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- Pilikia & ʻO ka Reptilian Brain
- Aloha & ʻO ka Limbic Brain
- Ka mea nui o ka heluhelu ʻana i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe
Inā like ʻoe me aʻu ma mua, ʻo ka mea hope āu e makemake ai e hoʻopā ʻia e kāu hoa ke hakakā ʻoe. ʻO ia inā inā e hakakā ana māua me kaʻu hoa, a hiki ʻo ia i mua iaʻu i kēlā me kēia ʻano, huki wau. E kau wau i koʻu mau lima, malia paha e huli kuʻu kua iā ia. A hoʻomālamalama. He nānā maikaʻi loa kaʻu i ulu ai i ka wā kamaliʻi ke huhū wau i koʻu mau mākua.
Akā ke hana nei wau i kahi ala hou e kaua.
Pilikia & ʻO ka Reptilian Brain
Aia kekahi kumu maikaʻi e huki ai i kahi wā o ka hakakā: ʻaʻole mākou e palekana. ʻO ke kikoʻī, ʻike ko mākou lolo reptilian i ka weliweli — ke ola a i ʻole ka make ʻano a me kā mākou ʻōnaehana autonomic hele i ka hakakā a i ʻole ka ʻano lele. No ke aha e hoʻonāukiuki ai ka lolo reptilian i ka wā e hakakā ana mākou e pili ana i ka mea e hana i nā pā. No ka mea ua papahana ʻia kēia ʻaoʻao kahiko o ko kāua lolo mai ka wā hānau e hoʻonāukiuki ʻia ke ʻole e hoʻokō ʻia kā mākou pili. I nā huaʻōlelo ʻē aʻe, ʻoluʻolu mākou ke hāʻawi mai nei ka makuahine iā mākou i ka meaʻai a me kahi hoʻomaha a me ke aloha, a kani ke kani ʻana ke loaʻa ʻole kā mākou mau pono ... ʻO ka wikiwiki i mua o kekahi mau makahiki a me ke ʻano o ka hoʻopili pili i loaʻa iā mākou me kā mākou ipo aloha e aniani i ka hoʻopili i loaʻa iā mākou me nā mea mālama mua. Ke hoʻoweliweli ʻia kēlā paʻa, kani ke kani a makaʻu mākou i ko mākou ola.
ʻIke mākou āpau i ka hakakā me kā mākou mea nui ʻē aʻe ʻaʻole paha kahi ola a make paha. No laila, ʻo ka mea e pono ai mākou e hana ke hoʻokahuli i ka leka a kā mākou reptilian a haʻi iā ia e noho mālie (a me ka hakakā). Akā e hakakā i kahi ala ʻokoʻa: ʻaʻole me he mea kolo lā mākou, a i ʻole pēpē kōkua ʻole, e hakakā ana e hoʻopakele i ko mākou ola, akā me ka mālie a me kēlā mau kumumanaʻo nui e hele mai me nā ʻaoʻao hou aʻe o ko mākou lolo: ka hiki ke aloha, empathic, manawaleʻa, hoihoi, mālama, akahai, noʻonoʻo, a noʻonoʻo.
Aloha & ʻO ka Limbic Brain
E hoʻokomo i ka ʻōnaehana limbic. ʻO kēia kahi ʻāpana o ka lolo e kuleana ai i ko mākou ola naʻau. ʻO ia kahi ʻāpana o mākou e ʻike nei i ka māmala e like me ka mea i ulu ma mua o nā mea kolo; makemake mākou e loaʻa nā ʻīlio no nā hoa ma mua o nā crocodiles; a he mea ʻono loa ka hāʻule ʻana o ke aloha a ʻehaʻeha hoʻi ka naʻau.
