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- E ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi?
- 1. Holoi i nā hoʻopili āpau
- 2. Apo i kou naʻau
- 3. E ʻae i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo
- 4. E mahalo iā ʻoe iho
- 5. E haʻi ʻaʻole i nā hōʻole
- Ke hoʻomaikaʻi nei i kou puʻuwai haki
Ke aloha aloha mākou, ʻaʻole mākou e hoʻomākaukau iā mākou iho no ka lawelawe ʻana i nā haʻihaʻi no ka mea aloha aloha mākou a hauʻoli mākou. Nui ka hauʻoli o ka ʻike ʻana i ka "hoʻokahi" a ʻaʻohe huaʻōlelo e wehewehe ai pehea e hiki ai i ke aloha a me ka hauʻoli ke hoʻopiha i kou puʻuwai akā he aha ka mea e ala aʻe ke ala ʻoe mai kahi moeʻuhane a hoʻomaopopo ʻoe ʻaʻole ka "kanaka" āu e aloha ai a ʻo ʻoe haʻalele mākou ʻaʻole wale me ka puʻuwai puʻuwai akā me nā moe uha a hoʻohiki pū kekahi?
Ua hala mākou āpau i kēia a ʻo ka mea mua e nīnau ai pehea mākou e hoʻomaikaʻi ai i ko mākou naʻau haʻihaʻi? ʻIke maoli paha mākou i ka mea e hana ai ma hope o ka hemo ʻana?
E ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi?
ʻO kekahi o nā nīnau a mākou e nīnau ai iā mākou iho: "e ʻoi aku anei ka maikaʻi?" ʻO ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, ua loaʻa iā mākou āpau ka mahele o ka puʻuwai a makemake wale mākou e ʻike i ke ala maikaʻi loa e pili ana i ka mea e hana ai ma hope o ka haki maikaʻi ʻole.
Ke kū nei i kahi haki maikaʻi ʻole, ʻo ka mea mua āu e manaʻo ai he hōʻole a haʻalulu no ka mea ʻo ka ʻoiaʻiʻo. ʻaʻohe mea mākaukau no ka hōʻeha puʻuwai. Manaʻo maoli ia e like me ka hou ʻana o kekahi i kou puʻuwai a ʻo ia paha kekahi kumu no ka mea he manawa kūpono loa ka puʻuwai no ka mea a mākou e manaʻo ai.
Ma hea mākou e hoʻomaka ai i ka wā o kahi mea a mākou i hilinaʻi nui ai i haki i ko mākou naʻau a hoʻomaka ʻoe e lohe i nā ʻōlelo ʻehaʻeha naʻau mai iā lākou?
Pono i nā ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo no ka mea e hana ai ma hope o ka hemo ʻana no nā kāne a mau kaikamahine paha? Pehea ʻoe e "neʻe ai" a ma hea ʻoe e hoʻomaka ai? Holoi wale ʻoe i kou aloha ke ʻike ʻoe he mea ʻole kēlā mau aloha, nā ʻōlelo hoʻohiki, a me nā huaʻōlelo momona.
Ma hope o ka puʻuwai puʻuwai - ʻae, e maikaʻi nā mea akā mai manaʻo ʻoe e ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi i ka manawa koke.
He ʻoiaʻiʻo kou aloha a he mea maoli nō ia e manaʻo ʻoe e pono ana ʻoe i ka manawa e hoʻōla ai ʻoiai ke hana nei ia, aia kekahi mau mea a mākou e hoʻomanaʻo pono ai. Pono mākou e ʻike i kēia ma ka puʻuwai no laila e ʻike mākou i ka mea e hana ai ma hope o ka hemo ʻana.
He aha e hana ai ma hope o ka hemo ʻana
1. Holoi i nā hoʻopili āpau
ʻAe, pololei kēlā. E ʻōlelo paha ʻoe ʻaʻole holo pono kēia no ka mea ʻike ʻoe i ka helu kelepona ma o ka puʻuwai akā kōkua ia. ʻO ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, he ʻanuʻu ʻekahi ia i kou ola hou ʻana. ʻOiai ma ia, hiki iā ʻoe ke wehe i kekahi mea e hoʻomanaʻo iā ʻoe i ko lākou ola. ʻAʻole ʻawaʻawa ia, ke neʻe nei.
Ke ʻike ʻoe i ka makemake e kamaʻilio a i ʻole ma ka liʻiliʻi e loaʻa ka panina a hoʻowalewale ʻia ʻoe e kāhea i kahi manawa hope loa - mai hana.
Kāhea aku i kāu hoaaloha maikaʻi, kou kaikuahine a kaikunāne paha - nā mea āu e ʻike ai e kōkua iā ʻoe a e hoʻohuli wale paha i kou manaʻo. Mai hoʻopili wale aku i kāu ex.
2. Apo i kou naʻau
He aha e hana ai ma hope o ka hemo ʻana me ka ipo a ipo paha? ʻĀ, e hoʻokuʻu i kou mau manaʻo ʻaʻole wale me kāu ex no laila mai hoʻāʻo e kāhea iā lākou. Uē, ʻuwā a i ʻole kiʻi i kahi ʻeke kuʻi a kuʻi iā ia i ka paʻakikī hiki iā ʻoe.
