Anter
- 1. Hoʻohui ʻoe, pili i ka naʻau, noʻonoʻo, a me ke kino
- 2. He ʻike like kāu no kou wā e hiki mai ana
- 3. ʻAʻole ʻoe paʻa i nā huhū
- 4. ʻIke kou mau hoaaloha a me kou ʻohana i ka mea āu e ʻike nei
- 5. Hoʻoikaika nui ʻoe i kekahi i kekahi e lilo i ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi
- 6. Hiki iā ʻolua ke lilo i ʻolua ponoʻī
- 7. Maopopo wale iā ʻoe
Makemake nā kānaka āpau e ʻike i ke kanaka kūpono e kaʻana like i ko lākou mau makemake hohonu, nā moeʻuhane nui, a me nā mea huna pouli me. Hāʻawi ka male iā ʻoe i kahi ʻano o ka palekana a me ka hōʻoiaʻiʻo ʻana e ka loaʻa ʻana o kāu hoa aloha ma kou ʻaoʻao.
Akā pehea ʻoe e ʻike ai inā lākou ʻo “The One”? Pehea ʻoe e ʻike ai inā ʻoe me ke kanaka kūpono?
Ma mua o kou hoʻopaʻa ʻana i ka male, pono ia e hoʻolohe iā ʻoe iho, hilinaʻi i kou ʻōpū, a kaʻana like i kou mau manaʻo me nā hoaaloha, ʻohana, nā kumu aʻo pilina, a me nā kumuwaiwai hilinaʻi ʻē aʻe o ke alakaʻi.
ʻAʻole maʻalahi ka male, akā eia nā ala ʻehiku e hoʻoholo ai inā ʻo ke kanaka āu e hoʻomaka nei i kēia huakaʻi me ke kanaka kūpono iā ʻoe.
E hōʻoia no kēia mau hōʻailona e ʻike inā ʻo kāu hoa ʻo kāu hoʻokūkū kūpono loa.
1. Hoʻohui ʻoe, pili i ka naʻau, noʻonoʻo, a me ke kino
ʻO ka hoʻomaopopo ʻana i nā ʻano o kekahi i kēlā me kēia kūlana a me ka pane kūpono ʻana he kī i ka kūleʻa. Ke huhū ʻoe, ʻike lākou i ka leʻaleʻa iā ʻoe. Ke kaumaha ʻoe, ʻike lākou i ka hoʻoluʻu i kou hopohopo a ʻo ka hope.
Ke hele pū ʻoe me ke kanaka kūpono, e hāʻule ʻolua i ka laina me nā ʻano o kekahi, a me nā quirks. ʻO kekahi o nā hōʻailona ʻo ia ka mea e hele mai ke loaʻa iā ʻoe ka ʻoluʻolu a puni lākou. ʻO kahi laʻana, e hoʻokuʻu ʻoe i nā pilikia o ke kino inā loaʻa iā ʻoe. E like me kou ʻae ʻana iā lākou, e hoʻomaka nō ʻoe e ʻae iā ʻoe iho.
2. He ʻike like kāu no kou wā e hiki mai ana
ʻAʻole hiki i kahi male ke kūleʻa ke ʻole ʻoe e ʻae i kahi āu e makemake ai e noho pū i ke koena o kou ola a hoʻomaopopo i ka manaʻo o ka male. ʻO ke kamaʻilio ʻana i kāu ʻike a me nā pahu hopu no ka wā e hiki mai ana i ka pili a me ka ʻike maka ʻana e pili ana i nā keiki, ka wahi, a me ke kaulike hana-ola he mea nui.
Inā ʻike ʻoe aia ʻoe me ka mea kūpono, hiki iā ʻoe ke kaulike i kāu mau hihiʻo ma ke ʻano he kanaka a pili i nā pilina a hoʻohui iā lākou ma ke ʻano he kāne male. E kōkua pū kēia iā ʻoe e ʻike maikaʻi ai i kāu wahine.
3. ʻAʻole ʻoe paʻa i nā huhū
Ke hoʻopaʻapaʻa ʻoe me kāu mea nui ʻē aʻe, kamaʻilio ʻoe i kou mau manaʻo, hoʻolōʻihi i ka manawa e hoʻomaha ai, a neʻe maoli nō, me ka waiho ʻana i ka ʻaelike ʻole i ka wā i hala. ʻAʻole hiki ke holomua i ka pilina inā ʻaʻole ʻelua a ʻelua paha e hoʻopaʻa i nā naʻau koena.
No laila, ʻaʻole hoʻopau nā hoʻopaʻapaʻa i kahi haʻihaʻi a i ʻole kumu i ka haunaele i ka pilina me ke kanaka kūpono. E hele ʻolua i mua e hoʻonā i ka pilikia a hoʻomaopopo i nā hopohopo o kāu pakanā.
