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- 1. Nīnau ʻo ia i kou mau kumu i nā manawa āpau
- 2. Mālama ʻo ia i ka helu
- 3. Manaʻoʻiʻo ʻo ia he papa kuhikuhi huna mau kāu
- 4. ʻAneʻane lilo ka hakakā ʻana i mea pale ma mua o ka hoʻoponopono pilikia
- 5. Pilikia pinepine ʻoe i ka hoʻomaikaʻi ʻole a hoʻomaikaʻi paha iā ia
- 6. Nui nā manaʻo i hana ʻia ma kāna ʻaoʻao āu e “ʻike wale ai”
- 7. Makemake ʻo ia e ʻike e pili ana i kēlā me kēia kamaʻilio a kamaʻilio ʻana i loaʻa iā ʻoe
- 8. Lili lili loa ʻo ia i ka manawa āu e noho ai a i ʻole e kamaʻilio pū ana me kāu mau hoa aloha
- 9. Pololei ʻo ia i nā manawa āpau a me he mea lā leʻaleʻa ʻo ia e hōʻoia iā ʻoe he hewa
ʻO ka noho ʻana me kahi kāne insecure ʻaʻole ia he hana nui wale; hiki ke loaʻa i kahi hopena weliweli i kou olakino a me kou olakino manaʻo. E hakakā paha ʻoe me ka noʻonoʻo pehea e hana ai me ka palekana ʻole a pehea e aloha ai i kahi kāne insecure. Aia kekahi mau mea e ʻoi aku ke kaumaha ma mua o ka ʻike he kāne pono ʻoe, kūpaʻa, mālama a hoʻoikaika. a loaʻa kahi kāne insecure e kānalua mau, hilinaʻi ʻole a kāpae iki i ka nīnau ʻana i ka nui o kāu hana a me nā kumu. Hana nui nā wahine he nui e lele i loko o nā hoops e hauʻoli ai kā lākou kāne. I kekahi manawa i ka manawa, lilo ka hana o ka hana ʻana me ke ʻano o ke kāne insecure a lilo i mea kaumaha loa. Ke hiki kēia a ʻo ka wahine ma ka hope o kāna kaula; e hoʻolaha ʻo ia i kekahi manawa ua hana ʻo ia i ka hoʻāʻo ʻana, nui loa nā koi a ʻaʻole ia he mea nui i ka nui o ka hoʻāʻo ʻana, ʻike mau ʻo ia i kahi ala hou āna e ana ʻole ai. Eia kekahi o nā hōʻailona kāne kāne palekana ʻole e hōʻike ai ke noho nei ʻoe me kahi kāne insecure kāne ʻole e hoʻopili pū ʻia.
1. Nīnau ʻo ia i kou mau kumu i nā manawa āpau
ʻIke ʻoe e hana nui nei ʻoe e mālama i kou ʻohana a me kāu kāne a ʻaʻohe ou manawa e mālama iā ʻoe iho a hana paha i kahi mea āu e makemake ai e hana. No ka paʻakikī o kāu hana ʻana i nā mea, ʻike ʻo ia i nā ala e nīnau ai i kāu kumu a hōʻike i ka kānalua e mālama maoli ʻoe e like me kāu e ʻōlelo ai.
ʻO kēia kahi o nā hōʻailona ʻōlinolino o kahi kāne palekana ʻole. Pono ʻoe e aʻo pehea e hana ai me kahi kāne insecure.
2. Mālama ʻo ia i ka helu
ʻIke ʻoe ʻaʻole poina iā ia ka manawa hiki iā ʻoe ke hele pū me kāu mau hoaaloha a i ʻole kū ma hope e kipa aku ai i kou makuahine, he hōʻailona maopopo ua male ʻoe i kahi kāne palekana ʻole. Hōʻike pinepine ʻo ia iā ʻoe i nā manawa āu i hele aku ai a i hele aku ai i ka hoʻohālikelike ʻia i nā manawa i hiki ai iā ia ke hana pēlā. Inā hele pinepine ʻo ia i waho, kumu ʻo ia i ka hapa nui o kāna mau hele ʻana i helu ʻole akā pili mau kāu.
ʻĀ! Ua nakinaki ʻia ʻoe i kahi hoa pili ʻole.
3. Manaʻoʻiʻo ʻo ia he papa kuhikuhi huna mau kāu
Ke male ʻoe i kahi kāne insecure, ʻike ʻoe iā ʻoe iho e alo ana me nā ʻano kānalua ʻole a me nā ʻōlelo hoʻopiʻi i hoʻolei ʻia ma kou ala.
O kahi laʻana -
Me he mea lā pehea e hana nui ai i ka hana ʻana i kāu hana ma ka home a me ka mālama ʻana i kou ʻohana, nīnau mau ʻo ia i kāu mau kumu. Manaʻo ʻo ia ke hana maʻalahi nei ʻoe i nā mea no ka mea makemake ʻoe i kahi mea mai iā ia a i ʻole no ka mea manaʻo ʻoe he pono e hana i kāu "kuleana koi." Pau ʻoe i ka ʻaihue mau i ka ʻoliʻoli o ka ʻaneʻane o nā hauʻoli āpau e hiki mai ana mai ka mālama ʻana i kou ʻohana.
ʻO kēlā ʻano ʻino mai kēlā a me kahi hoa palekana palekana e hoʻokahe i ka pilina. He paʻakikī ka hana ʻana me ke kāne insecure, akā ʻaʻole hiki ʻole. Pono ʻoe e ʻimi i nā ala e kamaʻilio ai me kahi kāne palekana ʻole a hoʻāʻo i ka noʻonoʻo me ia e like me ka hiki.
