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- Ka mālama ʻana i nā mea huna
- Ke hōʻalo nei i nā kamaʻilio paʻakikī
- Loaʻa i kahi hihia: Kino a me ke ʻano
- Mālama i ka helu
- Mālama i nā inaina
Hoʻokahi. ʻO kou ʻuhane. ʻO ke aloha i kou ola.
Ua hopena ʻia; ua ʻike ʻoe i ke kanaka e hāʻawi i kou ola i ke ʻano nui aʻe. Ala ʻoe i ka pīhoihoi i kēlā me kēia lā no ka mea he lā ʻē aʻe ia e lilo ai me kāu kanaka. ʻO nā pilina nani, aloha nā mea nui loa o ka honua, no laila e mālama pono ʻia lākou. I ka manawa i ʻike ʻoe iā ʻoe iho i loko o kēlā pilina mau loa, he mea nui e mālama ʻoe i ka momona a mahalo i ka nui i kou ola. Nui nā mea i hiki iā ʻoe ke hana i mea e ikaika ai a aloha ai kāu pilina, akā ʻo ka papa inoa o nā mea pono ʻole ʻoe e hana ʻoi aku ka maʻalahi. Ma ka hōʻalo ʻana i kahi mau mea wale nō, hiki iā ʻoe ke ʻike ʻo ka mea nāna i wehe ka puka i ia hauʻoli i kou ola ʻaʻole ia e pani koke iā ʻoe. ʻO ka pale ʻana i nā ʻano hana ʻae ʻole e hiki ke mālama i kēlā pilina aloha.
Ka mālama ʻana i nā mea huna
ʻO kekahi o nā kumu o ka pilina paʻa ka hilinaʻi. ʻAʻole pono ʻoe e heluhelu i kahi ʻatikala a nānā iā Kauka Phil e ʻike ai. ʻIke mākou āpau a ua ʻike mākou i nā wēlau o ka pae o ka hilinaʻi.
Ke manaʻoʻiʻo ʻoe i kekahi a hilinaʻi iā lākou me nā mea āpau, he manaʻo kupaianaha ia. Manaʻo ʻoe palekana. ʻIke ʻoe mālama ʻia. Maluhia ʻoe. Hōʻike ka ʻaoʻao ʻē aʻe o ka pae i kahi moʻolelo ʻokoʻa. Ua ʻike mākou āpau i kekahi — he hoa aloha, lālā o ka ʻohana, hoa hana — ʻaʻole hiki iā mākou ke hilinaʻi iki. Ke hilinaʻi ʻole ʻoe i kekahi, pono ʻoe e hehi māmā i kou wā e launa pū ana me lākou. ʻIke ʻoe i kēlā me kēia manawa, huki paha lākou i ke kapeta ma lalo ou, a waiho iā ʻoe ʻeha a hōʻike ʻia.
I mea e holo pono ai kou pilina, pono ʻoe e hoʻopaʻa i ka hoʻokumu ʻana i kahi lewa hilinaʻi. Inā he hūnā āu e mālama nei iā ʻoe iho, ke pāʻani nei ʻoe i kahi pāʻani weliweli. Inā paha he huna kālā, pili pili, a i ʻole pilikino pilikino āu e paʻa nei, ke kali nei ʻoe no ka mea e kala ai ka maikaʻi o kāu pilina. Inā paʻa ʻoe iā ia no ka lōʻihi loa, e hoʻomaopopo nō ʻoe ʻaʻole hiki ke hilinaʻi ʻia ʻoe, a ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke lilo i mea ʻoi loa o ka pilina. Inā hōʻike hūnā ʻia kāu mea huna, e haki kou pilina hilinaʻi me kāu hoa. ʻAʻohe kumu lanakila i ka pāʻani huna.
Ke hōʻalo nei i nā kamaʻilio paʻakikī
Malia paha ʻaʻole ʻoe i makemake e kaʻana like i kāu huna me kāu wahine no ka mea he kamaʻilio hōʻoluʻolu ʻole ia. E koho 'oe? ʻO ka nui o ka manawa e waiho ai i kēlā fester hūnā, ʻo ka hōʻoluʻolu ʻole o ke kamaʻilio ʻana. ʻOi aku ka maikaʻi e haʻi ʻoe i kēlā mau kamaʻilio paʻakikī i mua.
E waiho i kou mau manaʻo i waho a loaʻa kahi pānaʻi aloha me kāu hoa e pili ana i nā mea e pono ai e loli e ola ai ke aloha. Inā loaʻa kekahi mea e hoʻopilikia nei iā ʻoe, pono ʻoe e lawe i ke kuleana no kēlā ʻano naʻau a hōʻike iā ia i kahi ʻano ʻoluʻolu. ʻAʻole wau e ʻōlelo aku e lawe ʻoe i kahi arsenal o ke ʻano a me ka ʻoluʻolu ʻole i ke kūkā ʻana; e hua wale nō ia inā kau ʻoe i kāu hopohopo i kahi ala e kākoʻo ai i kou pilina. ʻO ka inaina i haʻi ʻole ʻia e like me ka ʻawahia i kou pilina e like me nā huna āu e koho ai e mālama. E wehe a hoʻopono me kekahi i kekahi ma mua o ka wā ma hope.
