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- ʻIke paha ʻoe iā ʻoe iho e ʻōlelo ana, "makemake wau e aloha"?
- ʻAʻole leʻaleʻa wale nā nīnau e hāʻule i ke aloha akā hana maoli
- Pehea e loaʻa ai i kekahi e makemake iā ʻoe
- Aia nā nīnau i loko o kēia pāʻani me kēia
ʻO ke aloha aloha a me nā kamāliʻiwahine Disney ma ke aloha iā ʻoe, a i ʻole he maʻalahi loa kekahi.
Eia nō naʻe, inā ʻoe e kamaʻilio me kekahi i pili i ka pilina maoli, e ʻike ʻoe ʻaʻohe alakaʻi e pili ana i ke aloha a pehea e kiʻi ai i kekahi e aloha iā ʻoe.
ʻAʻole paʻakikī ka hāʻule ʻana i ke aloha inā ʻike ʻoe e pili ana i ka hana hou e hoʻopuni nei i ka pūnaewele. ʻO kēia ke ala e hoʻopili ai i nā nīnau e hāʻule i ke aloha.
Ke noi ʻia nei he kanakolukūmāono mau nīnau e alakaʻi aku ai i ke aloha i hui pū ʻia me ka maka ʻehā minuke i ʻike ʻia i inoa no ke ʻano o ka hāʻule ʻana o ke aloha a me ka hoʻokumu ʻana i ka pilina ma waena o nā malihini ʻē.
ʻO nā nīnau e nīnau ai e ʻike i kekahi hiki ke lilo i maʻamau, a ʻo kēia mau nīnau he kanakolukumamāono he nui loa.
Ua manaʻo ʻia lākou he mau nīnau e nīnau ai e hāʻule i ke aloha ʻoiai lākou he mau nīnau maʻamau. E hoʻomanaʻo i hiki i kāu mau hana ke hoʻokipa i nā malihini akā ʻaʻole e hāʻule i ke aloha; i mea e aloha ai, hele mai kēia mau nīnau i ka mākaukau.
E kōkua kēia mau pāʻani nīnau maʻamau no nā kāne i ka hoʻoikaika ʻana i kā lākou paʻa a e hauʻoli ai i ko lākou manawa. No laila e heluhelu hou aʻe e pili ana i ka nīnau e alakaʻi ai i ke aloha.
Nā nīnau e aloha nei: Nā nīnau e aloha ai
ʻIke paha ʻoe iā ʻoe iho e ʻōlelo ana, "makemake wau e aloha"?
E hoʻomaopopo mua i ka hana ʻana o kēia mau nīnau e aloha ai.
I ka makahiki 1997, ua ʻimi ka psychologist ʻo Arthur Aron i ka manawa o ka hōʻeleu ʻana i ka pilina ma waena o ʻelua mau malihini maikaʻi ʻole e ka hoʻolauna ʻana i nā nīnau e nīnau ai e ʻike i kekahi.
ʻO kēia mau nīnau he pilikino loa ia, a manaʻoʻiʻo ʻo ia kēia mau nīnau ka pane kūpono loa i ka ‘pehea e hana ai i kekahi e aloha iā ʻoe. '
Mai ka hoʻokumu ʻia ʻana o nā nīnau a Kauka Aron e nīnau aku ai i nā hoa, ua ʻike ʻo ia e hoʻoulu hou i ke aloha i loko o nā pili wā lōʻihi i lilo ka manaʻolana.
Wahi a Dr. Aron, ke ʻike ʻelua mau kānaka iā lākou iho i nā pilina aloha no ka manawa mua, aia kahi pīhoihoi nui ma waena o kēia mau mea ʻelua; Eia naʻe, i ka hala ʻana o ka manawa, ulu ʻoe ma waho o kēia pīhoihoi a ulu maʻa kekahi i kekahi.
Eia nō naʻe, e like me kā Arthur Aron, inā hana ʻoe i kahi mea paʻakikī a hou e hiki ke hoʻomanaʻo iā ʻoe i ka manawa pīhoihoi me kāu hoa, e lilo ana kou pilina āpau i mea ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi.
A laila ua noi ʻo ia i nā nīnau 'e ʻike iā ʻoe' no nā kāne.
ʻO kēia mau nīnau he kanakolukūmākolu mau pilikino pilikino a lawe ma kahi o kanahākūmālima mau minuke e hoʻopau.
I kou neʻe ʻana i mua, ʻo nā nīnau e hāʻule i ke aloha e lilo iʻoi aku ka ikaika a pilikino ma mua o ka mea ma mua.
Ua hoʻohana ʻo Kauka Aron a me kāna wahine i kēia nīnau nīnau e hoʻopaʻa paʻa me nā hoaaloha ma nā lā ʻaina.
ʻAʻole leʻaleʻa wale nā nīnau e hāʻule i ke aloha akā hana maoli
Ua ʻike ʻia lākou ma ka ʻāpana ʻo Ke Aloha Mana Hou o New York ma lalo o ke poʻo inoa o 'To Fall In Love With Who, Do This.' Ua kākau ʻia kēia kolamu e ka mea kākau Mandy Len Catron, a ʻo kāna moʻolelo aloha kahi hiʻohiʻona o ka holo ʻana o kēia mau nīnau.
Ua hoʻāʻo ʻo ia i ka manaʻo o Kauka Aron ma luna o kekahi āna i ʻike iki ʻole ma mua o kona hālāwai ʻana.
Ua ʻōlelo ʻo ia he hoʻokahi hola ka lōʻihi o ka hala ʻana i kēia mau nīnau āpau. I ka manawa i pau ai kēia, aloha maoli ʻo ia i ke kanaka, a ua hina ʻo ia nona. No laila pehea e holo ai kēia mau nīnau?
Pehea e loaʻa ai i kekahi e makemake iā ʻoe
I mea e pāʻani ai i ka pāʻani nīnau he kanakolukumamāono no nā kāne, pono ʻoe e hoʻomaopopo mua i ka hana.
Maʻalahi nā ʻaoʻao; pono nā hoa e nīnau hou i nā nīnau. E noi ʻia ʻoe e kekahi, akā e nīnau kāu wahine i ka lua. E hoʻomanaʻo ʻo ka mea e nīnau nei i ka nīnau e pane mua nō hoʻi ia.
I ka manawa e nīnau ai i nā nīnau āpau i kēia manawa ma ka pūnaewele, pono ʻoe e nānā i nā maka o kekahi me kekahi no kahi manawa o ʻelua a ʻehā mau minuke.
Wahi a ka mea kākau, ʻo Mandy Len Carton, ua lawa ka makaʻu o nā minuke mua ʻelua, akā ke keʻa ʻoe i ka māka o ka hā o ka minuke, maopopo iā ʻoe hiki ke hele ma kahi ʻē.
Aia nā nīnau i loko o kēia pāʻani me kēia
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- Hāʻawi ʻia hiki iā ʻoe ke koho i kekahi mai kēia ao, ʻo wai ʻoe e makemake ai e hoʻokipa ma kahi ʻaina awakea?
ʻO ke koena o nā nīnau e like like me kēia akā e kiʻi pilikino hou aʻe ma ke ala.
Eia nō naʻe, ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke nīnau i kekahi, 'aloha aloha ʻoe'. Pāʻani i kēia pāʻani me kāu poʻe i aloha ai, a haʻi mai iā mākou pehea ia e hele ai!