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- 1. Ke hūnā nei kāu hoa iā ʻoe?
- 2. ʻO ka manawa hou aku ma ke kelepona a me ka pāpili kaiaulu
- 3. Loaʻa ka hoihoi iā ʻoe
- 4. Kāhea kāu hoa i ka mea ʻē aʻe - pinepine
- 5. Hoʻomaka kāu hoa e hoʻokau iā ʻoe i lalo
- Loaʻa paha iā ʻoe kahi hihia naʻau?
ʻO ka infidelity ʻino e like me ka maikaʻi ʻole e like me ka moe kolohe ʻole?
Mai kuhihewa ʻoe me ke ʻano hewa ʻole. He mea hōʻino loa nā hana Emotional no kāu pilina e like me ka hoʻopunipuni kino.
Hoʻomaka ka hoʻomaka ʻana o nā hihia ʻona ma ke ʻano he hoaaloha. Akā aia kahi laina kahi e kū ai ka pilina a hoʻomaka kahi hihia naʻau. Mai laila aku he paheʻe pahee ia i ka pili moekolohe. Hana ʻia kēia ʻano kolohe ʻole i ka poʻe i manaʻo ʻole e hana kolohe akā ke hele nei me ka ʻike ʻole i ka laina mai ka aloha a ka pilina aloha.
Ma kēia ʻatikala e heluhelu ai ʻoe e pili ana i nā ʻōuli i hiki ke kōkua iā ʻoe e haʻi inā paha e hana ana kekahi mea.
He aha ka hihia naʻau?
Akā ʻo ka mea mua, he aha ka mea pili i ka naʻau?
He mea ʻino ʻole paha ke ʻano o ka naʻau. Ua like ia me ka pili aloha, ʻeā?
ʻAʻole maikaʻi. E hoʻomaka paha kahi hihia naʻau ma ke ʻano he hoa aloha akā e holomua a holomua hoʻi i mua i ka lilo ʻana i mea e pili ana i ka naʻau, a lilo hou paha i mea moekolohe.
ʻAʻohe hala ʻole i ka hoʻouna ʻana i nā leka o ke aumoe e ʻōlelo ana "Ke noʻonoʻo wau iā ʻoe" i kahi 'hoa pili'.
Hoʻohālikelike loa ʻia kahi hihia naʻau ma ke ʻano i kapa ʻia ʻo 'hihia o ka puʻuwai'. He like ia me ka pilina platonic akā me ka kemika moekolohe.I ka wā o ka naʻau manaʻo e hōʻike ʻia nā mea huna pilikino e kamaʻilio maʻamau ʻia ai me ka hoa wale nō. A ʻo ka hopena e hōʻino ka pilina mua.
Nā hōʻailona infidelity Emotional: Loaʻa i kāu pakanā kahi pilina pilikino?
ʻO kēia nā hōʻailona pono ʻoe e nānā pono i mea e ʻike ai inā e hana ana kekahi mea me kāu hoa.
1. Ke hūnā nei kāu hoa iā ʻoe?
ʻO ka hūnā hū ʻole ʻana ʻaʻole ia he hōʻailona maikaʻi i ka pilina. Manaʻo paha kāu pakanā naʻaupō ka mālama ʻana i nā mea iā ʻoe, akā e ʻike paha ʻoe e hana ana kekahi mea.
ʻO nā hōʻailona o ka hūnā hūnā ʻia:
- Lawe kāu hoa i kāna kelepona paʻalima i loko o ka lua.
- Ua hooki kau hoa i kau leta ana ke hele aku oe.
ʻO nā ʻōlelo huna kamepiula i hoʻololi ʻia a i ʻole holoi ʻia i ka mōʻaukala e ʻike i nā ʻōuli ikaika.
E waiho kānalua kēia hūnā hū ʻole i kahi māka ma kāu pilina. Mahalo ʻoe i ka mea e hana nei, akā no ka mea āu e haʻi aku ai i kāu hoa, ʻaʻole ia e wehe e pili ana. Malia paha ʻo kekahi o nā mea ʻoi loa i hiki iā ʻoe ke hana i kēia manawa ke nānā pono i kāu hoa a e kiaʻi no nā ʻōuli infidelity ʻoi loa o ka naʻau.
2. ʻO ka manawa hou aku ma ke kelepona a me ka pāpili kaiaulu
Hoʻolilo koke kāu hoa i kahi manawa hou aku ma kāna kelepona a i ʻole ka pāpili kaiaulu?
Ua nānā wale kāu hoa ma mua i kāna hānai pinepine ʻole a i kēia manawa ua loli koke?
E hoʻomanaʻo ʻo kēia mau papaho pāʻoihana kaiapuni paha kekahi o nā ala wale no e pili ai kāu hoa me ka 'hoa pili'. No lākou e maʻalahi ai kēia e hūnā i ka pilina. A iā ʻoe ʻoi aku ka paʻakikī o ka huai ʻana i ka pilina, ma waho o ka ʻano loli o kāu hoa.
