Anter
- 1. Pili kālā
- 2. E hakakā paha ʻoe me ka hoʻokele ʻana i kou manawa
- 3. Mai hoʻāʻo e hoʻoponopono i kāu kāne
- 4. E maʻa i nā poʻo inoa hou
- 5. Loaʻa paha kāu mau paio
ʻO nā mea paʻa o ka mare ʻana e like me nā mea paʻa ʻē aʻe - oʻo mālie lākou. ~ ʻO Peter De Vries
ʻO ka male kahi kahua nani. He mana kona e hoʻonohonoho i ka papa o ko mākou ola. ʻO kahi male ikaika e hoʻomāmā i nā kūlana paʻakikī loa i hiki mai iā mākou. Akā e like me nā pilina ʻē aʻe, e loaʻa nā haʻuki paʻakikī ke maloʻo paha nā manaʻo o ke aloha. No ka hapanui o nā koa kahiko, ʻo ka makahiki mua o ka male ka paʻakikī a ʻo ka mea nui pū kekahi. E nui nā ʻike hou, kekahi mau mea maikaʻi a maikaʻi ʻole kekahi. ʻO kahi hoʻololi maʻalahi i nā pronouns mai iaʻu 'a hiki iā' us 'hiki ke alakaʻi i kahi plethora o nā manaʻo hui a me nā hopena. Ua piha ka makahiki mua o ka male me nā ʻike like ʻole, ʻaʻohe i manaʻo ʻia e hoʻāʻo ai i kou aloha a me ke ahonui ʻelua. Ke hele nei ʻoe i loko o kēia mau hanana, e ikaika a ikaika kou pilina a hoʻomoe i ke kumu no ke koena o kou ola.
Eia, lawe mākou iā ʻoe i nā mea he 5 e kahaha ai iā ʻoe i ka makahiki mua o ka male ʻana-
1. Pili kālā
ʻOluʻolu ka manaʻo o ka loaʻa kālā a me nā kahe kālā akā ʻaʻole pono ʻoe e hoʻopoina i nā kuleana a me nā kuleana āpau e hele pū me nā loaʻa hui ma hope o ka male ʻana. Heluhelu, ke kālā ke kumu nui o nā pilikia a me nā hakakā ma waena o nā kāne. Wahi a kahi alakaʻi alakaʻi i mālama ʻia ma ke Kulanui Mokuʻāina ʻo Utah, ʻo nā kāne e hoʻopaʻapaʻa nei e pili ana i ke kālā ma ka liʻiliʻi hoʻokahi manawa i ka hebedoma he 30% ka nui aʻe o ka hemo ʻana ma mua o ka poʻe e hoʻopaʻapaʻa nei i kekahi manawa i ka mahina. No laila, pono ʻoe e kamaʻilio ākea e pili ana i nā loaʻa a me nā lilo. E hoʻāʻo e hōʻea i kahi kiko olakino o ka ʻaelike ma nā pilikia āpau e pili ana i ke kālā ma mua e hōʻemi i nā hakakā ma kēia kumuhana. Mai poina e haʻi aku i kāu hoa inā aia kekahi hōʻaiʻē, ma mua o ka male ʻana.
2. E hakakā paha ʻoe me ka hoʻokele ʻana i kou manawa
ʻO ke kaulike ʻana i kāu hoʻonohonoho ponoʻī e hana i ka manawa no kēlā me kēia me kekahi mea nui i kou pilina. Hoʻonohonoho i nā pahuhopu hiki ke loaʻa no ka hoʻolilo manawa ʻana me kāu hoa wahine a hana pū i ka hapa nui o kou manawa. E kia i ka hana ʻana i nā mea hoʻomanaʻo e kōkua iā ʻoe ma hope i nā manawa o nā hakakā.
3. Mai hoʻāʻo e hoʻoponopono i kāu kāne
ʻO kekahi poʻe e hoʻāʻo maoli e hoʻoponopono i nā mea a puni lākou inā manaʻo lākou ʻaʻole hele kekahi mea e like me kā lākou hoʻolālā a i ʻole manaʻo. Ua hana paha ʻoe i kēia i kou wā e aloha aloha ana. Akā hoʻololi nā mea ma hope o ka male. Me nā kaomi a me nā mea i manaʻo ʻia o kēia kuʻina, hiki ke ʻike ʻia kēia ʻano he bossy a hoʻomalu paha. Pono ʻoe e maʻalahi i kēia pilina hou. E aʻo e hoʻololi iā ʻoe iho ma mua o kou ʻike ʻana i nā kīnā i kāu wahine.
E like me ka ʻōlelo pololei a kekahi- ʻAʻole kūleʻa ka kūleʻa ma ka male ʻana ma o ka loaʻa ʻana o ka wahine pono, akā ma o ka wahine pono.
4. E maʻa i nā poʻo inoa hou
E ʻokoʻa ka manaʻo e kamaʻilio i kāu hoa kāne / hoa lōʻihi e like me kāu wahine. He mea hauʻoli ia e ʻae ʻia me Mr. a me Mrs. pu, hoʻolaha. No kekahi mau kāne male, paʻakikī paha kēia neʻe ʻana e ʻae a wahī i kou poʻo a puni. A ʻae! ʻO kēia ka manawa e haʻi ʻoluʻolu ai ʻoe i kāu kūlana hoʻokahi.
5. Loaʻa paha kāu mau paio
E hakakā ʻoe. Pili loa ia iā ʻoe pehea ʻoe e lawelawe ai i kāu kūlana. Ua hele mai paha kēia ma ke ʻano he ʻoiaʻiʻo maoli ʻole no ka mea ma mua o ka male ʻana ua ʻokoʻa paha kā kāu wahine male ʻana i nā hoʻopaʻapaʻa. Akā e lawe i kāu mau wāwae. He mea hou kāu wahine i kēia hui e like me ʻoe. ʻO ka ʻae ʻana i nā hala he ʻāpana ia o ke aloha. E hoʻomanaʻo i kēia!
ʻO ke ola kahi pūʻai o nā pūʻiwa no nā mea āpau. Lana mākou i ka manaʻo i kahi male male a me kahi ola male maikaʻi i mua. Akā wale nō me ka manawa e ʻike ai mākou pehea e wehe ai ke ola iā ia iho a pehea mākou e pane ai i nā hanana. "He paʻakikī paha kēlā me kēia makahiki o ka male ʻana, a no ka nui paha o nā mea i manaʻo ʻia, ʻoi aku paha ka ʻeha o ka haʻahaʻa i kēlā makahiki mua," wahi a ke kākāʻōlelo pili, ʻo Susie Tuckwell.
I ka pōkole, i hiki iā mākou ke alakaʻi i kahi ola hauʻoli a me ka maluhia, pono mākou e mālama mau i nā mea a mākou a helu i nā hoʻomaikaʻi i loaʻa iā mākou. He mea koʻikoʻi ka makahiki mua o kāu male akā aia kahi ola e lilo pū ai a me ka nui o nā retakes ke kali nei e hana, no laila mai hopohopo nui e pili ana i nā mea i ʻole e like me kāu hoʻolālā.