No ke aha ʻoe e nīnau ai?
ʻĀ, no ka ʻehaʻeha o kou naʻau a inā ʻoe e hoʻokuʻu i nā mea āpau, e kōkua ia iā ʻoe.
ʻO ka hewa maʻamau a mākou e hana nei ʻo ka hūnā i ka ʻeha a ʻoi aku ka hōʻino ʻana.
No ke aha ʻoe e hana ai i kēlā ma ka mua? No laila, he aha e hana ai ma hope o ka hemo ʻana?
E ʻae ʻoe i ka ʻeha - hoʻolohe i nā mele aloha kaumaha, uē, kākau i kou mau manaʻo āpau i kahi pepa a puhi iā ia. ʻUā, kākau i ko lākou inoa a hoʻokomo i loko o kahi ʻeke kuʻi a kuʻi iā ia e like me ʻoe i ke kahua mokomoko. I nā mea āpau, e hoʻokuʻu i nā mea āpau a hana i ka ʻeha i kēia manawa.
Heluhelu Pili: Pehea e hana ai me ka hoʻokaʻawale
3. E ʻae i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo
ʻIke mākou ua hala ke kūpono? ʻIke mākou i kēia i loko o ko mākou puʻuwai no ke aha e paʻa ai i kā lākou mau hoʻohiki? No ke aha e hāʻawi ai i nā kumu no ke aha e hiki ai? Ua hana ʻia no ka mea ua hana a me kāu ex i nā kumu a hilinaʻi iā mākou, ʻike maopopo lākou i ka pōʻino.
E ʻae i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo ua pau i kēia manawa a ma kahi o ka hoʻolālā ʻana i ka pehea e lanakila ai i kāu ex; hana i nā hoʻolālā pehea ʻoe e neʻe ai.
Heluhelu Pili: Pehea e loaʻa ai i kahi mea āu e aloha ai
4. E mahalo iā ʻoe iho
He aha ka mea e hana ʻole ai ma hope o ka hemo ʻana? Mai noi i kāu ex e noʻonoʻo hou a noi iā lākou e hoʻāʻo hou. Mahalo iā ʻoe iho.
ʻOiai paʻakikī, ʻaʻohe mea ʻeha, ʻoiai inā ʻaʻohe ou pani, pono ʻoe e mahalo iā ʻoe iho ʻaʻole e noi hou aku i ka mea makemake ʻole iā ʻoe.
He paʻakikī paha ia akā ʻo ka ʻoiaʻiʻo āu e lohe ai. Pono ʻoe ma mua o kēia - e ʻike i kāu waiwai.
5. E haʻi ʻaʻole i nā hōʻole
E ʻōlelo paha kekahi e ʻike ʻoe iā ʻoe iho i kekahi mea e poina akā ʻike ʻaʻole maikaʻi kēia i kēlā me kēia kau.
ʻIke ʻoe ʻaʻole ʻoe ma luna o kāu ex, no laila e hoʻohana wale ana ʻoe i kēlā kanaka rebound a e hōʻeha loa iā lākou e like me ka ʻeha o ʻoe.
ʻAʻole ʻoe makemake i kēlā, ʻeā?
Ke hoʻomaikaʻi nei i kou puʻuwai haki
ʻAʻole maʻalahi ka mālama ʻana i ka puʻuwai haʻihaʻi. Pono ʻoe i nā kōkua āpau i hiki iā ʻoe ke loaʻa a i kekahi manawa, ʻo ka ʻenemi maikaʻi loa ma aneʻi kou puʻuwai. I kekahi manawa lilo ia i hiki ʻole ke kiʻi ʻia i ka wā e hoʻi mai ana nā hoʻomanaʻo a i ka manawa a ʻike ʻoe i kou ex hauʻoli me kahi mea ʻē aʻe. He mea maʻamau ke huhū, ʻeha, a me ka huhū ʻole.
He kāne mākou a ʻike mākou i ka ʻeha aʻaʻohe mea e helu ana i ka wikiwiki o kou hiki ke ola - no laila e hoʻihoʻi i kāu manawa ponoʻī a ʻae mālie i nā mea āpau.
Mai noʻonoʻo ua nāwaliwali ʻoe ke uē ʻoe a mai minamina ke ʻike ʻoe hoʻokahi. E hoʻomanaʻo he poʻe aloha iā ʻoe a kākoʻo iā ʻoe.
Ma mua o kēlā, e ʻae wale i kou puʻuwai e hoʻoponopono.
Maʻalahi ke ʻike i ka mea e hana ai ma hope o ka hoʻokaʻawale akā ʻo ka hana ʻana ia ʻo ka ʻaʻa maoli akā ʻoiai ke ʻike ʻoe i kāu mea e hana ai a aia kāu mau mea aloha a me kou mau hoaaloha ma aneʻi no ʻoe. E loaʻa iā ʻoe nā mea āpau e pono ai e neʻe a hoʻomaka i kahi ola hou.