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- Ka pilina maoli a me ka moekolohe
- Ka pilina maoli a me ka manawa like
- Ka pilina maoli a me nā manaʻo maikaʻi ʻole
- Ka pilina maoli a me ka hoʻonā ʻana o ka hakakā
ʻO ka pilina maoli i ka male ʻana he pilikia paʻakikī ia ma mua o ka manaʻo o kekahi. Manaʻo ka nui o nā kāne he mea hiki wale mai kēlā iā ʻoe. Eia naʻe, ʻaʻole kēlā ka hihia. ʻO ka pilina maoli i ka male ka mea e pono ai ka hana. ʻAe, hiki i ke aloha palena ʻole a me ke kuko i kāu pili me ka ʻole o ka hoʻāʻo ʻana, akā ʻo ka pilina ka mea e pono ai ka hoʻāʻo ʻana. E kūkākūkā kēia ʻatikala i kekahi o nā nīnau koʻikoʻi e pili ana i ka pilina ma ka male, he aha ia a ʻaʻole ia.
Ka pilina maoli a me ka moekolohe
ʻO ka mea mua e popo mau i ka manaʻo o ke kanaka ke lohe lākou i ka huaʻōlelo “intimacy” ka moekolohe. A, inā ʻoe e kānana i nā makasina e ʻimi nei i ka ʻōlelo aʻo e pili ana i ka pili aloha i ka male, e ʻike paha ʻoe i nā ʻatikala he nui e pili ana i nā mea ʻelua. Hiki iā ʻoe ke ʻike i kēlā, me ka ʻole o ka moekolohe, kū ʻole ʻoe i ka pilina maoli i ka pilina. ʻO kēia ka hihia?
ʻO ka pane pōkole - ʻaʻole, ʻaʻole ia. I kēia manawa, ʻo ka lōʻihi. ʻO ka moekolohe kahi mea paʻakikī iā ia iho, a hiki iā ia ke hana i nā pale ma waena o kahi hana ʻole a me ka hōʻike hohonu o ka pili. No laila, ʻoiai pili ʻia me ka pili maoli i ka male, ʻaʻole hiki ke noʻonoʻo ʻia kēia mau hanana ʻelua i mea like.
I kēia manawa, inā kani kēia e like me kahi mea e nalowale ana, pololei paha ʻoe. Mai nānā ʻole i ka hāʻawi a ke aloha kino i hāʻawi ai i ka male. ʻOiaʻiʻo, ʻo kēia wale nō ka hihia inā hana pololei ʻia. He aha ka manaʻo? Hiki i ke aloha kino ke hana i nā ʻano like ʻole. No ka mea he hōʻailona o ka pilina, pono e kūpono i nā hoa ʻelua; pono ia i ka manawa wale, a me ka ʻole o kekahi kaomi. Inā he moekolohe hihi ia, maikaʻi! Inā he paʻa lima wale nō ia, maikaʻi nō hoʻi! ʻAʻohe palapala kuhikuhi no ia akā akā e hōʻoia i kou hōʻike maoli i ke aloha a me ka mālama. Hoʻowahāwahā i nā makasina. Koho i kāu hōʻike o ka pili loa.
Ka pilina maoli a me ka manawa like
Manaʻo nā kāne he nui ka hōʻike ʻana o ka pilina maoli i ka male ma ka manawa āpau. Eia nō naʻe, like me ke kuhi hewa mua e pili ana i ka male, ʻoi aku ka paʻakikī o ka hihia ma mua o kēlā. A, like, ʻaʻole hiki ke ʻōlelo ʻia ʻo ka hoʻolilo ʻana i kou manawa manawaleʻa he mea pono maoli ia no ka pili wahine maoli.
Eia kekahi, hiki i nā kāne ke kaʻawale mai kekahi i kekahi no nā kumu hewa loa, kahi kūʻē āpau o ka pili aloha. Inā lilo kahi pilina i ʻano dynamics olakino o ka codependence, no ka laʻana, e manaʻo ka wahine ʻole i ka hopohopo ʻole ke kaʻawale lāua. Akā, he ʻano ʻawahia kēia o ka pili, a ʻaʻole hiki ke mamao aʻe mai ka pili maoli.
No ka pilikino o kekahi kanaka me kekahi kanaka ʻē aʻe, pono lākou e ʻoluʻolu i loko o lākou iho. No ka hoʻokō ʻana i kēia pae o ka hilinaʻi, pono ʻoe e hānai i kāu mau hoihoi a alualu i kāu mau kuko. ʻO ia ke kumu e makaʻu ʻole ai i ka hoʻolōʻihi ʻana i kahi manawa ma ʻō a ma ʻaneʻi. ʻAʻole ia e hoʻokuke iā ʻoe ma kahi kaʻawale; e hoʻokokoke iā ʻoe.
Ka pilina maoli a me nā manaʻo maikaʻi ʻole
ʻO kekahi moʻolelo kaʻao e pili ana i ka nīnau o ka pili maoli i ka male ʻana e pili ana i ka hōʻike o nā manaʻo maikaʻi ʻole a me ka huhū. He mea maʻamau ka ʻike ʻana i ke ʻano o nā manaʻo maikaʻi ʻole i kāu wahine. Noho nui ʻoe i ka manawa a kaʻana like i nā hiʻohiʻona o kou ola. Kūpono ka hakakā.
Eia nō naʻe, makaʻu ka nui o nā kāne i kēia mau naʻau, ke wehewehe nei lākou iā lākou ma ke ʻano he hōʻailona o ka kaʻawale looming. ʻAʻole kēia ka hihia. ʻO ka mea e hiki ke hana ʻia, me ka manaʻo ʻole ʻole, no ʻoe e hele mamao aku inā ʻoe e hōʻole i ka hōʻike ʻana i kou mau manaʻo, hōʻoluʻolu, a me nā kānalua. E like me ka noiʻi ʻana, nui nā ala e pale aku ai i ka launa ʻana, a ʻo kekahi e hoʻopuka pololei nei i ka hōʻike ākea a me ka pololei ʻole o nā manaʻo maikaʻi ʻole.
Ka pilina maoli a me ka hoʻonā ʻana o ka hakakā
ʻO ka hope, aia kekahi fairytale e hele nei a puni kahi mea hiki ke hōʻeha ke hiki mai i ka pili maoli i ka male. Aia kekahi manaʻo ʻaʻole ʻelua mau poʻe kokoke loa e hele a hiamoe me ka huhū. E kūʻē paha kēia propaganda iā ʻoe. ʻAe, ʻo ka hōʻalo ke ʻano ʻoi loa o ka hoʻoponopono ʻana i nā hakakā akā ke hoʻāʻo nei e hoʻonā i kahi pilikia i kēlā me kēia kumu kūʻai ma mua o ka hoʻopau ʻana i kou lā e hiki ai iā ʻolua i nā pō hiamoe ʻole ʻelua.
Ke hana a pau ʻoe ma muli o ka hakakā me kāu wahine, inā hiki, hiki i kekahi manawa ke hoʻomaha iki, ʻoiai ʻoe e hiamoe me ka huhū kekahi. I nā huaʻōlelo ʻē aʻe, i kekahi manawa he mea hou ka mea āu e makemake ai a me kahi kuanaʻike hou. A ʻaʻole hiki kēia mau mea iā ʻoe ke ʻole ʻoe e hoʻomaha. I nā manawa he nui, ʻo ka mea āu e ʻike ai i ke kakahiaka e hakakā ana ʻoe no ka mea nui ʻole i ka honua holoʻokoʻa.