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- Pehea e ʻike ai inā ʻoe i loko o kahi pilina codependent?
- Makemake ka poʻe i nā pilina
- ʻAʻole loa i kā lākou hewa
- He aha ke ala olakino e lilo ai i ka launa?
- E kaukaʻi
- Nā hiʻohiʻona o ka pilina codependent
- Nā ʻano o ka pilina pili
- Aie iā ʻoe iho e hauʻoli
Hoʻonohonoho ʻia nā kānaka i kahi ala a mākou e makemake ai i ka pilina kanaka; ʻaʻole hiki iā mākou ke noho mehameha, pono mākou i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe inā, inā ʻaʻole kekahi mea ʻē aʻe, a laila ma laila wale nō no mākou.
He makemake kumu, ʻiʻo kūlohelohe ia. Eia nō naʻe, aia kekahi poʻe e hoʻohana i kēia pono.
ʻIke mākou i ka poʻe i ko mākou ola i kēlā me kēia lā o ka hilinaʻi piha a i ʻole kā lākou mau hoa, a i ʻole koi lākou i ke kūʻokoʻa piha mai kā lākou mau hoa. ʻO kēlā hihia kēia hihia, ʻaʻole maikaʻi ia no nā ʻaoʻao ʻelua.
Pehea e ʻike ai inā ʻoe i loko o kahi pilina codependent?
Inā ʻo kā kāu hoa hana wale nō ka mea ʻo ia kou hoa; inā ʻaʻole lākou i hoʻokō i kekahi mea i ko lākou ola; inā lākou e hoʻohana wale i kāu kūleʻa a hōʻole e hana i kekahi mea iā lākou iho; a laila pili lākou.
Ma ka ʻaoʻao ʻē aʻe, inā hōʻole kāu hoa e hoʻomaopopo i kou kūleʻa a huki iā ʻoe i lalo i ka honua (metaphorically) a ʻaʻole e ʻae iā ʻoe e ala aʻe i luna, e hana i kahi mea ʻē aʻe me kou ola, inā ʻo nā mea āpau a lākou e makemake ai nāu e polokalamu iā ʻoe iho ma ke ʻano no kā lākou pono a me ke koi, a laila hiki i ka manawa e loiloi hou ai i kou pili.
ʻO kēlā me kēia hihia, e hoʻomaka ka pilina e lilo i mea ʻawahia.
Makemake ka poʻe i nā pilina
E like me ka mea i ʻōlelo ʻia ma mua, makemake nā kānaka i nā pilina a me nā pilina; ʻaʻole hiki iā lākou ke ola me ka ʻole o ia. No ke aha mai? Ma muli o ka noho ʻana, i kekahi manawa, hiki ke luhi, hiki i ka poʻe ke luhi i kā lākou hana maʻamau, a i ʻole kekahi mea ma ka hana, nā pilina, ke ola ma ka laulā.
Ke hiki mai kēia kuhi i loko o ko mākou ola ʻo kā mākou hoa ia e hauʻoli iā mākou, kōkua lākou iā mākou, alakaʻi, a ma laila wale no mākou.
Hana lākou i nā mea āpau e koi ai iā mākou e kū i ka wāwae. Eia nō naʻe, he aha ka mea e hana ʻia inā hilinaʻi nui kāu hoa iā ʻoe ʻaʻole hiki iā lākou ke ola iā lākou iho a i ʻole hiki ke kiʻi iā ʻoe i ke kākoʻo, hōʻoluʻolu, a i ʻole kōkua e pono ai.
ʻAʻole loa i kā lākou hewa
Inā e luʻu hohonu kekahi, ʻike lākou i ka hoʻolālā ʻia ʻana o ka nui o ka poʻe codependent e like me kēia ala mai ka wā kamaliʻi, ʻoki a ʻoki a aʻo a lawa kūpono no nā mākua, nā hoaaloha, ka hui kaiāulu.
Pēlā wale nō e ʻae ʻia ai e kā lākou mea aloha.
Hoʻokomo hohonu ʻia kēia makemake i loko o lākou a paʻa wale i ka sima me ka makahiki a me ka manawa. No laila, ma ke ʻano maʻamau, ke komo ka poʻe i ka pilina, ua hoʻemi ʻia kā lākou pono ponoʻī, a ʻo nā mea āpau a lākou e makemake ai e haʻi ʻia i ka mea e hana ai, pehea e noho ai e like me kā lākou mākau hoʻoholo ʻana ʻaʻole i hoʻonani ʻia a hāʻawi ʻia kahi manawa e ulu ai.
ʻO nā hiʻohiʻona i haʻi ʻia aʻe nei he codependency i ka pilina, ʻaʻole maikaʻi.
He aha ke ala olakino e lilo ai i ka launa?
Nui ka poʻe hōʻole e pili i kekahi pilina a ʻo ia no ka makemake ʻole e lilo iā lākou iho, makemake lākou e noho kūʻokoʻa.
Hiki paha kēia? Hiki i nā kānaka ke pili i ka pilina me ka mālama ʻana i ka hilinaʻi?
E kaukaʻi
I waenakonu o nā mea nui ʻelua: Co-dependant a me Independent, aia kahi ma waena kahi e ulu pono ai ka pilina o nā kānaka, ʻo ia hoʻi ka mea pili.
ʻO ka poʻe hilinaʻi ka poʻe i hilinaʻi i ka pilina i ka wā āpau e mālama nei i ko lākou kahua ponoʻī.
Aia a aʻo ʻia ka poʻe i ke kaulike kūpono a hiki ke hāʻawi i ka lawa kūpono no laila aia lākou ma laila e kākoʻo i kā lākou hoa i ka manawa o ko lākou pono a ikaika a kūʻokoʻa hoʻi no laila ʻaʻole lākou i manaʻo ʻia he kanaka aloha ʻole hiki ʻole ke pāʻani. maikaʻi me nā poʻe ʻē aʻe.
ʻO ka hilinaʻi ka wahi hina kahi e aneane piha ai ke kaulike.
Nā hiʻohiʻona o ka pilina codependent
- Kūpono ʻole
- Nā ʻikepili i hoʻoemi ʻia
- Hoole
- ʻO kahi koi koi e kokoke a i ʻole me kāu hoa i nā manawa āpau
- Kūpono ʻole ʻia
Nā ʻano o ka pilina pili
- ʻOiaʻiʻo
- Hoʻokaʻawale i nā ʻike
- ʻAe
- Ke hāʻawi nei i kēlā me kēia lumi e hanu
- Kūlike a wānana ʻia
Aie iā ʻoe iho e hauʻoli
ʻAʻohe mea maikaʻi ʻole a ʻaʻole mākou a pau e hele mai mai kahi kūlana maikaʻi loa, ʻoiai ke pili nei he kuleana mākou e kōkua i kā mākou mau hoa e ulu a alakaʻi iā lākou i nā manawa a pau e pono ai, akā naʻe, nā mea āpau i ʻōlelo ʻia a hana ʻia, pono ʻoe e hauʻoli a e noho maluhia i ka manaʻo.
ʻAʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke hana maikaʻi i kekahi me ka pili ʻana i ka pilina ʻawahia. Inā ʻike ʻoe iā ʻoe iho i kahi ʻano like, e noʻonoʻo hou, e loiloi, a e kālailai ua hana anei ʻoe i nā mea āpau i hiki? Inā ʻae kāu pane, a laila, maliʻi, ua hiki mai ka manawa e kūlou ai. ʻOi aie kāu mea iā ʻoe iho.