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- ʻAʻole kū nei ka kamaʻilio maoli
- 1. E noʻonoʻo ma mua o kāu kamaʻilio ʻana
- 2. E hoʻomau i ke aloha i ka mua
- 3. Ke nīnau ʻoe pehea kāu lā hoa hele, e manaʻo
- 4. E haʻi i kahi mea maikaʻi i kekahi i kekahi i kēlā me kēia lā, unsolicited
- 5. E kamaʻilio e pili ana i ka mea a lākou e makaʻu ai, hopohopo a hopohopo paha
- 6. E nīnau inā hiki iā ʻoe ke kōkua
- 7. Hana i nā mea liʻiliʻi e ʻoluʻolu ai i kāu pakanā, noi ʻole ʻia
- 8. E kālai pū i ka manawa o kahi mau hoa e kūkākūkā i ka mea nui iā ʻolua
Hiki i nā kāne lōʻihi ke komo i kahi ʻano pōkole o ka kamaʻilio.
Hele pinepine nā kāne male mai ka hoʻopau ʻana i ka manaʻo a me ka ʻōlelo o kekahi me ka ʻūmau i ka hoʻopiha ʻana i nā hakahaka i ko lākou poʻo, me ka manaʻo ua ʻike lākou i ka mea a kā lākou hoa e ʻōlelo nei.
Hiki i kēia ke komo i loko o nā namunamu a me nā pane pōkole a i loko o nā manaʻo hewa inā ʻaʻole ʻoe e akahele.
Ke loaʻa nei ʻoe i kēia mau kamaʻilio ʻole ʻana e kāhea wale ana ʻoe i loko.
ʻAʻole kū nei ka kamaʻilio maoli
Ma hope a ma hope e hoʻomaka ʻoe e ʻike i ka nele o ka pili. Kū a noʻonoʻo e pili ana i kahi manawa.
I ka manawa hea kāu i kamaʻilio hope ai e pili ana i kahi mea hohonu a maoli? ʻO kāu kamaʻilio kūkā kamaʻilio ʻana i kēia mau lā ma mua pinepine ʻole a kaupalena ʻia i nā hana o kēlā me kēia lā, ka holo ʻana o ka ʻohana, a pēlā aku.
I ka manawa hea kāu i ʻōlelo hope ai me ke aloha i kāu hoa a kamaʻilio e pili ana i ka mea āu e noʻonoʻo nei a me kou ʻano? Inā he manawa ʻaʻole ia he hōʻailona maikaʻi.
Inā makemake ʻoe e like me ʻoe a me kāu hoa ʻaʻole kamaʻilio kūkākūkā a i ʻole aloha ʻole a lokomaikaʻi hoʻi kekahi i kekahi, maikaʻi nā manawa like me ka manaʻo o kāu hoa.
Ua "paʻa" paha ʻolua i kahi rut a i ʻole ka hana maʻamau i hoʻokaʻawale iā ʻoe me ka ʻike ʻole. ʻO kēlā nūhou maikaʻi ʻole. ʻO ka nūhou maikaʻi, hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻoponopono i kēia pilikia me nā loli liʻiliʻi i kāu hana pū ʻana me kāu hoa a ʻoi aku ke aloha, ka mālama ʻana a me ka hoʻokō ʻana o kā ʻolua kamaʻilio ʻana no ʻolua.
Eia kekahi mau ala maʻalahi e ʻoi aku ke aloha i kāu mau pilina
1. E noʻonoʻo ma mua o kāu kamaʻilio ʻana
Ma kahi o kāu pane maʻamau, kū a noʻonoʻo no kahi manawa a pane ʻoluʻolu.
Hiki iā mākou ke hōʻoki, pōkole, a hoʻokuʻu loa paha.
E ʻike pono i kāu pakanā he mea nui kā lākou e noi nei / haʻi iā ʻoe.
2. E hoʻomau i ke aloha i ka mua
E noʻonoʻo i kāu mea e ʻōlelo ai a pehea e manaʻo ai kāu pakanā e pili ana iā ia.
Palupalu i nā pane pane a maikaʻi iki.
ʻAʻole paʻakikī e hana a hana i kahi ʻokoʻa nui.
3. Ke nīnau ʻoe pehea kāu lā hoa hele, e manaʻo
Lawe i ka manawa e nānā iā lākou i ka maka a kali i kā lākou pane.