He punahele loa ʻo Snapchat no nā mea ʻaihue manaʻo. Akā ʻo LinkedIn pū kekahi ʻike nui ʻia e hoʻohana ʻia no ka infidelity naʻau i waena o nā hoa hana.
3. Loaʻa ka hoihoi iā ʻoe
Ke loaʻa ka ʻike a me ka hoʻoikaika ʻana i ka naʻau mai kāu mea ʻē aʻe, ʻaʻole pono hou ia iā ʻoe. A ʻo kahi hopena hiki i kāu hoa ke hoʻomaka ke kaʻawale mai iā ʻoe. ʻO ka pilina ikaika e like me ʻoe ma mua ke nalowale.
E ho'ōki paha kāu hoa i ka hoʻopiʻi no nā lā maikaʻi ʻole a i ʻole nā pilikia, no ka mea ua haʻi mua kāu hoa i kekahi e pili ana i kāna mau pilikia.
Akā ʻaʻole ia e kaupalena ʻia i ka hoʻokaʻawale manaʻo, hiki i kahi hoʻokaʻawale kino pū kekahi. Inā hoʻomau ka moemoeā o kāu pakanā e pili ana i kekahi kanaka ʻē aʻe e liʻiliʻi ka pili kino ʻana ma waena o ʻolua.
4. Kāhea kāu hoa i ka mea ʻē aʻe - pinepine
Inā ʻoe e lohe pinepine i ka inoa like, maliʻa paha ʻo kēia kanaka ka mea e hoʻopunipuni ai kāu hoa.
Kūkulu pinepine nā manaʻo i ka manawa a ma hope paha. ʻO kēia ka mea i kū i kēia hihia. Ua pili paʻa ka naʻau o kāu hoa i kekahi kanaka ʻē aʻe a ʻaʻole ia i ʻōlelo iki me ka manaʻo i ka mea ʻē aʻe, hiki wale nō ia.
ʻIke paha kāu pakanā i nā kikoʻī pilikino mai kekahi kanaka ʻē aʻe paha he kūpono ʻole ia e ʻike ai?
5. Hoʻomaka kāu hoa e hoʻokau iā ʻoe i lalo
Ma waho o ka hoʻoliʻiliʻi pili kino a me ka hoʻokaʻawale manaʻo hiki i kāu pakanā ke hoʻomaka e lilo i mea koʻikoʻi hou iā ʻoe, a i ʻole ke waiho ʻana iā ʻoe i lalo. ʻO kēia kahi hōʻailona maʻamau o ka hilinaʻi ʻole o ka naʻau.
ʻO ka ʻāpana e lilo ai kāu hoa i mea hoʻopiʻi iā ʻoe ma muli o ka hoʻohālikelike ʻana iā ʻoe me ka mea ʻē aʻe i kona ola.
E noʻonoʻo pū hoʻi i ka pehea e hana ai i nā pane maikaʻi ʻole e pili ana i ka mea ʻē aʻe. Ua lilo ʻo ia i mea pale loa? He haʻi ʻē aʻe paha kēia.
Loaʻa paha iā ʻoe kahi hihia naʻau?
Ke hoʻopaʻa paʻa nei kāu hoa me kahi mea ʻē aʻe e hana ʻia me ʻoe? Hana kuhi hewa kekahi mau hoa - hele pū lākou i kahi hoaaloha a hoa hana paha a kaʻana like i kā lākou mau mea huna pilikino, nā pilikia pilikino a pēlā aku. I kēia ala, hana hou ka pōʻaiapuni.
E ʻike pono ʻaʻole ʻoe e hihia i ka moekolohe pilikino ʻole iā ʻoe iho, e makaʻala i kēia mau hōʻailona:
- Hāʻawi ʻoe i kahi mau manaʻo pilikino a i ʻole nā moʻolelo iā ia?
- ʻIke paha ʻoe i ka pilina aloha me ia?
- Hoʻohālikelike ʻoe iā ia i kāu hoa?
- Ke nānā nei ʻoe i mua i kāu pili a kamaʻilio hou paha me ia?
- Hoʻololi paha ʻoe i kāu hana i kēlā me kēia lā i mea e hoʻonui ai i ka manawa me ia?
- Mālama paha ʻoe i kahi hana i pili iā ia me kahi huna mai kāu wahine?
- Hoʻolālā wale ʻoe i kahi manawa me ia?
Mai nānā pono i kāu hoa, e akahele i kāu mau pono ponoʻī a me nā hana pū kekahi. He hana paʻakikī ka hakakā ʻana i ka hilinaʻi ʻole o ka naʻau a koi aku i ka hoʻokō a me ka hoʻomanawanui - akā hiki iā ʻoe ke lanakila.