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- ʻO ke keiki kāne syndrome
- He aha ka hope o ke keiki kāne syndrome?
- Pehea e hana ai me kahi kāne makua ʻole
ʻIke mākou i ka Keiki Kanaka a meme ma Facebook, nā mea a kāu mau hoaaloha wahine i kau ai me ka hauʻoli. Hōʻike lākou i kahi kāne e ʻehaʻeha loa ana ma luna o kekahi mea liʻiliʻi, malia paha he anuanu, a i ʻole lawelawe ʻia lākou i kahi momona momona ma mua o ka momona momona ʻole ma kā lākou punahele Starbucks.
E haʻohaʻo ana ʻoe i ke ʻano o ke keiki kāne. E nānā i kekahi nā hōʻailona haʻi haʻi o ke kāne makua ʻole.
ʻO ke keiki kāne syndrome
Eia ka mea e nānā ai inā manaʻo ʻoe he kāne kāu kāne a kāne paha keiki kāne:
- Ua hemahema loa ʻo ia, akā hiki iā ia ke huli i kona kua iā ʻoe a anuanu loa iā ʻoe.
- Hoʻopiʻi mau ʻo ia, ma nā manawa maʻamau e pili ana i nā mea ʻaʻohe ona mana, e like me ka hoʻololi ʻana i ka manawa mālama mālama lā, a ʻaʻohe mea maikaʻi ma Netflix. He "moeʻuhane" nā mea āpau iā ia, kahi hiamoe na kekahi mea ʻē aʻe i hana.
- ʻAʻole loa ʻo ia e hoʻomaʻemaʻe ma hope ona iho. Ke hoʻomaʻemaʻe nei paha i kāna pā ma kahi hale ʻaina ʻai wikiwiki, a i ʻole hoʻomaʻemaʻe maʻamau i ka home, ʻaʻole ia e hana. E like me ke keiki, manaʻo ʻo ia i kahi mea ʻē aʻe e kahili ma hope ona a mālama i nā mea āpau āpau.
- ʻAʻole ʻo ia i ka manawa kūpono. ʻAʻole koʻikoʻi kāu papa kuhikuhi. E hōʻike lohi ana ʻo ia i nā wā koho a me nā hanana kaiaulu. ʻAʻole loa ia ma kahi āu e pono ai e noho ma ka manawa i hoʻopaʻa ʻia.
- Kūpono ʻole. ʻAʻole ia ma ʻō o ka wahaheʻe e pale a lawelawe i kāna pono ponoʻī
- ʻClelo Narcissism. ʻO ke kino a me ka noʻonoʻo: hoʻohana ʻo ia i ka nui o ka manawa i mua o ke aniani. Hoʻowahāwahā ʻo ia i nā makemake o haʻi, hoʻonoho mua i kāna iho.
- Palaualelo. ʻAʻole ia e kaʻana like i ka ukana a puni ka hale, e waiho ana iā ʻoe ke kuleana no nā hana āpau e pono ai e holo pono ka ʻohana.
- Manaʻo nā hōʻaiʻē ʻē aʻe iā ia
- ʻImi hoʻonui i ka pono
- Manaʻo ʻo ia he pololei mau ʻo ia a ʻo nā mea ʻē aʻe ka hewa no nā hewa āpau
- ʻAʻole hiki ke hōʻoia he hopena nā hopena i nā hana āpau, ʻoi loa i nā hana ʻona
He aha ka hope o ke keiki kāne syndrome?
ʻO ka mana hoʻokele ma hope o an kāne oʻo oʻo ʻole ʻo kāna hānai ʻana. ʻO nā keikikāne nona nā mākua i hiki iā lākou mai ka wā ʻōpio ke ulu a lilo i mau keiki kāne. Ua hana lākou i nā mea āpau na lākou i ke keikikāne a manaʻo e hoʻomau kēia i ke ola holoʻokoʻa.
Inā ʻoe i male i ke keiki kāne, nui nā pilikia iā ʻoe. ʻO kekahi inā hōʻole kāu keiki kāne e hana. Hiki i kahi keiki kāne ke paʻakikī i ka hoʻopaʻa ʻana i kahi hana ma muli o ko lākou ʻano makua ʻole i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe.
ʻAʻohe mea hana e mahalo i kekahi e lawe ʻole i ke kuleana no nā hewa i ka hana. I kekahi manawa hiki i kahi keiki kāne ke noho ma kahi hana no ka mea likeble a leʻaleʻa lākou i ka hoʻomaka (e like me ke keiki) akā i ka hopena, ʻike ka hoʻokele he kuleana lākou.
