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- 1. ʻIke ʻoe i ka mālama pono ʻana iā ʻoe iho
- 2. Hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻokau i nā makemake o haʻi ma mua o kāu
- 3. hāmama ʻoe i kahi loli i kou nohona
- 4. He kanaka kuleana ʻoe
- 5. Loaʻa iā ʻoe kahi ʻōnaehana kākoʻo i kahi
- 6. He lumi kou i kou puʻuwai a me kou noʻonoʻo
- 7. Hoʻomaka ʻoe e ʻike i nā pēpē ma nā wahi āpau
ʻO ka hoʻoholo ʻana i ka loaʻa ʻana o kahi pēpē hiki ke weliweli. ʻO wau e, pehea e hiki ai iā ʻoe ke ʻike maopopo inā mākaukau ʻoe?
ʻAʻole ia he kumuhana o ke kiʻi ʻana i kekahi mau makahiki a i ʻole i loko o kahi manawa kikoʻī ma hope o kāu male ʻana, ʻoi aku ka nui o ka manaʻo o ka mokuʻāina.
Inā ʻoe e nānā pono i kāu mau manaʻo a me kāu hana, loaʻa paha iā ʻoe kahi hōʻailona inā ʻoe mākaukau a ʻaʻole paha. ʻOiaʻiʻo, weliweli ia i ka manawa mua a ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke 100% sure ua mākaukau. Akā e like me nā hanana nui i ke ola, nui ka poʻe i hele i loko ona a ola. A ma waho o kēlā, e alo ia, ʻo ka loaʻa ʻana o kahi pēpē kekahi o nā hana mana kupaianaha loa i ke ola.
No laila, eia nā hōʻailona ʻehiku i hiki ke kōkua iā ʻoe e hoʻoholo inā mākaukau ʻoe e hānau pēpē.
1. ʻIke ʻoe i ka mālama pono ʻana iā ʻoe iho
ʻO kekahi o nā mea nui a lilo i kahu ke ʻike i ka mālama mua ʻana iā ʻoe iho. Ma mua o ke kuleana o ka nānā ʻana i kekahi kanaka ʻē aʻe, pono ʻoe e mālama pono iā ʻoe iho. Pono kahi pēpē i nā mākua kūpaʻa a olakino (ma ke kino a me ke ʻano. He mea ʻole ke nānā aku iā ia, ʻaʻohe mea kānalua he hana nui ka mālama ʻana i kahi pēpē. ʻO ka hiamoe ʻole, ka paʻa ʻana i kāu pēpē a me ka hānai ʻana hiki ke luhi loa ma hope o kekahi manawa. No laila, he mea nui ia i ke ʻano maikaʻi a e ola i kahi nohona olakino. Ke hoʻomaha nei i kēlā me kēia manawa hiki iā ʻoe a me ka meaʻai maikaʻi ke pāʻani i kahi ʻāpana nui o ia, keu hoʻi no ka makuahine.
2. Hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻokau i nā makemake o haʻi ma mua o kāu
Hiki iā ʻoe ke lilo i ke aloha ʻole? Hiki iā ʻoe ke hāʻawi i kahi mea āu e makemake ai no ka pono o kekahi?
Inā paʻa nā pane i kēia mau nīnau he "ʻae", a laila hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻokau i nā makemake o haʻi ma mua o kāu. ʻO ka loaʻa ʻana o kahi pēpē pono ʻoe i kekahi manawa e hāʻawi i kāu mau makemake a me nā pono no ka pono o kāu pēpē. Lilo kāu keiki i kau makahiapo nui. No ka hapanui o ka poʻe, kū maʻamau kēia, me ka ʻole o ka hoʻoholo e kau mua i kāu pēpē. Makemake kēlā me kēia mākua i ka mea maikaʻi loa no kā lākou keiki.
3. hāmama ʻoe i kahi loli i kou nohona
Hāʻawi ka makua iā ʻoe i ka hauʻoli a me ka hoʻokō. Akā, ʻo ia hoʻi ka mōhai ʻana i kekahi o nā mea āu i lawe ai no kāu ola ma mua o ka pēpē. Ke hiamoe lohi nei, ke hele nei i waho o ka lāʻau kalapu, a i ʻole kahi huakaʻi hele wale nō kekahi o nā mea āu e hāʻawi ai (ma ka liʻiliʻi no nā makahiki mua o ka makua).
ʻO ka nīnau, e mākaukau ʻoe e mōhai i nā ʻano kahiko no nā mea hou?
