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- 1. Hoʻomaka mua
- 2. Kāohi i ka hoʻomohala ʻana i nā lawena maikaʻi ʻole i nā keiki
- 3. E aʻo i nā keiki e pili ana i ke koʻikoʻi o ke aloha o nā hoahānau
- 4. Hana i kahi papa hōʻike loiloi ʻano
- 5. E aʻo iā lākou pehea e hāʻawi ai i kekahi i kekahi
- 6. Aloha like kāu mau keiki
- 7. E aʻo iā lākou i ke ahonui
- 8. E hoʻolōʻihi hou aku i nā keiki
- 9. E alo nā keiki i kekahi
- 10. E ʻae i kāu mau keiki i ka pilina o kekahi
- 11. E hoʻonohonoho i nā keiki iā lākou iho
- 12. Mai kānalua e mahalo i kāu mau keiki
- 13. E pāʻani pū nā keiki
- 14. E aʻo iā lākou e mahalo i ka wahi a me ka waiwai ponoʻī o kekahi
- Nā manaʻo hope loa
He makua ʻoe? Loaʻa iā ʻoe he keiki ʻē aʻe ma mua o hoʻokahi? Aloha paha lākou kekahi i kekahi ʻaʻole paha? Ua lohe paha ʻoe iā lākou e hāwanawana nei i kekahi i kekahi? A i ʻole loaʻa pinepine nā hakakā e alakaʻi ai i ka hakakā? A i ʻole kaʻana like lākou i kahi mea a ke aloha hoahānau?
He kūlana ko kēlā me kēia keiki.
ʻO ka hanana ʻana o nā hakakā i kū mai ka hoʻokūkū ʻole e hana pinepine ʻia i loko o kahi ʻohana. ʻO ke aʻo ʻana i kāu poʻe keiki e aloha i kou mau kaikaina a me kou mau kaikuahine he hana nui ia na nā mākua e like me ʻoe. Pēlā, he home hauʻoli kou a me kāu poʻe keiki.
ʻO ka hāpai ʻana i nā kaikaina e aloha kekahi i kekahi a me ka ʻimi ʻana i nā ala e mahi ai i kēlā aloha i waena o nā keiki he mea ʻeha kekahi. Akā hiki loa ia.
Eia nā ala e kōkua ai iā ʻoe e hānai i kāu mau keiki e aloha kekahi i kekahi.
Nā ala akamai e hānai i nā keiki aloha a mālama kekahi i kekahi
1. Hoʻomaka mua
ʻOiai inā he ʻōpio kāu, ʻaʻole ia i lohi.
Eia nō naʻe, inā he pēpē ʻoe, he kamaliʻi, a he keiki ʻōpio, ua laki loa ʻoe. He manawa kūpono loa kāu e hoʻomaka mua ai ma ke aʻo ʻana iā lākou e hoʻomohala i ke aloha kaikaina.
E aʻo iā lākou i ke koʻikoʻi o ka launa pū ʻana me ko lākou mau kaikaina a me ka mālama maikaʻi ʻana i kekahi i kekahi. Ma waho aʻe, he mau pepa hakahaka nā keiki, a hoʻohālike lākou i nā hana a kēlā me kēia mea e puni ana iā lākou.
No laila, hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻolilo iā ʻoe iho i kumu hoʻohālikelike na kāu poʻe keiki e hoʻohālike ai.
2. Kāohi i ka hoʻomohala ʻana i nā lawena maikaʻi ʻole i nā keiki
Mai hoʻokuʻu iā lākou i nā lawena maikaʻi ʻole e pili ana kekahi i kekahi.
I kou wā kamaliʻi, he ʻeke kekahi mau kānaka nou. ʻO ia ka hauʻoli o ke keiki i kēlā manawa, akā ʻaʻole na ka poʻe i hōʻino ʻia. No ka poʻe me nā ʻike like, inaina ʻole lākou i ko lākou poʻe hoahānau.
Ke ulu a makua, ua loli paha kēlā mau manaʻo, akā ʻaʻole kokoke paha lākou.
No laila, mai waiho i ka ʻino ma waena o kāu mau keiki. Mai hoʻokuʻu iā lākou e hakakā a hana paha i nā mea aloha ʻole kekahi i kekahi.
Inā hana lākou i kēlā mau mea, hoʻopaʻi iā lākou, a aʻo iā lākou pehea e hana kūpono ai.
