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- Ke kali nā kāne, piʻi lākou i ka pae o ka pilina
- Inā makemake ʻoe i kāu hoa e lilo i kāu BFF, kali e loaʻa ka moekolohe
- ʻOi aku kou pilina me kou mau makuahōnōwai e hiki mai ana
- ʻAʻole pono ʻoe e hopohopo e pili ana i ka hāpai ʻana a i ʻole nā STDs
- ʻO ka moekolohe ma hope o ka male ʻana kahi hana aʻo nani
- ʻO ka ʻōlelo a kekahi mau wahine e pili ana i ke kali ʻana a hiki i ka male ʻana.
Ke kali nei a hiki i ka male ʻana o ka moekolohe me he mea lā ʻaʻole i aloha ʻia i ke aniau o ka moekolohe ākea, nā makemake, a me nā pili aloha pili waena. ʻOiai, ʻo ka poʻe e kali nei aia i ka hapa liʻiliʻi: 89.1% o nā wahine e moekolohe ma mua o ka male ʻana, e waiho ana he 10% wale nō o ka heluna wahine ʻaʻole hana kolohe ke hōʻea lākou i ke kuahu. ʻO "Virgin" a me "Chaste" ke kani o nā huaʻōlelo mai nā 1950s, koe wale nō ke hoʻohana ʻia e kekahi mau hoʻomana hoʻomana e hoʻomau i ka waiwai i kēlā mau mokuʻāina.
E huki iā mākou mai nā waiwai o kēia manawa, nā mea e haʻi iā mākou ʻo mākou pono ke moe kolohe ma mua o ka male ʻana i hiki iā mākou ke "ʻike i ka mea a mākou e loaʻa nei", a nānā i kekahi o nā keu kūʻokoʻa o ke kali ʻana e ʻōlelo "hana wau" ma mua o ka pili kino ʻana me kā mākou hoa.
Ke kali nā kāne, piʻi lākou i ka pae o ka pilina
ʻO ke aloha aloha kahi ʻano kamaʻilio, ʻoiaʻiʻo. A i loko o kā mākou kaiāulu o kēia manawa, ʻike ʻia he ʻāpana ʻae ʻia o ka pili aloha, ʻoiai i ka wā mua o ka pilina pilina. Akā ke lilo ka pilina i mea nui i ke ʻano o ke kino, ka mea e hana ana no ka lilo ʻana o ka leʻaleʻa wahine i pahuhopu, ʻo ka mea e hoʻi pinepine i ka backseat ke aʻo nei i nā ala ʻē aʻe o ka hoʻopili ʻana me kāu hoa.
ʻO ka poʻe e kali ana a hiki i ka male ʻana, ʻike lākou i kā lākou naʻau a me ka naʻau ʻike e hoʻomohala mua ʻia i ka pilina me ka ʻole o ka hoʻowalewale ʻia o ka moekolohe.
Hoʻolilo kā lākou mau lā i ke kamaʻilio ʻana, kaʻana like ʻana, a me ke kūkulu ʻana i kahi ʻano pilina ʻē aʻe, i ka manawa i male ai a me ka moekolohe ʻana, e ʻoi aku ka nui a me ka ʻoluʻolu o ka pilikino. ʻIke maoli lākou i ke kanaka a lākou e aloha nei, no ka mea ua loaʻa iā lākou ka manawa kūpono e hana i kahi pilina ikaika me lākou.
Inā makemake ʻoe i kāu hoa e lilo i kāu BFF, kali e loaʻa ka moekolohe
Me ka ʻole o ka moekolohe ma kāu pilina ma mua o ka male, loaʻa iā ʻoe ka manawa e hoʻomohala i kahi pilina waiwai, piha a kūpono hoʻi me kāu wahine i ka wā e hiki mai ana.
E makemake iā ia a ʻaʻole paha, hiki i ka pilina wahine ke lilo i mea hoʻonāukiuki a lilo i mea nui no kāu hana pili aloha.
Hiki paha iā ʻoe ke hoʻopau i ka hoʻolōʻihi ʻana i ka manawa ma mua o ke kaulike a loaʻa iki ka manawa kūpono no kēlā mau kamaʻilio lōʻihi a hohonu e kōkua ai i ke kūkulu ʻana i kahi aloha aloha maoli.
ʻOi aku kou pilina me kou mau makuahōnōwai e hiki mai ana
ʻOiai i kēia mau lā hou, loaʻa paha i kāu mau makuahōnōwai i kekahi mau ʻano ʻoluʻolu ʻole ke ʻike lākou i kā lākou keiki, ʻo ia hoʻi kahi makua ʻenehana, hana moekolohe. ʻO ka mālama ʻana i ka moekolohe a hiki i ka male ʻana e hoʻokuʻu ai iā ʻoe mai kēia, a hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻolilo manawa me nā mākua o kāu financé me ka lawehala ʻole a hūnā paha i nā mea iā lākou.
