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- Mai ʻae iā lākou e ʻaoʻao
- E kamaʻilio ma nā wahi āpau e pale aku ai i ka hana keiki
- Hoʻomaopopo i ko lākou mau manaʻo a alakaʻi iā lākou
- E kūlike a kūmau me ʻoe i ka naʻau
- Lawe i ke kuleana ma hope o ka hemo
Hāpai nā keiki i nā hopena hou aʻe o nā hakakā a me nā kahamaha ma mua o ka hemo ʻana ma mua o ko lākou mau mākua. Kūkākūkā nā mea aʻoaʻo male i nā kāne e hoʻonui i ka pilina pili makua e kōkua i nā keiki e hōʻola wikiwiki a hoʻomaʻa i nā hoʻonohonoho ʻohana hou. ʻO ka mālama ʻana i kāu wahine e like me ka hoa pili ʻoihana e kūkulu i ka hilinaʻi a me ka mahalo mai nā keiki, e hāʻawi ana iā lākou i kahi manawa hou e ulu i ka holistic ʻoiai nā kūlana. ʻO kekahi o nā rula kumu no ka makua kūpono ma hope o ka male male ʻana-
Mai ʻae iā lākou e ʻaoʻao
E hoʻomaopopo i nā keiki he ʻohana ʻokoʻa kēia me nā lula ʻokoʻa a ʻaʻohe mea nāna ka mana o ka makua. Ke noho lākou i ka hale o ka makuakāne, hahai lākou i nā kānāwai a ko lākou makuakāne; like, ke hiki lākou i ka hale o ka makuahine e hāhai lākou i nā lula a ka makuahine. I mea e hoʻomaikaʻi ai i kēia mau hana hoʻopaʻi, ke hoʻāʻo kahi keiki e haʻi iā ʻoe i kekahi mea e pili ana i kāu ex, e hōʻoia me lākou. ʻO ka ʻoiaʻiʻo hiki iā ʻoe ke hōʻea mau i kahi kuʻikahi ma ke ʻano he alakaʻi alakaʻi i nā keiki e waiho lākou e hāhai i ka mea i manaʻo ʻia no lākou.
Mai maikaʻi waha waha i kāu ex me nā keiki, lilo ʻoe i kā lākou lima a noʻonoʻo i ka pae like. E ʻae iā lākou e lilo i keiki ʻaʻole nā mākua. Inā he pilikia nui kāu e pili ana i kāu wahine, e kamaʻilio me kāu hoaaloha hilinaʻi e hoʻokuʻu i ka huhū a me ka huhū. ʻAʻole pono nā keiki i kahua kaua e hoʻoponopono ai i kāu mau hakakā. Ma ke ʻano he mea ʻoiaʻiʻo, he mau luna kānāwai ʻoe ma ka pā pāʻani co-parenting.
E kamaʻilio ma nā wahi āpau e pale aku ai i ka hana keiki
I ka manawa e aʻo ai nā keiki ʻaʻole ʻoe e kamaʻilio ma kekahi hihia, e pāʻani lākou i ka pāʻani "peʻe a ʻimi" me kou mau noʻonoʻo. He mea maʻamau no ka hāʻawi ʻana o nā makuwahine i nā makana pono ʻole a me nā hana e hōʻoia i ko lākou waiwai ma mua o ka makuakāne. Ke luku nei ʻoe i ke ola o ke keiki. Āhea lākou e aʻo ai e pale no lākou iho, inā hiki iā lākou ke loaʻa ka mea a lākou e makemake ai ke makemake lākou? ʻAʻole wau i manaʻo e hōʻole ʻoe iā lākou i nā pono a me nā makana, akā e hoʻokau ʻia ia. Ke ʻaʻohe kaohi, e noi lākou i kahi kelepona ke ʻike maikaʻi ʻoe ʻaʻole lākou i ka makahiki, ʻaʻole hāʻawi iā lākou ua hoʻomaka lākou e hana iā ʻoe ma ka hāʻawi ʻole ʻana iā ʻoe i ka ʻike e pili ana i kāu wahine āu e manaʻo nei he kōkua i kou ola. Mai pāʻani i kā lākou pāʻani; ʻo ʻoe nō ka makua ʻaʻole hoa hana.
Hoʻomaopopo i ko lākou mau manaʻo a alakaʻi iā lākou
ʻAʻole hiki ke nānā ʻia nā manaʻo naʻau o nā keiki ma hope o ka hemo. ʻO ke kaumaha, ʻawaʻawa hoʻokaʻawale, a me nā kumuhana haʻahaʻa haʻahaʻa he mau hopena wale nō ia. Hana pū me lākou ke kū aʻe a kūpaʻa me ʻoe iho ke makemake ʻoe i kōkua. ʻO kāu poʻe keiki lākou; e kōkua i kāu ex i ka mālama ʻana i ka naʻau ma mua o ka lilo ʻana o ka lima.
Kūkākūkā mau a me nā ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo, kōkua iā lākou e hoʻokau me ke kūlana, ʻoiaʻiʻo, ʻaʻole maʻalahi, akā me ke kākoʻo o nā mākua ʻelua e wikiwiki a maʻalahi hoʻi ka hoʻōla.
E kūlike a kūmau me ʻoe i ka naʻau
Ke hele nei ʻoe i loko o kahi manawa hoʻāʻo; hiki i ke kuhi huhū, ʻawaʻawa, a me ka huhū ke lawe iā ʻoe ma muli o nā naʻau kūpilikiʻi ʻole. He hopena kona i nā keiki; ke pono ʻoe e uē, hana ia mai nā keiki akā i ka hoʻohaʻahaʻa e hāʻawi iā ʻoe i ka ikaika e hāʻawi mau iā lākou i kāu aloha-pono lākou i kēia manawa. Mai hoʻopilikia wale i ke aʻo a me ka hana maʻamau o ka hale ma muli o nā manawa paʻakikī; ke waiho nei kahi māka paʻa i ke ʻano o ke keiki.
Lawe i ke kuleana ma hope o ka hemo
Ua hana ʻoe i ka mea e hiki ke noho pū, akā ʻo nā hōʻailona āpau ʻaʻole loa ia e like. Lawe ʻia ʻelua i mea maʻalahi, lawe i ka manawa e nānā ai i kou ʻano a me kou ʻano i hiki ke lilo i mea pale i ka male hauʻoli. E ʻae i ke kūlana a hana i nā hopena me kahi ʻano maikaʻi i ʻole e hoʻoliʻiliʻi loa iā ʻoe. Lehu iā ʻoe iho no ke kaua ma mua ou, ʻaʻole maʻalahi akā me ka ʻōnaehana kākoʻo kūpono a puni ʻoe, e lanakila ʻoe.
Ke ʻike nei i kāu ex hana maikaʻi a maikaʻi ʻole paha ma mua o kou wā me ia e koi ai i ka puʻuwai ikaika keu hoʻi inā he mau manaʻo kou no kāu ex. Kūpono nā keiki i ka maikaʻi mai nā mākua ʻelua ʻoiai ʻo ka hoʻonohonoho ʻohana hou. ʻIke ʻia ka kūleʻa o ka noho makua ʻana i ke ola ʻuhane, kino, a me ka naʻau o nā keiki a me kā lākou mau hoa. He hopohopo iki kāu no ka hakahaka i haʻalele ai kāu hoa ma mua; Loaʻa iā ia ka manawa kūpono e hoʻokō ai i ia mau mea i ko lākou wā kipa.