3. E aʻo i nā keiki e pili ana i ke koʻikoʻi o ke aloha o nā hoahānau
Hoʻomaopopo mau nā mākua iā lākou i ko lākou ola. ʻIke iā ia he hoʻomaikaʻi ke kaʻana like me kahi ʻohana. Hiki iā ʻoe ke hana i nā diaries e mālama pono i nā kiʻi o nā keiki mai ke kahua o kā lākou pēpē. ʻO nā manawa kokoke, pono e hoʻopaʻa i nā manawa o ka pāʻani pū. Ke hiki mai ka manawa e loiloi ai i kēia mau kiʻi, e aloha nui nā keiki kekahi i kekahi.
Hiki i nā mākua ke nīnau i nā nīnau liʻiliʻi e pili ana i ka noʻonoʻo o kekahi i kekahi.
O kahi laʻana -
“He aha kou makemake e pāʻani me kou kaikuahine / kaikuaʻana? He aha kāu e makemake ai e hana no kou kaikuahine / kaikunāne? ... “
4. Hana i kahi papa hōʻike loiloi ʻano
Aia nā hana aloha no nā kamaliʻi e hoʻomohala i ke ʻano kūpono i loko o lākou mai ka wā ʻōpio.
He kānalua nō kēia manaʻo he ala maikaʻi loa e kōkua i nā keiki e ʻike i kā lākou ʻano a me nā huaʻōlelo. Pono nā mākua e hana pū me kā lākou poʻe keiki e kaha i ka loiloi i nā ʻano, ka mea, pili i ka pono, awelika, a me nā pae kūpono ʻole, e kōkua i nā keiki e nānā i kā lākou hana i kā lākou mau kaikaina no hoʻokahi lā a hoʻokahi pule.
Loaʻa i nā mākua nā makana no ka hana maikaʻi.
5. E aʻo iā lākou pehea e hāʻawi ai i kekahi i kekahi
ʻO ke aʻo ʻana i nā keiki e aʻo pehea e noho haʻahaʻa ai kahi ala maikaʻi loa e hoʻoulu ai i ke aloha like i nā keiki.
Paipai mau nā mākua i nā keiki e nīnau e pili ana i ka pono.
O kahi laʻana -
"Pehea e kaulike ai?". A na ke keiki e pane i ka nīnau i luna.
Ma kahi o ka walaʻau ʻana a me ke koi ʻana i nā keiki e haʻalele i ka pāʻani ʻana ke hoʻopaʻapaʻa lākou, e ʻae nā mākua iā lākou e ʻike i ka hopena maikaʻi loa no nā mea ʻelua.
6. Aloha like kāu mau keiki
Ke hōʻike nei i ke aloha no kāu poʻe keiki kekahi ala e aʻo ai iā lākou pehea e aloha ai. Hōʻike iā lākou ʻaʻole e aloha ke aloha iā lākou e lili, akā na ke aloha e hoʻonāukiuki iā lākou e hiki ke noho pū.
Inā lākou e aloha ʻia, e hōʻike lākou i ke aloha i kekahi poʻe ʻē aʻe.
7. E aʻo iā lākou i ke ahonui
ʻO ke ahonui kahi pono a kūpono i ka mahalo.
ʻAʻole maʻalahi ka loaʻa ʻana o nā ʻano maikaʻi, a koi ʻia ka kaohi iho a me ka ʻike. ʻOi aku no nā kaikuaʻana, emi paha ke ahonui, a lawe paha ka huhū.
Ma ke aʻo ʻana i ke ahonui, e loaʻa ka ʻike a me ke ahonui hou o nā keiki no kā lākou kaikaina.
8. E hoʻolōʻihi hou aku i nā keiki
Ke lilo ka manawa o ka poʻe e pāʻani pū ana, e ulu ana nā manaʻo i nā lālā o ko lākou ʻohana a hoʻokokoke iā lākou ma ke ʻano he ʻohana nui, hauʻoli, ʻohana.
Hauʻoli nā ʻohana ke noho pū lākou i ko lākou hopena pule. Pono nā mākua e koho i kahi manawa i nā hopena pule e lilo ai ka manawa maikaʻi me kā lākou keiki. E hana kēia neʻe i nā hoʻomanaʻo hoʻomanaʻo hou aku no nā keiki.
He ala ia e hōʻuluʻulu ai i nā lālā o ka ʻohana.
9. E alo nā keiki i kekahi
ʻAʻole wale ia he pāʻani e hoʻonui i ka lewa a me ka leʻaleʻa i ka lewa o kou ʻohana, akā he ala ia e ʻike ai nā keiki i nā helehelena o kekahi. Inā maopopo ʻoe i nā ʻano hou aku o nā manaʻo, e aloha aku ʻoe a ʻike pehea e pane ai i nā kaikaina o kou kaikaina ke hui pū ʻoe i kēlā me kēia lā.
