Anter
- Inā paha e hiki ke hoʻopakele ʻia kāu male
- E ʻike i kāu wahine
- Ke kūlana maoli o kāu kālā
- Inā hiki iā ʻoe ke ola i kahi ola me ka loaʻa ʻole o ka loaʻa kālā o kāu wahine
- ʻO kāu hoʻolālā B
- ʻO kāu helu ʻaiʻē
- ʻO ka ʻoiaʻiʻo e pili ana i ka hemo male
- E lilo ana kāu mau hoa aloha
- He mea ʻole i ko lākou mau makahiki, makemake kāu mau keiki iā ʻoe
Pono nā mākua, keu hoʻi nā mākua e hele i kahi papa inoa hōʻoia ma mua o ke kau inoa ʻana no kahi mea nui e like me ka hemo ʻana. E kōkua kēia iā lākou e neʻe i ke ala kūpono a alakaʻi iā lākou i kekahi mea a lākou e mihi ʻole ai ma hope, ʻo ia hoʻi ma muli o ke komo ʻana o nā keiki. Ma lalo iho ka papa helu hoʻokaʻawale pono no nā makuahine.
Inā paha e hiki ke hoʻopakele ʻia kāu male
He ʻano kahiko paha paha ia, akā manaʻo wau ʻo ke ala kūpono e hele ai i kahi ʻano e like me ka hemo ʻana he mea ia inā ʻo ia wale nō ke ala e puka aku ai. ʻo ka hopena wale nō. ʻO ia ka mea hope loa āu e noʻonoʻo ai no ka mea ʻo ka hopena ma hope o ia (ʻo ia kekahi, ʻo ka wā he makuahine) hiki ke paʻakikī a paʻakikī hoʻi e hoʻokele.
No laila, ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o kou waiho ʻole i ka hemo ʻana i ka hopena mua āu e hele ai no nā hakakā a pau. E hāʻawi iā ʻoe iho i ka manawa a ʻike inā hiki ke holo ʻia nā mea a i ʻole. Hiki iā ʻoe ke hele no ka ʻōlelo aʻo male a i ʻole therapy.
E ʻike i kāu wahine
ʻO kēia kiko o ka papa helu e like paha me ka no-brainer no ka mea ʻoiaʻiʻo, ʻike ʻoe i kāu wahine, a ʻo ia ke kumu e kāhea nei ʻoe e haʻalele. Akā ʻo ka mea āu e pono ai e hāʻawi i ka manaʻo ʻelua. Maliʻa ʻaʻole lākou ka wahine kūpono akā he makua maikaʻi loa ia no kāu poʻe keiki. A me kahi hoʻoikaika iki mai nā ʻaoʻao ʻelua, hiki iā ʻoe ke hauʻoli a hānai i kahi ʻohana nani ʻoiai e hana ana i kāu mau pilikia i ke kaʻina.
Ke kūlana maoli o kāu kālā
ʻOiaʻiʻo, ʻaʻole holo ka hana ma ka pilina. No laila, inā hoʻoholo ʻoe i ke koho ʻana i ka male male a laila e ʻike pono e ʻike maikaʻi ʻia ʻoe i nā mokuʻāina a me nā kālā āpau. ʻOiai he makuahine ʻoe, pono ʻoe i ke kālā he nui e hali i nā lilo o ka home e ʻoe iho, inā ʻoe e mālama nei i nā keiki. ʻO ka nui o ka ʻike e pili ana i kāu waiwai a me kāu mau kuleana, ʻo ka ʻoi aku paha ka maikaʻi o ka hele ʻana o kāu male male no ʻoe.
Inā hiki iā ʻoe ke ola i kahi ola me ka loaʻa ʻole o ka loaʻa kālā o kāu wahine
ʻO kēia ke kuhi o ke kālā āu e lawe mai nei inā haʻalele ʻoe i ka wahine, a he makuahine, e ʻike ana i ka nui o kāu mau lilo. Inā ʻaʻohe loaʻa kālā i kēia manawa, a laila pono ʻoe e ʻike inā e hāʻawi ʻia ʻoe i ke kākoʻo keiki a i ʻole alimony no kekahi manawa pōkole a hiki i kou hiki ke kākoʻo i kou ʻohana.
Pono ʻoe e hoʻomaka e ʻimi i nā koho hana e kūpono iā ʻoe. Inā hele i waho o ka kaohi i kāu mau lilo, pono ʻoe e ʻike i kahi ala e kiʻi ai iā lākou i ka laina. Nānā ʻole i ke ʻano o kāu kūlana kālā, pono ʻoe e ʻike piha ma mua o ka hoʻohana ʻana i ka huaʻōlelo "hemo."
ʻO kāu hoʻolālā B
Ma kēia helu i ka papa helu, ke ʻōlelo nei wau, ʻoiai e neʻe nei ke kaʻina o ka male male, pono ʻoe e hoʻoholo pehea a ma hea ʻoe e noho ai. Pehea ʻoe e lawelawe ai i kāu poʻe keiki? Inā ʻoe e laki laki, e hāʻawi ana kāu wahine i kahi nui i ka wā e hānai ana i nā keiki. Eia nō naʻe, inā i loko o kahi hanana maikaʻi loa, ʻaʻole hiki mai ia a laila he aha kāu hana hou? Pono e hoʻoholo mua i kēia mau mea āpau i ʻike ʻoe i kāu neʻe a hiki ke hana i ka mea kūpono i ka manawa kūpono i ka wā o ka hemo ʻana.
