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- 1. Makemake mau ʻo ia e pāʻani a puni - hou aku
- 2. Nā ʻike i hala - maikaʻi a maikaʻi ʻole
- 3. Manaʻo maoli ʻo ia ʻaʻole ʻoe ka mea hemolele
- 4. Ka hullabaloo a puni ka huaʻōlelo “male”
- Pehea e hana ai me kahi kāne me nā pilikia kūpaʻa
E manaʻo mākou ua aloha paha ʻoe a e hele paha me kahi kāne i kēia mau lā akā i kēlā me kēia manawa ke hoʻomaka i kahi kamaʻilio e pili ana i ka lawe ʻana i ka pilina i kahi pae aʻe, ʻaʻole makemake ʻo ia e lepili. ʻO nā pilina nā mea palupalu e hana i nā hana he nui e hui pū a hele i kahi ala maikaʻi a maikaʻi ʻole. Ke hāʻawi nei paha ʻoe i kāu mea āpau i ka pilina me ke aloha, ka hilinaʻi, a me ke kākoʻo pū akā he mea kēlā āu e hāʻawi nei mai ka hopena akā pehea kāu kāne?
Hāʻawi ʻo ia i ka hilinaʻi āpau iā ʻoe?
Hāʻawi ʻo ia i ke kākoʻo ma kahi e pono ai akā hōʻole i ka kaʻana like ʻana i nā mea āpau iā ʻoe?
Lawe nā kāne i ka manawa e hoʻopaʻa ai i kahi pilina - e like me ka LOT o ka manawa no ka mea loaʻa iā lākou kā lākou ʻāpana o kā lākou ʻike. ʻĀ, ʻo ia wale nō ka hoʻomaka no ka mea he nui nā kumu a lākou e ʻōlelo ʻole ai - “Pēlā wau” !!
Eia nā kumu i kū ai nā kāne i kahi manawa paʻakikī e hana i ka pilina.
1. Makemake mau ʻo ia e pāʻani a puni - hou aku
ʻO kēia ke kumu maʻamau loa e ʻike ʻia i ke poʻo o ka wahine - pono e lapuwale ke kāne a pili ʻo ia no ka leʻaleʻa. ʻO ia kekahi mea i hiki ke lilo i kumu no kekahi mau hihia no ka mea ʻo kahi kāne e hele wale nei me ʻoe e loaʻa nā pōmaikaʻi āu e hāʻawi nei iā ia.
Nui nā manawa makemake nā kāne i ka pīhoihoi i ko lākou ola a ʻo ia ke kumu e pili ai me ka hana ʻole. ʻAʻole lākou nā kāne me nā pilikia paʻa, ʻaʻole lawa koʻikoʻi lākou.
2. Nā ʻike i hala - maikaʻi a maikaʻi ʻole
Loaʻa i kēlā me kēia kanaka ka ʻāpana o nā ʻike - maikaʻi a maikaʻi ʻole paha.
ʻO nā kāne phobic hoʻohiki ka poʻe i loaʻa kahi ʻike maikaʻi ʻole e hana i kekahi mea e hōʻalo i ka hana hou ʻana i ka ʻāpana like.
Hoʻomaopopo wau i kuʻu hoa aloha i manaʻo nui, huhū, aloha nui i kēia wahine a ke hoʻolālā nei e male. I kona hele ʻana i mua a noi iā ia - ua hōʻole ʻo ia i kona alo. Ua ʻeha ʻo ia i nā ʻino no nā pule he nui a laila neʻe i mua.
Akā ʻaʻole mākaukau ʻo ia e pili i kahi pilina koʻikoʻi akā ua hele mai kekahi wahine ʻē aʻe i aloha nui iā ia. I kona wā i hele mai ai i mua e ʻōlelo i kēlā mau huaʻōlelo nani iā ia - ua maloʻo a ʻaʻole hiki iā ia ke ʻōlelo i kekahi mea.
ʻO kēia kekahi kumu no ka hana ʻole ʻana o nā kāne i kahi pilina no ka mea makaʻu lākou i ke alo i kahi holomua ʻē aʻe i ke ola a no laila, hōʻole lākou i ka like.
Makaʻu nā kāne phobic hoʻohiki i ko lākou pilina e kū i ka hopena like me nā pilina ma mua.
3. Manaʻo maoli ʻo ia ʻaʻole ʻoe ka mea hemolele
ʻAʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke hana i nā koho kūpono i kēlā me kēia manawa - ka manawa mua. Ke hiki mai i ke koho ʻana i kahi kūpono loa no ka male, pono ʻoe e hele i nā lā i nā moeʻuhane, nā kamaʻilio kūpono, nā hopena pule lōʻihi a ʻoi aku ma mua o kēlā. I kēlā manawa kūpono, ʻike ʻoe i ka nui o nā poʻe kūpono ʻole e kāhea ʻia - ka mea kūpono loa. ʻO ka hana ʻana i ka wanaʻao e hoʻoholo maoli ʻole ia no ʻoe (i kēia hihia - no nā kāne). No laila, hōʻole lākou i ka hana ʻana i ka wanaʻao.
ʻO nā kāne me nā pilikia kūpaʻa ka poʻe i hoʻolālā ʻole e noho pū me kekahi.
4. Ka hullabaloo a puni ka huaʻōlelo “male”
Makaʻu nā kumu i ka hana ʻana no ka mea hoʻolaha ʻia ka manaʻo o ka male ma ke ʻano he mea e hoʻopili i kou mau ʻeheu a lawe i kou kūʻokoʻa. ʻAʻole kēlā ka hihia, hāʻawi ka male iā ʻoe i ka manawa kūpono e noho pū a kūkulu i kahi ola me kahi kanaka āu e aloha ai a me kahi āu e makemake ai e launa pū.
Ke makaʻu ke kanaka i ka hoʻokō ʻana i nā ʻōuli āna e hōʻike ai, ʻo ia pū, ke kani ʻana i ke kamaʻilio ʻana no ka wā e hiki mai ana, kaʻana like ʻana i nā hoʻolālā me ʻoe me ka ʻole e komo pū me ʻoe, ka makemake ʻole e hoʻolauna iā ʻoe i kāna mau hoaaloha a me kona ʻohana a pēlā aku.
Pehea e hana ai me kahi kāne me nā pilikia kūpaʻa
Inā nui kona manawa a hana ʻole, makemake ʻo ia iā ʻoe a ke lawe nei i ka manawa e hilinaʻi, e pāʻani ana a e hoʻāʻo nei e hoʻomaopopo iā ʻoe.
Akā, inā manaʻo ʻoe he pilikia kūpaʻa kāna e hana ʻole ai a laila haʻalele ʻoe. ʻAʻole pono ʻoe e hana pū me ia, inā makemake ʻoe e loaʻa kahi wā e hiki mai ana me kahi kanaka a makemake ʻole ke kanaka e hana like, a laila hana ʻoe i nā hoʻolālā ʻē aʻe.