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- 1. E ʻike i ka ikaika a me ka nāwaliwali o kekahi
- 2. Loaʻa nā mea i manaʻo ʻia
- 3. Aloha i kaʻu hoapili i ke ala a lākou e aloha ai
- He aha nā mea lawe mai kēia mau mea āpau?
Ma ke ʻano he kanaka, he poʻe kākou a pau i ke aloha, ke aloha, a me ke kākoʻo hope loa.
ʻO ke kākoʻo mua i ko mākou ola ka mea e lilo i ko mākou ʻohana nukilika-ʻo kā mākou wahine a me nā keiki. E like me kāu e koho ai, ʻo ke kahua o kekahi ʻohana olakino ka ʻohana makua.
Me ka ʻole o ke kaulike ma kēia wahi, hiki i nā wahi ʻē aʻe ke hoʻopau i ka halihali ʻana i ke kaumaha a i ka hopena i nā hihia me ke koʻikoʻi nui a i ʻole nā koi unmet, hāneʻe ma lalo o ke kaomi.
No laila pehea mākou e kūkulu ai i kahi kahua paʻa?
Ma lalo iho nei kekahi mau ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo e kōkua iā ʻoe a me kāu pakanā e hana a mālama i ka pilina ikaika a no laila, ʻohana ʻohana ikaika.
1. E ʻike i ka ikaika a me ka nāwaliwali o kekahi
He nui nā kāne a me nā hemo paha i hele mai iaʻu i hope no ka hoʻomaʻamaʻa e hōʻike i nā hakakā koʻikoʻi ma kēia wahi.
Komo lākou i loko o nā hakakā no ka mea manaʻo lākou ʻaʻole e hana ana kā lākou hoa. Eia nō naʻe, ke iho mākou i lalo, ʻaʻole ia no ka hoʻāʻo ʻana o kā lākou hoapili e hana pēlā, ʻo kā lākou ala o ka noʻonoʻo a me ka hana ʻana paha i mea e hoʻopilikia loa ai me ka noi e noi ʻia ana a hāʻule lākou no ka mea o ia.
Inā maikaʻi ʻole kaʻu hoa me nā kālā (akā ʻo wau) pehea e noʻonoʻo ai e nīnau iā lākou e lilo i mea e kaulike ai i ka puke?
Pau wau i ka huhū (a ʻo lākou pū kekahi). I nā manawa he nui, hoʻopaʻapaʻa mākou, a hoʻopau wau i ka hana ʻana iaʻu iho.
Hiki i kēia ke alakaʻi i ke kūkulu a i ka inaina a i ka hoʻowahāwahā pū kekahi.
Ma ke ʻano he kāne, pono mākou e kūkākūkā i ke ʻano o kēlā me kēia ikaika o mākou a hoʻohana i kēia e hāʻawi pololei i nā kuleana no ka manawa kūpono o ke kūleʻa ma ke ʻano he kime.
2. Loaʻa nā mea i manaʻo ʻia
Pili loa kēia i ka helu mua.
ʻAʻole pono mākou e ʻike i ka ikaika o kēlā me kēia mea a kūkulu aʻe iā lākou akā he manaʻo maopopo a kūpono hoʻi kā mākou e manaʻo ai.
ʻOiai inā maikaʻi kaʻu hoa i ka hana ʻana i nā pā a i ʻole ka lawe ʻana i ka ʻōpala, maopopo nō iaʻu ka nui a me ka wā hea e manaʻo ai lākou e hana i kēia mau mea. ʻAʻole hiki iaʻu ke huhū ke noi wau i kaʻu hoa e mālama i kekahi mea i kekahi lā a i ʻole manawa akā paʻa lākou i nā kuleana ʻē aʻe ʻaʻole hiki iā lākou ke kiʻi iā lākou i kēlā manawa.
Hiki ke maʻalahi ke noʻonoʻo ua ʻike mākou i nā mea e hana nei a noi i nā noi e pili ana i kēia akā hiki i kahi kahi e hele pinepine ai nā kāne.
Ma hope o ka manawa, kū lākou i ka nīnau a hoʻomaka i ka manaʻo.
ʻAʻole hele wale kēia no ka lawena akā nā manaʻo a me nā ʻano pū kekahi. Pono mākou e kamaʻilio ma ka hōʻike ʻana i kā mākou mau pono, e kiʻi i nā manaʻo mai kā mākou hoa pili pehea a i ka wā hea e hiki ai iā lākou ke hālāwai me lākou, a kūkā i kahi mea kūpono no nā mea ʻelua. Ma laila wale nō e hiki ai iā lākou ke hoʻopaʻapaʻa maoli no ka hui ʻana (a i ʻole hāʻule ʻole e hālāwai) kā mākou noi.
3. Aloha i kaʻu hoapili i ke ala a lākou e aloha ai
ʻO kēia kekahi mea nui.
ʻAʻole manaʻo nā kāne he nui a aloha ʻole wau e aloha ʻia a mahalo ʻia paha e kā lākou hoa. Ma waho o nā kūlana weliweli e like me ka hoʻomāinoino ʻana i ka naʻau, ka haʻalele ʻana, a i ʻole nā hihia; ʻaʻole ia no ka hana ʻole a kā lākou hoapili i nā mea aloha akā ʻaʻole aloha iā lākou i ke ala e hōʻoiaʻiʻo maoli ai a kākoʻo i kēia.
He aha kaʻu e ʻike ai?
Hoʻāʻo kekahi hoa e hōʻike i ke aloha i ke ala a lākou e makemake ai e loaʻa. ʻ telllelo aku paha kā lākou hoa iā lākou i nā mea e pono ai akā hōʻemi paha lākou iā ia a i ʻole maʻalahi paha ka ʻoluʻolu iā lākou iho e hana i kā lākou ala ponoʻī.
Hoʻouna wale kēia i ka leka ʻaʻole lākou e hoʻolohe a ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi-mai mālama. E ʻike i nā ʻōlelo aloha a kekahi a hoʻohana!
He aha nā mea lawe mai kēia mau mea āpau?
ʻO ka mea hope loa, paila ia i ke kamaʻilio, ka hoʻomaopopo ʻana, a me kaʻae ʻana.
Pono mākou e ʻae i kā mākou hoa a me mākou iho no wai mākou a hana i loko o nā palena o kēia e kūkulu a mālama i kahi kahua paʻa.
ʻAʻole maikaʻi wale ia no kā mākou pilina ma ke ʻano he kāne, akā e kōkua ia i ko mākou ʻohana holoʻokoʻa e pili i kekahi me kekahi.
E lilo ia i kumu hoʻohālike e aʻo ai no kā mākou poʻe keiki i hiki iā lākou ke loaʻa nā pilina olakino me lākou iho, nā mea a lākou e mālama ai, a ma ke ʻano he poʻe mākua aloha.