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- 1. E ʻae ʻoe iā ʻoe iho e kanikau no ka nalo
- 2. E hakakā i ka makemake e haʻalele a noho paha i kahi moena
- 3. Pau ka ʻimi ʻana i nā pane
- 4. E haki me kāu ex, pau loa
- 5. E ʻae ua pau
- 6. E ʻaʻa i nā moʻolelo āu e haʻi nei iā ʻoe iho
- 7. Hoʻomaʻamaʻa i ka mahalo
- 8. E kaulike i kou mau hoʻomanaʻo
- 9. Hoʻopiha i kou manawa me nā mea ʻē aʻe āu e aloha ai
- 10. E ahonui me ʻoe iho
"Inā aloha ʻoe i kekahi, e hoʻokuʻu iā lākou. Inā lākou e hoʻi mai nau lākou ia; inā ʻaʻole lākou inā ʻaʻole ”~ ʻO Richard Bach
Inā ʻoe i loko o kahi pilina, hiki i ka hopena o ka haʻihaʻi. ʻAʻole ia he kumu, paʻakikī ka hoʻokuʻu ʻana i kahi pilina. Ua hoʻopukapuka ʻoe i ka manawa, ka ikaika, a me ka naʻau i loko o kahi kanaka ʻē aʻe, a me he mea lā ua hoʻonele ʻoe i kou manawa a hana hewa paha. He mea hoʻokahi ia e ʻōlelo inā aloha ʻoe i kekahi e hoʻokuʻu iā lākou a inā hoʻi lākou, no lākou nō lākou akā inā ʻaʻole lākou a laila ʻaʻole paʻakikī ka hoʻōla ʻana mai ia mea.
ʻO ka hoʻokuʻu ʻana i kahi pilina ke ʻeha loa. ʻO ka nalo ʻana i kekahi mea āu e aloha ai he ʻeha, a ʻaʻohe mea ʻē aʻe o ka hoa. ʻIke paha ʻoe i kahi nalo iki, mehameha, a makaʻu hoʻi i ka hoʻāʻo ʻana e aloha hou.
Akā, ʻaʻole pono ka ʻeha o ka hoʻokaʻawale mau a mau loa, a hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻi i waho a loaʻa hou ke aloha inā ʻaʻole ia he manaʻo maoli i kēia manawa.
ʻO ka hapa nui o ka ʻeha lōʻihi a mākou e manaʻo nei ma hope o ka haʻihaʻi e kipaku ʻia e nā mea 2:
- ke ala a mākou e noʻonoʻo ai, a
- ka manawa a mākou e hoʻolilo ai i ka lane hoʻomanaʻo.
ʻOiai mau pū nā mea hoʻomanaʻo me nā noʻonoʻo iā ʻoe, hiki ke loli ke ala āu e ʻike ai iā lākou. ʻO ka hoʻokuʻu ʻana i kahi pilina kahi mea hiki iā ʻoe ke hana.
No laila, ke haʻohaʻo nei paha ʻoe pehea e hoʻokuʻu ai a pehea e neʻe ai a i ʻole makemake e ʻike ʻoe pehea e hooki ai i ke aloha i kekahi no laila hiki iā ʻoe ke manaʻo maikaʻi.
Eia he ʻumi mau ala e kōkua iā ʻoe e aʻo pehea e hele ai i kahi mea āu e aloha ai a neʻe i kou ola.
1. E ʻae ʻoe iā ʻoe iho e kanikau no ka nalo
Kuhi paha kēia i kahi mea kūpono ʻole, akā ʻo ka hoʻāʻo ʻana e hōʻalo i ka ʻike ʻana i nā naʻau i hele mai me ka haʻihaʻi ʻeha hiki ke loaʻa i ka hopena ʻē aʻe a hoʻonui a hoʻolōʻihi i ka ʻeha.
Ma kahi o ka hoʻonāukiuki ʻana iā ʻoe iho mai kou mau manaʻo a i ʻole nā manaʻo e pili ana i ka haʻihaʻi, ʻae iā ʻoe iho e noho pū me lākou.
