Anter
- 1. Ke kia ʻana i ka manawa hoʻopaʻa hoʻopaʻa ʻohana
- 2. Ke koʻikoʻi nei i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo a me ka hilinaʻi
- 3. Kaʻana like i nā kuleana
ʻOhana - he huaʻōlelo e hōʻike ana i kahi mea ʻokoʻa no kēlā me kēia mea no ka mea ʻokoʻa kēlā me kēia ʻohana.
Akā maʻamau, ke lohe mākou i ka huaʻōlelo, hoʻopili mākou iā ia me kahi mea hauʻoli, kahi mea hauʻoli. Akā, ʻaʻole hauʻoli nā ʻohana āpau a i ʻole ma ka liʻiliʻi ʻaʻole hauʻoli lākou i ka hapa nui o ka manawa.
ʻOiaʻiʻo, aloha mau mākou i ko mākou ʻohana, akā i kekahi manawa hiki i nā mea ke paʻakikī a ma kahi o ke kōkua ʻana kekahi i kekahi e hoʻomaka mākou e hoʻopilikia kekahi i kekahi.
He mea hoʻomanaʻo momona ka ʻohana ma nā mea a pau e hana ʻia ma laila kahi kahi e hiki ai iā ʻoe ke hoʻi a kekahi mea e hoʻi mau i kou kua. Akā i kekahi manawa, i mea e loaʻa ai kahi ʻohana hauʻoli, pono ʻoe e hoʻāʻo iki.
No laila, i kēia lā post, ke hōʻike nei mākou i nā mea huna maʻalahi he 3 i ka ʻohana kaumaha ʻole, hauʻoli, olakino.
1. Ke kia ʻana i ka manawa hoʻopaʻa hoʻopaʻa ʻohana
ʻO ka hapa nui o nā ʻohana paʻakikī i ka launa pū ʻana me kekahi. ʻAʻole paha e lawa ka manawa pū. A ʻo kekahi, ʻoiai lākou e noho manawa, hui pū kā lākou kamaʻilio āpau i ka hoʻokolokolo a hōʻino paha kekahi i kekahi.
No kēlā kumu, ʻaʻole lawa ka hoʻolilo manawa hou ʻana me nā mea aloha - pono ka manawa kūpono. Ma kahi o ka hoʻohewa ʻana, e ʻimi i nā hopena maikaʻi a hāʻawi i kāu kōkua, keu hoʻi inā ʻo ʻoe ka makua. Makemake nā keiki āpau i ko lākou mau mākua ma ko lākou ʻaoʻao, ʻaʻohe mea.
Minamina, ke paʻakikī ka loaʻa ʻole o ka manawa o nā mākua me ka ʻohana, ʻoi aku ka nui o ka ʻeha a nā keiki a i ka wā hope, ke ulu lākou, hiki iā lākou ke lilo i nā mea i loaʻa ʻole ka manawa no ka ʻohana.
Ke noʻonoʻo nei i kēia mau mea, ʻo ka hānai ʻana i ʻohana ka hana ʻoi loa paha ma ka honua no ka mea ʻo kēlā me kēia hoʻoholo āu e hoʻoholo ai hiki ke hopena i ka hopena o kāu poʻe keiki.
ʻO kekahi o nā ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo nui a koʻikoʻi no ka ʻohana hauʻoli ka lawe ʻana i ka manawa no ka hoʻopaʻa hoʻopaʻa ʻana e mālama i ka pilina maikaʻi a nui ka leʻaleʻa i hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻopaʻa paʻa.
Hiki iā ʻoe ke hele no kahi huakaʻi i kahi wahi exotic a i ʻole ma ka ululāʻau kokoke loa, hiki iā ʻoe ke kuke pū, e ʻai pū i hoʻokahi manawa me ka ʻai, a i ka pō pāʻani papa i hoʻokahi manawa i ka mahina, a i ʻole i ka pō kiʻi ʻoniʻoni hoʻokahi i hoʻokahi pule.
2. Ke koʻikoʻi nei i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo a me ka hilinaʻi
Hoʻomaka kēlā me kēia hakakā ʻohana a hakakā paha no ka mea ʻaʻole pono ʻole a hūnā paha kekahi i kekahi mea - ʻo ia ka mea like. No laila, ʻo ka nui o kou wahaheʻe a hūnā i nā mea mai kou ʻohana, ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi ʻole o ke kūlana ma ka home.
He ʻike maʻamau ʻo kekahi o nā kī gula i ka loaʻa ʻana o kahi pilina maikaʻi ka ʻoiaʻiʻo.
Me kaʻoiaʻiʻo e hiki mai ka hilinaʻi - kahi mea koʻikoʻi no kēlā me kēia pilina olakino - a me ka hilinaʻi, hiki mai ka mahalo - ʻo ia ke kumu o kekahi ʻohana hauʻoli.
