Anter
- 1. E hoʻomaka kāua me kahi mea hiki ke ʻike ʻia - nā kālā
- 2. Nā hopohopo no ka "lawa lawa" no ke keiki
- 3. ʻO ka nīnau o stigma
- 4. Ka maluhia mau a me ka manaʻo hewa
ʻOiai hele mai kahi makua hoʻokahi me nā pilikia he nui, e haʻalele kāua i ke ala. Akā, e kuhikuhi pū hoʻi mākou ʻo ka makua, ma ka laulā, he mea paʻakikī e hana. ʻO ka mea hauʻoli loa loa, akā paʻakikī.
ʻO kahi makua hoʻokahi (ʻo ka makuahine maʻamau, akā i ka 2013 he 17% o nā makuakāne hoʻokahi i ka US pū kekahi) kū i mua o nā pilikia hou aku - psychological, social, and economical. No laila, he aha ke ʻano o ka makua hoʻokahi, a pehea e ʻike ai i ke olakino a me ka ulu ʻana o nā mākua?
1. E hoʻomaka kāua me kahi mea hiki ke ʻike ʻia - nā kālā
ʻO ka hana makua ʻana kahi keiki he mea kumukūʻai nui, a ke hana nei iā ʻoe iho hiki ke aneane hiki ʻole ke huki. Nānā ʻole i ka nui o ke kālā e loaʻa iā ʻoe mai ka makua ʻē aʻe inā loaʻa, ʻo ʻoe ka mea mālama nui na ʻolua a me kāu mau keiki ke makaʻu loa.
ʻO ke kiʻi ʻana i ke kula ʻoi paha ke ala maikaʻi loa, akā ʻo ka loaʻa ʻana o kahi poʻo ʻoiai ke mālama nei i nā mea āpau āpau iā ʻoe iho i kekahi manawa ʻaʻole hiki ke hōʻoia. Hoʻopiʻi pinepine kēia makaʻu i nā mākua hoʻokahi i ka lawe ʻana i nā hana a lākou i hoʻonui ai i ka hana a hana pinepine i nā hola pupule.
ʻO kēlā kūlana, ʻoiai ʻaʻole hiki ke alo aʻe, hiki nō naʻe, ke lawe i kāna ʻano psychological.
Pilikia nā mākua. I nā manawa āpau. Inā he makua ʻoe, a laila ʻike ʻoe i ke koi ʻana i ka hana, a ehia mau mea āu e pono ai e juggle a noʻonoʻo e pili ana i kēlā me kēia ala ʻelua. A ʻaʻohe waiwai o ka makua hoʻokahi ke hoʻomaha iki. Inā lākou e hana, hāʻule paha i lalo. ʻAʻole paha heʻoiaʻiʻo maoli kēia, akā he aha ka mea maopopo e like kēlā me kēlā me kēia mākua.
ʻO ka hopena, ʻo lākou ka poʻe koʻikoʻi loa i ka honua holoʻokoʻa, ʻoiai ʻaʻole lākou e like me kēlā.
2. Nā hopohopo no ka "lawa lawa" no ke keiki
Hāʻawi ʻia lākou pono nā makuahine a me nā makuakāne, pono lākou e hana i nā aʻo āpau, ka pono e hana i nā pāʻani āpau. Eia kekahi, ʻoi aku ka makua ma mua o ka makua - pono mākou āpau e hoʻokō ʻia i kā mākou ʻoihana, e loaʻa kahi ola aloha a me kahi ola kaiaulu, a me nā mea āpau i loaʻa i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe.
3. ʻO ka nīnau o stigma
Heʻuʻuku a liʻiliʻi hoʻi i ka honua Komohana hou no kahi makua hoʻokahi (kahi makuahine, ʻaneʻane wale nō), e hoʻokolokolo ʻia no ko lākou kūlana, akā hiki i kahi makua hoʻokahi ke ʻae i ka hōʻole ma ʻō a ma ʻaneʻi. E like me ka lawa ʻole o ka hana pū ʻana me nā hana āpau a me nā ʻehaʻeha o ka makua hoʻokahi, kokoke i kēlā me kēia makuahine i hālāwai me ka noʻonoʻo i ka manawa hoʻokahi i kona ola.
ʻO ka makuahine hoʻokahi ke hele mai me kahi stigma o ka moekolohe a hāpai paha i waho o ka male, a wahine ʻino paha a haʻalele i ka hemo. A ʻo ka hana ʻana me kēlā prejudice hiki ke hoʻohoka loa i ke ola o kekahi lā.
No laila, ʻae, paʻakikī ka makua hoʻokahi ma nā ʻano he nui.
4. Ka maluhia mau a me ka manaʻo hewa
Aia ka makaʻu hilahila ʻole e pili ana i kāu mau keiki i ka ulu ʻole ʻana i kahi ʻohana piha. Akā, ke noʻonoʻo ʻoe e pili ana i kēia mau pilikia a pau, e hoʻomanaʻo no ka keiki ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ka ulu ʻana me hoʻokahi makua aloha a mehana hoʻi ma mua o ka ulu ʻana i loko o kahi ʻohana piha kahi e hakakā mau ai ka inaina, a ʻo ka huhū hoʻi. .
ʻO ka mea nui i ke keiki e ulu a makua me ka ʻoluʻolu a aloha hoʻi.
He makua nāna e hāʻawi i ke kākoʻo a me ke aloha. ʻO wai ka hāmama a ʻoiaʻiʻo. A ʻaʻole kumu kūʻai kēia mau mea a ʻaʻole pili i kekahi akā ʻo ʻoe wale nō. No laila, i ka manawa aʻe e haʻalele ana ʻoe i kou noʻonoʻo e hoʻāʻo nei e hana i nā mea āpau, e ʻoki wale iā ʻoe iho i kahi palaualelo a hoʻomanaʻo - ʻo ka mea maoli a kāu keiki e pono ai ʻo kāu aloha a me kou ʻike.
No ka nui o ko mākou makemake e like ia me ka kaʻana like ʻana i ka ukana, ʻaʻole ia. Inā he makuahine ʻoe a makua kāne paha kāu o kahi keiki (a mau keiki paha) āu e hānai ai ma kāu iho no nā kumu āpau, he ala kūpikipiki ia i mua. Eia naʻe, e hōʻoluʻolu i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo he ala like loa ia no nā mākua e hana pū ana ia i kēlā me kēia lā no ka paʻakikī o ka makua. Pono ʻoe e hoʻoikaika i kahi hana hou aʻe, akā, e like me kā mākou i hōʻike aku ai iā ʻoe i loko o kēia ʻatikala, ʻo ia ka ʻike maikaʻi loa āu e loaʻa ai, kahi e hopena ai i lilo ʻoe a me kāu mau keiki i mea ʻoi loa i hiki.