He manaʻo ko mākou no ke kumu, ʻoiai inā ʻeha lākou ke ʻike i kekahi manawa. Pai e pili ana iā lākou, uē, walaʻau i kahi hoa.
No laila, inā makemake ʻoe e hōʻike i ka naʻau, e hana ia i hiki ai iā ʻoe ke neʻe.
2. E hakakā i ka makemake e haʻalele a noho paha i kahi moena
ʻO ke kaumaha a me ka huhū ka OK, akā ma hope o kekahi manawa, hoʻomaka e hōʻike no ʻoe iho a me kou ola.
Hiki iā ʻoe ke kaumaha a hele aku i ka hana, a hiki iā ʻoe ke ʻeha a ke koho wale nei e loaʻa ka leʻaleʻa a me ka hauʻoli i kāu mau hana.
ʻO nā hiʻohiʻona hou aʻe o kou ola pilikino āu e hōʻike ai, ʻo ka wikiwiki o ke kūkulu ʻana i nā ʻano hou e kākoʻo i ka haʻalele ʻana i kahi pilina a neʻe i mua.
3. Pau ka ʻimi ʻana i nā pane
He mea nui ia ma hope o ka hoʻokaʻawale e kālailai a hoʻomaopopo i ke kumu i holo ʻole ai ka pilina.
ʻOiai inā ua hāʻawi ʻia ʻoe i kahi pane maʻalahi mai kā mākou hoa like e like me "ʻAʻole wau i aloha," e hōʻike hou ana ʻoe i ka pilina ma mua, e ʻimi nei i nā pane hou aʻe ke loaʻa nei kahi mea āu i aloha ai.
Hoʻopili kou lolo i kēia pōʻaiapuni a manaʻo i kou haʻi ʻana he pilikia e hoʻonā. Akā ʻaʻole pēlā! ʻO ka ʻāpana o ka hoʻokuʻu ʻana i kahi pilina e ʻike nei ʻaʻohe pane a i ʻole ka hopena e māʻona ai ka ʻeha.
4. E haki me kāu ex, pau loa
E hōʻoki i ka leka ʻana iā lākou, e ʻūlū ʻana iā lākou ma nā pāpili kaiaulu, a i ʻole e nānā ana ma o kāu kelepona i nā kiʻi a me nā leka kahiko.
I kēlā me kēia manawa āu e hana ai i kekahi o kēia mau hana, ke hōʻano hou nei ʻoe i ka uaki a hana i ke kaʻina o ka hoʻokuʻu ʻana i kahi mea āu e aloha ai a neʻe i mua o ka paʻakikī.E haki me nā mea āpau e pili ana i kāu ex! Holoi i nā leka a me nā kiʻi, ālai iā lākou ma ka pāpili kaiapili i hiki ʻole iā ʻoe ke ʻike iā lākou, a hemo iā lākou mai kāu kelepona. He keu paha kēia, akā kōkua ia iā ʻoe e neʻe wikiwiki.
5. E ʻae ua pau
ʻO kēia ka ʻāpana paʻakikī loa a uku ʻia hoʻi o ka haʻalele ʻana i kahi pilina. Pau ʻolua.
ʻOiaʻiʻo, ʻeha ke heluhelu i kēlā. Akā he ʻoiaʻiʻo.
ʻO ka manawa pinepine hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻomanaʻo iā ʻoe iho i kēia ʻoiaʻiʻo, ʻo ka maʻalahi ke lohe a ʻae.
6. E ʻaʻa i nā moʻolelo āu e haʻi nei iā ʻoe iho
“ʻO wau ʻaʻole aloha "" E noho mau wau. " ʻIke paha ʻoe iā ʻoe iho e haʻi ana iā ʻoe iho i kēia mau ʻano moʻolelo ke aloha ʻoe i kekahi akā ʻaʻole hiki ke noho pū me lākou?
ʻĀ, ʻaʻole maoli lākou!