Wahaheʻe mau nā mākua i kā lākou keiki e pili ana i kā lākou kūlana kālā no nā kumu maopopo like ʻole, akā ʻaʻole ia e maikaʻi. ʻO kahi laʻana, inā ʻaʻole maikaʻi ʻoe, pono e ʻike kāu mau keiki ʻaʻohe mea kūpono ʻole me ia.
Inā ʻole, manaʻo paha kāu mau keiki hiki iā ʻoe ke kūʻai i nā mea makamae akā ʻaʻole ʻoe makemake no ka mea ʻaʻole lawa kou aloha iā lākou.
Ma ka ʻaoʻao ʻē aʻe, inā ʻano waiwai ʻoe a hiki iā ʻoe ke uku i nā mea āpau a kāu poʻe keiki e makemake ai, e hōʻino ʻoe iā lākou e hōʻino iā lākou. ʻO ia ke kumu i makemake ai kekahi mau mākua e wahaheʻe - no ka mea ʻoi aku ka maʻalahi - no laila ʻaʻole e lilo ke keiki i keiki kāne hōʻino.
ʻOi aku ka maikaʻi e hoʻopono a wehewehe i kāu keiki pono ʻoe e loaʻa a hana no nā mea i ke ola no ka mea ʻaʻohe mea i loaʻa manuahi. Hiki iā ʻoe ke uku iā lākou me nā mea pāʻani no ka hana maʻalahi i nā hana maʻalahi - ma kēia ʻano e aʻo ai ʻoe iā lākou pehea e holo ai ka honua.
Hele mai kaʻoiaʻiʻo me nā haʻawina ola nui no kāu keiki a hiki iā ia ke lilo i hoʻokahi o ko lākou ʻano pilikino.
Hiki i nā mea maikaʻi ʻole ke hele mai me ka wahaheʻe - e hoʻomanaʻo i kēia ke ʻike ʻia kahi wahaheʻe he hopena maʻalahi no kāu mau pilikia āpau.
3. Kaʻana like i nā kuleana
Nui a hewahewa nā mea e hana ai i ka hale, keu hoʻi ke keiki, me ko lākou ikaika a pau, hiki ke lilo i mau tornado liʻiliʻi a hana i kahi kolohe i loko o nā minuke ma hope o kou lilo ʻana i hoʻokahi hola e hoʻomaʻemaʻe i kahi.
Ma kahi o ka hoʻokumu ʻana i ka hakakā i loko o ka hale, hiki iā ʻoe ke aʻo i kāu poʻe keiki aloha e pili ana i ke kuleana.
Ke kaʻawale nā hana a mahalo kēlā me kēia ʻohana i kā lākou ʻāpana, hoʻopau ʻoe i nā hakakā āpau.
Eia kekahi, hiki iā ʻoe ke hana i nā hana leʻaleʻa ma ka hoʻolilo ʻana iā lākou i pāʻani. ʻO kahi laʻana, no kēlā me kēia hana, loaʻa iā ʻoe kahi hōkū gula a ma nā hōkū gula 25, loaʻa iā ʻoe kahi makana.
Hiki i ke aʻo ʻana ke kuleana he mikiona paʻakikī, akā me ka hoʻoikaika kūpono, hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻoponopono i kāu mau pilikia āpau.
No laila, e hōʻalo i nā hakakā āpau no ka mea maʻa mau ka hale, hoʻokō i ke ʻano o ke kuleana i ke ola o kāu keiki - kahi e maʻalahi ai ke ola o kāu mau keiki ke ulu lākou, a me nā mea hakakā i hoʻopau ʻia, kāu hiki i ka ʻohana ke lilo i hauʻoli.
E nānā i kēia wikiō o ka Psychologist Haumana ʻO Kauka Paul Jenkins e kamaʻilio nei e pili ana i nā ala e kōkua ai i nā keiki e lilo i kuleana nui a aʻo pū pehea e ʻike ai ke mākaukau.
I ka pōkole
Pono ka ʻohana e hakakā mau no ka mea, i kekahi manawa, hiki i kāu mau mea āpau - he mau manawa ka hoaaloha, ʻaʻole pili kou ʻohana. No laila inā ʻaʻole maikaʻi nā mea i hala koke aku nei i kou ʻohana, hiki i ka manawa e hana i nā hana e kūkulu i kahi ola ʻohana hauʻoli. Ma ka hāʻawi maʻalahi ʻana i ka manawa kūpono i kēlā me kēia, me ka ʻoiaʻiʻo a me ke kaʻanalike ʻana i nā kuleana, hiki iā ʻoe ke maʻalahi i kēlā.