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- He aha e kūkākūkā ai me kāu hoa pili mua
- Pehea e wehewehe ai i ka hoʻokaʻawale male i nā keiki
- Mālama i nā hana maʻamau
- E hoʻāʻo a e kīwila
- Mai koho i kāu mau keiki e koho
- Mai hoʻohana i kāu mau keiki ma ke ʻano he pawn
- E nānā pono i ka hana a kāu keiki
- E hoʻomaopopo i nā mākua ʻē aʻe
Nui nā hakakā ma ka hoʻokaʻawale male ma kāna iho me ka hopohopo ʻole pehea e wehewehe ai i kāu keiki. ʻO ka hoʻokaʻawale ʻana mai kāu hoa aku ʻaʻole ia he hoʻoholo maʻalahi e hoʻoholo ai, a ʻaʻole ia kahi hopena maʻa.
ʻOi aku ka paʻakikī o ka hoʻokaʻawale ʻana o ka male me nā keiki, ʻo ia ke kumu e aʻo ai i ke ala ʻoi loa e hoʻoponopono ai i ke kūlana a me ke ala maikaʻi e haʻi aku ai i kāu poʻe keiki i nā mea e hana nei.
ʻO ka hoʻokaʻawale male me nā keiki kahi hana ʻeha no ka ʻohana āpau i pili, akā ʻaʻole ia he manaʻo e noho ʻoe i kahi pilina olakino no kāu mau keiki wale nō. E noʻonoʻo paha ʻoe ma ka noho pū ʻana, e hoʻolako ana ʻoe i kāu keiki me kahi hale paʻa, akā ʻaʻole pēlā ka hihia.
E hōʻike paha ʻoe i kāu keiki i nā paio a me ka hauʻoli ʻole o ka palpable. Eia pehea e lawelawe ai i kahi kaʻawale male me nā keiki i pili.
He aha e kūkākūkā ai me kāu hoa pili mua
ʻO ka hoʻokaʻawale a me nā keiki kahi hui kaumaha.
No laila, ma mua o kou hele ʻana i mua me ka hoʻokaʻawale ʻana i ka male, e kūkākūkā me ka pololei me kāu ex e pili ana pehea ʻoe e makua ai ma hope o kou haʻalele ʻana. ʻO wai e loaʻa ke keiki, a i ka wā hea? Pehea ʻoe e noho like ai ma ke ʻano he makua me ka hoʻokaʻawale ʻana i ke aloha?
Pehea ʻoe e haʻi ai i kāu poʻe keiki ke kaʻawale nei ʻoiai e hōʻoia ana iā lākou he ʻohana nō ʻoe? ʻO kēia nā mea āpau āu e noʻonoʻo ai ma mua o ka haʻi ʻana i kāu poʻe keiki e pili ana i ka hoʻokaʻawale ʻana i kāu male.
Pehea e wehewehe ai i ka hoʻokaʻawale male i nā keiki
- E hoʻopono: Pono ia i e hāmama a pololei me kāu mau keiki ke haʻi aku ʻoe iā lākou ke kaʻawale nei. Akā, ʻaʻole ia he manaʻo e hoʻopiha ʻoe iā lākou i nā kikoʻī pilikino e pili ana i kāu pili. Inā ua hoʻopunipuni kekahi o ʻoukou, he kikoʻī kēia ʻaʻole e ʻike kā kāu keiki. Ma kahi o, e haʻi iā lākou ʻoiai ʻoe e aloha kekahi i kekahi me he mau mākua lā, ʻaʻole ʻoe i ke aloha a ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o kou ʻohana inā hoʻokaʻawale ʻia ʻoe no kekahi manawa iki.
- E hoʻohana i nā ʻōlelo kūpono i nā makahiki: Koi aku paha nā keiki makua i ka wehewehe hou aʻe no ka hoʻokaʻawale ʻana o kāu male ma ka hoʻohālikelike ʻana i nā keiki ʻōpio. E mālama pono i ko lākou mau makahiki i ka manawa ke hāʻawi nei ʻoe i nā kikoʻī.
- ʻAʻole kēia no lākou ka hewa: E akāka i ka pili ʻole o kāu kaʻawale male ʻana me kāu mau keiki. Hoʻopiʻi nā keiki iā lākou iho, e haʻohaʻo nei i ka mea hiki iā lākou ke hana ʻokoʻa e hauʻoli ai ʻoe ma ke ʻano he mau mākua a no laila noho pū. Pono ʻoe e hōʻoia iā lākou ʻo kāu koho e hoʻokaʻawale ʻaʻole na lākou ka hewa a ʻaʻohe mea hiki iā lākou ke hana a i hiki ke hana e hoʻololi iā ia.
- Aloha ʻoe iā lākou: Wehewehe no ka mea ʻaʻole ʻoe e noho pū nei ʻaʻole makemake ʻoe ʻaʻole aloha hou iā lākou. E hōʻoia iā lākou i kou aloha iā lākou a hoʻomaopopo iā lākou e ʻike mau ana lākou i nā mākua ʻelua.
- E haʻi ākea lākou: E paipai i kāu poʻe keiki e leo i nā manaʻo, manaʻo hopohopo, a me nā manaʻo i ke ākea i hiki ai iā ʻoe ke kamaʻilio pololei iā lākou.