E noʻonoʻo, ʻaʻole ia he manaʻo no ka hāʻawi ʻana i nā mea leʻaleʻa āpau. He aha ke ʻano o ka hana ʻana i nā hana ʻohana ʻoluʻolu ʻē aʻe a me kahi hoʻolālā ʻē aʻe paha.
4. He kanaka kuleana ʻoe
ʻO ke kuleana ke ʻano o ka hoʻomaopopo ʻana i kāu hana a me kāu e ʻōlelo ai e hoʻopili i ke ola o kāu pēpē (ʻaʻohe kaomi ʻaneʻi).
E hoʻohālike kāu pēpē i kāu hana a e nānā iā ʻoe. ʻO ia ke kumu e nānā hou ai i kāu hana a me kāu mau ʻōlelo.
E alo ia, he mea pipiʻi ka hānai ʻana i kahi keiki. Unuhi ʻia ka kuleana i ka loaʻa ʻana o kahi kauoha i kou ola, a me ka mākaukau kālā no kahi keiki. Inā kou noho ʻana i kēia manawa e noho nei mai ka uku a ka uku, a i ʻole he ʻaiʻē ʻoe, ʻoi aku paha ka maikaʻi ke kali a hiki i ka wā e hui pū ai kāu hana. E hoʻomaka i ka hoʻolālā a me ka mālama ʻana no laila maopopo leʻa ua mākaukau ʻoe no nā lilo hou aʻe.
5. Loaʻa iā ʻoe kahi ʻōnaehana kākoʻo i kahi
ʻAʻole maopopo iaʻu nā kāne he nui i hele i loko o kēia huakaʻi kupaianaha wale nō ma o lākou iho. Inā loaʻa iā ʻoe a me kāu pakanā nā ʻohana pili a me nā hoa aloha i makemake e kōkua iā ʻoe, ʻaʻole ʻoe e koʻikoʻi e pili ana i ka loaʻa ʻana o kahi pēpē e like me ka nui.
Ke loaʻa nei i kahi mea kokoke e hāʻawi iā ʻoe i ka ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo maikaʻi hiki ke lilo i mea kōkua a ʻoluʻolu loa. ʻO ka makua he like ia me ka holo ʻana i kahi kaʻa wili naʻau a me ke kākoʻo mai kāu poʻe i aloha ai hiki ke hoʻololi i nā mea āpau. ʻO ia ka mea e hōʻoiaʻiʻo ai iā ʻoe, palekana a palekana.
6. He lumi kou i kou puʻuwai a me kou noʻonoʻo
Inā koi nui kāu hana, loaʻa iā ʻoe kahi hui nui o nā hoaaloha paʻa a aia ʻoe i ka manawa o ka melemona me kāu hoa, ʻo ia paha i kēia manawa ʻaʻohe lawa o kāu kumuwaiwai naʻau e hoʻopukapuka i kahi pēpē.
Pono ka pēpē i ka nānā 24/7.Inā manaʻo ʻoe ʻo nā mea ʻē aʻe i kou ola ke mālama nei iā ʻoe i ka manawa piha, a laila ʻaʻole mākaukau paha ʻoe no kēia ʻano kūpaʻa.
E like me ka mea i ʻōlelo ʻia ma mua, ʻo ka loaʻa ʻana o kahi pēpē e hoʻololi ai i kou nohona. Loaʻa iā ʻoe ka manawa liʻiliʻi e hui me nā hoaaloha a me ka manawa liʻiliʻi me kāu hoa. No laila, inā manaʻo ʻoe ʻaʻole mākaukau ʻoe e hoʻopilikia i kēlā mau mea, ʻaʻole ia ka manawa kūpono.
7. Hoʻomaka ʻoe e ʻike i nā pēpē ma nā wahi āpau
ʻO kēia paha ka hōʻailona maopopo loa ma laila. Hoʻomaka ʻoe e ʻike i nā pēpē ma nā wahi āpau āu e hele ai. Nānā ʻoe iā lākou a kau lākou i ka minoʻaka lapuwale ma kou alo ke hele ʻoe. Inā he mau hoaaloha pili paha a ʻohana paha i loaʻa he pēpē hou a ʻike ʻoe iā ʻoe iho e paʻa ana a pāʻani me kā lākou pēpē, ke hoʻāʻo nei kou ʻike e haʻi iā ʻoe i kekahi mea - mākaukau ʻoe no kahi pēpē. Inā ua heluhelu ʻoe i kēia mau hōʻailona āpau a ʻike i ke ʻano o ka ʻike ʻana me lākou (a i ʻole me ka hapa nui o lākou), a laila mākaukau paha ʻoe e lele i ka lele.
Pauline Plott
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