō ʻoe i ka pahele codependency.
4. Pono ʻoe e noi i ka ʻae no ka ʻaneʻane o kēlā me kēia mea liʻiliʻi
Wahi a Catenya McHenry, mea kākau o “Ua male ʻia i kahi Narcissist,” ke noi mau nei no ka ʻae a ʻae paha mai kāu hoa pili e hana i nā mea maʻamau o kēlā me kēia lā a me ka manaʻo ikaika ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke hana i kahi hoʻoholo maʻalahi me ka nīnau ʻole ʻana me kāu hoa, hōʻike i nā hōʻailona hōʻoiaʻiʻo o ka hilinaʻi.
ʻO kahi ala e loiloi ai iā ʻoe iho e nānā i kāu pae hilinaʻi ma mua a ma hope o ka hoʻomaka ʻana o ka hui. Inā kūlike ʻole a ʻike ʻoe ua piha ʻoe i nā kānalua e pili ana iā ʻoe iho, waiwai pono ʻole a ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻoholo, aia kahi mea nui o ka pilina codependent i kāu male.
Eia kekahi, inā ma hope o ka haki ʻana me kahi hoa kaohi ke manaʻo nei ʻoe a manaʻo ʻoe he pono ia iā lākou, a laila aia ʻoe i ka codependency.
Papa inoa bonus
ʻO nā mea i luna nā hōʻailona ikaika o ka codependency.
Eia nō naʻe, hōʻike ka codependency iā ia iho i nā ʻano like ʻole i ʻike ʻole ai kekahi poʻe ke noho lākou i hoʻokahi. Ma lalo iho nei kahi papa inoa pōkole hou o nā mokuʻāina e pono e kuhikuhi iā ʻoe e pili ana i kahi pilina codependent.
- Manaʻo ʻoe ʻaʻohe ou ola kūʻokoʻa
- Ua lilo ʻoe i ka launa me kou ʻohana a i ʻole ka poʻe i koʻikoʻi nui iā ʻoe ma mua a neʻe ʻole i kahi wā lōʻihi
- Ke ʻimi mau nei ʻoe i ka hōʻoia ma luna o kēlā me kēia ʻano liʻiliʻi e pili ana iā ʻoe mai kāu hoa
- He mau ʻano maikaʻi ʻole kāu hoa, a hui pū ʻoe me lākou a hoʻokipa paha iā ia no nā kumu ponoʻī
He kūlana weliweli ʻo Codependency a ʻaʻole ia e paipai ʻia no kekahi. ʻO ka haki ʻana iā ia ka mea e ʻike mua ʻoe pehea e ʻike ai. ʻO kahi ma luna kahi maikaʻi loa e hoʻomaka i ka loiloi i kāu pilina.
Adios a me nā pilina hauʻoli.