Mālama i nā hana maʻamau
Mālama i kekahi mau maʻamau i kou wā kaʻawale male ʻana me ke keiki i pili. E maʻalahi kēia i ke kaʻina hana nāu a me kāu mau keiki.
ʻO kēia ka ʻae ʻana i kāu mau keiki e ʻike mau i nā mākua ʻelua, e mālama nei i kā lākou papa kuhikuhi no ke kula a me nā hana kaiaulu, a inā hiki, e hana pū nei i nā mea ma ke ʻano he ʻohana e like me ka hele ʻana i nā hana o ke kula a i ʻole ka lā i waho.
ʻO ka mālama ʻana i kahi papa hana e kōkua i kāu poʻe keiki e hilinaʻi a palekana i ko lākou ola hou.
E hoʻāʻo a e kīwila
E hele lōʻihi kou aloha a me kou mahalo ke hana ʻoe me kāu hoa ma mua i mua o kāu poʻe keiki. ʻO kēia ka hoʻowahāwahā ʻole ʻana i kāu ex, ʻaʻole hoʻoneʻe i nā keiki ma kahi mamao aku mai ka wahine male, a me ka ʻae ʻana i ka launa piha ʻana i nā manawa a pau e pono ai kāu mau keiki i kā lākou makua ʻē aʻe.
Hōʻike pū kēia i ka mahalo a me ka ʻoluʻolu ke launa pū ʻana me kāu ex i mua o kāu mau keiki, e noho lōkahi ana i nā hoʻoholo a nā mākua, a mai hoʻohaʻahaʻa loa i ka hoʻoholo a kekahi, i hiki ai iā ʻoe ke hele aʻe ma ke ʻano he makua maikaʻi.
Mai koho i kāu mau keiki e koho
Ke koho nei i kāu keiki i ka mea a lākou e makemake ai e noho pū me ia.
Inā hiki, e hoʻāʻo a kaʻana like i ko lākou manawa ma waena o nā mākua. Inā ʻaʻole, e kūkākūkā ma ke ʻano he mākua kuleana no ka noho ʻana e pōmaikaʻi loa i kāu mau keiki.
ʻO kahi laʻana, ʻo wai ka mea e noho nei i ka home male? E waiho maikaʻi ʻia ke keiki ma aneʻi, no ka mea ʻaʻole ia e hoʻohaunaele nui i ko lākou ola home. ʻO wai e noho kokoke ana i ke kula?
ʻO wai ka papa hana e ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi no ka lawe ʻana i nā keiki i a mai nā hanana kaiaulu. I ka manawa i hoʻoholo ai kāu koho, e kūkākūkā kūkā me kāu poʻe keiki no ke aha i hoʻoholo ʻia ai a pehea e pōmaikaʻi ai ka ʻohana holoʻokoʻa.
Mai hoʻohana i kāu mau keiki ma ke ʻano he pawn
ʻAʻole kāu mau keiki ma laila e lilo i ʻelele, ʻaʻole ma laila e hoʻopaʻi ai i kāu ex. ʻO kahi laʻana, mālama ʻana i kāu poʻe keiki mai ke kipa ma muli wale nō o kou hauʻoli ʻole me kāu ex.
Mai hoʻopili i kāu mau keiki i kou kaʻawale ʻana o ka male, e like me ka hiki ke hiki. ʻAʻole lākou e hoʻokaʻawale i kāu kāne, ʻo ʻoe nō.
E nānā pono i ka hana a kāu keiki
ʻLelo ʻia e hana maʻamau nā kaikamahine me ka hoʻokaʻawale a me ka hemo o ko lākou mau mākua ma mua o nā keikikāne. ʻO kēia no ka mea he ʻoi aku ka kiʻekiʻe o ka hiki i nā wahine ke ʻeli i ka naʻau.
ʻAʻole ia he manaʻo ʻaʻole e loaʻa i nā ʻaoʻao ʻelua ka hopena o kēia loli nui i ko lākou ola. Kaumaha, hoʻokaʻawale, pilikia noʻonoʻo
E nānā i kēia wikiō e aʻo ai e pili ana i ka hopena o ka hemo male i nā keiki.
E hoʻomaopopo i nā mākua ʻē aʻe
E makemake paha ʻoe e hoʻomaopopo i nā kumu, nā kaʻi, a me nā mākua o nā hoa pili o kāu mau keiki i kou kaʻawale ʻana i hiki iā lākou ke makaʻala no nā pilikia i loko o kāu mau keiki, e like me ka hopohopo a me ke kaumaha, a me nā loli i nā hana maʻamau. Mālama kēia iā ʻoe i ka lā e mālama ai kāu keiki i ka hoʻokaʻawale.
ʻAʻole maʻalahi ka hoʻokaʻawale male ʻana iā ʻoe a i ʻole nā keiki. E hoʻokokoke i ke kūlana me nā kau makahiki kūpono a mai hoʻokaʻawale i nā mea i ʻoi aku i ka mea e pono ai. ʻO ka mālama ʻana i kahi pilina mahalo me kāu ex e hele lōʻihi loa ia i ka manaʻo o kāu poʻe keiki e like me ka paʻa ʻole o ko lākou ʻohana.