I kēlā manawa, e kipaku ʻia lākou. Inā hana pinepine kēia, ʻaʻole ia he mea kupanaha no ka hōʻole ʻana o ke keiki kāne e hana. Akā ma kahi o ka nānā ʻana i loko e nīnau no ke aha ʻaʻole hiki iā ia ke hoʻopaʻa i kahi hana, e hoʻohewa ka keiki kāne i nā mea āpau.
“He naʻaupō lākou a pau. ʻO wau ka limahana ʻoi loa ma waho; no lākou ka hewa ʻaʻole lākou e ʻike i ke akamai ke mua o lākou. ”
Inā male ʻoe i kahi keiki kāne, he aha kekahi mau hoʻolālā kū aʻe?
Pehea e hana ai me kahi kāne makua ʻole
ʻO ka mea mua, ʻike ʻaʻole ʻoe hoʻokahi. Hiki i nā keiki kāne ke ʻoluʻolu mua, e huki iā ʻoe i loko o kā lākou honua. No laila mai hoʻopaʻi iā ʻoe iho no ka komo ʻana i kēia pilina.
ʻO ka lua, e hoʻomaopopo he mea liʻiliʻi hiki iā ʻoe ke hana e hoʻololi i kāna ʻano immature immature. Ua ʻano hohonu kona ʻano o ke ʻano, hoʻi i kona wā kamaliʻi.
A no ka ʻike ʻole o nā keiki kāne i kā lākou ala e hana ai i ka honua i nā hopena maikaʻi ʻole i kekahi poʻe ʻē aʻe, ʻaʻole lākou i hoʻonāukiuki ʻia e ʻimi i ka loli.
He aha ka manaʻo o kēia iā ʻoe? ʻO kahi hoʻolālā e nānā ʻole i kāna hana. Akā paʻakikī paha kēia, keu hoʻi no nā mea nui e like me inā hōʻole ʻo ia e hana. E nīnau iā ʻoe iho: Makemake ʻoe e lilo i ʻāpana hoʻokahi wale nō i kēia pilina? ʻO kahi pilina i mamao loa mai ke kaulike a me ka hōʻoluʻolu?
ʻO kahi hoʻolālā ʻē aʻe e hoʻāʻo a hiki i kahi kuikahi me kāu kāne kāne kāne kāne. Inā ʻo ia kāne palaualelo a ʻaʻohe nui o ka nake ʻana a i ʻole ka coaxing i hoʻopili ʻia, noho iā ia a haʻi iā ia hiki iā ia ke loaʻa i hoʻokahi lumi i loko o ka hale kahi e hiki ai iā ia ke hana i kāna mea ponoʻī.
Hoʻokahi lumi wale nō. ʻO ke koena o ka hale ʻo "kou ākea." E mālama ʻoe i ka maʻemaʻe a me ke kauoha i nā lumi āpau akā kāna ana kanaka. Manaʻo ʻole e waiho i kēia lula me ke kono ʻole ʻana i kahi kūkā. Inā e hana ʻo ia e like me ke keiki, hiki iā ia ke manaʻo ʻia e mālama ʻia e like me kekahi.
Hana me kahi kāne oʻo makua ʻole hiki ʻauhau iā ʻoe. I kekahi manawa, makemake paha ʻoe e kamaʻilio me ke kākāʻōlelo a i ʻole ka mea hoʻoponopono male, ʻoiai inā ʻoe e hele hoʻokahi.
ʻAʻole ʻoluʻolu e noho i ke ola ma lalo o nā ʻōlelo a ke keiki kāne. Pono nā kānaka āpau i kahi pilina hauʻoli a kaulike hoʻi; He pahuhopu ola ia, ʻeā? ʻAʻole ia he mea kūpono ʻole e ʻike ʻoe iā ʻoe iho i kahi kūlana kahi e hoʻomaka ai e nīnau iā ʻoe iho inā ʻoe e haʻalele i ka pilina.
ʻO nā wahine ma mua i haʻalele i kā lākou mau kāne makua ʻole e ʻōlelo i kēia: Inā manaʻo ʻoe i kāu hoa kāne ʻole makua ke hōʻike nei i nā hōʻailona o ke keiki kāne, mai hana i ka pili lōʻihi.
Mai lele i loko o nā mea wikiwiki, ʻoiai inā he makapō kona helehelena, nani a hoʻomākeʻaka hoʻi. E aʻo pehea e ʻike ai i nā ʻōuli o ke keiki man syndrome, a inā ʻike ʻoe, ke hōʻike nei ʻo ia i kēia mau mea he nui, e hoʻopakele iā ʻoe iho mai ke alakaʻi ʻana i kahi pilina hauʻoli.
E haʻalele a loaʻa iā haʻi. Nui ka iʻa i ke kai, no laila e hoʻomaka hou e ʻau hou. Mai haʻalele i ka lana. E ʻike ʻoe i kāu pili pono loa, a i kēia manawa me kahi makua.