Mai pane, hoʻolohe wale.
He kī ʻoiaʻiʻo kēia i ke kamaʻilio maoli.
4. E haʻi i kahi mea maikaʻi i kekahi i kekahi i kēlā me kēia lā, unsolicited
ʻAʻole wau e kamaʻilio e pili ana i nā manaʻo superficial “maikaʻi kou nānā”; pono ʻoe e hana i kēlā.
E haʻi i kāu hoa i kahi mea maikaʻi i hiki iā lākou ke lawe pū me lākou i ko lākou lā.
E haʻi iā lākou haʻaheo i ka hana a lākou e hana ai, a i ʻole ke ʻano o kā lākou lawelawe ʻana i kahi kūlana paʻakikī me nā keiki. Hana i kahi ʻokoʻa i ka lā o kāu hoa ma ka hāpai ʻana iā lākou a me ka paipai ʻana iā lākou.
5. E kamaʻilio e pili ana i ka mea a lākou e makaʻu ai, hopohopo a hopohopo paha
ʻO ke kaʻana like ʻana i nā makaʻu a me / a i ʻole nā ukana kekahi ala e hoʻokokoke aku ai iā ʻoe.
6. E nīnau inā hiki iā ʻoe ke kōkua
Mai kuhi ka pono o kāu hoa iā ʻoe e hoʻoponopono i nā mea na lākou, pono i ka ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo a i ʻole kou manaʻo.
I kekahi manawa makemake wale lākou i kāu kākoʻo a hoʻoikaika. He kanaka hiki a piha i kēlā me kēia o ʻoukou.
Hōʻalo i ka pahele codependency ma o ka ʻae ʻana i kahi kūʻokoʻa i kekahi a me nā manaʻo a me nā hana a kēlā me kēia.
I kekahi manawa e pane ka pane "ʻaʻole, mai kōkua", e maikaʻi a mai hōʻeha.
7. Hana i nā mea liʻiliʻi e ʻoluʻolu ai i kāu pakanā, noi ʻole ʻia
Nā makana liʻiliʻi; kōkua me nā hana, kahi i noi ʻole ʻia no ka haki, kahi kīʻaha kope a i ʻole kahi pāʻina lawe.
E lawe mai i ka home ka meaʻono punahele a kāu hoa, ka waina a meaʻai māmā paha. E hoʻouna iā lākou i kahi leka o ke kākoʻo i kahi lā hana lōʻihi a i ʻole papahana. E kahaha nō ʻoe i ka hana ʻana o nā hana noʻonoʻo e lawe ai i ka hauʻoli i kāu hoa.
8. E kālai pū i ka manawa o kahi mau hoa e kūkākūkā i ka mea nui iā ʻolua
E kamaʻilio e pili ana i kāu mau manaʻolana, moeʻuhane, hoʻolālā a me nā hoʻolālā.
Loiloi hou pinepine no ka mea loli nā mea. E leʻaleʻa a leʻaleʻa wale i ka hui a kekahi a hoʻohana i kēlā manawa e hoʻohui a hōʻike i ke aloha i kekahi i kekahi.
Hiki ke paʻakikī ka haki ʻana i kahi rut a i ʻole ka hana maʻamau, a ʻaʻole maʻalahi mau.
E ahonui me kekahi me ʻoe iho no ka mea ʻike ʻole paha ʻoe e hoʻi i loko o kāu mau pane maʻamau. Kāhea aku kekahi i kekahi iā ia ke hana ʻoe, a hoʻomanaʻo mālie i kāu hoa e hana ana ʻoe ma ka hoʻololi ʻana i kēia ʻano maʻamau a kūkulu i nā ʻano hou.
ʻO kahi ala maikaʻi loa e lilo ai i hoa aloha ʻoi aku ka manaʻo i kāu wahine, he kamaʻilio maoli ʻoe e pili ana i kahi mea ʻoiaʻiʻo a hoʻolei i kahi ʻano a aloha i ka ʻōlelo i laila ma ke ʻano he hoʻomanaʻo.
E ʻike koke ʻoe i kahi loli i kāu mau pilina kahi e hiki ai iā ʻolua ke ʻano ʻoluʻolu a ʻoluʻolu kekahi i kekahi ma waho o ka maʻamau.
He maʻa maikaʻi kēlā i ka loaʻa!