Kōkua kēia manaʻo i nā keiki e hoʻomaopopo hou aku i ko lākou kaikuahine a pale i ka hiki ʻana i ka bickering.
10. E ʻae i kāu mau keiki i ka pilina o kekahi
Aia kekahi laina maopopo ma waena o nā mākua a me nā keiki. No ke aha e hoʻohana ʻole ai nā makuwahine i kēlā manawa e hoʻokūkala i ka pilina a lākou e hui pū nei?
Hiki i nā mākua ke hana i kahi kihi no kā lākou keiki e pāʻani pū a i ʻole e ʻae pū iā lākou e hiamoe e ʻike pehea e kaʻana like ai lākou i ka lumi moe. He ala ia e kōkua ai i nā keiki e kaʻana like a aloha hou kekahi i kekahi, e pale i ka hakakā i ke ola.
11. E hoʻonohonoho i nā keiki iā lākou iho
Kōkua i kāu keiki e hoʻomohala i nā mākau e hoʻoponopono i ka pilikia o ka hoʻonohonoho ʻana a pehea e hana ai i kahi hui e hana pū i nā hoʻoholo kūpono loa. Ma kahi o ka lawe mamao ʻana i ke kīwī e koho i kāu mau punahele punahele, e ʻoluʻolu e aʻo i kāu poʻe keiki pehea e ʻae ai i nā noi a kekahi e like me ka huli ʻana i kēlā mau kahawai.
Hiki iā ʻoe ke ʻōlelo: "Inā hiki iā ʻoe ke koho i kahi papahana e nānā, e nānā pū mākou ia ma hope o ka ʻaina awakea" a laila e hoʻokuʻu i nā keiki na lākou iho. He ala kūpono nō hoʻi ia e hoʻopaʻapaʻa a aloha ʻole ai nā keiki.
12. Mai kānalua e mahalo i kāu mau keiki
ʻAʻole palena nā mākua i kā lākou mahalo i kā lākou keiki, e ʻike iā lākou ke hana hewa nei a kēnā aku iā lākou e haʻalele.
Akā mai poina e hoʻomaikaʻi iā lākou ke ʻike lākou he hoʻolohe. Ke pāʻani ʻoe me kekahi, pono ʻoe e haʻi iaʻu i kou hauʻoli a me kou haʻaheo.
Lawe mai ke aloha hoahānau i nā pono he nui i nā keiki.
I ka wā e hiki mai ana, e ʻike nā keiki pehea e hoʻohaʻahaʻa ai i kā lākou mau pilina me kā lākou mau hoa, ʻike pehea e hoʻonā ai i nā hakakā ma ke ala kūpono, ʻike pehea e hoʻomaikaʻi ai i nā manaʻo a ʻo ka mea nui loa, hauʻoli mau lākou.
13. E pāʻani pū nā keiki
ʻO ka hana keaka ke ʻano o nā ala kūpono e kōkua ai i nā keiki e hoʻomaʻamaʻa i ka mākau pilikanaka a kūkulu i ka noho aloha ʻana. No ka loaʻa ʻana o kahi palapala maikaʻi, pono nā keiki e nānā i nā hana a kekahi, me ka hoʻohui ʻana i nā manaʻo o ka poʻe.
Leʻaleʻa hoʻi kēia pāʻani keaka ke pāʻani pū nā keiki. Kōkua pū ia i nā keiki e hōʻalo i ka hakakā ma ko lākou ola.
14. E aʻo iā lākou e mahalo i ka wahi a me ka waiwai ponoʻī o kekahi
He mea koʻikoʻi nā palena pilikino no nā poʻe he nui. A ke lanakila ʻia ka palena, pinepine ka hakakā.
E aʻo aku ʻoe i kāu poʻe keiki i kekahi manawa pono wale ka poʻe e noho kaʻawale. A inā makemake lākou e hōʻaiʻē i kahi mea pāʻani a waiwai ʻē aʻe paha, pono lākou e noi no ka ʻae. ʻAʻole pono lākou e lawe wale mai nā poʻe ʻē aʻe a manaʻo e maikaʻi nā mea āpau.
E mālama pono i kou ola male.
E kōkua kēia i nā keiki e noho a aʻo i ke kaiapuni maikaʻi loa.
Nā manaʻo hope loa
ʻO ka hānai ʻana i nā keiki e ulu a aloha kekahi i kekahi ʻaʻole mea maʻalahi.
Pono kahi kaʻina lōʻihi a me ke ahonui o nā mākua. Mai ahonui inā hana hewa ʻoe, he keiki wale nō lākou, a pono lākou iā ʻoe e alakaʻi iā lākou i ke ala kūpono.