4. ʻIke kou mau hoaaloha a me kou ʻohana i ka mea āu e ʻike nei
ʻIke lākou iā ʻoe ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi a hoʻopaʻa i kou mau pono ʻoi loa, no laila inā ʻaʻole lākou e launa me kāu hoa, he hae ʻulaʻula kaulana kēia. Inā ʻokoʻa ʻokoʻa ka mana āu o kāu hoa me ka ʻike ʻana o kāu poʻe aloha iā lākou, ʻo ka manawa kēia e nīnau ai no ke aha e hana nei.
Hiki i nā kānaka ke makapō e ke aloha a aniani i nā ʻōlinolino aniani i loko o kahi pilina ke ʻole lākou e hāmama i ka hoʻolohe ʻana i nā hopohopo o kā lākou mau hoa hilinaʻi.
No laila ke ʻike ʻoe i kahi, e kaʻanalike kou ʻohana a me nā hoaaloha i kahi pae nui o ka launa pū ʻana me kāu hoa, a ʻo ʻoe pū kekahi.
5. Hoʻoikaika nui ʻoe i kekahi i kekahi e lilo i ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi
Makemake ʻolua e ulu ma ke ʻano he kanaka a he pakanā a loaʻa i kāu leʻaleʻa me ʻoe i kēlā me kēia kaʻina o ke ala. ʻO ka hoʻopiʻi ʻana kekahi i kekahi ma mua o nā huaʻōlelo – nā hana e hōʻike iā ʻolua makemake e ʻike i ka hoʻomaikaʻi ʻana o kekahi i kekahi.
'O ka loaʻaʻana o ke kanaka kūpono maopopo iā' olua ka mana o kēlā me kēia a paipai pinepine kekahi i kekahi i mea maikaʻi. ʻO kahi luʻi olakino i ka pilina aia kahi kamaʻilio wehe a me nā nīnau e hana ʻia me ka ʻoiaʻiʻo.
He mea mau nō hoʻi ia - e paipai kāu hoa iā ʻoe i kēlā me kēia manawa ke hele ʻoe i kahi huakaʻi e hāʻawi i nā uku nui.
6. Hiki iā ʻolua ke lilo i ʻolua ponoʻī
Hele kēia me ka wehewehe ʻole, akā pono ke kanaka kūpono e aloha iā ʻoe no nā mea āpau āu. Ke loaʻa ʻoe i ka mea kūpono, ʻoluʻolu loa ʻoe e hōʻike i kou ʻano maoli, ʻano hoʻomākeʻaka, a me ke ʻano a puni lākou, a pono e manaʻo like kāu wahine me ʻoe.
I loko o ke wikiō ma lalo nei, kamaʻilio ka mea pili pilina ʻo Rachel DeAlto e pili ana pehea mākou e ʻaahu ai i nā mākaki. Hana kēia iā mākou i mediocre a kū iā mākou mai ka mana ʻoi loa o kā mākou iho. E hoʻolohe iā ia ma lalo:
7. Maopopo wale iā ʻoe
Pehea ʻoe e ʻike ai ua loaʻa iā ʻoe ia mea?
Inā ʻoe e nīnau ana i ka pilina a ke hoʻāʻo nei e hoʻoponopono i nā pilikia like hou, a laila hiki i ka manawa e komo hohonu ai i kāu male. ʻAʻole nā kānalua āpau nā kumu no ka launa ʻole piha, akā ʻike ʻoe i ka maikaʻi o kāu pili.
I kekahi manawa kaomi wale nā mea āpau me ke kanaka kūpono, a ʻike ʻoe i ka hohonu ʻo kēia ke kanaka āu e makemake ai e noho.
ʻO ka male kahi hui o nā kānaka ʻelua e hoʻolaʻa iā lākou iho i kekahi i kekahi no ke koena o ko lākou ola, akā hiki nō hoʻi ke lilo i mea paʻakikī ke hoʻokele. He mea maʻamau i kekahi manawa e nīnau inā ʻo ka mea āu e male ai a i male ʻia paha, ʻo ia ke kanaka āu e noho pū ai.
Hāʻawi ke aʻo aʻo pilina i kahi kumuwaiwai kūwaho o kahi kamaʻilio kahi e hiki ai iā ʻoe a me kāu wahine ke hōʻike i kou mau manaʻo i kahi huna
Inā holo ʻoe i loko o kēia papa inoa a ʻaʻole maopopo ʻole loa i kāu pakanā ʻo 'The One,' ʻo ka hana hou aʻe e kiʻi i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe no ke kōkua.