ʻO kāu helu ʻaiʻē
Inā ʻoe e kaʻana like i kāu moʻokāki me kāu wahine a ʻaʻole ʻoe i hoʻokumu i kahi hōʻaiʻē i kou inoa ponoʻī, ʻo ia ka manawa kūpono e hana ai i kēia hana. ʻOi aku ka maʻalahi o ke noi ʻana i nā kāleka hōʻaiʻē ma kou inoa ma mua o ka faila ʻana no ka hemo ma mua o ka mea no ka mea i kēlā manawa e nānā ana nā hui kāleka hōʻaiʻē i kāu loaʻa kālā (loaʻa kālā home) ke hoʻoholo nei i kāu laina hōʻaiʻē.
ʻAʻole ʻoe makemake e kūkulu i ka hōʻaiʻē ma luna o kēlā mau kāleka hōʻaiʻē a ka ʻoihana e hoʻopuka ai iā ʻoe, akā ke loaʻa nei kekahi mau hōʻaiʻē i loaʻa i nā manawa āpau e hāʻawi iā ʻoe i kahi palekana kālā e lilo i mea mālama ola ma hope.
ʻO ka ʻoiaʻiʻo e pili ana i ka hemo male
ʻO ka ʻoiaʻiʻo e pili ana i ka hemo he mea ʻole ia pehea ka lōʻihi o kou hoʻolālā ʻana iā ia, aia kekahi mau mea i manaʻo ʻole ʻia e kū mai kahi maoli a e hoʻopaneʻe i ke kaʻina holoʻokoʻa, kauō iā ia a ʻai i ka nui o kāu kumuwaiwai kālā ma mua o kou manaʻo. Ma waena o kēia mau haunaele a pau, e ʻeha ana kāu mau keiki. Hiki paha iā ʻoe ke ʻoki i kā lākou mau lilo no ka hoʻokō ʻana i nā hana o ka haʻalele male.
ʻO lākou, kāu poʻe keiki, ma lalo o ka nui o ke koʻikoʻi a ʻeha paha lākou inā hamau lākou. ʻAʻole paha ʻoe e launa me lākou a hiki i ka hoʻopau ʻana o ka male male. No laila, pono ʻoe e koa e alo i ke kūlana a ʻike i kou puʻuwai ʻo lākou ka mea āu e hana nei a pau a hala pū kēia manawa paʻakikī.
E lilo ana kāu mau hoa aloha
Hoʻokumu ʻia hoʻokahi mea ke pili i ka hemo, a ʻo ia ka poʻe e ʻaoʻao nei. E lilo ana kāu kāne iā ʻoe, akā me lākou pū kekahi, e lilo ana kāu mau hoa aloha he nui iā ʻoe. E hōʻino kekahi iā ʻoe no ka lilo ʻana i wahine maikaʻi ʻole, kahi makuahine lousy, a ʻoiai he wahine maikaʻi ʻole i ka koho ʻana.
E hoʻopiʻi lākou iā ʻoe no nā mea a pau i hewa. E hoʻomaopopo ʻoe ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke kāohi i kekahi poʻe mai ka noʻonoʻo e like me kēlā. No laila, e waiho wale. E lilo i makuahine maikaʻi loa hiki iā ʻoe, no ka mea, lawa kēlā no kāu poʻe keiki. E mākaukau no nā huaʻōlelo paʻakikī e hoʻolohe paha ʻoe.
He mea ʻole i ko lākou mau makahiki, makemake kāu mau keiki iā ʻoe
He kuhi hewa kēia e pili ana ka male male i nā keiki ʻōpio wale nō. Hoʻopili ka male male i nā keiki o kēlā me kēia makahiki. ʻO ka hoʻokuʻu wale ʻana o nā keiki āpau i kā lākou huhū a me ke kaumaha i nā ʻano like ʻole. Noho mālie kekahi mau mea ʻoiai hōʻike kekahi i ka huhū a me nā māka maikaʻi ʻole. Aia kekahi i hāʻule i loko o nā ʻano maikaʻi ʻole (noho kaawale ʻana mai ka home, hana i nā lāʻau, hana ʻino, a pēlā aku.).
Inā he keiki ʻuʻuku kāu mau keiki, a laila pili ka weliweli iā lākou ke hoʻohālikelike ʻia i nā keiki makua. ʻO ke kumu o kēia ʻo nā keiki ʻōpio (e noho mau nei me nā mākua) i kahi loli holoʻokoʻa i ko lākou ola.Ke ʻano o ko lākou nohona, ke ala a lākou e ʻai ai, ke ala a lākou e ukali ai i kahi maʻamau, hoʻololi ʻia nā mea āpau ma muli o ka hemo. ʻO ia ke kumu e hoʻopilikia ai lākou i ka psychologically, a ma ke ʻano he makuahine, pono ʻoe e mākaukau no ia.
Ma ke ʻano he wahine me nā keiki, e hele ma luna o kēia papa helu hoʻokaʻawale pono no nā mākuahine e mākaukau ai no ka loli ʻana i ka haʻalele ʻana o kāu wahine i kāu ola a me kāu keiki.