4. ʻAneʻane lilo ka hakakā ʻana i mea pale ma mua o ka hoʻoponopono pilikia
Ke hāpai ʻoe i kahi kumuhana e hoʻāʻo e hoʻoponopono i nā pilikia i mea e loaʻa ai ma hope o ʻolua, hoʻohana ʻo ia iā ia ma ke ʻano he forum e kipi iā ʻoe a hoʻokele pinepine i ka home i kāna kiko, no ka nui o kou hoʻāʻo e hana i kahi hopena. Kēia mea ʻano o ke kāne insecure.
5. Pilikia pinepine ʻoe i ka hoʻomaikaʻi ʻole a hoʻomaikaʻi paha iā ia
E hele paha ʻolua i kahi hanana kūikawā; hele mai ʻo ia i loko o ka lumi a mahalo iā ʻoe e pili ana i kou ʻano, a ma mua o kou manawa e hoʻomaikaʻi iā ia, pilikia ʻoe no ka hana ʻole ʻana. Inā ʻaʻole ʻoe e hoʻomaikaʻi koke iā ia no kekahi mea āna i hana ai, ʻaʻole ʻoe e lohe i ka hopena o ia. E hōʻike ʻo ia iā ʻoe he nui kou mau manawa kūpono e hoʻomaikaʻi a mahalo iā ia; akā ke hoʻomanaʻo ʻoe i kēia kūlana, ʻike ʻoe ʻaʻole ʻoe i loaʻa kahi manawa e hana ai ma mua o kou hoʻouka kaua ʻia ʻana.
Ae! ʻOi aku ka paʻakikī o ka hana ʻana me kahi kāne insecure me kēlā me kēia lā i hala.
6. Nui nā manaʻo i hana ʻia ma kāna ʻaoʻao āu e “ʻike wale ai”
ʻO ka male ʻana me kahi kāne insecure e hōʻike nei he pono ʻoe e lilo i omniscient.
Huhū pinepine ʻo ia no ka mea ʻaʻole ʻoe i hopu i kāna ʻano a me kāna mea e pono ai. Hiki iā ʻoe ke pane ma ka hōʻike ʻana iā ia ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke heluhelu i kona manaʻo, akā helu ʻo ia i ka ʻōlelo ʻana ʻoiai ʻo ʻolua e hui pū ana, a me nā manawa e like me kēia i hana ʻia i ka wā ma mua - "pono ʻoe e ʻike i kēia . ”
7. Makemake ʻo ia e ʻike e pili ana i kēlā me kēia kamaʻilio a kamaʻilio ʻana i loaʻa iā ʻoe
ʻIke ʻoe ma mua o kāu hoʻokahi ʻōlelo i ka pane ʻana i kahi kelepona, koi ʻo ia e ʻike i ka mea āu e kamaʻilio nei. ʻAʻole hiki iā ia ke kū inā loaʻa iā ʻoe kahi huaʻōlelo a pane iā ia inā ʻaʻole maopopo iā ia ʻo wai ia a me ke ʻano o ke kamaʻilio ʻana.
8. Lili lili loa ʻo ia i ka manawa āu e noho ai a i ʻole e kamaʻilio pū ana me kāu mau hoa aloha
Pehea e hōʻoia ai i kahi kāne palekana? Hōʻike ka male me kahi kāne insecure ʻole iā ʻoe e hōʻoia mau iā ia e hoʻonoho ʻoe iā ia ma luna o nā mea ʻē aʻe āpau.
ʻIke ʻoe e kau i kahi mea nui ma luna ona a me kou pilina a pili pū kekahi a piliwaliwali ʻoe i kāna mau hopohopo e pili ana i ka manawa āu e lilo ai me kāu mau hoaaloha pili. Hoʻokiʻoki ʻoe i ka manawa āu e lilo ai me kāu mau hoaaloha a kaupalena i nā kamaʻilio a me nā leka ʻana me lākou; akā hoʻopaʻapaʻa ʻo ia me ʻoe a koi mai nō he nui ka manawa me lākou, a mālama ʻoe iā lākou ma mua o kou mālama iā ia.
9. Pololei ʻo ia i nā manawa āpau a me he mea lā leʻaleʻa ʻo ia e hōʻoia iā ʻoe he hewa
ʻOiai ke hele nei ʻoe i waho e pale i kahi paio me ia, ʻike ʻia ʻo ia e ʻike i nā mea āu i hana hewa ai ʻole e kuhikuhi ana i ka hemahema i kou noʻonoʻo. A laila, no ka pehea e pane ai, loaʻa wale ʻoe i nā pilikia me ia.
Inā ʻoe e noho nei me kahi kāne insecure a ʻaʻole i kamaʻilio ʻia ka pilikia, e pau ana kāu kinoea i loko o ka pilina. Hiki iā ʻoe ke hele i kahi āu e makemake ai i waho āpau inā he kōkua a hoʻololi paha e ʻoluʻolu ʻo ia e hoʻāʻo. Ma mua o kou hiki ʻana i kēlā manawa, e hana i kahi hana e hoʻoikaika ai i kou hoʻonā a me ka hilinaʻi iā ʻoe iho a laila e hoʻoholo i nā palena paʻakikī a wikiwiki hoʻi āu e makemake ai e hoʻonohonoho i mea e hoʻokumu ai i ka loli maoli i ka pilina.
Eia kekahi, e aʻo pehea e hana ai me kahi kāne insecure e like me kahi pro.