Ke paʻa mākou i nā lima a nānā kekahi i kekahi me nā maka palupalu, aloha, hoʻomaka mākou i kahi hana nani i kapa ʻia he limbic resonance. ʻO ka resonance limbic ka lewa o ke kūlana kūloko o kekahi kanaka i kekahi. ʻO ia ka mindreading o ka ʻōnaehana naʻau — e heluhelu ana i ka naʻau inā makemake ʻoe. ʻO ka resonance Limbic pehea e ʻike ai ka makuahine i ka mea e pono ai kāna pēpē. ʻO ia ka mea e hiki ai i kahi ʻohana manu ke lele like ma ke ʻano he hoʻokahi ... ʻo ka hipa holoʻokoʻa e huli i ka hema me ka ʻole o kahi manu kūʻē. Ke kū nei mākou i ka limbic resonance me kahi mea a mākou e aloha ai, ʻike maʻalahi mākou i ko lākou kūlana kūloko.
Ka mea nui o ka heluhelu ʻana i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe
Mai ka wā hānau mai, e hoʻomaʻamaʻa ana mākou i ka heluhelu ʻana i ka poʻe– ko lākou helehelena, ke ʻano o ko lākou mau maka, ko lākou ikaika. No ke aha mai? He mākau ola ia e alakaʻi ana i ka palekana a me ka noho ʻana akā ʻo ka mea nui, nā ʻōpala o ka ʻike e pili ana i nā kūlana kūloko āpau o kekahi. Hoʻowahāwahā mākou i ka mea nui o ka heluhelu ʻana i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe, akā ʻike pū mākou he kūleʻa ka poʻe maikaʻi ma ia mea: ua hoʻomaʻamaʻa ʻia nā mākua maikaʻi i kā lākou keiki, ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o nā ʻona ʻoihana i kā lākou mea kūʻai aku, nā mea haʻi ʻōlelo maikaʻi i hoʻolohe i kā lākou mau pepeiao. Akā poina kēia mākau ke pili aloha aloha. Ke hakakā mākou me nā mea nui ʻē aʻe, hoʻokau pinepine mākou iā lākou ma kahi o ke kani ʻana iā lākou.
Ke koho mākou e hoʻopaʻa iā lākou ma kahi, loaʻa iā mākou ka manawa kūpono e hoʻomaopopo hohonu ai iā lākou. ʻO kahi laʻana, ʻo ka ʻoiaʻiʻo e pili ana i ke kumu e huhū ai wau inā ʻaʻole pau nā kīʻaha ʻaʻole pili i nā ipu. Hoʻomaopopo ia iaʻu i koʻu hale pīhoihoi, pīhoihoi e ulu ana ma muli o ka waiʻona a koʻu makuahine ... a haʻalele wau iaʻu i ka hauʻoli no ka mea e hoʻonāukiuki i ka hoʻomanaʻo kahiko o ke ʻano o koʻu ola i kēlā manawa. Ke maopopo i kaʻu hoa pili e pili ana iaʻu, ʻoi aku paha ka nui o kāna hana ʻana i nā pā i mea e kōkua ai iaʻu e hoʻōla i ka ʻeha i waiho ʻia mai kuʻu makuahine mālama ʻole. Ke maopopo iā mākou ke ʻano kanaka o kā mākou hoa ... ko lākou palupalu, ko lākou naʻau ʻeha ... a laila lilo ka hana a ka wahine e pili ana i ka hoʻōla ma mua o ka hakakā.
No laila, koho ʻoe. Hiki iā ʻoe ke hakakā e like me nā mea kolo, me ka hakakā ʻole e noho wale. A i ʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke koho e hanu hohonu, e lawe i nā lima o kāu ipo i loko ou, e nānā aloha iā ia me nā maka palupalu, a hoʻoikaika i kou pilina ma o ka limbic resonance. Ke kamaʻilio hou nei mākou me kekahi, hoʻomanaʻo mākou he palekana a aloha mākou kekahi i kekahi. ʻO ko mākou manaʻo e pale iā mākou iho ma ka hoʻouka ʻana i nā mea ʻē aʻe poina a me ko mākou impulse e aloha aloha i nā hoʻi. I ka resonance limbic, hiki iā mākou ke hoʻoponopono i ka hewa o ka lolo reptilian: ʻAʻole wau i ka makaʻu, aloha wau a makemake wau e noho i ke aloha.