ʻAʻole kūleʻa kou mau manawa i nā ʻano ʻeleʻele a i ʻole nā nīnau ʻoluʻolu ʻole mai iā lākou.
Ke kāpae nei i ka moekolohe a hiki i ka male ʻana e hoʻokuʻu ai iā ʻoe mai ka sneak a puni, a i ʻole e ʻōlelo me nā kala e pili ana i hea ʻoe a me kāu hana. Hiki iā ʻoe ke leʻaleʻa i kou mau makuahōnōwai me ka lunamanaʻo.
ʻAʻole pono ʻoe e hopohopo e pili ana i ka hāpai ʻana a i ʻole nā STDs
No ka mea ua ʻae ʻoe a me kāu pakanā e kali a hiamoe pū ka male, ʻaʻole pono ʻoe e hopohopo iā ʻoe iho me ka kaohi hānau (a i ʻole hiki ʻole ke kō ʻia), nā hoʻokolohua hāpai keiki, nā maʻi i lawe ʻia i ka moekolohe a me nā hoʻokolohua no kēlā mau mea, a nā ʻano ʻē aʻe o nā pilikia i makemake ʻole ʻia e lawe mai ka hana moekolohe ma mua o ka male.
ʻO ka moekolohe ma hope o ka male ʻana kahi hana aʻo nani
ʻO nā kāne e kali ana a hiki i ka male ʻana e loaʻa ka moekolohe e ʻae lākou i kahi nui o ka fumbling a me ke ʻano hemahema ke loaʻa iā lākou ka hana.
Akā no ka mea ua aʻo lākou i nā kino o kekahi i kekahi i loko o kahi pōʻaiapili a lākou i hana ai i kahi koho noʻonoʻo e hoʻohanohano, i kekahi hōʻoluʻolu ʻole, ka hilahila a i ʻole ka naʻaupō paha e pili ana i nā mea e hele ana ma hea kahi hana ʻole.
ʻO ke kāʻei aʻo i nā kino o kekahi a me ka leʻaleʻa he mea nani ia, a hāhai lākou iā ia i loko o kahi palekana a me kahi palekana o kā lākou pilina male. No laila, inā ʻaʻole kahi huakaʻi i ka paradaiso i ka manawa mua? Loaʻa iā lākou ko lākou ola āpau e noʻonoʻo i kēia ... a he mea maʻamau wale nō e hoʻāʻo e loaʻa i ke kau o ia.
ʻO ka ʻōlelo a kekahi mau wahine e pili ana i ke kali ʻana a hiki i ka male ʻana.
"ʻO ka pinepine, lele nā kāne a kēia lā i ka pilina pili kolohe me ka kānalua ʻole. Akā i ka hiki ʻana mai i ke ʻano o ka pili āu e makemake ai i ka hopena, makemake wau e ʻike kaʻu kāne i aloha iaʻu āpau, kaʻu mau quirks, ʻano, nā mea āpau, etc.
Manaʻo wau inā ʻoe e aloha i kekahi me ka lōʻihi e ʻike i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo iā ʻoe, malia paha hiki ke hoʻolōʻihi ʻia inā ʻaʻole e mālama i ka pilina mau loa. E ulu ka hapa nui o nā kānaka āpau i ke aloha moekolohe, ʻaʻole pono ʻoe e "hoʻāʻo i ke kāne" ma mua o ka hoʻoholo ʻana e male iā ia. E ʻike pono i ke kanaka kūpono a me nā ʻano o kāna kaila aloha, ʻo ia ka mea kūpono. " –Rebecca, 23.
"ʻAe, ua kali wau no ka male ma mua o ka moekolohe ʻana me kaʻu kāne. Noʻu he mea nui ia e mālama i kaʻu puʻupaʻa no ke kāne aʻu i aloha ai me kuʻu puʻuwai āpau, a me ka moekolohe ʻana i kaʻu pō male no ka manawa mua he bonus. He mea hanohano ke hāʻawi iā ia i koʻu puʻupaʻa. Ua male wau i ka makahiki 23. Haʻaheo i ka mālama ʻana i koʻu puʻupaʻa no ka male. ʻO kaʻu koho ia me ka noʻonoʻo pono. " –Christina, 25.
“He huakaʻi aʻo ka moe kolohe no nā mea āpau, a inā ʻoe ʻelua e hoʻokokoke iā ia me he wahine puʻupaʻa lā, ʻoi aku ka nui o ke keu no ka mea ke aʻo pū nei ʻoe. Noʻu, ʻaʻole nō ka moekolohe ke kumu o ka male maikaʻi, ʻoiai he pōmaikaʻi kupaianaha ia. ” –Carmen, 27.