Loaʻa i kahi hihia: Kino a me ke ʻano
ʻIke mākou āpau i ka pili ʻana i ke kino ʻoiai ka pilina paʻa ʻaʻole maikaʻi. ʻO Rula # 1 i loko o ka puke lima monogamy. Inā kūpaʻa ʻoe i ka hoʻolilo ʻana i kou ola me kekahi, me nā apo a me ka ʻaha a ʻaʻole paha, he mea nui e pale aku ʻoe i kēlā kūpaʻa me nā mea āpau āu.
ʻO ka mea ʻoi aku ka weliweli ma mua o ka pili kino, eia nō naʻe ke ʻano naʻau. ʻO kāu "wahine hana" a i ʻole kāu "hoa aloha papa" e like paha me he mau hoa aloha hala ʻole ʻana, akā e akahele. Inā ʻoe e kaʻana nei i nā mea hou aku, mālama nui ʻana, a hōʻike hou aku i nā mea kūpono no ke kanaka kēlā ʻaʻole ʻo kāu wahine, kāne, kāne kāne a ipo wahine paha, ke lawe nei paha ʻoe i kahi hopena lohi i kāu pilina ma ka home.
Ke hele kokoke nei ʻoe i kahi kanaka āu e hana pū ai, a i ʻole ia wahine āu e ʻike ai ma ke alapiʻi o kēlā me kēia lā, ke hana nei ʻoe i kahi mamao aʻe ma waena o ʻoe a me kāu hoa. E ʻike ʻoe i kēlā mamao, akā ʻo ka mea nui, ʻo lākou pū kekahi. Ke hele mamao loa ʻoe ma kahi kaʻawale, he paʻakikī loa e huki hou iā ia. E akahele me kou mau pilina ma waho o kahi mea nui iā ʻoe.
Mālama i ka helu
"Ua hana wau i nā pā, ka holoi lole, a lawe i nā keiki i ke kula i kēia lā. He aha kau i hana ai?
Ke mālama nei ʻoe i kahi papa helu noʻonoʻo i kou poʻo i nā mea āpau āu e hana ai no kou aloha? Inā ʻoe, a laila ke hoʻohoka nei ʻoe i kekahi o nā mea ʻoi loa i hiki i kou ola. Ke hoʻomaka ʻoe e ʻike i nā mea o kēlā me kēia lā āu e hana ai no kāu hoa ma ke ʻano he kālepa ʻana o "ua hana wau" vs. "ua hana ʻoe", hoʻohaʻahaʻa ia i ka waiwai o nā hana āu e hoʻopau ai. ʻAʻole ʻoe e hana hou ma ke aloha a me ka ʻoluʻolu. Ke hana nei ʻoe ma waho o hoʻokahi-upmanship. Ke lilo kāu pilina i loko o ka hoʻokūkū, paʻakikī e mālama hauʻoli i nā ʻaoʻao ʻelua.
Mālama i nā inaina
Loulou kēia i ka loaʻa ʻana o nā kamaʻilio paʻakikī a maikaʻi i loko o kāu pilina. E like me ka mea i ʻōlelo ʻia ma luna, he mea nui kēia mau kamaʻilio ʻana no ka mea hiki i nā ʻaoʻao ʻelua ke lohe ʻia a hoʻomaopopo ʻia. ʻO ka mea like nui ka hele wāwae ʻana mai kēlā mau kamaʻilio me ka pani ʻana ma ke kumuhana. Inā ʻoe e kamaʻilio ana i kāu hoapili e pili ana i kahi mea a lākou i ʻōlelo ai i hōʻeha i kou mau manaʻo, ʻo ia ka hoʻololi ʻana i ka manawa hope loa e piʻi ai. E hoʻohana i ke kamaʻilio ʻana e hōʻike i kou ʻano a maopopo e maopopo iā lākou i kou manaʻo. Ke hoʻonā koke ʻoe i ka pilikia, pono ʻoe e neʻe ma mua. Inā ʻoe e mālama iā ia no ka ammo i kahi paio e hiki mai ana, like ʻoe me ka maikaʻi ʻole o kāu hoa no ka ʻōlelo wī mua. ʻAʻole wale kēlā, akā ʻo ka paʻa ʻana i kēlā huhū e hoʻonui wale ana i kāu pae huhū no ke kanaka āu e aloha nui ai. E kūkā kamaʻilio paʻakikī, hoʻonā i ka pilikia, a neʻe i mua. Ke waiho nei i ka ʻeha a me ka huhū e waiho i kahi pōʻino no ke ola lōʻihi o ka pilina.
Pono e hōʻalo i kēia mau ʻano ʻelima i nā koina āpau inā makemake ʻoe e lōʻihi kou pilina. ʻAʻole ʻoe e ʻae iā lākou mai kāu ipo aku, a hōʻoiaʻiʻo wau ʻaʻole lākou e ʻae iā lākou mai iā ʻoe.
ʻOi aku ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, ʻoi aku ka hūnā o nā mea huna. ʻO ke kala hou aku, ʻoi aku ka inaina. E hoʻomaopopo iā lākou i kou aloha, mai waiho iā lākou e noʻonoʻo aia nō ia ma laila. Hana i kou pilina i ka ʻoi loa.
Nick Matiash
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