Ma muli o ka holo ʻole o nā mea ma aneʻi, ʻaʻole ia he manaʻo no ka make mau loa ʻoe. Aia ma kahi o 7 biliona mau kānaka ma ka honua!
A, aia paha he hoa maikaʻi ma waho e ʻimi nei iā ʻoe i kēia manawa.
7. Hoʻomaʻamaʻa i ka mahalo
I kekahi manawa e haʻalele i kahi pilina ʻo ia hoʻi ka mahalo no ka manawa āu i hui pū ai a me ka mea a kēlā pilina i hāʻawi aku ai iā ʻoe.
Maliʻa ua ʻike ʻoe i kahi aloha o ka huakaʻi i loko o kēlā pilina, a malia ua hoʻolauna aku kāu ex iā ʻoe i kahi leʻaleʻa hou ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke noʻonoʻo e noho me ka ʻole.
ʻO ka mahalo i kou ulu ʻana i kēlā manawa hiki ke kōkua i ka ʻeha.
8. E kaulike i kou mau hoʻomanaʻo
Paipai ʻo Psychologist Guy Winch i ke kaulike ʻana i kou mau hoʻomanaʻo leʻaleʻa o kāu ex me nā mea maikaʻi ʻole.
ʻLelo ʻo ia i kāna poʻe maʻi e "hōʻuluʻulu i kahi papa inoa piha o nā ala a pau a ke kanaka i hewa ai nou, nā ʻano maikaʻi ʻole a pau, nā pīpī pipi āpau, a laila mālama ia ma kāu kelepona."
Ke hoʻomaka ʻoe e heʻe i ka nostalgia a i ʻole idealize i kāu ex-hoa, e haki i ka papa inoa a heluhelu ia.
E kōkua ia e hoʻomanaʻo iā ʻoe ʻaʻole nā mea mau roses a me ke aloha a ʻaʻole maikaʻi kāu ex.
E nānā i kēia wikiō ʻo Guy Winch e pili ana pehea e hoʻoponopono ai i ka puʻuwai haʻihaʻi:
9. Hoʻopiha i kou manawa me nā mea ʻē aʻe āu e aloha ai
ʻOi aku mākou ma mua o kā mākou pilina. Loaʻa iā mākou nā leʻaleʻa, nā ʻoihana, nā hoaaloha, nā holoholona, nā kuko, a me nā ʻano mea like ʻole e hana iā mākou ʻo wai mākou.
ʻAʻole pono kou ola e paʻa no ka mea hoʻomaha iki ʻia kou ola aloha.
Hoʻopiha i ka manawa āu e lilo ai me kāu hoa me nā mea ʻē aʻe āu e makemake ai. ʻO ka ʻāpana o ka hoʻokuʻu ʻana i kahi pilina e waiho nei i ke aloha i kou ola, i kēlā me kēia ʻano e kūpono iā ʻoe!
E lawe i kahi papa yoga keu i hoʻokahi pule, e kāhea pinepine aku i kou makuahine, a i ʻole lawe i ka ʻīlio i kahakai.
I loko o kahi loiloi o nā noiʻi he nui, ua ʻike ʻia ʻoiai kahi hana iki hiki ke loaʻa i kahi hopena koʻikoʻi i nā pae hauʻoli o ke kanaka. No laila e hoʻomaka i kēlā mau hormones hauʻoli!
Inā makemake ʻoe e neʻe i mua, pono ʻoe e hana pēlā. E neʻe a neʻe i mua.
10. E ahonui me ʻoe iho
Ma mua o nā mea āpau āpau, ʻo ke aloha ponoʻī ke kī i ka hoʻokuʻu ʻana i kahi pilina a neʻe i mua.
Kupaianaha ʻoe i kekahi mau lā a like me ʻoe i mālama ʻole ai, a ʻoi aku ka paʻakikī o nā lā ʻē aʻe. Akā, hoʻokuʻu hiki a neʻe i mua hiki, a hiki iā ʻoe ke hana.